Hi all, first time posting, looking for some advice.

Some backstory, my dad is a very emotional guy in the sense that when he gets angry he will throw a fit or send me on a guilt trip until he is aware that I am upset for upsetting him, and he then storms off. After a few hours he cools down and acts like it never happened. 

For example, at the beginning of last September I was planning on heading back to school with my current girl friend (as at the time she was going through really heavy personal/ family issues and I felt that I should be with her to comfort her). 

Dad assumed that he was going to drive me too school (I live ~2 hrs from where I go to school) and when I told him otherwise he turned the question around asking "So what you're saying is you don't need me." and stormed off. I understood that this would upset him as we do like to road trip together & he has taken me to school for the previous 2 years, but it made me feel like shit for doing that to him.

Catch up to now and I was offered a great internship in NYC for the summer. My Dad told me that him, my mom, and I would head to NYC a week early to vacation a little bit, and I told him sure thing (this was back in November). 

However, I had assumed that my gf would be able to find some work in NYC over the summer too, but has had no luck so far. I want to tell my dad that I don't want to leave early so I can spend more time with my gf before I leave (which I realize is being selfish to my family, but we would change our week long trip to maybe half a week) but I'm deathly afraid to tell this to my dad. 

I feel like he will resent me and say that I'm choosing her over him (or something to that effect). Any and all advice would be appreciated!!
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been asked to stay longer than I originally
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Hi all, first time posting, looking for some advice.

Some backstory, my dad is a very emotional guy in the sense that when he gets angry he will throw a fit or send me on a guilt trip until he is aware that I am upset for upsetting him, and he then storms off. After a few hours he cools down and acts like it never happened. 

For example, at the beginning of last September I was planning on heading back to school with my current girl friend (as at the time she was going through really heavy personal/ family issues and I felt that I should be with her to comfort her). 

Dad assumed that he was going to drive me too school (I live ~2 hrs from where I go to school) and when I told him otherwise he turned the question around asking "So what you're saying is you don't need me." and stormed off. I understood that this would upset him as we do like to road trip together & he has taken me to school for the previous 2 years, but it made me feel like shit for doing that to him.

Catch up to now and I was offered a great internship in NYC for the summer. My Dad told me that him, my mom, and I would head to NYC a week early to vacation a little bit, and I told him sure thing (this was back in November). 

However, I had assumed that my gf would be able to find some work in NYC over the summer too, but has had no luck so far. I want to tell my dad that I don't want to leave early so I can spend more time with my gf before I leave (which I realize is being selfish to my family, but we would change our week long trip to maybe half a week) but I'm deathly afraid to tell this to my dad. 

I feel like he will resent me and say that I'm choosing her over him (or something to that effect). Any and all advice would be appreciated!!
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Afraid to tell my dad no in fear
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