So, I'll try to keep this short. My boyfriend is a night owl and I am an early bird. I wake up at 7 am every day to go work out and go to work. He'll sleep in as late as he can (8 on weekdays, much later on weekends). Because I wake up early and am basically active all day (wake up, work out, go to work, come home, cook dinner for us), I like to be asleep by 11.

My boyfriend hates going to bed that early. He doesn't like laying down with me at that time, even if I say I just want to cuddle, have sex, chat with him, etc., and then he can leave. 

Most nights, I'll go to bed alone at 11. He'll stay up to watch TV and play games. Then when he comes to bed, he'll wake me up and try to have sex with me. I've told him repeatedly that I hate this. I am tired and I just want to sleep. I would be perfectly happy having sex in the mornings, at any point that we're both home from work, or when I go to bed. But the only time he initiates is late at night when I'm already asleep. He gets annoyed that I won't just wake up for him.

This has made me almost dread sex, and I used to love it. It has become a chore now that either I have to initiate every single time so he won't wake me up later, or wake up for it. And when I stay up late, I'm grumpy the next day and sometimes miss my work out. He'll then be disappointed in me because we've discussed that being healthy/active is important. He wouldn't say that, but I know he would be.

What do I do?!
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boyfriend only wants sex
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So, I'll try to keep this short. My boyfriend is a night owl and I am an early bird. I wake up at 7 am every day to go work out and go to work. He'll sleep in as late as he can (8 on weekdays, much later on weekends). Because I wake up early and am basically active all day (wake up, work out, go to work, come home, cook dinner for us), I like to be asleep by 11.

My boyfriend hates going to bed that early. He doesn't like laying down with me at that time, even if I say I just want to cuddle, have sex, chat with him, etc., and then he can leave. 

Most nights, I'll go to bed alone at 11. He'll stay up to watch TV and play games. Then when he comes to bed, he'll wake me up and try to have sex with me. I've told him repeatedly that I hate this. I am tired and I just want to sleep. I would be perfectly happy having sex in the mornings, at any point that we're both home from work, or when I go to bed. But the only time he initiates is late at night when I'm already asleep. He gets annoyed that I won't just wake up for him.

This has made me almost dread sex, and I used to love it. It has become a chore now that either I have to initiate every single time so he won't wake me up later, or wake up for it. And when I stay up late, I'm grumpy the next day and sometimes miss my work out. He'll then be disappointed in me because we've discussed that being healthy/active is important. He wouldn't say that, but I know he would be.

What do I do?!
user
My boyfriend won't initiate
assistant