Good evening reddit,

Backstory: I am dating a girl that I work with (not directly but in the same company). We have been dating over a year and I know that I am in love with this women. She has said that she doesn't know how to be in a relationship and she cant be not a single version of herself (not in a sluty way) 

Issue: We see each over once a week (sometimes twice), even though we live in the same city (London). I struggle with how little we see each other and sometimes feel like I'm not actually her boyfriend. I've talked to her about this a few times recently and every time she has said: if she had more time to spare then she would spend it with me. 

She prioritisers her friends over me all the time. On nights out she has offered me her sofa while her friends sleep in her bed (all female). It makes me feel unimportant but I understand that before I came along this was her norm. I would be ok with this if her friends didnt prioritise their bfs in the same situation.

Question: Am I wrong in expecting too much from her? If I cannot see a future in this relationship (as it is) should I end it?

Twist: We have booked a holiday next month and I don't want to air my issues until then. Talking about it during sounds dickish... but I dont think I can hold it in until afterwards!

What does reddit think?
user
dating a girl who doesnt see me as a bf/bf but prioritizes her friends over me. not feeling important in her life. thinking of
assistant
Good evening reddit,

Backstory: I am dating a girl that I work with (not directly but in the same company). We have been dating over a year and I know that I am in love with this women. She has said that she doesn't know how to be in a relationship and she cant be not a single version of herself (not in a sluty way) 

Issue: We see each over once a week (sometimes twice), even though we live in the same city (London). I struggle with how little we see each other and sometimes feel like I'm not actually her boyfriend. I've talked to her about this a few times recently and every time she has said: if she had more time to spare then she would spend it with me. 

She prioritisers her friends over me all the time. On nights out she has offered me her sofa while her friends sleep in her bed (all female). It makes me feel unimportant but I understand that before I came along this was her norm. I would be ok with this if her friends didnt prioritise their bfs in the same situation.

Question: Am I wrong in expecting too much from her? If I cannot see a future in this relationship (as it is) should I end it?

Twist: We have booked a holiday next month and I don't want to air my issues until then. Talking about it during sounds dickish... but I dont think I can hold it in until afterwards!

What does reddit think?
user
dating a girl for over a year. feels unimportant in her life by lack of time we see each other and dont see future.
assistant