Edit: Girlfriend is 19, not 49!!

Hi there,
so my GF of 3-4 month is currently suffering depression. They were probably caused by happenings in her past. A kid some years older forced her to do things she didn't want to do, no need to go in detail.

So she isn't into a lot of body contact sometimes, other times she's really into it. Which I can understand and am completely fine with. But I always knew and noticed that she loved me. Until about a month ago.

I don't know where to start here. At that time we had our first big argument (in my opinion ofc). She mostly refused to come to my place or spent time with me anywhere else than her room or inner city when she wanted to go shopping. She didn't put any effort into making me feel good - again, I don't mean this in a sexual way. She understood, but hasn't changed anything.

It became rather worse since I waited for her to put something into this relationship and got disappointed again. A week ago we sat down to talk. She said she might have ADS in addition to her depression and that she really loves and needs me. She cried while we talked. So of course we didn't break up since I wanted to support her. 

I don't expect a cured depression or improvement in not even diagnosed ADS but it's hard for me to keep this relationship alive on my own. She loves me, fine, I actually believe her. But I notice not a single bit of effort. Words aren't enough. This relationship makes me unhappy despite me being in love with her. I know it's probably not always an equal part of give/ take in a relationship but being the only one who "gives" makes me feel frustrated.

Yes - I already told her that when we talked. Guess what. Nothing.

So dear readers, I've got two questions now:

first: Do you think it's reasonable to break up? - I think it is, and

second: Do I sound like an a*hole because of that? Any advice unrelated to the questions is welcome as well!
user
GF isn't putting any effort into our relationship despite her love for me. Do I break up?
assistant
Edit: Girlfriend is 19, not 49!!

Hi there,
so my GF of 3-4 month is currently suffering depression. They were probably caused by happenings in her past. A kid some years older forced her to do things she didn't want to do, no need to go in detail.

So she isn't into a lot of body contact sometimes, other times she's really into it. Which I can understand and am completely fine with. But I always knew and noticed that she loved me. Until about a month ago.

I don't know where to start here. At that time we had our first big argument (in my opinion ofc). She mostly refused to come to my place or spent time with me anywhere else than her room or inner city when she wanted to go shopping. She didn't put any effort into making me feel good - again, I don't mean this in a sexual way. She understood, but hasn't changed anything.

It became rather worse since I waited for her to put something into this relationship and got disappointed again. A week ago we sat down to talk. She said she might have ADS in addition to her depression and that she really loves and needs me. She cried while we talked. So of course we didn't break up since I wanted to support her. 

I don't expect a cured depression or improvement in not even diagnosed ADS but it's hard for me to keep this relationship alive on my own. She loves me, fine, I actually believe her. But I notice not a single bit of effort. Words aren't enough. This relationship makes me unhappy despite me being in love with her. I know it's probably not always an equal part of give/ take in a relationship but being the only one who "gives" makes me feel frustrated.

Yes - I already told her that when we talked. Guess what. Nothing.

So dear readers, I've got two questions now:

first: Do you think it's reasonable to break up? - I think it is, and

second: Do I sound like an a*hole because of that? Any advice unrelated to the questions is welcome as well!
user
GF with unpleasant past is unable/ doesn't want to put effort in our relationship. My Questions are
assistant