I am currently pregnant and am almost ready to have the baby. My mom lives with her husband (not my dad) and he is currently on deployment. We've known I was pregnant since the second month. During this time my mom decided to take in foster children (even though she was an abusive parent, she has since gotten a lot better). 

Well she had been telling me the whole time that she was going to come down to my state and help me after the birth. She tells me today that she can't. At first I understand completely, the plane ticket is expensive, but that's not why. Then I assume it's the foster kids, which I understand as well. But that's not it either. 

She doesn't want to leave her dogs. 

Her fucking dogs. That's her reason. She can afford it, she doesn't care about leaving the foster kids, she just doesn't want her dogs to be without her. She even has 2 different people she can have watch them (and she told me that), but she doesn't want to do that because "The dog is old and is on meds and has to go outside to pee every 10 minutes". I am less important than the dog. 

I wouldn't even be upset if it were money or the foster kids. I totally understand that, but to be told that you and your children don't matter as much as the dog does really hurts. 

I know that it's my responsibility to take care of my family and all that. I would just rather she lie to me or don't even bring up flying down here. 

It might be the pregnancy hormones but I'm crushed. I don't matter to my own mother.
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I am currently pregnant and am almost ready to have the baby. My mom lives with her husband (not my dad) and he is currently on deployment. We've known I was pregnant since the second month. During this time my mom decided to take in foster children (even though she was an abusive parent, she has since gotten a lot better). 

Well she had been telling me the whole time that she was going to come down to my state and help me after the birth. She tells me today that she can't. At first I understand completely, the plane ticket is expensive, but that's not why. Then I assume it's the foster kids, which I understand as well. But that's not it either. 

She doesn't want to leave her dogs. 

Her fucking dogs. That's her reason. She can afford it, she doesn't care about leaving the foster kids, she just doesn't want her dogs to be without her. She even has 2 different people she can have watch them (and she told me that), but she doesn't want to do that because "The dog is old and is on meds and has to go outside to pee every 10 minutes". I am less important than the dog. 

I wouldn't even be upset if it were money or the foster kids. I totally understand that, but to be told that you and your children don't matter as much as the dog does really hurts. 

I know that it's my responsibility to take care of my family and all that. I would just rather she lie to me or don't even bring up flying down here. 

It might be the pregnancy hormones but I'm crushed. I don't matter to my own mother.
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My (27F) mom
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