Here's the skinny (which is like the thin version of the whole story, you dig? I just realized that): I met this girl anonymously (first names, no faces (except mine. she has my face...)), we chatted, and agreed to meet. First we'd said Thurs, she cancelled day of for reasons, but then we rescheduled for tomorrow. Now I'm trying to keep cool, but struggling.

**My main issue:** I want to start meeting new people with a focus on "can we be friends" without the subtext of "is this a potential mate". I struggle with that so much, and I value people based on their appearance, and I hate that about myself, and I'm trying to change. I'm trying really hard to focus on this.

Also I have two scenarios in mind that I'm especially stressing:

* What if she's into me already, shows up and isn't really cute, and I lose all desire to get to know her because I'm a shallow hypocritical bastard?
* What if she's into me already, shows up and turns out to be really cute, and I lose all the composure I seemed to have when we were  talking online, and I scare her off?

I can handle it if she's not into me. That shit I'm used to. How do I prevent these situations/cope?

Obviously I'm overthinking this. Some of you are going to say *"stop overthinking it"* or *"just go with the flow"*. [Thanks]( but I've heard all that before (like many), and it's not as simple as flipping a switch (as I'm sure said 'many' can attest).
user
I'm a nice guy who wants to be friends
assistant
Here's the skinny (which is like the thin version of the whole story, you dig? I just realized that): I met this girl anonymously (first names, no faces (except mine. she has my face...)), we chatted, and agreed to meet. First we'd said Thurs, she cancelled day of for reasons, but then we rescheduled for tomorrow. Now I'm trying to keep cool, but struggling.

**My main issue:** I want to start meeting new people with a focus on "can we be friends" without the subtext of "is this a potential mate". I struggle with that so much, and I value people based on their appearance, and I hate that about myself, and I'm trying to change. I'm trying really hard to focus on this.

Also I have two scenarios in mind that I'm especially stressing:

* What if she's into me already, shows up and isn't really cute, and I lose all desire to get to know her because I'm a shallow hypocritical bastard?
* What if she's into me already, shows up and turns out to be really cute, and I lose all the composure I seemed to have when we were  talking online, and I scare her off?

I can handle it if she's not into me. That shit I'm used to. How do I prevent these situations/cope?

Obviously I'm overthinking this. Some of you are going to say *"stop overthinking it"* or *"just go with the flow"*. [Thanks]( but I've heard all that before (like many), and it's not as simple as flipping a switch (as I'm sure said 'many' can attest).
user
Just tell me blind date stories. Good and bad.
assistant