My fiance and I have been together for over 3 years and engaged for 2 months. We're on the same page about getting married but can't agree on how to do it. My fiance suffers from social anxiety and generally hates being the center of attention. His complicated relationship with most of his family also seems to be driving his fear of a wedding. He has conflicting feelings about whether he wants them there and seems to lean toward not inviting them most of the time. 

He has suggested that we elope and do something just the two of us. Eloping means he gets to avoid the familial drama that would ensue if we had a wedding and didn't invite his family. It also keeps him out of the spotlight. I'm not looking for a traditional wedding and am happy to keep it small, especially if it means my fiancee is more comfortable and actually able to enjoy the event. 

At the same time, I desperately want my family to be there. They're incredibly important to me and I couldn't imagine embarking on this stage of my life without them there to support and celebrate us. Eloping would probably devastate my parents. We're close and I'm an only child so this is their one shot with the whole wedding thing. He understands but is still pressing for it to be just the two of us. 

Anyone out there have a similar issue with their partner? I'd appreciate any advice.
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Fiance wants to elope (just the two of us) but I want my family at our wedding. I want to consider my partner but I'm really not sure how to have a wedding
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My fiance and I have been together for over 3 years and engaged for 2 months. We're on the same page about getting married but can't agree on how to do it. My fiance suffers from social anxiety and generally hates being the center of attention. His complicated relationship with most of his family also seems to be driving his fear of a wedding. He has conflicting feelings about whether he wants them there and seems to lean toward not inviting them most of the time. 

He has suggested that we elope and do something just the two of us. Eloping means he gets to avoid the familial drama that would ensue if we had a wedding and didn't invite his family. It also keeps him out of the spotlight. I'm not looking for a traditional wedding and am happy to keep it small, especially if it means my fiancee is more comfortable and actually able to enjoy the event. 

At the same time, I desperately want my family to be there. They're incredibly important to me and I couldn't imagine embarking on this stage of my life without them there to support and celebrate us. Eloping would probably devastate my parents. We're close and I'm an only child so this is their one shot with the whole wedding thing. He understands but is still pressing for it to be just the two of us. 

Anyone out there have a similar issue with their partner? I'd appreciate any advice.
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Fiance doesn't want to get married, elope. I'm not sure how to compromise.
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