We've been together since college, and have lived together for 4 years now. However, over the past year or so I've slowly come to the conclusion that I just don't love her anymore (I can go into more detail on that if you want, but suffice to say it's been a long time coming, but there are no negative feelings). Given this, it's pointless for me and unkind to her to stay in a relationship that, to me, has no future. We've had talks in the past where I have stated my insecurities about my own feelings, but only recently have I really been able to decide one way or the other.

However, in about a month we have a vacation planned along with a couple of friends, and I'm afraid that splitting up before that will ruin it for everyone (our living arrangements are dependent on my SO being there, and even if I offer to not go she may be so distraught as to not want to go either). So do I talk with her and explain how I'm feeling, or keep on pretending everything's ok for a while longer (which is essentially lying all the time, something that is becoming increasingly difficult for me) for the sake of ensuring her and our friends a good vacation?
user
I am going to break up with my girlfriend, but doing so
assistant
We've been together since college, and have lived together for 4 years now. However, over the past year or so I've slowly come to the conclusion that I just don't love her anymore (I can go into more detail on that if you want, but suffice to say it's been a long time coming, but there are no negative feelings). Given this, it's pointless for me and unkind to her to stay in a relationship that, to me, has no future. We've had talks in the past where I have stated my insecurities about my own feelings, but only recently have I really been able to decide one way or the other.

However, in about a month we have a vacation planned along with a couple of friends, and I'm afraid that splitting up before that will ruin it for everyone (our living arrangements are dependent on my SO being there, and even if I offer to not go she may be so distraught as to not want to go either). So do I talk with her and explain how I'm feeling, or keep on pretending everything's ok for a while longer (which is essentially lying all the time, something that is becoming increasingly difficult for me) for the sake of ensuring her and our friends a good vacation?
user
I'm about to break up with my SO to spare her and
assistant