Looking for some guidance, never got the closure I sought, twice...

I went out with a girl for 3 months a year ago. I really liked her. She hit all my criteria and for a while, I thought she felt the same. 

Our relationship ended abruptly when she sent me the "you're sweet, nice, and genuine but you're not for me" text message. I was shocked. I emailed her that evening wondering whether we can talk more about it. She sent me a very rude response that was basically, "dude I thought I told you...".   I was pretty devastated. 

Cut to 2 weeks ago. Over a year later, she texts me apologizing for her behavior, telling me she "wasn't in a great place," and inviting me out for a drink. We set a date for the middle of the next week. At worst I figure we have a nice conversation and she explains herself and provides some closure to our brief, but close relationship. At best we begin a rekindling assuming she's grown up a bit - who knows where it could lead. 

She ends up canceling our date because of a work commitment that I believe was genuine, but without attempting to reschedule. 

4 days go by and I hear nothing from her. I reach out asking her, essentially, what they fuck, you got in touch and won't follow through?  I express my willingness to meet up and talk. She responds that she assumed I thought she made up the work thing and that I thought she was blowing me off, and saying it didn't sound like I wanted to see her. 

My response was essentially, I want her to honor her invitation, and suggest a brief hang that night - we don't live far from each other. 

She responds the next morning that it was clear she shouldn't have reached out, that it was her mistake, and that I won't hear from her again.  

I'd completely gotten over her over the year, but now all the emotions have resurfaced and I feel frustrated and manipulated. 

Can someone give me some insight here?  What was going through her mind?  Want more details?

Thanks,
user
I was excited to see this girl again, she cancels
assistant
Looking for some guidance, never got the closure I sought, twice...

I went out with a girl for 3 months a year ago. I really liked her. She hit all my criteria and for a while, I thought she felt the same. 

Our relationship ended abruptly when she sent me the "you're sweet, nice, and genuine but you're not for me" text message. I was shocked. I emailed her that evening wondering whether we can talk more about it. She sent me a very rude response that was basically, "dude I thought I told you...".   I was pretty devastated. 

Cut to 2 weeks ago. Over a year later, she texts me apologizing for her behavior, telling me she "wasn't in a great place," and inviting me out for a drink. We set a date for the middle of the next week. At worst I figure we have a nice conversation and she explains herself and provides some closure to our brief, but close relationship. At best we begin a rekindling assuming she's grown up a bit - who knows where it could lead. 

She ends up canceling our date because of a work commitment that I believe was genuine, but without attempting to reschedule. 

4 days go by and I hear nothing from her. I reach out asking her, essentially, what they fuck, you got in touch and won't follow through?  I express my willingness to meet up and talk. She responds that she assumed I thought she made up the work thing and that I thought she was blowing me off, and saying it didn't sound like I wanted to see her. 

My response was essentially, I want her to honor her invitation, and suggest a brief hang that night - we don't live far from each other. 

She responds the next morning that it was clear she shouldn't have reached out, that it was her mistake, and that I won't hear from her again.  

I'd completely gotten over her over the year, but now all the emotions have resurfaced and I feel frustrated and manipulated. 

Can someone give me some insight here?  What was going through her mind?  Want more details?

Thanks,
user
Abrupt ending relationship, trying to find out what her motivation
assistant