I (sspade) was at my mother's place business (a retail chain) with my girlfriend during business hours.  My mother introduced my girlfriend and I to one of her coworkers. The conversation goes like this:

Mother: sspade and girlfriend, I would like you to meet my coworker.

sspade: Nice to meet you, how is work today?

Mother & Coworker: It has been one of those days, crazy people everywhere.

Girlfriend: I know what you mean, just last night a crazy girl followed us on the street and said, "F@CK YOU, you C*NT"

I quickly changed the topic. I was mortified.  I could not believe that my girlfriend would say something like that in front of my mother and her coworker.  I find it especially bad because we were in my mother's place of business and we were just introduced to the coworker a few seconds prior.

I did not say anything to my girlfriend that night because I did not want to get into a fight about it (maybe I should have said something).  Two days later, my mother calls me and tells me she is upset about what happened.  I told her that I would talk to my girlfriend.  Well, when I talked to my girlfriend, she was completely mad that I did not defend her to my mother.  She says that I am wrong for not defending her.  In my family, we do curse and use some inappropriate language, but in my 30 years, in front of my mother, I maybe have said F@CK 5 times and I have never said C*NT. I don't think there is any way I would say that.  I just feel that it is inappropriate.

My girlfriend maintains that she did nothing wrong as she was only relaying a story of something another person said.

Am I wrong for not defending my girlfriend and trying to protect my mother?  How can I defend my position?  I know I should have said something when it happened, but I really did not want to start a fight that night (I thought the situation would blow over).
user
My girlfriend and I (sspade) were introduced to a coworker by my mother and she said something inappropriate that night. I did not defend or say anything
assistant
I (sspade) was at my mother's place business (a retail chain) with my girlfriend during business hours.  My mother introduced my girlfriend and I to one of her coworkers. The conversation goes like this:

Mother: sspade and girlfriend, I would like you to meet my coworker.

sspade: Nice to meet you, how is work today?

Mother & Coworker: It has been one of those days, crazy people everywhere.

Girlfriend: I know what you mean, just last night a crazy girl followed us on the street and said, "F@CK YOU, you C*NT"

I quickly changed the topic. I was mortified.  I could not believe that my girlfriend would say something like that in front of my mother and her coworker.  I find it especially bad because we were in my mother's place of business and we were just introduced to the coworker a few seconds prior.

I did not say anything to my girlfriend that night because I did not want to get into a fight about it (maybe I should have said something).  Two days later, my mother calls me and tells me she is upset about what happened.  I told her that I would talk to my girlfriend.  Well, when I talked to my girlfriend, she was completely mad that I did not defend her to my mother.  She says that I am wrong for not defending her.  In my family, we do curse and use some inappropriate language, but in my 30 years, in front of my mother, I maybe have said F@CK 5 times and I have never said C*NT. I don't think there is any way I would say that.  I just feel that it is inappropriate.

My girlfriend maintains that she did nothing wrong as she was only relaying a story of something another person said.

Am I wrong for not defending my girlfriend and trying to protect my mother?  How can I defend my position?  I know I should have said something when it happened, but I really did not want to start a fight that night (I thought the situation would blow over).
user
My girlfriend said something inappropriate in front of my mother and her coworker and does not feel bad about it.
assistant