So me and my girlfriend of almost 2 years now have been having a lot of trouble lately and it has been frustrating me to no end. She was adopted as a child so she never knew her birth parents because she was abandoned, so her whole life she has struggled from self-image issues and depression. Because of these things, I have to spend a lot of time taking care of her and making sure she knows that everything is going to be okay, but lately she has stopped being thankful for that behavior and has become more mean(don't know a better word here) about it. For the first year and a half or so whenever I comforted her she would thank me afterwards and she would say that she was so thankful for having me but lately she just stays upset and is silent/crying for hours at a time. 

I've tried so many times to convince her and her parents to get her a therapist but her parents don't seem to believe that she needs one and my girlfriend is too afraid to firmly ask for one. Because of this, I'm her only outlet of her anger/sadness. Her depression has gotten to a level where every day there is a fight about something, regardless of how small or insignificant it is. If I don't text her during my lunch she'll cry when I see her next, even if I was studying for a test or had to meet with a teacher. If I say I rather would stay home and be with her than go out and be with her friends some nights she will get upset and say that I need to bond with her friends more even though I do.

I just feel trapped in a sense. It seems like everything I do results in me being wrong, it's always my fault. I don't know the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship but I'd think that having your SO constantly making you feel guilty/wrong is one of them. I'd just really like some guidance as to what to do, every time I even bring up the topic of us not being together or her needing to get help for depression she will either lash out at me or start crying and not talk to me.

Thank you for reading this if you did
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Girlfriend of 2 years has become
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So me and my girlfriend of almost 2 years now have been having a lot of trouble lately and it has been frustrating me to no end. She was adopted as a child so she never knew her birth parents because she was abandoned, so her whole life she has struggled from self-image issues and depression. Because of these things, I have to spend a lot of time taking care of her and making sure she knows that everything is going to be okay, but lately she has stopped being thankful for that behavior and has become more mean(don't know a better word here) about it. For the first year and a half or so whenever I comforted her she would thank me afterwards and she would say that she was so thankful for having me but lately she just stays upset and is silent/crying for hours at a time. 

I've tried so many times to convince her and her parents to get her a therapist but her parents don't seem to believe that she needs one and my girlfriend is too afraid to firmly ask for one. Because of this, I'm her only outlet of her anger/sadness. Her depression has gotten to a level where every day there is a fight about something, regardless of how small or insignificant it is. If I don't text her during my lunch she'll cry when I see her next, even if I was studying for a test or had to meet with a teacher. If I say I rather would stay home and be with her than go out and be with her friends some nights she will get upset and say that I need to bond with her friends more even though I do.

I just feel trapped in a sense. It seems like everything I do results in me being wrong, it's always my fault. I don't know the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship but I'd think that having your SO constantly making you feel guilty/wrong is one of them. I'd just really like some guidance as to what to do, every time I even bring up the topic of us not being together or her needing to get help for depression she will either lash out at me or start crying and not talk to me.

Thank you for reading this if you did
user
Girlfriend of almost 2 years is
assistant