I've known this girl since we were in elementary school, and we've always been playfully into each other. When we were little kids we would go on "dates" and I would consider her my first real crush. As we got older, we maintained a platonic friendship with sexual outbursts here and there.. At sleepovers and whatnot we'd always end up trying to get closer. Around graduation we decided to act on these feelings and had sex. Being very close, I could tell it was really special to her. But unfortunately I was a bit of a wanker in my late teens and I didn't find it to be sexy enough, so I essentially told her I didn't wanna move forward with it. She's always turned me on in a loving way, but after having sex and seeing how eager she was to date, I felt unattracted for some reason. Hopefully I'm not a sociopath.. Anyway fast forward a couple years, her and I have been having little flings here and there, and had some pretty intense sex last month. She left to travel for 6 months and I'm finding myself with strong feelings to be around her. I'd like to look past my previous feelings and give dating a try but I'm afraid of losing attraction and breaking her heart. I think maybe if we start by dating and not just having sex it might be more meaningful... Should I let the girl be happy and find someone more stable, or go for a potentially serious relationship that might last a long time?
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had sex with a longtime friend, she had feelings, I didn't, now
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I've known this girl since we were in elementary school, and we've always been playfully into each other. When we were little kids we would go on "dates" and I would consider her my first real crush. As we got older, we maintained a platonic friendship with sexual outbursts here and there.. At sleepovers and whatnot we'd always end up trying to get closer. Around graduation we decided to act on these feelings and had sex. Being very close, I could tell it was really special to her. But unfortunately I was a bit of a wanker in my late teens and I didn't find it to be sexy enough, so I essentially told her I didn't wanna move forward with it. She's always turned me on in a loving way, but after having sex and seeing how eager she was to date, I felt unattracted for some reason. Hopefully I'm not a sociopath.. Anyway fast forward a couple years, her and I have been having little flings here and there, and had some pretty intense sex last month. She left to travel for 6 months and I'm finding myself with strong feelings to be around her. I'd like to look past my previous feelings and give dating a try but I'm afraid of losing attraction and breaking her heart. I think maybe if we start by dating and not just having sex it might be more meaningful... Should I let the girl be happy and find someone more stable, or go for a potentially serious relationship that might last a long time?
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I want to date my longtime friend but I'm afraid of losing
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