I have known "Lance" since 2005, we were always good friends in High School but after Jr Year (2007) he moved to far away and we kind of lost contact. He moved back to where I live in 2010 but I was in school a few hours away. Well, now we are both back in the same area and he contacted me on FB and we started texting and made plans to hangout.

We have now hung out about 4 times, and everytime we do something he pays for it - guess that would make these dates, i don't know. The point is, we had never even kissed before, but after we hungout a couple of times he texted me and said he wished he had kissed me blah blah blah and last Friday i went to his house and we were just on the couch talking and then we started making out, FINALLY after 10 years of wanting this to happen it did..but we ended up having sex. He didn't force it at all and told me he would "stop if I wanted" but.. I was caught up in the moment and wanted to do it. I don't regret it, I guess my question now is how do I make sure he doesn't think that I just want a hookup buddy? I actually do like him.. We ended up going to dinner after that and then I left because he had work early..but no goodbye kiss or anything -- but he has always been kind of shy so I don't know if its because he was nervous? Considering we just had sex I don't see why he would be but...

He doesn't seem like the type to use people but I just don't know how to tell him I actually like him and maybe doing that was a mistake without sounding like a total nut. We've texted a little since then but he hasn't asked me to hangout or anything- which is fine because we're both busy with work. I just want to know where we stand, and need advice on how to ask this without being weird.
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Met a guy who I never met before, we hungout 4 times and had sex last Friday and I want advice on how to tell him I actually like
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I have known "Lance" since 2005, we were always good friends in High School but after Jr Year (2007) he moved to far away and we kind of lost contact. He moved back to where I live in 2010 but I was in school a few hours away. Well, now we are both back in the same area and he contacted me on FB and we started texting and made plans to hangout.

We have now hung out about 4 times, and everytime we do something he pays for it - guess that would make these dates, i don't know. The point is, we had never even kissed before, but after we hungout a couple of times he texted me and said he wished he had kissed me blah blah blah and last Friday i went to his house and we were just on the couch talking and then we started making out, FINALLY after 10 years of wanting this to happen it did..but we ended up having sex. He didn't force it at all and told me he would "stop if I wanted" but.. I was caught up in the moment and wanted to do it. I don't regret it, I guess my question now is how do I make sure he doesn't think that I just want a hookup buddy? I actually do like him.. We ended up going to dinner after that and then I left because he had work early..but no goodbye kiss or anything -- but he has always been kind of shy so I don't know if its because he was nervous? Considering we just had sex I don't see why he would be but...

He doesn't seem like the type to use people but I just don't know how to tell him I actually like him and maybe doing that was a mistake without sounding like a total nut. We've texted a little since then but he hasn't asked me to hangout or anything- which is fine because we're both busy with work. I just want to know where we stand, and need advice on how to ask this without being weird.
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Did I ruin a potential BF by sleeping with him too soon? How do I find out?
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