Living with my roommate is a nightmare. While things have been tolerable, I reached a breaking point last night when I came home after being away for the weekend and finding things in my room moved around, one of his lighters in my closet, and small items (water bottles, rolls of toilet paper, etc.) missing. We're past the point of having a calm chat about privacy and having respect for each other's space and personal property. At this point, I'm just looking to wait out my lease and survive the next few months.

I've decided to replace the door handle in my bedroom, which locks only from the inside, with one that I can lock from the outside with a key. In accordance with my lease, I've asked my landlord for permission and will give them a copy of the key. My roommate and I are both named on the lease and share a kitchen, dining room, living room, and bathroom. We each have our own bedroom though. I plan on moving our router/modem from my room to the hallway. There's no other reason he would need to access my room.

So. I'm planning to receive prior written approval and install the lock this weekend. If he asks me directly, I plan to tell him that I have some security concerns and keep it short and vague. I also plan to give him the option of putting the router/modem in his room, or I can purchase an extension cord so it can be wired from the hallway. 

I understand that this is kind of passive aggressive, but I really have no interest in maintaining any type of friendly relationship. Any advice on how to handle this? Would love to hear from someone who's been in a similar situation or has suggestions for dealing with this...
user
Want to install a lock
assistant
Living with my roommate is a nightmare. While things have been tolerable, I reached a breaking point last night when I came home after being away for the weekend and finding things in my room moved around, one of his lighters in my closet, and small items (water bottles, rolls of toilet paper, etc.) missing. We're past the point of having a calm chat about privacy and having respect for each other's space and personal property. At this point, I'm just looking to wait out my lease and survive the next few months.

I've decided to replace the door handle in my bedroom, which locks only from the inside, with one that I can lock from the outside with a key. In accordance with my lease, I've asked my landlord for permission and will give them a copy of the key. My roommate and I are both named on the lease and share a kitchen, dining room, living room, and bathroom. We each have our own bedroom though. I plan on moving our router/modem from my room to the hallway. There's no other reason he would need to access my room.

So. I'm planning to receive prior written approval and install the lock this weekend. If he asks me directly, I plan to tell him that I have some security concerns and keep it short and vague. I also plan to give him the option of putting the router/modem in his room, or I can purchase an extension cord so it can be wired from the hallway. 

I understand that this is kind of passive aggressive, but I really have no interest in maintaining any type of friendly relationship. Any advice on how to handle this? Would love to hear from someone who's been in a similar situation or has suggestions for dealing with this...
user
Want to install a lock
assistant