This is my first time posting. My boyfriend still lives with his parents, and 

while I don't have a problem with that, it doesn't help him grow 

responsible when his dad keeps spoiling him. My boyfriend and I have 

been there for each other when it has come to personal and family 

issues, but I find it difficult to communicate with him on this issue. We 

have talked about jobs. I discussed that if we are to start a life 

together, we should at least get a job anywhere (fast food, retail, etc). I 

am currently working, but he insists on not getting a job in these areas. 

He wants a job in his field, which to me is a little absurd to attempt right 

now. I don't want to kill his dreams, but he isn't financially stable. Also, 

while it isn't impossible to find a job in one's area of study, it is bad that 

my boyfriend is assuming he might get a job right away. We once 

discussed this and he wasn't too happy about what I had to say. He 

even changed the subject when I told him he wasn't taking it too well.

 He brought up a past disagreement, which to me seemed a bit childish. 

It doesn't help the situation when he has a father who spoils him. He 

tried to get his lawyers to help my boyfriend get out of a ticket in court.

 Not to mention his father doesn't seem to like me that much even 

though I only met him twice. His mother insisted her son pay for it (she 

wants him to take responsibility). I hope I am not ranting; I love my 

boyfriend, but I feel like our relationship may not work out.
user
Boyfriend is spoiled by his dad. I feel like our relationship may not work out, and I'm not sure how to deal with the situation.
assistant
This is my first time posting. My boyfriend still lives with his parents, and 

while I don't have a problem with that, it doesn't help him grow 

responsible when his dad keeps spoiling him. My boyfriend and I have 

been there for each other when it has come to personal and family 

issues, but I find it difficult to communicate with him on this issue. We 

have talked about jobs. I discussed that if we are to start a life 

together, we should at least get a job anywhere (fast food, retail, etc). I 

am currently working, but he insists on not getting a job in these areas. 

He wants a job in his field, which to me is a little absurd to attempt right 

now. I don't want to kill his dreams, but he isn't financially stable. Also, 

while it isn't impossible to find a job in one's area of study, it is bad that 

my boyfriend is assuming he might get a job right away. We once 

discussed this and he wasn't too happy about what I had to say. He 

even changed the subject when I told him he wasn't taking it too well.

 He brought up a past disagreement, which to me seemed a bit childish. 

It doesn't help the situation when he has a father who spoils him. He 

tried to get his lawyers to help my boyfriend get out of a ticket in court.

 Not to mention his father doesn't seem to like me that much even 

though I only met him twice. His mother insisted her son pay for it (she 

wants him to take responsibility). I hope I am not ranting; I love my 

boyfriend, but I feel like our relationship may not work out.
user
boyfriend is spoiled, I don't know how to talk about this with him. We are trying to explain our differences to
assistant