I went on holiday for a couple of weeks and ended up cheating on my GF. It started off as a drunken mistake but it happened with the same girl again and again. I know the reason I did it - I've recently gotten in shape and when this other gorgeous woman turned up and showed me attention I just craved it after so long of being shit at getting women. It wasn't pre-meditated, I thought I was ready to commit to my GF, but clearly I was wrong and that I have issues to sort out before I commit to someone, and maybe get the "single life" out of my system. I know I'm a piece of shit for choosing to cheat, but it happened, and I need to know what to do at this point.

I'm this girl's first boyfriend, so I want to be very careful how I handle it to avoid her being scarred too much. I have decided whatever happens, the right thing to do is to break up. If I don't tell her then I can't stay with her, but even if I do tell her and she takes me back...that wouldn't be right. I feel like it might set a precedent for this girl that she will in future let herself get walked all over by cheating idiots like me. Plus there's the personal issues I have anyway that might lead me to cheat again at this current point in my life.

Given that I've decided to end things, can I just not tell her I cheated? I feel like telling her would just be for absolving myself of guilt, and it would wound her (I know I should've thought about that before but I'm here now). If I just break up without telling her I cheated, she will be sad, but because we are long distance she will have space to get over me properly and maybe it would be healthier that way?

What's the right thing to do?
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Cheated on GF of 6 months. Decided to break
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I went on holiday for a couple of weeks and ended up cheating on my GF. It started off as a drunken mistake but it happened with the same girl again and again. I know the reason I did it - I've recently gotten in shape and when this other gorgeous woman turned up and showed me attention I just craved it after so long of being shit at getting women. It wasn't pre-meditated, I thought I was ready to commit to my GF, but clearly I was wrong and that I have issues to sort out before I commit to someone, and maybe get the "single life" out of my system. I know I'm a piece of shit for choosing to cheat, but it happened, and I need to know what to do at this point.

I'm this girl's first boyfriend, so I want to be very careful how I handle it to avoid her being scarred too much. I have decided whatever happens, the right thing to do is to break up. If I don't tell her then I can't stay with her, but even if I do tell her and she takes me back...that wouldn't be right. I feel like it might set a precedent for this girl that she will in future let herself get walked all over by cheating idiots like me. Plus there's the personal issues I have anyway that might lead me to cheat again at this current point in my life.

Given that I've decided to end things, can I just not tell her I cheated? I feel like telling her would just be for absolving myself of guilt, and it would wound her (I know I should've thought about that before but I'm here now). If I just break up without telling her I cheated, she will be sad, but because we are long distance she will have space to get over me properly and maybe it would be healthier that way?

What's the right thing to do?
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Cheated on my LDR girlfriend, don't know if I
assistant