I started talking to this girl for the past 2-3 weeks. We have fun together and in her own words, the last few times were actually "dates". So the last time we went on a date, I asked her what's on her mind after telling her that I really liked her. She stated she enjoys spending time with me and we have fun together, but at this point in her life, she's not sure if she wants anything serious. Her schedule is soon to be pretty busy with schooling so that part I can understand, while at the same time I am a firm believer in the fact that you will make time for anyone if you really wanted to.

So I'm at a position where I'm not sure what to do. My initial gut instinct is to move on, which involves cutting her off completely. But I don't want to seem like a douchebag by doing so. I do enjoy spending time with her and it would be great if we could still hang out. I just don't trust myself in that capacity because I know I would still like her. 

I could also continue the status quo and "date" her casually, but I feel like it's such a strain on my emotions and finance to stick around for a chance for it to get serious. Plus I don't think it's fair for her to get all of my attention without any sort of commitment.

Today is day two of me withdrawing my attention from her and it's been difficult. We usually talk everyday via text or voice and I absolutely miss her already. I feel like a drug addict trying to go cold. I thought about continuing to talk to her like I have been. I would tone down the attempts to go on dates, especially ones where I'm paying for everything. But I'm not sure if that's just me trying to persuade myself to sticking my foot back in.

What is the right move here?
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Girl and I
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I started talking to this girl for the past 2-3 weeks. We have fun together and in her own words, the last few times were actually "dates". So the last time we went on a date, I asked her what's on her mind after telling her that I really liked her. She stated she enjoys spending time with me and we have fun together, but at this point in her life, she's not sure if she wants anything serious. Her schedule is soon to be pretty busy with schooling so that part I can understand, while at the same time I am a firm believer in the fact that you will make time for anyone if you really wanted to.

So I'm at a position where I'm not sure what to do. My initial gut instinct is to move on, which involves cutting her off completely. But I don't want to seem like a douchebag by doing so. I do enjoy spending time with her and it would be great if we could still hang out. I just don't trust myself in that capacity because I know I would still like her. 

I could also continue the status quo and "date" her casually, but I feel like it's such a strain on my emotions and finance to stick around for a chance for it to get serious. Plus I don't think it's fair for her to get all of my attention without any sort of commitment.

Today is day two of me withdrawing my attention from her and it's been difficult. We usually talk everyday via text or voice and I absolutely miss her already. I feel like a drug addict trying to go cold. I thought about continuing to talk to her like I have been. I would tone down the attempts to go on dates, especially ones where I'm paying for everything. But I'm not sure if that's just me trying to persuade myself to sticking my foot back in.

What is the right move here?
user
Girl is not
assistant