I met a very nice girl a 4 months ago and recently proposed to her and now we are engaged. I was one of those cynics who never thought i'd ever get married but i don't know what got into me and i did it anyway.
Recently i met another girl and have fallen for her, my wishes to the contrary notwithstanding. She has strong feelings for me too. I have been trying to avoid meeting her but i can't stop thinking about her.

That i am already having these things does not bode well for the future. Maybe i was right all along - i am not the right person to ever get married.

Now i have a choice between calling off the marriage which would be a very big deal what with both the families being involved now and wedding preprations (which is in a couple of months) and all the hurt it would cause, or going through with it but possibly being mildly unhappy for a long time, which would also be unfair to my future wife.

I realize that it is completely my fault, but the only thing i am really concerned about right now is making the right decision for everyone. I really need some perspective on the situation.
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I am engaged but thinking of
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I met a very nice girl a 4 months ago and recently proposed to her and now we are engaged. I was one of those cynics who never thought i'd ever get married but i don't know what got into me and i did it anyway.
Recently i met another girl and have fallen for her, my wishes to the contrary notwithstanding. She has strong feelings for me too. I have been trying to avoid meeting her but i can't stop thinking about her.

That i am already having these things does not bode well for the future. Maybe i was right all along - i am not the right person to ever get married.

Now i have a choice between calling off the marriage which would be a very big deal what with both the families being involved now and wedding preprations (which is in a couple of months) and all the hurt it would cause, or going through with it but possibly being mildly unhappy for a long time, which would also be unfair to my future wife.

I realize that it is completely my fault, but the only thing i am really concerned about right now is making the right decision for everyone. I really need some perspective on the situation.
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I am concerned about the future
assistant