This is my first post here so I'll try to follow the rules as best I can.  I am a 23 y/o male and she is 25.  We dated for a year and then broke up. Because of the break up, I don't think her family is too fond of me, so that adds a little more to the toughness. It's been about a year since then, but recently we started talking.  She basically is saying that she doesn't want to be friends unless we get back together because it's too hard for her.  I am just really back and forth here because she is my only relationship I'be ever had so I don't really have much to compare it to.  I do really like spending time with her and the idea of not seeing her anymore kind of tears me up, but I kind of feel like it's all or nothing.  I'm kind of a commitmentphobe anyway so I know that plays a role.  I know I'm fairly young, but in the year apart I didn't find anyone that I was very interested in and I think we're both getting close to the age when you look to start settling down.  And that part freaks me out a bit because, like I said, I haven't been with anyone else so I don't know how strong a relationship it is/was.  Basically I'm just wondering if this is a normal amount of doubt in a relationship or if it seems like I should just let it go?  Also, am I over-thinking it?   Because I tend to do a lot of that too.
user
I'm inexperienced and am not sure what a good relationship is supposed to feel like. I don't want to commit if it's not and don't want to give it up if it is.
assistant
This is my first post here so I'll try to follow the rules as best I can.  I am a 23 y/o male and she is 25.  We dated for a year and then broke up. Because of the break up, I don't think her family is too fond of me, so that adds a little more to the toughness. It's been about a year since then, but recently we started talking.  She basically is saying that she doesn't want to be friends unless we get back together because it's too hard for her.  I am just really back and forth here because she is my only relationship I'be ever had so I don't really have much to compare it to.  I do really like spending time with her and the idea of not seeing her anymore kind of tears me up, but I kind of feel like it's all or nothing.  I'm kind of a commitmentphobe anyway so I know that plays a role.  I know I'm fairly young, but in the year apart I didn't find anyone that I was very interested in and I think we're both getting close to the age when you look to start settling down.  And that part freaks me out a bit because, like I said, I haven't been with anyone else so I don't know how strong a relationship it is/was.  Basically I'm just wondering if this is a normal amount of doubt in a relationship or if it seems like I should just let it go?  Also, am I over-thinking it?   Because I tend to do a lot of that too.
user
been talking to ex for a year, not sure if she wants to be friends due to our age difference and hesitance to continue relationship due to family issues. am unsure if normal amount of doubt in
assistant