I am completely head over heels in love with my manfriend. My father died last year and he was so supportive and was really one of the only things that me get through all the grief, and helped me keep going. He's my best friend, says that I am one of his and has told me that he loves me. We are exclusive, and I can't see myself with anyone else.

While I am happy that I have him in my life, he refuses to make any sort of commitment to me after a year and 8 months. His response is typically "I don't think you're ready" or that he doesn't want to date anyone right now, or that he want's to wait to have a relationship until he's more established (he wants to be a home owner and reach some personal goals which he thinks he can manage in 3-5 years, which I think is a bit ridiculous of a waiting period). And the fact of the matter is, I don't mind waiting - but only if something is going to come out of this. I feel like I'm setting myself up to get my heart broken because I don't know what his intentions are and he just will not talk about them. 

He tells me that he cares for me in more ways than I'll ever understand, that I am an extremely important part of his life. But it's been a year and 8 months, and I just don't see how you can be with someone for that long and not want anything more. 

We spend just about every weekend together, and sometimes meet up during the week to. I go to all of his family gatherings. But I feel like he's holding back. He was in a really awful relationship a few years back and I'm wondering if he still hasn't recovered. 

It's not that I necessarily want our relationship to be labelled. I don't care about Facebook statuses or any of that shit. But I do want to the relationship I'm in to grow and develop. I feel like he holds back his feelings and I don't know what it is that makes him do that. It would be easier if he would just talk to me but I can't get him to.
user
my boyfriend doesn't want to make it official, and I'm
assistant
I am completely head over heels in love with my manfriend. My father died last year and he was so supportive and was really one of the only things that me get through all the grief, and helped me keep going. He's my best friend, says that I am one of his and has told me that he loves me. We are exclusive, and I can't see myself with anyone else.

While I am happy that I have him in my life, he refuses to make any sort of commitment to me after a year and 8 months. His response is typically "I don't think you're ready" or that he doesn't want to date anyone right now, or that he want's to wait to have a relationship until he's more established (he wants to be a home owner and reach some personal goals which he thinks he can manage in 3-5 years, which I think is a bit ridiculous of a waiting period). And the fact of the matter is, I don't mind waiting - but only if something is going to come out of this. I feel like I'm setting myself up to get my heart broken because I don't know what his intentions are and he just will not talk about them. 

He tells me that he cares for me in more ways than I'll ever understand, that I am an extremely important part of his life. But it's been a year and 8 months, and I just don't see how you can be with someone for that long and not want anything more. 

We spend just about every weekend together, and sometimes meet up during the week to. I go to all of his family gatherings. But I feel like he's holding back. He was in a really awful relationship a few years back and I'm wondering if he still hasn't recovered. 

It's not that I necessarily want our relationship to be labelled. I don't care about Facebook statuses or any of that shit. But I do want to the relationship I'm in to grow and develop. I feel like he holds back his feelings and I don't know what it is that makes him do that. It would be easier if he would just talk to me but I can't get him to.
user
Am I wasting my time? Am I doing something wrong?
assistant