My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 1/2 years. We started dating when we were seniors in high school, both 17 at the time. We met through church and at the time I think I was much more religious than he was. Of course my catholic upbringing convinced me into thinking that anything pleasurable was a sin. Thus, I was always insistent on waiting until marriage, as was he. Over the past few years I have drastically changed my religious views, and thus changed what I thought to be "right" and "wrong" sexually. My boyfriend still considers himself to be catholic, but disagrees with a lot of the church's stances. He does not believe that sex before marriage is really a sin; however, he "strongly feels that it is morally wrong". 

I want him to be able to explain to me with logic and reason why it is morally wrong, but he is unable to do so. 

Lately the difference between our beliefs has started to become really difficult for me.

Any advice is appreciated.

I should also add that due to our educational pursuits marriage is far off in the future.We are talking 6+ years.
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My boyfriend does not want to have sex
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 1/2 years. We started dating when we were seniors in high school, both 17 at the time. We met through church and at the time I think I was much more religious than he was. Of course my catholic upbringing convinced me into thinking that anything pleasurable was a sin. Thus, I was always insistent on waiting until marriage, as was he. Over the past few years I have drastically changed my religious views, and thus changed what I thought to be "right" and "wrong" sexually. My boyfriend still considers himself to be catholic, but disagrees with a lot of the church's stances. He does not believe that sex before marriage is really a sin; however, he "strongly feels that it is morally wrong". 

I want him to be able to explain to me with logic and reason why it is morally wrong, but he is unable to do so. 

Lately the difference between our beliefs has started to become really difficult for me.

Any advice is appreciated.

I should also add that due to our educational pursuits marriage is far off in the future.We are talking 6+ years.
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Boyfriend refuses to have sex with me because
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