The history is as follows:

My previous serious relationship was five years long, with three years living together, and I was head over heels for her. We got married, and two months later I found out my wife had two boyfriends. This was a complete shock to me. When confronted, more issues came up and we could not reconcile. We are now divorced. It was finalized about three years ago. 

I have been dating my current girlfriend for about two years and we are talking about marriage. I love her deeply and I'm not hung up on my ex at all. I also like thinking about marriage in the abstract and even doing some vague future planning. But whenever I think about getting married again, it puts me in a panic. 

I thought I knew my ex and I thought she loved me. I am worried this will happen to me again where my wife will do something horrible and leave me. I don't think my current girlfriend would do that to me, but I didn't think my ex would either. I don't know how to deal with this. 

My girlfriend is not pressuring me to propose, and I haven't talked to her or anyone else about this. But I want to get over this so that when I do decide it's time to take that next step, I can feel good about it. 

Again, I love her, I don't doubt my own commitment, but I just don't know how to trust anyone like this again. I thought maybe other divorced folks in this sub might be able to give some advice.
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After being blindsided by a divorce, I find myself terrified of getting married again.
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The history is as follows:

My previous serious relationship was five years long, with three years living together, and I was head over heels for her. We got married, and two months later I found out my wife had two boyfriends. This was a complete shock to me. When confronted, more issues came up and we could not reconcile. We are now divorced. It was finalized about three years ago. 

I have been dating my current girlfriend for about two years and we are talking about marriage. I love her deeply and I'm not hung up on my ex at all. I also like thinking about marriage in the abstract and even doing some vague future planning. But whenever I think about getting married again, it puts me in a panic. 

I thought I knew my ex and I thought she loved me. I am worried this will happen to me again where my wife will do something horrible and leave me. I don't think my current girlfriend would do that to me, but I didn't think my ex would either. I don't know how to deal with this. 

My girlfriend is not pressuring me to propose, and I haven't talked to her or anyone else about this. But I want to get over this so that when I do decide it's time to take that next step, I can feel good about it. 

Again, I love her, I don't doubt my own commitment, but I just don't know how to trust anyone like this again. I thought maybe other divorced folks in this sub might be able to give some advice.
user
I'm not sure whether it would be wise to get married again, but I
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