Some background: I've been in a relationship with a really awesome guy for 7 months, 3 of which have been long distance. He is one of the most stable, emotionally well-rounded people I have ever met and is an incredible boyfriend. I, on the other hand, grew up in an emotionally/verbally abusive household and have some self esteem and emotional regulation problems that I really need to deal with, mostly involving being very hard on myself, struggling with feelings of shame, and excessive self-doubt. 

I just started graduate school and the stress has started to wear on me, so I finally made an appointment for individual counseling through the student health center. I have wanted to seek counseling for a long time but never really got around to it, and the real impetus for me finally making the phone call was that I realized that I was being that "constantly sad/stressed/crying" girlfriend. I know that I should feel comfortable seeking support from my boyfriend, and I do, but I felt that it was getting out of control. I don't just want him to soothe my hurts and tell me that I'm great...I want to learn the cognitive tools to help myself and be emotionally stable/confident, which I feel like I never learned growing up.

My current dilemma stems from the fact that I'm not sure how to tell my boyfriend that I'm starting therapy. I want to tell him because he's my best friend and it's a big deal to me. In a way, I'm excited because I feel like counseling will really help me. It may seem silly, but I'm worried that he will think that I'm seeking therapy because I'm miserable - with life, my relationship, etc. Our relationship has been really amazing so far, and I don't want him to think that I've been unhappy this whole time. How can I tell him without him thinking that I'm extremely unhappy with my life - and, by extension, my relationship?
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Starting individual counseling for emotional/mental problems, unsure if/how to tell boyfriend because I fear he will
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Some background: I've been in a relationship with a really awesome guy for 7 months, 3 of which have been long distance. He is one of the most stable, emotionally well-rounded people I have ever met and is an incredible boyfriend. I, on the other hand, grew up in an emotionally/verbally abusive household and have some self esteem and emotional regulation problems that I really need to deal with, mostly involving being very hard on myself, struggling with feelings of shame, and excessive self-doubt. 

I just started graduate school and the stress has started to wear on me, so I finally made an appointment for individual counseling through the student health center. I have wanted to seek counseling for a long time but never really got around to it, and the real impetus for me finally making the phone call was that I realized that I was being that "constantly sad/stressed/crying" girlfriend. I know that I should feel comfortable seeking support from my boyfriend, and I do, but I felt that it was getting out of control. I don't just want him to soothe my hurts and tell me that I'm great...I want to learn the cognitive tools to help myself and be emotionally stable/confident, which I feel like I never learned growing up.

My current dilemma stems from the fact that I'm not sure how to tell my boyfriend that I'm starting therapy. I want to tell him because he's my best friend and it's a big deal to me. In a way, I'm excited because I feel like counseling will really help me. It may seem silly, but I'm worried that he will think that I'm seeking therapy because I'm miserable - with life, my relationship, etc. Our relationship has been really amazing so far, and I don't want him to think that I've been unhappy this whole time. How can I tell him without him thinking that I'm extremely unhappy with my life - and, by extension, my relationship?
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Started counseling w/ my long term boyfriend, not sure how/when I should tell him that I'm
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