The title is a little misleading, so let me explain.

Im 21M, ex 20F. 

We were together for 3 years, for the first year of our relationship we lived in the same small town, and everything was fine. She then went to university, more then 2 hours away. I visited twice a month and we seemed to be maintaining the relationship well. 

Towards the end of the relationship she became very good friends with a guy she met in her class. Normally I would be fine with it, but she started becoming very distant at the same time.

The next time I visit, shes texting the whole time we were together, I dont even need to ask becuase I know who it is, and I get pretty upset. The next morning she went out to get some shopping, and I went through her texts on her phone. Before you start I know this is an invasion of privacy and was wrong of me, but I had my suspisions and for my own sanity I needed answers.

What I read breaks my heart. Multiple texts between her and her new guy, "cant wait to see you", "just want this weekend to be over" etc etc.

I confront her when she gets back, and it turns out she does have feelings for this guy, and they have kissed. They have also spent multiple nights "snuggled" on the sofa watching movies.

Im my eyes, this is worse than her just sleeping with someone and regretting it.

Needless to say, we broke up. This all happened 4 months ago, and for the first 3 months, I hated her more than anything. However the last month my anger and rage have subsided drasticaly, and Im finally ready to forgive her.

Is it wrong to forgive someone after they have hurt you so badly? I dont think so. Im not going to run back to her, but im quietly content, rather then silently angry.
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Girlfriend cheated on me, is it wrong to
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The title is a little misleading, so let me explain.

Im 21M, ex 20F. 

We were together for 3 years, for the first year of our relationship we lived in the same small town, and everything was fine. She then went to university, more then 2 hours away. I visited twice a month and we seemed to be maintaining the relationship well. 

Towards the end of the relationship she became very good friends with a guy she met in her class. Normally I would be fine with it, but she started becoming very distant at the same time.

The next time I visit, shes texting the whole time we were together, I dont even need to ask becuase I know who it is, and I get pretty upset. The next morning she went out to get some shopping, and I went through her texts on her phone. Before you start I know this is an invasion of privacy and was wrong of me, but I had my suspisions and for my own sanity I needed answers.

What I read breaks my heart. Multiple texts between her and her new guy, "cant wait to see you", "just want this weekend to be over" etc etc.

I confront her when she gets back, and it turns out she does have feelings for this guy, and they have kissed. They have also spent multiple nights "snuggled" on the sofa watching movies.

Im my eyes, this is worse than her just sleeping with someone and regretting it.

Needless to say, we broke up. This all happened 4 months ago, and for the first 3 months, I hated her more than anything. However the last month my anger and rage have subsided drasticaly, and Im finally ready to forgive her.

Is it wrong to forgive someone after they have hurt you so badly? I dont think so. Im not going to run back to her, but im quietly content, rather then silently angry.
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ex cheated on me, after 4 months i've
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