No thanks to all of you, we reached a compromise in this.  I asked him to give me a short goodnight call when he stays away and he’s happy to do this, because he cares about me and wants me happy.

I thought reddit would say I was asking too much, but I didn’t expect you all to call me a clingy pathetic shell of a person who had no self-esteem, was insecure and crazy, didn’t deserve a boyfriend and shouldn’t get married.  I deleted my old profile and posts because to be honest I don’t need that.

FYI, my boyfriend can do whatever he likes with his time, and in fact appears more “clingy” than me.  This issue I have with him sleeping apart from me is irrational, I recognise that, but it’s the only issue I have really, and I came here specifically to sort it out.  You didn’t help.  I’d estimate 50% of the people who replied didn’t even read my first post closely, and skipped to the comment box to call me a clingy girlfriend who would drive away “many men” with my “attitude”.  The person who did comment without this sort of feedback, I really appreciate.

I have spent a lot of time on this sub trying to give measured, thoughtful advice, and people have appreciated it – I’ve been gilded twice and have a reasonable amount of karma on my main account.  I’m not sure I’m going to bother doing this anymore.  

If you can’t say anything nice (or constructive, or useful), don’t say anything at all.
user
Decided to use reddit as a discussion area to help resolve a touchy issue, and it turned into a massive, pointless fight. I got called clingy by some people, and if you're not cool with that, don't comment on anything.
assistant
No thanks to all of you, we reached a compromise in this.  I asked him to give me a short goodnight call when he stays away and he’s happy to do this, because he cares about me and wants me happy.

I thought reddit would say I was asking too much, but I didn’t expect you all to call me a clingy pathetic shell of a person who had no self-esteem, was insecure and crazy, didn’t deserve a boyfriend and shouldn’t get married.  I deleted my old profile and posts because to be honest I don’t need that.

FYI, my boyfriend can do whatever he likes with his time, and in fact appears more “clingy” than me.  This issue I have with him sleeping apart from me is irrational, I recognise that, but it’s the only issue I have really, and I came here specifically to sort it out.  You didn’t help.  I’d estimate 50% of the people who replied didn’t even read my first post closely, and skipped to the comment box to call me a clingy girlfriend who would drive away “many men” with my “attitude”.  The person who did comment without this sort of feedback, I really appreciate.

I have spent a lot of time on this sub trying to give measured, thoughtful advice, and people have appreciated it – I’ve been gilded twice and have a reasonable amount of karma on my main account.  I’m not sure I’m going to bother doing this anymore.  

If you can’t say anything nice (or constructive, or useful), don’t say anything at all.
user
we agreed the compromise i asked for, it's worked. I deleted my old posts, this sub is now a little less toxic than it was. I've never been treated like this before, I'm genuinely incredibly touched by all of you. I'll probably never be invited to
assistant