Met girlfriend in a rebound period after  long term relationship. Soon after met mutual friend who I was instantly attracted to. Despite some flirting nothing came of this crush and I felt there was no reciprocal attraction. I was able to ignore it and continue with my generally happy relationship.

Recently the crush has become involved with someone else and it completely gutted me. I know it shouldn't have had any impact but it did. Girlfriend saw the change in my attitude and called me on it, I was honest and explained best I could the situation. She was understanding and told me to figure out where I was and then we would talk. 

Being a useless sub-human the best I have been able to do is to break all contact with my crush and hope that it all goes away. The likelihood of this is on par with me avoiding the issue due to shark attack. 

Can I gut this out? or am I just prolonging the inevitable. Should I take this long term crush as evidence that I am not happy in my relationship? Am I being a coward for not just telling my crush what the score is?
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Met girlfriend in a rebound period after  long term relationship. Soon after met mutual friend who I was instantly attracted to. Despite some flirting nothing came of this crush and I felt there was no reciprocal attraction. I was able to ignore it and continue with my generally happy relationship.

Recently the crush has become involved with someone else and it completely gutted me. I know it shouldn't have had any impact but it did. Girlfriend saw the change in my attitude and called me on it, I was honest and explained best I could the situation. She was understanding and told me to figure out where I was and then we would talk. 

Being a useless sub-human the best I have been able to do is to break all contact with my crush and hope that it all goes away. The likelihood of this is on par with me avoiding the issue due to shark attack. 

Can I gut this out? or am I just prolonging the inevitable. Should I take this long term crush as evidence that I am not happy in my relationship? Am I being a coward for not just telling my crush what the score is?
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