This week my longtime girlfriend told me she genuinely enjoys when I'm domineering in our relationship. I've never been a push-over so I don't believe she's trying to encourage me away from being "weak" (for a lack of a better word). At the same time, I've always been a feminist and always put women on the same level as me in relationships.

With that, I was blindsided that a woman genuinely wanted to be subservient in non-sexual ways. And not that she merely wants me to open doors for her, but she thinks it's attractive if I wanted her to fetch the drinks, for her to have food ready, and to generally dictate how to act.

So, Reddit, reconcile my feminism with girlfriend's desire to be subservient.
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Feminist male feels strange about girlfriend's request of being subservient in non-sexual
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This week my longtime girlfriend told me she genuinely enjoys when I'm domineering in our relationship. I've never been a push-over so I don't believe she's trying to encourage me away from being "weak" (for a lack of a better word). At the same time, I've always been a feminist and always put women on the same level as me in relationships.

With that, I was blindsided that a woman genuinely wanted to be subservient in non-sexual ways. And not that she merely wants me to open doors for her, but she thinks it's attractive if I wanted her to fetch the drinks, for her to have food ready, and to generally dictate how to act.

So, Reddit, reconcile my feminism with girlfriend's desire to be subservient.
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feminist girlfriend wants me to be submissive in relationship, not that I'm
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