The story:

At a wedding I had unprotected sex with one of the bridesmaids.  She said she was clean and on birth control, I knew I was clean and didn't have a condom, but if she was game I was.  So we had sex twice, one quickie in the closet (as cliche as that may be) and then again later in my hotel room.

I find out later by asking casual questions about who the bridesmaids were (without revealing the sex) that she lives in Texas (I live in Washington) is married, and her and her husband have been trying to have a baby for a year and a half with no luck... meaning she lied to me about the birth control.

So about 9 months later (41 weeks, I added it up) she has a baby.  Her and her husband both have brown hair and brown eyes, I have light brown hair and blue eyes.  The baby has light brown hair and blue eyes.

Her and I have no seen each other since the wedding, and it was a brief affair, but I'm reasonably confident that her daughter is mine and I don't know what to do about it.

More information: Her husband is rich and successful, I am decidedly not (poor Grad student in college getting my Masters).  I understand that even if she is 100% certain her daughter is fathered by me that she would likely not want me in her life at all.  I also know that any move I make could massively disrupt her life... but I still think the child is mine, if I were a betting man (which I am) I would bet all the money in my bank account that that child is mine.

So what should I do Reddit?
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I think I knocked up
assistant
The story:

At a wedding I had unprotected sex with one of the bridesmaids.  She said she was clean and on birth control, I knew I was clean and didn't have a condom, but if she was game I was.  So we had sex twice, one quickie in the closet (as cliche as that may be) and then again later in my hotel room.

I find out later by asking casual questions about who the bridesmaids were (without revealing the sex) that she lives in Texas (I live in Washington) is married, and her and her husband have been trying to have a baby for a year and a half with no luck... meaning she lied to me about the birth control.

So about 9 months later (41 weeks, I added it up) she has a baby.  Her and her husband both have brown hair and brown eyes, I have light brown hair and blue eyes.  The baby has light brown hair and blue eyes.

Her and I have no seen each other since the wedding, and it was a brief affair, but I'm reasonably confident that her daughter is mine and I don't know what to do about it.

More information: Her husband is rich and successful, I am decidedly not (poor Grad student in college getting my Masters).  I understand that even if she is 100% certain her daughter is fathered by me that she would likely not want me in her life at all.  I also know that any move I make could massively disrupt her life... but I still think the child is mine, if I were a betting man (which I am) I would bet all the money in my bank account that that child is mine.

So what should I do Reddit?
user
Had sex with a married
assistant