Mitchell and I have been together just over a year now and go to the same university and see each other once or twice a week since we both have a very busy course load. We talk practically all the time when we aren't studying or sleeping or in class. I feel out communication is good and we are open about our feelings on pretty much everything. 

He's known I've had depression for a couple years now and I've tried "talking about it" with professionals but it just doesn't help me. I don't find talking about it with him or anyone else does any good so I just try to avoid the subject, since when we tried it didn't go anywhere. Any time he asks me how I'm feeling I hate being dishonest and saying I'm feeling ok when I'm really not and just feeling sad and lonely. He always puts the weight of my depression and finding a fix to it on himself, even though he can't fix it because he just is not in that position to. I've told him before that it's not that he isn't doing something good enough, he just can't fix my life. He always gets sad because he can't help me and I usually just end up ruining his mood because mine isn't good. I don't know what I'm supposed to tell him anymore, because every time I try to explain he shouldn't put himself down so much he doesn't listen and keeps doing it so I've started avoiding conversations around it for the sake of his feelings. 

A couple times when we've been together he got kind of distant after I told him he cant do anything and then tried to comfort me but since he saw it didn't do anything he just kinda decided to leave. 

What should I tell him to make him understand that this isn't his problem and he just can't fix it because he isn't in the position to and to stop taking it so personally.
user
boyfriend can't help my depression, doesn't listen to me when i try to explain, gets upset whenever i try to communicate how i feel. What can i say/do
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Mitchell and I have been together just over a year now and go to the same university and see each other once or twice a week since we both have a very busy course load. We talk practically all the time when we aren't studying or sleeping or in class. I feel out communication is good and we are open about our feelings on pretty much everything. 

He's known I've had depression for a couple years now and I've tried "talking about it" with professionals but it just doesn't help me. I don't find talking about it with him or anyone else does any good so I just try to avoid the subject, since when we tried it didn't go anywhere. Any time he asks me how I'm feeling I hate being dishonest and saying I'm feeling ok when I'm really not and just feeling sad and lonely. He always puts the weight of my depression and finding a fix to it on himself, even though he can't fix it because he just is not in that position to. I've told him before that it's not that he isn't doing something good enough, he just can't fix my life. He always gets sad because he can't help me and I usually just end up ruining his mood because mine isn't good. I don't know what I'm supposed to tell him anymore, because every time I try to explain he shouldn't put himself down so much he doesn't listen and keeps doing it so I've started avoiding conversations around it for the sake of his feelings. 

A couple times when we've been together he got kind of distant after I told him he cant do anything and then tried to comfort me but since he saw it didn't do anything he just kinda decided to leave. 

What should I tell him to make him understand that this isn't his problem and he just can't fix it because he isn't in the position to and to stop taking it so personally.
user
boyfriend gets upset because he can't help me with depression despite him trying to be supportive/help me, need advice on how to calm him down without seeming like
assistant