My best friend became a mum 4 years ago, and again a year and a half ago, which would be fine, but she's not just a mum, she's a crazy mum.

The kind of mum that puts the toddler on the phone, the kind that cancels on every dinner or coffee date, the kind that can't talk about anything other than her childrens poo and dance lessons. She's a shell of the person that I used to know, we have nothing in common anymore. 

I had a horrible life event 3 years ago, and she abandoned me, we worked though it and became close again. Then I moved interstate 2 years ago, in the last year I have visited 3 times, and she has cancelled on a catch up each trip. After the last time (an an unanswered half hearted apology text) she knew I was pissed off, and has been at me all guns blazing with wanting to 'save our friendship'...

I don't want to. She's not the same friend, she's not someone I would want to be friends with. I don't know how to push her gently away now, it feels like a breakup with a clingy boyfriend. I can't very well tell her that she's just a nappy changing shell now.

I might sound like I'm coming across as hard on mums, or not understanding - I have four children, the oldest is 8, youngest is 1, so I am a mum as well, but its not my entire being.
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My best friend has turned into a mum, and I want to break up with her gently, but I feel like I've lost my friend. I don't know
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My best friend became a mum 4 years ago, and again a year and a half ago, which would be fine, but she's not just a mum, she's a crazy mum.

The kind of mum that puts the toddler on the phone, the kind that cancels on every dinner or coffee date, the kind that can't talk about anything other than her childrens poo and dance lessons. She's a shell of the person that I used to know, we have nothing in common anymore. 

I had a horrible life event 3 years ago, and she abandoned me, we worked though it and became close again. Then I moved interstate 2 years ago, in the last year I have visited 3 times, and she has cancelled on a catch up each trip. After the last time (an an unanswered half hearted apology text) she knew I was pissed off, and has been at me all guns blazing with wanting to 'save our friendship'...

I don't want to. She's not the same friend, she's not someone I would want to be friends with. I don't know how to push her gently away now, it feels like a breakup with a clingy boyfriend. I can't very well tell her that she's just a nappy changing shell now.

I might sound like I'm coming across as hard on mums, or not understanding - I have four children, the oldest is 8, youngest is 1, so I am a mum as well, but its not my entire being.
user
My best friend is a mum, she's not the person I used to be, I don't want to be friends with her anymore and I don't know how
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