I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years. She used to be more sexual than me, but she's had a brain surgery and seems to has lost interest in sex altogether. That part bothers me a bit, but it used to be that she's saving it for when she gets married to me. That was ok...until recently when she said that we will have to "wait and see". She only views it as a way to have children now apparently. Even though we haven't had it in over a year, I was ok with it because it showed that she was waiting until we were married. 

Once she clarified that she only saw sex as a way to make babies, it's started to feel like she doesn't view me as attractive anymore. She doesn't initiate anything sexual at all and avoids anything leading to sex. She IS part of a church that only believes in sex after marriage though...but now I'm not so sure if she even wants it if we do marry. Besides, we was so sexual before...why did it disappear after her surgery?

Like she expresses it in other ways like a kiss on the lips or cuddling. She doesn't neglect me at all either. I don't know what to do at all. She's on depression medication, which might be a factor...still though. All of this just bothers me a lot.

She's had a previous brain surgery for seizures previously and she fell out of love with me. We got back together after she went through a lot of shit one night and I talked with her for 7 hours at night until she fell asleep. I'm a bit worried it'll happen again since her seizures came back and she wants to have another one.

What should I do? Is it right to feel this way? Will things get better? Will my feelings of not feeling attractive to my partner get better over time? It's a lot more complicated than just "sticking it out" or "talking it out and getting on the same page". We don't fight or bicker at all...she respects me and I respect her. I don't know what to do...
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Girlfriend Changed Quickly After Surgery and I
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I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years. She used to be more sexual than me, but she's had a brain surgery and seems to has lost interest in sex altogether. That part bothers me a bit, but it used to be that she's saving it for when she gets married to me. That was ok...until recently when she said that we will have to "wait and see". She only views it as a way to have children now apparently. Even though we haven't had it in over a year, I was ok with it because it showed that she was waiting until we were married. 

Once she clarified that she only saw sex as a way to make babies, it's started to feel like she doesn't view me as attractive anymore. She doesn't initiate anything sexual at all and avoids anything leading to sex. She IS part of a church that only believes in sex after marriage though...but now I'm not so sure if she even wants it if we do marry. Besides, we was so sexual before...why did it disappear after her surgery?

Like she expresses it in other ways like a kiss on the lips or cuddling. She doesn't neglect me at all either. I don't know what to do at all. She's on depression medication, which might be a factor...still though. All of this just bothers me a lot.

She's had a previous brain surgery for seizures previously and she fell out of love with me. We got back together after she went through a lot of shit one night and I talked with her for 7 hours at night until she fell asleep. I'm a bit worried it'll happen again since her seizures came back and she wants to have another one.

What should I do? Is it right to feel this way? Will things get better? Will my feelings of not feeling attractive to my partner get better over time? It's a lot more complicated than just "sticking it out" or "talking it out and getting on the same page". We don't fight or bicker at all...she respects me and I respect her. I don't know what to do...
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Girlfriend has lost interest in sex and
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