Hi guys,

Ever since I was young, my relationship with my father has been rocky. He's always been hard on me. Despite spending a lot of his time being stoned, he sets extremely high expectations for me to achieve. 

My whole life, I've been trying so hard to gain his approval. I always study hard, never skip classes and always get 90% and above on tests. I work part time at a paid internship in engineering.

The problem is, he's never been impressed by anything, and the abuse I've had to suffer from a young age seems to be getting worse and worse as I'm getting older.

Mom left us when I was only five years old, and ever since then it's just been me and my father. He works hard and makes enough money to support me. We live in a nice neighbourhood and I have things that I want, material things.

When it comes to emotional and personal necessities, I feel like I am devoid of it.

It has severely affected my relationship with friends as well. I know it sounds so petty and immature of me, but I have lost friends because I see how well their fathers treat them, and I'm truly envious of what they have, despite telling myself that I cannot be like that, I just cannot help it. I begin to distance myself from my friends and eventually fall out of contact with them.

How can I communicate with my father that I'd like him to pay attention to me and treat me like his child? How do I make him proud of me, and how can I stop his daily abuse towards me?
user
I want my father to appreciate me and treat me
assistant
Hi guys,

Ever since I was young, my relationship with my father has been rocky. He's always been hard on me. Despite spending a lot of his time being stoned, he sets extremely high expectations for me to achieve. 

My whole life, I've been trying so hard to gain his approval. I always study hard, never skip classes and always get 90% and above on tests. I work part time at a paid internship in engineering.

The problem is, he's never been impressed by anything, and the abuse I've had to suffer from a young age seems to be getting worse and worse as I'm getting older.

Mom left us when I was only five years old, and ever since then it's just been me and my father. He works hard and makes enough money to support me. We live in a nice neighbourhood and I have things that I want, material things.

When it comes to emotional and personal necessities, I feel like I am devoid of it.

It has severely affected my relationship with friends as well. I know it sounds so petty and immature of me, but I have lost friends because I see how well their fathers treat them, and I'm truly envious of what they have, despite telling myself that I cannot be like that, I just cannot help it. I begin to distance myself from my friends and eventually fall out of contact with them.

How can I communicate with my father that I'd like him to pay attention to me and treat me like his child? How do I make him proud of me, and how can I stop his daily abuse towards me?
user
I'm with my father and I can't tell him the
assistant