I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and truly would like to spend my life with him, but lately I have been frustrated. We do not live together. I have always lived in a two-bedroom apartment with a roommate and he has always lived at home.

For the past 3 years, he has spent just about every weekend night at my apartment. My roommate (very close friend who worked an opposite schedule) got a job out of state. I have 7 months left on my lease and honestly do not want a random roommate at this point in my life. A stranger would be an adjustment to me and I let him know that if I get a random roommate I don’t think they would be ok with him being over all the time. We finally talked about living together and mutually decided that when my lease is up we will move in to a new place that can be ours. He doesn’t think his family will take it well with us moving in at any point and I feel like him moving in now would be because it is convenient not because we want to for our relationship.

For some reason, I can’t help but get frustrated over this though. He has offered to pay that half of the rent if I choose not to get a roommate but I would just feel bad taking it from him.  He is in a much better financial position than I am and I do not want a roommate. He has not brought it up since and keeps insisting I will find a roommate. I feel like a lot of my frustration now isn't even about the money, its that he offered to pay it but doesn't want to 'move in' but is here a lot anyway. I just feel so stuck over this. Any thoughts?
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My boyfriend offered to pay half of the rent if I do not get
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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and truly would like to spend my life with him, but lately I have been frustrated. We do not live together. I have always lived in a two-bedroom apartment with a roommate and he has always lived at home.

For the past 3 years, he has spent just about every weekend night at my apartment. My roommate (very close friend who worked an opposite schedule) got a job out of state. I have 7 months left on my lease and honestly do not want a random roommate at this point in my life. A stranger would be an adjustment to me and I let him know that if I get a random roommate I don’t think they would be ok with him being over all the time. We finally talked about living together and mutually decided that when my lease is up we will move in to a new place that can be ours. He doesn’t think his family will take it well with us moving in at any point and I feel like him moving in now would be because it is convenient not because we want to for our relationship.

For some reason, I can’t help but get frustrated over this though. He has offered to pay that half of the rent if I choose not to get a roommate but I would just feel bad taking it from him.  He is in a much better financial position than I am and I do not want a roommate. He has not brought it up since and keeps insisting I will find a roommate. I feel like a lot of my frustration now isn't even about the money, its that he offered to pay it but doesn't want to 'move in' but is here a lot anyway. I just feel so stuck over this. Any thoughts?
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Want to move in to a new place while my lease is up but
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