Not too long ago I submitted [this post]( about my being uncomfortable with my boyfriend wanting to take pictures of me. 

I ultimately decided I wasn't comfortable being the subject of his photography at all, for nude shoots or clothed shoots. For some reason, the fact that he has done photoshoots with countless other exes really bothers me. I know that's not reasonable but I haven't been able to shake the discomfort.

I was waiting for the right moment to bring it up. For better or worse, it ultimately came out when he told me that he received a request on Model Mayhem from a female model who usually does work for pay, but wanted him to take her photos "pose for print" (she will pose and get free prints, and they both benefit). 

I asked him if he got the impression anything about the shoot would be sensual or flirtatious, and in more words he basically said flirting brings out the best shots. I told him that I was uncomfortable with him shooting naked women and I was uncomfortable with him knowingly heading into a situation where he would be flirtatious with some other woman. Those are my hard limits on the situation.

Between telling him that I was uncomfortable with him shooting nude women, flirting with models, and photographing me, he took that as me being generally unsupportive of his hobby and even condemning it. I tried explaining that this wasn't the case. Unbeknownst to him I have been searching for the perfect photography-related birthday gift for awhile, including a cool place to go take shots and some photo books that would serve as inspiration.

I don't see myself becoming comfortable with being his "model" or him shooting nudes or flirting with models anytime soon. But I don't want to be so restrictive about a hobby he loves. Advice anyone?
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Uncomfortable with boyfriend shooting nude women
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Not too long ago I submitted [this post]( about my being uncomfortable with my boyfriend wanting to take pictures of me. 

I ultimately decided I wasn't comfortable being the subject of his photography at all, for nude shoots or clothed shoots. For some reason, the fact that he has done photoshoots with countless other exes really bothers me. I know that's not reasonable but I haven't been able to shake the discomfort.

I was waiting for the right moment to bring it up. For better or worse, it ultimately came out when he told me that he received a request on Model Mayhem from a female model who usually does work for pay, but wanted him to take her photos "pose for print" (she will pose and get free prints, and they both benefit). 

I asked him if he got the impression anything about the shoot would be sensual or flirtatious, and in more words he basically said flirting brings out the best shots. I told him that I was uncomfortable with him shooting naked women and I was uncomfortable with him knowingly heading into a situation where he would be flirtatious with some other woman. Those are my hard limits on the situation.

Between telling him that I was uncomfortable with him shooting nude women, flirting with models, and photographing me, he took that as me being generally unsupportive of his hobby and even condemning it. I tried explaining that this wasn't the case. Unbeknownst to him I have been searching for the perfect photography-related birthday gift for awhile, including a cool place to go take shots and some photo books that would serve as inspiration.

I don't see myself becoming comfortable with being his "model" or him shooting nudes or flirting with models anytime soon. But I don't want to be so restrictive about a hobby he loves. Advice anyone?
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