My marriage has slowly deteriorated over the last year. To be honest, I don't love her anymore. She is verbally abusive, threatened physical harm to myself as well to others. No one really knows the extent of her behaviors. She puts a good face on with her co-workers and facebook friends.

My wife has said extremely hurtful things to me. Some of the things she has said just this past week:

1. I hate you.
 
2. I wish you would get into a car accident and die.

3. You're horrible at your job, that's why you can't get a promotion. You're retarded.

4. Nobody likes you, that's why you don't have any friends. (I do have friends, or at least had them. She alienated them with her behavior by being rude to them. They straight up told me that's why they never call or come over.)

She also nags me constantly about stupid stuff that she does herself. Such as leaving the door unlocked, forgetting to put toilet paper on the roll, etc. 

I have also caught her looking up how to order suicide bags on the computer.

I've dealt with her crap for a long time and I'm by far no angel, but now she is starting to treat our 2 year old daughter the same way. She calls her retarded, asshole, etc. She puts all of these charming facebook posts about our daughter and family, but acts differently in our home like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. 

I told her tonight that if she verbally threatens myself or our daughter again, I was going to file a restraining order against her and kick her out of the house. Right now I'm sleeping in a spare bedroom. I've tried to get her to go to counseling in the past but she refuses.

Any advice would be appreciated. I want a divorce, but I'm worried the extent of how my daughter would be victimized when I'm not there.
user
Wife is verbally abusive and threatens harm. Considering a divorce but feel like I'm held hostage to protect daughter.
assistant
My marriage has slowly deteriorated over the last year. To be honest, I don't love her anymore. She is verbally abusive, threatened physical harm to myself as well to others. No one really knows the extent of her behaviors. She puts a good face on with her co-workers and facebook friends.

My wife has said extremely hurtful things to me. Some of the things she has said just this past week:

1. I hate you.
 
2. I wish you would get into a car accident and die.

3. You're horrible at your job, that's why you can't get a promotion. You're retarded.

4. Nobody likes you, that's why you don't have any friends. (I do have friends, or at least had them. She alienated them with her behavior by being rude to them. They straight up told me that's why they never call or come over.)

She also nags me constantly about stupid stuff that she does herself. Such as leaving the door unlocked, forgetting to put toilet paper on the roll, etc. 

I have also caught her looking up how to order suicide bags on the computer.

I've dealt with her crap for a long time and I'm by far no angel, but now she is starting to treat our 2 year old daughter the same way. She calls her retarded, asshole, etc. She puts all of these charming facebook posts about our daughter and family, but acts differently in our home like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. 

I told her tonight that if she verbally threatens myself or our daughter again, I was going to file a restraining order against her and kick her out of the house. Right now I'm sleeping in a spare bedroom. I've tried to get her to go to counseling in the past but she refuses.

Any advice would be appreciated. I want a divorce, but I'm worried the extent of how my daughter would be victimized when I'm not there.
user
My wife of 10 years verbally abused me and our 2 year old daughter the past month. I'm terrified of what might happen if I file a restraining order against her.
assistant