2 years ago, we were not in a good place marriage wise. I was stressed, trying to finish school with 2 kids, and getting nagged by my spouse to finish faster, find a job quicker.  I'd just graduated and we had a celebration/going away party for our neighbors. We both got drunk that night (kids were with grandparents that weekend), and out of nowhere, he accuses me of cheating, and says he wants a divorce.  I lose my shit and scream at him something I don't remember. I was very hurt that he would accuse me of cheating (never have) and then bringing up the D-word. 

We moved past the debacle, and are in a much better place currently.  I still hurt from what he said; it broke my heart, and all subsequent fights leave me feeling horribly anxious that "this is it, he's going to be done". I'm pretty sure he cheated on me, and have been pondering actually asking him if he did.  Isn't that how it usually goes, the offending party actually accusing the other party?  It bothers me the more I think about it, and I'm not sure if I really want to know the answer.  Thoughts?
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Should I ask my husband about his accusations that I cheated, to
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2 years ago, we were not in a good place marriage wise. I was stressed, trying to finish school with 2 kids, and getting nagged by my spouse to finish faster, find a job quicker.  I'd just graduated and we had a celebration/going away party for our neighbors. We both got drunk that night (kids were with grandparents that weekend), and out of nowhere, he accuses me of cheating, and says he wants a divorce.  I lose my shit and scream at him something I don't remember. I was very hurt that he would accuse me of cheating (never have) and then bringing up the D-word. 

We moved past the debacle, and are in a much better place currently.  I still hurt from what he said; it broke my heart, and all subsequent fights leave me feeling horribly anxious that "this is it, he's going to be done". I'm pretty sure he cheated on me, and have been pondering actually asking him if he did.  Isn't that how it usually goes, the offending party actually accusing the other party?  It bothers me the more I think about it, and I'm not sure if I really want to know the answer.  Thoughts?
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husband accused me of cheating, I'm not sure if I want to
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