Hi everyone.  First time poster here, so I apologize if I'm breaking any sub rules.  So My fiancee and I have been engaged from a little over a year and after saving money, we have finally been able to pick a venue for this July.  
  
Here's the rub, I asked my groomsmen to be my groomsmen shortly after our engagement.  I do not regret my choices one bit.  The problem comes when I have to tell everyone else who is in and who is out.  I am lucky, I have many very close friends.  Friends I talk to almost everyday.  I don't want, and my fiancee doesn't want, a ton of people up there with us.  We've been to several weddings where the parties were so big it was comical.  
  
Anyway how do I go about announcing to all my friends who is in the party with as little offense as possible?  
 
They are all pretty easy going, but this will be the first wedding of our core group of friends, so I don't have any prior experience to base their reaction on.      
  

You may wonder how I chose my groomsmen.  Basically what I did was choose a representative from each of my group of friends.  My bro is the bestman, then I have a college friend, a grad school friend, and two high school friends. Except for the high school friends, the others don't really know each other that well. I was planning on sending out an Email to the whole lot, so they would be in contact for bachelor party/other wedding events.  I was thinking I could include all my friends so everyone is involved with the bachelor party (of course I want them all there), and that way they will see who is in the party.  Is that too impersonal though?  But then is it rude to call or visit someone to tell them they AREN'T in the party?  I'm not great with social situations like this, I HATE confrontation. Help me Reddit, you're my only hope!
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Hi everyone.  First time poster here, so I apologize if I'm breaking any sub rules.  So My fiancee and I have been engaged from a little over a year and after saving money, we have finally been able to pick a venue for this July.  
  
Here's the rub, I asked my groomsmen to be my groomsmen shortly after our engagement.  I do not regret my choices one bit.  The problem comes when I have to tell everyone else who is in and who is out.  I am lucky, I have many very close friends.  Friends I talk to almost everyday.  I don't want, and my fiancee doesn't want, a ton of people up there with us.  We've been to several weddings where the parties were so big it was comical.  
  
Anyway how do I go about announcing to all my friends who is in the party with as little offense as possible?  
 
They are all pretty easy going, but this will be the first wedding of our core group of friends, so I don't have any prior experience to base their reaction on.      
  

You may wonder how I chose my groomsmen.  Basically what I did was choose a representative from each of my group of friends.  My bro is the bestman, then I have a college friend, a grad school friend, and two high school friends. Except for the high school friends, the others don't really know each other that well. I was planning on sending out an Email to the whole lot, so they would be in contact for bachelor party/other wedding events.  I was thinking I could include all my friends so everyone is involved with the bachelor party (of course I want them all there), and that way they will see who is in the party.  Is that too impersonal though?  But then is it rude to call or visit someone to tell them they AREN'T in the party?  I'm not great with social situations like this, I HATE confrontation. Help me Reddit, you're my only hope!
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