My common-law boyfriend (he's 24, I'm 25) just left. Just half an hour ago. We've been together for four years. We own a condo together and have a cat. Today he decided that he just needs to be alone. 

He's always needed so much time alone. I know that about him, and I've always made sure he had lots of time to himself. 

We had a conversation last weekend and he expressed his fears to me that he didn't feel like he could do this anymore because he couldn't give me what I need. He doesn't know how to handle the responsibility of the life that we're leading. He wants to be able to spend money as he chooses, smoke lots of pot, and just be alone.

Now he's gone. I don't know how to move forward emotionally I really do love him. I'm also a bit scared of becoming depressed again. I always fall to pieces when depressed. 

I also cannot afford this place on my own, I'm going to have to sell or find renters and move back to my parents house. It feel like such an awful step in the wrong direction. 

Last year I quit school with only a year left of my degree so I could get a good job and we could afford to be together and be more financially secure. I made that sacrifice willingly, he never asked me to. But now it feels like it was all for nothing. 

I don't want to live with my parents, they can be violent and emotionally abusive, but it doesn't make any financial sense not to. Things were really looking up and I'm devastated that I'm here now.
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Common-law boyfriend left me
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My common-law boyfriend (he's 24, I'm 25) just left. Just half an hour ago. We've been together for four years. We own a condo together and have a cat. Today he decided that he just needs to be alone. 

He's always needed so much time alone. I know that about him, and I've always made sure he had lots of time to himself. 

We had a conversation last weekend and he expressed his fears to me that he didn't feel like he could do this anymore because he couldn't give me what I need. He doesn't know how to handle the responsibility of the life that we're leading. He wants to be able to spend money as he chooses, smoke lots of pot, and just be alone.

Now he's gone. I don't know how to move forward emotionally I really do love him. I'm also a bit scared of becoming depressed again. I always fall to pieces when depressed. 

I also cannot afford this place on my own, I'm going to have to sell or find renters and move back to my parents house. It feel like such an awful step in the wrong direction. 

Last year I quit school with only a year left of my degree so I could get a good job and we could afford to be together and be more financially secure. I made that sacrifice willingly, he never asked me to. But now it feels like it was all for nothing. 

I don't want to live with my parents, they can be violent and emotionally abusive, but it doesn't make any financial sense not to. Things were really looking up and I'm devastated that I'm here now.
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common-law boyfriend left me.
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