We were distant (in our relationship) from each other for about 6 months. I am against divorce and really only think it should be used in abusive situations. I guess I am old school in that sense. I thought she was too. 

Any way, we were unhappy in our relationship the last year or so out of 5 years of marriage and being together for 8.

One day she wanted to have sex and I said no. She asked why and I said I was unhappy. She wanted to know if that meant it is over. I said yes I want a divorce. 

I think I made this rash decison because I had a "friend" who was telling me I need to divorce her. I fought him on it for the longest time but I think that played a big influence on my decision. I should mention that we moved 2 years ago over a 1,000 miles away from our friends and family to experience a new city. This "friend" was really the only person I had to talk with besides my wife. 

I went to an AirBnB to separate. After two weeks of thinking about it I realized these were all problems we could have fixed with better communication and I love her. 

I told her how I felt and that I want to get counseling to try and work things out. She said no and that she moved on. She said that she can never trust me again. 

It has been a month now since I told her how I felt but she still wants a divorce. I don't want to give up. Anyone have any thoughts or opinions that might help?
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I told my wife I want
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We were distant (in our relationship) from each other for about 6 months. I am against divorce and really only think it should be used in abusive situations. I guess I am old school in that sense. I thought she was too. 

Any way, we were unhappy in our relationship the last year or so out of 5 years of marriage and being together for 8.

One day she wanted to have sex and I said no. She asked why and I said I was unhappy. She wanted to know if that meant it is over. I said yes I want a divorce. 

I think I made this rash decison because I had a "friend" who was telling me I need to divorce her. I fought him on it for the longest time but I think that played a big influence on my decision. I should mention that we moved 2 years ago over a 1,000 miles away from our friends and family to experience a new city. This "friend" was really the only person I had to talk with besides my wife. 

I went to an AirBnB to separate. After two weeks of thinking about it I realized these were all problems we could have fixed with better communication and I love her. 

I told her how I felt and that I want to get counseling to try and work things out. She said no and that she moved on. She said that she can never trust me again. 

It has been a month now since I told her how I felt but she still wants a divorce. I don't want to give up. Anyone have any thoughts or opinions that might help?
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I said my wife wants a
assistant