I broke off my 2.5 year relationship I saturday after several months of trying to make things work and it just not happening. I can't work on my issues with codependency/ self worth while also focusing a ton of energy on trying to save our relationship so I decided I need time to fix myself first.
I still care about her very much. I love her. I am just sick of not being able to enforce boundaries and put my needs first in our relationship. I feel like I need time to regain self esteem and confidence before I can date again. That was my general thinking until today.
Today she found out she has a large ovarian cyst that has a good chance of being cancerous. Her aunt just died of ovarian cancer a few months ago and other indicators seems to point there is a high chance the mass is cancerous. She does not have health insurance. She has an appointment to get an ultrasound Wednesday that I am going to pay for.
Both of her best friends just left town for grad school and she isn't very close with anyone else here. Her family lives far away and have dealt with 6 deaths in the past 2 years and are all in different stages of grief and financial instability. They will not be able to give her the support she needs. My inclination is to just jump back into this relationship and be there for her but that very well might be a result of my codependent/caretaking disposition. Is there a way to be there for her and remain broken up?'
What should I do?! How can I help her?
user
Gf has large ovarian cyst. I want
assistant
I broke off my 2.5 year relationship I saturday after several months of trying to make things work and it just not happening. I can't work on my issues with codependency/ self worth while also focusing a ton of energy on trying to save our relationship so I decided I need time to fix myself first.
I still care about her very much. I love her. I am just sick of not being able to enforce boundaries and put my needs first in our relationship. I feel like I need time to regain self esteem and confidence before I can date again. That was my general thinking until today.
Today she found out she has a large ovarian cyst that has a good chance of being cancerous. Her aunt just died of ovarian cancer a few months ago and other indicators seems to point there is a high chance the mass is cancerous. She does not have health insurance. She has an appointment to get an ultrasound Wednesday that I am going to pay for.
Both of her best friends just left town for grad school and she isn't very close with anyone else here. Her family lives far away and have dealt with 6 deaths in the past 2 years and are all in different stages of grief and financial instability. They will not be able to give her the support she needs. My inclination is to just jump back into this relationship and be there for her but that very well might be a result of my codependent/caretaking disposition. Is there a way to be there for her and remain broken up?'
What should I do?! How can I help her?
user
Broke up with gf, she has a
assistant