Hi all - sorry for the vague ages, but she's a redditor too and has an idea of the proposal, but not the exact date nailed down yet (she's a detective, but not quite Batman).  

So - finally after years of being single, I've met my best friend and the love of my life.  I am ready to ask her to marry me, however, I have a sticking point.  I have the ring, have the day and a romantic plan (on the beach, with others involved; friends, family, etc) and we are leaving for it soon, but I am still wondering if I should ask her dad for permission?  He lives across the country, I've never met him, nor has she suggested for us to meet, and he's never really even attempted to come and meet us.

Her mom raised her and her sister, and her mom loves me, considers me a son, and I call her mom.  She's given permission.  But I still have that old fashioned sticking point of asking the father... what do you think I should do reddit?  I need to do it soon, if I am as this weekend is the date.  

EDIT - Maybe I shouldn't say "permission" so much as his blessing.  Thanks for clarification.

EDIT 2 - After speaking with her, she thought the best thing to do would just be to give him a head's up in the form of asking for his blessing.  I don't have his phone number but we have exchanged emails, so I just told him that I was planning on asking her this Saturday, had already received her mom's blessing and would like both parent's.  It's better than him finding out from her through a text message or phone call or... even worse, since their communication isn't the best at times after she posts a pic on facebook.
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Hi all - sorry for the vague ages, but she's a redditor too and has an idea of the proposal, but not the exact date nailed down yet (she's a detective, but not quite Batman).  

So - finally after years of being single, I've met my best friend and the love of my life.  I am ready to ask her to marry me, however, I have a sticking point.  I have the ring, have the day and a romantic plan (on the beach, with others involved; friends, family, etc) and we are leaving for it soon, but I am still wondering if I should ask her dad for permission?  He lives across the country, I've never met him, nor has she suggested for us to meet, and he's never really even attempted to come and meet us.

Her mom raised her and her sister, and her mom loves me, considers me a son, and I call her mom.  She's given permission.  But I still have that old fashioned sticking point of asking the father... what do you think I should do reddit?  I need to do it soon, if I am as this weekend is the date.  

EDIT - Maybe I shouldn't say "permission" so much as his blessing.  Thanks for clarification.

EDIT 2 - After speaking with her, she thought the best thing to do would just be to give him a head's up in the form of asking for his blessing.  I don't have his phone number but we have exchanged emails, so I just told him that I was planning on asking her this Saturday, had already received her mom's blessing and would like both parent's.  It's better than him finding out from her through a text message or phone call or... even worse, since their communication isn't the best at times after she posts a pic on facebook.
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