About two months ago, we moved to a new state for a job. She was supportive of the move and had been wanting to leave for a long time. 

Two days ago, she told me she has feelings for one of her friends from 'back home' and that she doesn't know if she can 'forget him'. She left that night to return to our home state, to stay with another friend and 'figure stuff out'. The friend she's staying with 'happens' to be very close to *him*.

I'm just in shock, this isn't her personality at all (seriously)  and I don't know what to do. It seems pretty clear she's made up her mind, even if she doesn't realize it... 

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**update:** We spoke today. She apologized profusely and said she "hates herself for hurting me" and she "didn't see it coming (falling for him)". 

She says she believes we will (individually) be happier in the long run, even though I am now alone in a new state and her family and friends will likely ostracize her. 

What's worse, she's acting like she isn't actively choosing to do this. 

I would have entertained an open relationship before I considered divorce... this really fucking sucks :(
user
Wife took a break from me to be with her friend who has feelings for me. I'm now
assistant
About two months ago, we moved to a new state for a job. She was supportive of the move and had been wanting to leave for a long time. 

Two days ago, she told me she has feelings for one of her friends from 'back home' and that she doesn't know if she can 'forget him'. She left that night to return to our home state, to stay with another friend and 'figure stuff out'. The friend she's staying with 'happens' to be very close to *him*.

I'm just in shock, this isn't her personality at all (seriously)  and I don't know what to do. It seems pretty clear she's made up her mind, even if she doesn't realize it... 

---
**update:** We spoke today. She apologized profusely and said she "hates herself for hurting me" and she "didn't see it coming (falling for him)". 

She says she believes we will (individually) be happier in the long run, even though I am now alone in a new state and her family and friends will likely ostracize her. 

What's worse, she's acting like she isn't actively choosing to do this. 

I would have entertained an open relationship before I considered divorce... this really fucking sucks :(
user
Wife left and says she needs time with the other guy, to chose between me and him...
assistant