I have been together with my GF for 5 years now and lived together for two. She's beautiful, sexy, passionate, caring and extremely devoted. She's always been by my side through good and bad times, and given up on a lot in her life to follow me around the world to build my career and my dreams - things which I appreciate and because of I love her deeply.

The thing is, she is also extremely jealous and controlling. She freaks out anytime I go out and pressures me to stay home or take her with me so that she is there and can SEE what's going on. There is zero trust from her side. Furthermore, I am being constantly criticized for all my actions and words, and feel as though I need to walk on eggshells all the time. She constantly demands more and more, and I need to constantly keep compromising in order to make this relationship work.

Key point: I have spoken to her about these things and she said that it's all because she feels that our relationship has been stagnating for the last 1-2 years. She would have expected that by know I would know she's the one and that I would make longer term commitments to her (to demonstrate my love and willingness etc.) such as proposing, buying a house etc. This makes her very insecure and that's why she acts like this. 
HOWEVER, the reason why I don't do these things is exactly because of the way she acts as described above, which makes me doubt that we're fully compatible and that she's the one. She also said that if I would demonstrate such a commitment, she would no longer act like that - which to me sounds very wrong to condition it like that!

So reddit, it's a chicken and the egg problem. Take her word for it, commit more and pray for improvements? (IS THIS NORMAL?) Or am I in an incompatible / abusive relationship which needs fixing first from her side, and then maybe making more long term commitments?
user
Chicken and egg problem. GF is controlling, insecure and constantly unhappy - blames it on lack of more long term commitments from me (buy house, propose etc.). I feel that I
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I have been together with my GF for 5 years now and lived together for two. She's beautiful, sexy, passionate, caring and extremely devoted. She's always been by my side through good and bad times, and given up on a lot in her life to follow me around the world to build my career and my dreams - things which I appreciate and because of I love her deeply.

The thing is, she is also extremely jealous and controlling. She freaks out anytime I go out and pressures me to stay home or take her with me so that she is there and can SEE what's going on. There is zero trust from her side. Furthermore, I am being constantly criticized for all my actions and words, and feel as though I need to walk on eggshells all the time. She constantly demands more and more, and I need to constantly keep compromising in order to make this relationship work.

Key point: I have spoken to her about these things and she said that it's all because she feels that our relationship has been stagnating for the last 1-2 years. She would have expected that by know I would know she's the one and that I would make longer term commitments to her (to demonstrate my love and willingness etc.) such as proposing, buying a house etc. This makes her very insecure and that's why she acts like this. 
HOWEVER, the reason why I don't do these things is exactly because of the way she acts as described above, which makes me doubt that we're fully compatible and that she's the one. She also said that if I would demonstrate such a commitment, she would no longer act like that - which to me sounds very wrong to condition it like that!

So reddit, it's a chicken and the egg problem. Take her word for it, commit more and pray for improvements? (IS THIS NORMAL?) Or am I in an incompatible / abusive relationship which needs fixing first from her side, and then maybe making more long term commitments?
user
my GF is jealous and controlling, I don't love her for the way she acts, and I don't know how to fix it.
assistant