In my entire life, I've met very few people that I would consider attractive to the point of wanting to date. I've just always felt like I'd rather be alone than in a relationship based purely/mostly on staving off the lonelies. I'm fine with this, I'm rather proud of the fact that I can mostly avoid disastrous relationships. In any case, I still HAVE the lonelies, somewhat, so for the last 7ish months, I've had a profile on a dating website. 

Most profiles don't interest me for one reason or another, but one stood out. She was basically everything I ever hoped to find in a partner (strong communicator, empathetic, geeky, not crazy, etc.)

We talked for a long time, but she was reticent to push forward into relationship territory, she was just coming off an extremely bad breakup, and I didn't want to push her into anything before she was ready. Eventually she decided she just needed to take some time to heal for herself before starting anything new, which I understand and support completely, but from my end it really sucks because of the hundreds of profiles I've gone through, and the many people I know in real life, she was the only one that resonated with me on any level. She told me "hopefully you'll still be here when I come back," but this was a while ago now, and although I'm not specifically waiting for her to come back, at the same time, every other person I meet pales in comparison to this girl. I feel stupid because I know that I'm setting myself up to be massively disappointed if/when she never comes back, that and I know full well that the girls on these dating websites are inundated by scores of messages, and despite that thing she said, she never really made a specific commitment to me of any sort.

The saddest part is that I know deep down that there are plenty of halfway decent people out there worth knowing, but I'm just not at that point where I can convince myself to "settle" when I know that she's still out there and I can keep a foolish man's hope alive that we might have a future together.
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Met the perfect girl but she isn't ready
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In my entire life, I've met very few people that I would consider attractive to the point of wanting to date. I've just always felt like I'd rather be alone than in a relationship based purely/mostly on staving off the lonelies. I'm fine with this, I'm rather proud of the fact that I can mostly avoid disastrous relationships. In any case, I still HAVE the lonelies, somewhat, so for the last 7ish months, I've had a profile on a dating website. 

Most profiles don't interest me for one reason or another, but one stood out. She was basically everything I ever hoped to find in a partner (strong communicator, empathetic, geeky, not crazy, etc.)

We talked for a long time, but she was reticent to push forward into relationship territory, she was just coming off an extremely bad breakup, and I didn't want to push her into anything before she was ready. Eventually she decided she just needed to take some time to heal for herself before starting anything new, which I understand and support completely, but from my end it really sucks because of the hundreds of profiles I've gone through, and the many people I know in real life, she was the only one that resonated with me on any level. She told me "hopefully you'll still be here when I come back," but this was a while ago now, and although I'm not specifically waiting for her to come back, at the same time, every other person I meet pales in comparison to this girl. I feel stupid because I know that I'm setting myself up to be massively disappointed if/when she never comes back, that and I know full well that the girls on these dating websites are inundated by scores of messages, and despite that thing she said, she never really made a specific commitment to me of any sort.

The saddest part is that I know deep down that there are plenty of halfway decent people out there worth knowing, but I'm just not at that point where I can convince myself to "settle" when I know that she's still out there and I can keep a foolish man's hope alive that we might have a future together.
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I'm a stupid oaf and can't get past
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