I just wanted to get some second opinions on the course of action I just took. I went out with my friends tonight (all male), however after this was planned my female friend (23/f) began attempting to rally myself and the guys I was with into meeting her for company at the local bar. I brought this up, but nobody was particularly interested, which was fine with me.

It came to the end of the night (around 12:30am) and I texted the female friend saying that I'm sorry but we just finished up. I'd just dropped my friends home so I was on my own. She then pushed for me to come join her at a bar to watch a sports game and have drinks.

This girl I've known for over a decade, and I consider her my best friend. However, I couldn't help but feel how this may be seen in the eyes of my SO of 1.5 years (24/F) - I know that if she went out with a male friend, alone, likely drinking, this late into the night that I'd be concerned.

Hence I made the call to just go home and said that I was tired to my friend. Although I feel like I'm doing right by my SO for sure, I worry that it's coming at the cost of doing things with my friend that there would be no issue with if my friend were a guy. Don't get me wrong, I feel happy about my decision and would have been uneasy with the alternative, however - is my emotional position correct? Should I feel the need to avoid such situations, or should I refuse to compromise a friendship due to the gender the friend may have?
user
Made the call to just go home due to female friend's attempts to push for us to meet up to watch sports late into night - did I make the right call emotionally/physically/etc?
assistant
I just wanted to get some second opinions on the course of action I just took. I went out with my friends tonight (all male), however after this was planned my female friend (23/f) began attempting to rally myself and the guys I was with into meeting her for company at the local bar. I brought this up, but nobody was particularly interested, which was fine with me.

It came to the end of the night (around 12:30am) and I texted the female friend saying that I'm sorry but we just finished up. I'd just dropped my friends home so I was on my own. She then pushed for me to come join her at a bar to watch a sports game and have drinks.

This girl I've known for over a decade, and I consider her my best friend. However, I couldn't help but feel how this may be seen in the eyes of my SO of 1.5 years (24/F) - I know that if she went out with a male friend, alone, likely drinking, this late into the night that I'd be concerned.

Hence I made the call to just go home and said that I was tired to my friend. Although I feel like I'm doing right by my SO for sure, I worry that it's coming at the cost of doing things with my friend that there would be no issue with if my friend were a guy. Don't get me wrong, I feel happy about my decision and would have been uneasy with the alternative, however - is my emotional position correct? Should I feel the need to avoid such situations, or should I refuse to compromise a friendship due to the gender the friend may have?
user
had an alterative plan where female friend wanted me to join them at bar late, worried about potential impact on SO given she may be only interested in guys. did I make the right
assistant