Hello reddit

My LDR girlfriend of six months told me yesterday that she wasn't ready to lose her virginity at this age. This was to my surprise because we have been sexting and talking about sex a lot during the entire relationship.

I have met her before and we did fool around a lot. Granted, we didn't have sex, but a lot of other occurrences took place. During the time we have been apart, we have sexted, had camsex and basically built up for what was going to be a great sex life.

I'll be visiting her home country to shop with my peers and therefore suggested that we meet up, go to my hotel and do what we have been waiting for. After that, we'll do everything else we would be able to do for the time I'm there.

Surprisingly, she turns me down. She says that "we have too little time" to go to a hotel, and she rather prefers to do other activities. I tell her that we sure will have enough time (we'll see each other for 6 hours) but she doesn't buy it, and I understood that she doesn't want sex.

I feel cheated and betrayed. I understand her reasoning which is cultural and has to do with keeping it for marriage, but I don't understand why she accepted how much we sexted, leading me to expect far too much. I had an ex who also denied me from sex and it didn't last long at all - I grew sexually frustrated and felt unappreciated.

I have been without sex for a year and it hasn't been the best of times because I have a really high libido. It's cruel that I have applied for uni in the girl's country (something I've wanted, not based on her) and she doesn't even want to offer her virginity to me.

Now I don't really feel like talking to her as much. I do love her but I don't wanna go through what I went through with my ex. I do NOT wanna wait for marriage either because imo, it's plain stupid.

What advice do u have for me?

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LDR GF denying sex after constant sexting/camsex. I'm shocked and betrayed, and I
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Hello reddit

My LDR girlfriend of six months told me yesterday that she wasn't ready to lose her virginity at this age. This was to my surprise because we have been sexting and talking about sex a lot during the entire relationship.

I have met her before and we did fool around a lot. Granted, we didn't have sex, but a lot of other occurrences took place. During the time we have been apart, we have sexted, had camsex and basically built up for what was going to be a great sex life.

I'll be visiting her home country to shop with my peers and therefore suggested that we meet up, go to my hotel and do what we have been waiting for. After that, we'll do everything else we would be able to do for the time I'm there.

Surprisingly, she turns me down. She says that "we have too little time" to go to a hotel, and she rather prefers to do other activities. I tell her that we sure will have enough time (we'll see each other for 6 hours) but she doesn't buy it, and I understood that she doesn't want sex.

I feel cheated and betrayed. I understand her reasoning which is cultural and has to do with keeping it for marriage, but I don't understand why she accepted how much we sexted, leading me to expect far too much. I had an ex who also denied me from sex and it didn't last long at all - I grew sexually frustrated and felt unappreciated.

I have been without sex for a year and it hasn't been the best of times because I have a really high libido. It's cruel that I have applied for uni in the girl's country (something I've wanted, not based on her) and she doesn't even want to offer her virginity to me.

Now I don't really feel like talking to her as much. I do love her but I don't wanna go through what I went through with my ex. I do NOT wanna wait for marriage either because imo, it's plain stupid.

What advice do u have for me?

EDT: grammar
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Girlfriend won't give up her virginity. I feel cheated and betrayed, but I
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