My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 2 and a half years, one year has been long distance. For about a month or two, I've been unhappy with the way things have been going. Basically, we used to always send each other a long text before we go to bed. (8 hour time difference) but we talk after i come home from school on skype or by phone. Still, he wanted us to still send the texts just as something to wake up to before the end of the day. Since, I've been sending him ones every night. I never forget and always spend a good while putting in sweet things and videos and things. He works. He just hasn't been putting a lot of effort into our relationship as in he hasn't sent texts in a while. He says he's either so exhausted and falls asleep or he forgets. Here's the thing, after work everyday, at about 8, he goes to the gym for at least 2 hours. I always say can't you just even send a few words in the car on the way to work? or at break? anything.

Then, come the weekends he gets pissy if i don't give him sexytimes. but i feel why should I when I'm unhappy about his lack of attention? Don't get me wrong, he's amazing, when we talk on the phone, he's constantly complimenting me and we talk about our future and how much we love each other and it's great. But I just feel like he's causing a drift. I feel emotionally distant from him and I just wish he would care more.

Not only is this just a once off thing, I have brought this up at least 10 times and he says he'll promise to make more of an effort, but he doesn't. He says he is. I beg to differ. H called me a 'bitch' today for bringing up this issue because he says basically im creating it out of nowhere. Am I in the wrong? I'm in my final year of school as well, so im busy studying yet i make time!!
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my boyfriend doesn't always send me text's and I make him do the same. He says he has to be exhausted or he forgets. I feel like he's drifting. Do
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 2 and a half years, one year has been long distance. For about a month or two, I've been unhappy with the way things have been going. Basically, we used to always send each other a long text before we go to bed. (8 hour time difference) but we talk after i come home from school on skype or by phone. Still, he wanted us to still send the texts just as something to wake up to before the end of the day. Since, I've been sending him ones every night. I never forget and always spend a good while putting in sweet things and videos and things. He works. He just hasn't been putting a lot of effort into our relationship as in he hasn't sent texts in a while. He says he's either so exhausted and falls asleep or he forgets. Here's the thing, after work everyday, at about 8, he goes to the gym for at least 2 hours. I always say can't you just even send a few words in the car on the way to work? or at break? anything.

Then, come the weekends he gets pissy if i don't give him sexytimes. but i feel why should I when I'm unhappy about his lack of attention? Don't get me wrong, he's amazing, when we talk on the phone, he's constantly complimenting me and we talk about our future and how much we love each other and it's great. But I just feel like he's causing a drift. I feel emotionally distant from him and I just wish he would care more.

Not only is this just a once off thing, I have brought this up at least 10 times and he says he'll promise to make more of an effort, but he doesn't. He says he is. I beg to differ. H called me a 'bitch' today for bringing up this issue because he says basically im creating it out of nowhere. Am I in the wrong? I'm in my final year of school as well, so im busy studying yet i make time!!
user
I don't feel like boyfriend puts in enough effort, he think I'm being crazy. He's busy.
assistant