I've only known this person for just under a year but we immediately clicked. We see each other at least once a week, talk every single day and never run out of things to do/talk about.

For a somewhat short friendship, we've become incredibly close. We feel very comfortable with each other and we trust each other more than we trust anyone else.

The issue is she's recently broken up with her boyfriend of over 1 year and she's been a mess. In the process, she apparently realised that all the appalling things he's done (and the list is long) no longer bother her and she doesn't care about them or think they're inexcusable because she misses him too much. She's convinced he's all she needs to be happy.

My problem with this is that the things she's stopped caring about are important, they're important to a lot of people and they're very important to me. In fact, our mutual understanding of these things is something we bonded over but she seems to have changed her mind very quickly and easily - I'm worried she's not the person I originally loved and cared about so deeply.

To top it off, I've told her my deepest, darkest secrets because keeping secrets was very important to her - what's to stop her from changing her mind on that too? I feel stupid and naive and I can either remain in this very unstable and often emotionally draining friendship, or I can do the healthy thing that every single person in my life has told me I should've done months ago and let the friendship come to an end.

She's particularly vulnerable right now so there's no way I'm ditching her immediately but should I distance myself in the long term? Or rather, would it make me an absolutely awful human being if I distanced myself?

Any feedback would be much appreciated.
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My friend has recently broken up with her boyfriend and is now totally in love with him.
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I've only known this person for just under a year but we immediately clicked. We see each other at least once a week, talk every single day and never run out of things to do/talk about.

For a somewhat short friendship, we've become incredibly close. We feel very comfortable with each other and we trust each other more than we trust anyone else.

The issue is she's recently broken up with her boyfriend of over 1 year and she's been a mess. In the process, she apparently realised that all the appalling things he's done (and the list is long) no longer bother her and she doesn't care about them or think they're inexcusable because she misses him too much. She's convinced he's all she needs to be happy.

My problem with this is that the things she's stopped caring about are important, they're important to a lot of people and they're very important to me. In fact, our mutual understanding of these things is something we bonded over but she seems to have changed her mind very quickly and easily - I'm worried she's not the person I originally loved and cared about so deeply.

To top it off, I've told her my deepest, darkest secrets because keeping secrets was very important to her - what's to stop her from changing her mind on that too? I feel stupid and naive and I can either remain in this very unstable and often emotionally draining friendship, or I can do the healthy thing that every single person in my life has told me I should've done months ago and let the friendship come to an end.

She's particularly vulnerable right now so there's no way I'm ditching her immediately but should I distance myself in the long term? Or rather, would it make me an absolutely awful human being if I distanced myself?

Any feedback would be much appreciated.
user
Best friend has changed dramatically, I don't trust her anymore, should I distance myself?
assistant