So me and my S/O of ten years recently mutually decided that sexting with others is ok. (as long as its non-romantic) 

At first I was a little excited and very optimistic that this would create a better sex-life for us.

But I'm finding myself now feeling very self conscious,
I have always thought of myself as very handsome but have had very little luck finding a "dirty Pen Pal" while my S/O has had no trouble whatsoever... 

This is leading me to feel quite jealous and again very very self conscious about my appearance.

I know it is not fair to 

"Not want to play this game because I'm not winning" 

But that's how I feel and I don't know what to do.

I am looking for any advice.  Thanks.
user
Me and my SO of ten years recently mutually decided that sexting with others is ok. I'm finding myself now feeling very self conscious and jealous about my appearance. Need advice on how to cope with
assistant
So me and my S/O of ten years recently mutually decided that sexting with others is ok. (as long as its non-romantic) 

At first I was a little excited and very optimistic that this would create a better sex-life for us.

But I'm finding myself now feeling very self conscious,
I have always thought of myself as very handsome but have had very little luck finding a "dirty Pen Pal" while my S/O has had no trouble whatsoever... 

This is leading me to feel quite jealous and again very very self conscious about my appearance.

I know it is not fair to 

"Not want to play this game because I'm not winning" 

But that's how I feel and I don't know what to do.

I am looking for any advice.  Thanks.
user
Sexting as an Open Relationship; Feel self conscious about my appearance because of my SO of ten years; Want to know how to make me feel better.
assistant