Hey everyone, I have a question for all because although the situation I'm in seems a bit absurd (after thinking about it thoroughly), I want to make sure it's not just me. 

My father passed away almost 15 years ago. All he left me was a ring and a watch(he didn't have much at the time of his passing). I haven't worn them yet out of fear that they are stolen, damaged, or that I get assaulted and robbed(has happened to me 3 times already! that's a story for another time.) 

My sister called me and asked me if she could melt the ring, in order to make two rings(one for me and one for her), that have the date of his death spelled out in order to remember him. Now these two rings would look nothing like the original. And she also wants to fit the watch so she can wear it.

Now I think the idea is kind of cool in a way, but I see it as destroying the ring or trading it in for two other rings. I don't care if it is made out of the same materials, the whole point is that although the ring is not the prettiest or most modern looking ring in the world, it's his ring how he wanted it and that's what reminds me of him. Also he was a very masculine man, and the ring and watch were meant for me to wear when I get older. I don't want to sound sexist, but I feel my father would not want my sister to wear the jewelry meant for me, his son. Am I being selfish?
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sister is asking me if she can melt my father's ring to remember him
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Hey everyone, I have a question for all because although the situation I'm in seems a bit absurd (after thinking about it thoroughly), I want to make sure it's not just me. 

My father passed away almost 15 years ago. All he left me was a ring and a watch(he didn't have much at the time of his passing). I haven't worn them yet out of fear that they are stolen, damaged, or that I get assaulted and robbed(has happened to me 3 times already! that's a story for another time.) 

My sister called me and asked me if she could melt the ring, in order to make two rings(one for me and one for her), that have the date of his death spelled out in order to remember him. Now these two rings would look nothing like the original. And she also wants to fit the watch so she can wear it.

Now I think the idea is kind of cool in a way, but I see it as destroying the ring or trading it in for two other rings. I don't care if it is made out of the same materials, the whole point is that although the ring is not the prettiest or most modern looking ring in the world, it's his ring how he wanted it and that's what reminds me of him. Also he was a very masculine man, and the ring and watch were meant for me to wear when I get older. I don't want to sound sexist, but I feel my father would not want my sister to wear the jewelry meant for me, his son. Am I being selfish?
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My dad's ring is a piece of jewelry meant for me and I want
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