This is my throw away account because my boyfriend knows my username and has looked through my comments before. 

I've been dating my boyfriend of 21 for a little over 4 months.  It's been a wild ride and I love his passionate personality.  We fell in love very quickly and I have been staying with him pretty much since we met. 

However, I'm about to finish up community college in the next year and I have already applied to several schools all in different cities.  I have been making plans to move to one of these areas since before I met him, but now I'm in a bit of a pickle.

Okay reddit, this is the part where you call me out and tell me I'm being selfish or whatever it is that is making me feel these things. 

He wants to come with me, and I do love him.  But part of me is screaming that
1.  It's too soon to move in together to a new city
2.  What about living on campus?  Is this opportunity something I should take advantage of?
3.  He's mentioned engagement, and but again, I think it is too soon to even consider these things.
4.  He doesn't have much of a plan education wise, he only began going to school this year because I was going.

We are now currently on a break because he tells me he does not want to come second in my life, which I completely understand. All I keep hearing is either that we should break up and not waste time on each other or move in together in a few months.

May I mention that he has exhibited some major jealousy/controlling, and is currently suffering from intrusive thoughts.  Along with that, his anger is out of control.  (Last night he ripped his door into pieces because he was so mad, and has put several holes in his walls from anger)

So, reddit.  Tell me all your opinions on this situation, please.  I really need help :(
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Boyfriend [21] wants to come with me to college [F19] but I'm not so sure if that
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This is my throw away account because my boyfriend knows my username and has looked through my comments before. 

I've been dating my boyfriend of 21 for a little over 4 months.  It's been a wild ride and I love his passionate personality.  We fell in love very quickly and I have been staying with him pretty much since we met. 

However, I'm about to finish up community college in the next year and I have already applied to several schools all in different cities.  I have been making plans to move to one of these areas since before I met him, but now I'm in a bit of a pickle.

Okay reddit, this is the part where you call me out and tell me I'm being selfish or whatever it is that is making me feel these things. 

He wants to come with me, and I do love him.  But part of me is screaming that
1.  It's too soon to move in together to a new city
2.  What about living on campus?  Is this opportunity something I should take advantage of?
3.  He's mentioned engagement, and but again, I think it is too soon to even consider these things.
4.  He doesn't have much of a plan education wise, he only began going to school this year because I was going.

We are now currently on a break because he tells me he does not want to come second in my life, which I completely understand. All I keep hearing is either that we should break up and not waste time on each other or move in together in a few months.

May I mention that he has exhibited some major jealousy/controlling, and is currently suffering from intrusive thoughts.  Along with that, his anger is out of control.  (Last night he ripped his door into pieces because he was so mad, and has put several holes in his walls from anger)

So, reddit.  Tell me all your opinions on this situation, please.  I really need help :(
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In a relationship with the guy of my dreams but I want to move to a different
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