Hey all, I need some advice. 

Some background-my boyfriend and I go to college together, and we have been dating for almost 2 years. We are very much happy and in love, but he seems to have different standards about kissing other people than me. Last night we were at a party with a bunch of mutual friends, and about halfway through I look over and see my boyfriend and Bryan (the gay friend) embracing and hugging in a very intimate way. Then Bryan goes in for a kiss, and my bf reciprocates and kisses him back for 3 seconds or so. 

A bit of background on Bryan- he has been a mutual friend of ours for about a year. He is a great friend and very fun to be around, but when he gets drunk he is very handsy and will hit on almost any man in sight. However; recently a lot of his advances have been centered on my boyfriend. Bf has told me about these advances in the past, but I had never given it much of a thought until now. This is because I assumed that my bf would immediately turn Bryan down when he tried to make a move. I just found out last night that apparently this is not the case.

We had a big fight about it, and my boyfriend refuses to acknowledge that he has done anything wrong. He says that the kiss meant nothing, and that it was merely a way of letting Bryan down nicely (after the kiss he told Bryan that he was not interested in him like that). I think that by kissing Bryan back he was leading him on, and that this will likely encourage Bryan to try it again in the future.

My bf says the only thing that matters in this situation is his intentions- that he only ever meant to let him down easily. I think his actions matter more than his intentions, and that kissing someone else is not acceptable no matter the intentions. 

So reddit, what do you think? Am I overreacting? Are intentions really more important than actions? 
Any advice is greatly appreciated
user
My boyfriend kissed a gay friend of mine, and I feel like he was leading
assistant
Hey all, I need some advice. 

Some background-my boyfriend and I go to college together, and we have been dating for almost 2 years. We are very much happy and in love, but he seems to have different standards about kissing other people than me. Last night we were at a party with a bunch of mutual friends, and about halfway through I look over and see my boyfriend and Bryan (the gay friend) embracing and hugging in a very intimate way. Then Bryan goes in for a kiss, and my bf reciprocates and kisses him back for 3 seconds or so. 

A bit of background on Bryan- he has been a mutual friend of ours for about a year. He is a great friend and very fun to be around, but when he gets drunk he is very handsy and will hit on almost any man in sight. However; recently a lot of his advances have been centered on my boyfriend. Bf has told me about these advances in the past, but I had never given it much of a thought until now. This is because I assumed that my bf would immediately turn Bryan down when he tried to make a move. I just found out last night that apparently this is not the case.

We had a big fight about it, and my boyfriend refuses to acknowledge that he has done anything wrong. He says that the kiss meant nothing, and that it was merely a way of letting Bryan down nicely (after the kiss he told Bryan that he was not interested in him like that). I think that by kissing Bryan back he was leading him on, and that this will likely encourage Bryan to try it again in the future.

My bf says the only thing that matters in this situation is his intentions- that he only ever meant to let him down easily. I think his actions matter more than his intentions, and that kissing someone else is not acceptable no matter the intentions. 

So reddit, what do you think? Am I overreacting? Are intentions really more important than actions? 
Any advice is greatly appreciated
user
A mutual gay friend kissed my boyfriend, and he reciprocated. I feel used, and that
assistant