This is something that's been bothering since she told me today. We've been in an odd sort of back and forth for the past year or so and our lives are quite busy so while we've gone out a bit and we see each other on campus, it doesn't seem like it's right yet to actually been an a real relationship. I feel as though she's quite something and I'd love to be in a long term relationship with her, but she's been incredibly hesitant to commit. She's said that "she's a terrible girlfriend" and once asked me if it would matter to me if she'd ever been abused.

 We've had our arguments and after the most recent one I called her after having apologized thoroughly earlier and she mentioned how, the way I seem incredibly upset whenever she's mad at me, and the way I describe my horrible anxiety stomach pains make her feel like I'm trying to manipulate her into feeling sorry for me. It goes without saying that I'm not, I'm just a very honest and blunt person, and maybe a bit of a wuss.

 It doesn't help that I do truly care for her and that the idea that she might have been mistreated in the past just makes me try harder to avoid upsetting her. She's not the type to be dominating at all, and I'm a million times more likely to ever see her sad than mad, so it's not like I'm afraid of her, I just really don't want to see her hurt, and when she is it absolutely kills me.  How do I explain to her that she can trust me, and that I'm just being honest?
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Girlfriend of 1.5
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This is something that's been bothering since she told me today. We've been in an odd sort of back and forth for the past year or so and our lives are quite busy so while we've gone out a bit and we see each other on campus, it doesn't seem like it's right yet to actually been an a real relationship. I feel as though she's quite something and I'd love to be in a long term relationship with her, but she's been incredibly hesitant to commit. She's said that "she's a terrible girlfriend" and once asked me if it would matter to me if she'd ever been abused.

 We've had our arguments and after the most recent one I called her after having apologized thoroughly earlier and she mentioned how, the way I seem incredibly upset whenever she's mad at me, and the way I describe my horrible anxiety stomach pains make her feel like I'm trying to manipulate her into feeling sorry for me. It goes without saying that I'm not, I'm just a very honest and blunt person, and maybe a bit of a wuss.

 It doesn't help that I do truly care for her and that the idea that she might have been mistreated in the past just makes me try harder to avoid upsetting her. She's not the type to be dominating at all, and I'm a million times more likely to ever see her sad than mad, so it's not like I'm afraid of her, I just really don't want to see her hurt, and when she is it absolutely kills me.  How do I explain to her that she can trust me, and that I'm just being honest?
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Girl I love
assistant