Throwaway account.
I'm in a long-distance relationship with a girl (21) I really love. She's sweet and funny and pretty and smart and all of that. She has a few friends (some of them don't treat her very well, unfortunately) but feels like she should have more; or at least feels insecure and inferior because she doesn't have more friends.

At times she gets really upset about that, and she gets upset because she feels that no one likes her and that people in her classes ignore her or think she's stupid or act like she's really weird (I don't know if people actually do act like that toward her or not since I'm not actually there).

When she gets upset about it there seems to be nothing at all I can say that will make her feel better. I also can't seem to say anything that won't get her angry with me.

If I just say things like "I'm sorry, that really sucks" she eventually rips me a new one for not caring about her or not being able to understand because I have more friends than she does. 

If I say something like "well those people are bitches and they're missing out because you're awesome", at best she'll just say "no, it's my fault, there must be something wrong with me" and at worst she'll say that AND get mad at me.

If I try to console AND offer advice like "no, you're totally likeable/smart/nice/whatever, but maybe you just need to be more assertive/put yourself out there more/etc" she gets mad and says I'm insensitive.

Any of these will usually lead to her saying things like "fuck you" and telling me to leave her alone.

What am I supposed to say?
user
Girlfriend has some problems with social interaction and I can't help her or say anything to make her feel better without her getting mad at me.
assistant
Throwaway account.
I'm in a long-distance relationship with a girl (21) I really love. She's sweet and funny and pretty and smart and all of that. She has a few friends (some of them don't treat her very well, unfortunately) but feels like she should have more; or at least feels insecure and inferior because she doesn't have more friends.

At times she gets really upset about that, and she gets upset because she feels that no one likes her and that people in her classes ignore her or think she's stupid or act like she's really weird (I don't know if people actually do act like that toward her or not since I'm not actually there).

When she gets upset about it there seems to be nothing at all I can say that will make her feel better. I also can't seem to say anything that won't get her angry with me.

If I just say things like "I'm sorry, that really sucks" she eventually rips me a new one for not caring about her or not being able to understand because I have more friends than she does. 

If I say something like "well those people are bitches and they're missing out because you're awesome", at best she'll just say "no, it's my fault, there must be something wrong with me" and at worst she'll say that AND get mad at me.

If I try to console AND offer advice like "no, you're totally likeable/smart/nice/whatever, but maybe you just need to be more assertive/put yourself out there more/etc" she gets mad and says I'm insensitive.

Any of these will usually lead to her saying things like "fuck you" and telling me to leave her alone.

What am I supposed to say?
user
long-distance girlfriend gets mad at me if I say anything that will make her feel better. When I try to offer advice/comfort she ignores me and
assistant