Hi reddit, I'm feeling rather troubled recently by parent-SO conflicts that arise due to my mum's narcissistic and controlling, emotionally and verbally abusive behaviour. As a quick background my mum hates my SO for really superficial reasons that ain't even worth hating for. She's the typical parent you get from r/raisedbynarcissists. SO has generally been tolerant of my mum for months until stress took over and he finally lashed out at her last week. Mum's been even more of an arse towards him ever since.

Basically I'm gonna be admitted for 2-3 days for a minor health-related op this coming Fri or Sat, SO won't be able to make it during the op but can drop by afterwards. I'm hoping he can spend time with me as it's my first time going under the knife. Mum has ranted at me and decided to bar him from visiting me. As such, I can fully picture her picking a fight with him when he appears at my ward.

So reddit, what should I (or rather, my SO) do? To visit or not? Mum will likely be at the hospital 24/7 as she has no work/taken leave. I'm in a terrible dilemma.
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Mum hates my SO, bars him from
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Hi reddit, I'm feeling rather troubled recently by parent-SO conflicts that arise due to my mum's narcissistic and controlling, emotionally and verbally abusive behaviour. As a quick background my mum hates my SO for really superficial reasons that ain't even worth hating for. She's the typical parent you get from r/raisedbynarcissists. SO has generally been tolerant of my mum for months until stress took over and he finally lashed out at her last week. Mum's been even more of an arse towards him ever since.

Basically I'm gonna be admitted for 2-3 days for a minor health-related op this coming Fri or Sat, SO won't be able to make it during the op but can drop by afterwards. I'm hoping he can spend time with me as it's my first time going under the knife. Mum has ranted at me and decided to bar him from visiting me. As such, I can fully picture her picking a fight with him when he appears at my ward.

So reddit, what should I (or rather, my SO) do? To visit or not? Mum will likely be at the hospital 24/7 as she has no work/taken leave. I'm in a terrible dilemma.
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Mum will be home during my surgery
assistant