Preface: I might be 32, but I have limited dating experience, otherwise I would probably have been through this and figured it out by now.

We had plans to go out dancing for her birthday on the weekend. My girlfriend and I each, for different reasons, had a hellish week. I completely lost track of everything, but I can only assume she got through her week by looking forward to her birthday celebration. The weekend came, and I went into 'let's have a nice quiet relaxing weekend together' mode, and completely forgot we had plans. Eventually she asked when/if I was still planning anything for her birthday, but by that time it was too late, and neither of us have time free soon because of the holidays.

She isn't mad, but her feelings are hurt. I'm guessing it is along the lines of wanting to feel like she is important to me. I've apologized and all, and she said not to worry about it (because she is sweet and does not want me to feel bad), but I do worry about it. In all the other relationships I have had the woman would have spent so long screaming at me/berating me, and then told me exactly what to buy to make it up, and in the end I would feel like I had come out even. This woman is so much kinder though, and I want to find a way to go out of my way to show her how much she means to me to make up for having forgotten our celebration. I don't want to go the route of buying her something, because I am broke, and I don't think that would really communicate affection for her anyways.

All suggestions are appreciated!
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I want to make up for missing my girlfriend's
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Preface: I might be 32, but I have limited dating experience, otherwise I would probably have been through this and figured it out by now.

We had plans to go out dancing for her birthday on the weekend. My girlfriend and I each, for different reasons, had a hellish week. I completely lost track of everything, but I can only assume she got through her week by looking forward to her birthday celebration. The weekend came, and I went into 'let's have a nice quiet relaxing weekend together' mode, and completely forgot we had plans. Eventually she asked when/if I was still planning anything for her birthday, but by that time it was too late, and neither of us have time free soon because of the holidays.

She isn't mad, but her feelings are hurt. I'm guessing it is along the lines of wanting to feel like she is important to me. I've apologized and all, and she said not to worry about it (because she is sweet and does not want me to feel bad), but I do worry about it. In all the other relationships I have had the woman would have spent so long screaming at me/berating me, and then told me exactly what to buy to make it up, and in the end I would feel like I had come out even. This woman is so much kinder though, and I want to find a way to go out of my way to show her how much she means to me to make up for having forgotten our celebration. I don't want to go the route of buying her something, because I am broke, and I don't think that would really communicate affection for her anyways.

All suggestions are appreciated!
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I screwed up, and have no idea how to
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