Sorry, this became much longer than I anticipated. 

Before I got in a relationship with my now boyfriend I knew that he occasionally smoked pot. I never have and don't plan to mostly because I know with my past history it would just not be a good idea.
I didn't care about him smoking though because it was just something he did with friends, and it made him happy. 

# Why I'm uncomfortable with pot usage

Fast forward about 10 months into the relationship and he starts smoking nearly daily with his friends and he was smoking a lot. At the same time he started hanging out with some people who, in my opinion, had not made the best life choices (drug dealers, people who did stuff a lot harder than weed). Most of them meant well, and they really helped another friend through some rough patches (through drugs mostly, but they meant well). So I tried my hardest to just be okay with it.

But as my boyfriend started hanging with them more, I started to feel like an afterthought. I wanted him to have fun, but on nights before that we would have plans he'd be partying and sleep through meet-up times. There were other things that came up, but him not bothering to meet up for dates we had in one case had planned for weeks in advance hurt the most. By the end of about a month, I felt like I had lost a boyfriend to pot.

In the end we talked through it and he said he would give up weed and limiting contact with a few of his new friends. Everything's been fine, and our communication is much better.

# Present Day

Recently, I felt really guilty about making  him quit weed, and I thought I would be over the previous events enough to be fine with him smoking pot occasionally again. But now that he is, I don't think I am. I know it's illogical and that pot is not a big deal but that doesn't stop me from worrying that I'll soon have a boyfriend in name only again.

How do I get over my worries so I'm not the controlling girlfriend who tells her boyfriend he can't smoke pot again?
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How do I become more comfortable with boyfriend's occasional pot usage?
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Sorry, this became much longer than I anticipated. 

Before I got in a relationship with my now boyfriend I knew that he occasionally smoked pot. I never have and don't plan to mostly because I know with my past history it would just not be a good idea.
I didn't care about him smoking though because it was just something he did with friends, and it made him happy. 

# Why I'm uncomfortable with pot usage

Fast forward about 10 months into the relationship and he starts smoking nearly daily with his friends and he was smoking a lot. At the same time he started hanging out with some people who, in my opinion, had not made the best life choices (drug dealers, people who did stuff a lot harder than weed). Most of them meant well, and they really helped another friend through some rough patches (through drugs mostly, but they meant well). So I tried my hardest to just be okay with it.

But as my boyfriend started hanging with them more, I started to feel like an afterthought. I wanted him to have fun, but on nights before that we would have plans he'd be partying and sleep through meet-up times. There were other things that came up, but him not bothering to meet up for dates we had in one case had planned for weeks in advance hurt the most. By the end of about a month, I felt like I had lost a boyfriend to pot.

In the end we talked through it and he said he would give up weed and limiting contact with a few of his new friends. Everything's been fine, and our communication is much better.

# Present Day

Recently, I felt really guilty about making  him quit weed, and I thought I would be over the previous events enough to be fine with him smoking pot occasionally again. But now that he is, I don't think I am. I know it's illogical and that pot is not a big deal but that doesn't stop me from worrying that I'll soon have a boyfriend in name only again.

How do I get over my worries so I'm not the controlling girlfriend who tells her boyfriend he can't smoke pot again?
user
boyfriend of 2 years started smoking weed (most days), now I'm scared I'll possibly be in an abusive relationship with my boyfriend on pot. How do I get over my
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