I'm no good at consoling people. I'm not an overly emotional person. If I cry, I do it in a room by myself, and am endlessly embarassed if someone finds out. Makes me feel weak or some shit, I know it's silly, that's just how I roll.

Anyway, it's been a tough week for a couple friends. One had a close friend pass away. This was very hard for me to deal with, and I did the best I could in just listening and not really saying anything. Just kind of being there as a shoulder. 

My other friend, however, was recently dumped by her year-long boyfriend. Although he did do it in a really shitty way (over text message), part of me has to wonder; if you were recently dumped, and had a friend to consol you would you want them to make excuses for the guy? ie: He's obviously hiding something, he's busy with his life, there must be someone else, he's gay ect. Or... would you rather have a straight up, no bullshit answer. He's just not that into you. (Cliche I know, but seriously) 

Personally, I think I'd rather have a friend snap me out of it. If he/she doesn't want to be with me, then so be it. We'll both be happier with someone else. He/she just isn't into it. Move on.

What do you think?
user
I don't know how to talk to friends who recently lost a friend.
assistant
I'm no good at consoling people. I'm not an overly emotional person. If I cry, I do it in a room by myself, and am endlessly embarassed if someone finds out. Makes me feel weak or some shit, I know it's silly, that's just how I roll.

Anyway, it's been a tough week for a couple friends. One had a close friend pass away. This was very hard for me to deal with, and I did the best I could in just listening and not really saying anything. Just kind of being there as a shoulder. 

My other friend, however, was recently dumped by her year-long boyfriend. Although he did do it in a really shitty way (over text message), part of me has to wonder; if you were recently dumped, and had a friend to consol you would you want them to make excuses for the guy? ie: He's obviously hiding something, he's busy with his life, there must be someone else, he's gay ect. Or... would you rather have a straight up, no bullshit answer. He's just not that into you. (Cliche I know, but seriously) 

Personally, I think I'd rather have a friend snap me out of it. If he/she doesn't want to be with me, then so be it. We'll both be happier with someone else. He/she just isn't into it. Move on.

What do you think?
user
I guess my question is, would you rather have a nice straight up answer from a friend, or would you rather have them find excuses for their ex,
assistant