My ex and I broke up around the end of December with him citing us 'growing apart' as the main reason. We were together for 2 years and each other's first everything.  I was really really devastated and still really really into him. Two weeks later he started dating a mutual friend. This was also really really devastating. 

Around a month into the breakup he starts texting me saying that he's really confused and misses me and that he's lonely but also really likes this other girl. He ended up asking her for a week long break to sort out how he felt. 

Long story short, we had sex while he was on this 'break'. Yeah I know it's awful and he definitely came onto me. After we had sex he cried and said he felt like he cheated on her. They got back together and we both agreed to never speak about it to anyone or each other. 

It's now three months after we had sex and I went to the doctor after feeling extremely run down and sore 'down there'. Turns out I have herpes. I haven't even kissed anyone else let alone had sex with them so it has to be from him. I've never had a cold sore in my life so it's not as if I had the virus already.

 My question is, should I tell him that he gave me herpes?? From what I understand he could be carrying it and not even realise, his current gf could have it and not realise either as you can carry the virus and never have symptoms.
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my ex gave me herpes
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My ex and I broke up around the end of December with him citing us 'growing apart' as the main reason. We were together for 2 years and each other's first everything.  I was really really devastated and still really really into him. Two weeks later he started dating a mutual friend. This was also really really devastating. 

Around a month into the breakup he starts texting me saying that he's really confused and misses me and that he's lonely but also really likes this other girl. He ended up asking her for a week long break to sort out how he felt. 

Long story short, we had sex while he was on this 'break'. Yeah I know it's awful and he definitely came onto me. After we had sex he cried and said he felt like he cheated on her. They got back together and we both agreed to never speak about it to anyone or each other. 

It's now three months after we had sex and I went to the doctor after feeling extremely run down and sore 'down there'. Turns out I have herpes. I haven't even kissed anyone else let alone had sex with them so it has to be from him. I've never had a cold sore in my life so it's not as if I had the virus already.

 My question is, should I tell him that he gave me herpes?? From what I understand he could be carrying it and not even realise, his current gf could have it and not realise either as you can carry the virus and never have symptoms.
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Me [18F] with my ex
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