My ex-boyfriend "John" and I dated for over 3 years. Him and I made a mutual decision to end our relationship in November of last year.  EDIT: **Even though him and I broke up, we have remained very good friends, that's why this is an issue.**  
He recently started dating someone new. First problem is that instead of talking to me about it or even just doing nothing, he decidedly to actively hide it from me. This is upsetting that he would make that kind of decision, but I write it off as him being socially awkward and not knowing what to do in this situation since I was his first girlfriend.  
  
I've been asking him all week about when I could come over and see the dogs, which he kept putting off giving a real answer by either saying "I don't know" or giving an excuse. Since I know him, I called him out on it, and he said that he "has a good thing going" and doesn't want to mess it up with his new girlfriend "Erin."  
  
I asked him if Erin specifically said that she would be uncomfortable with me coming over to see the dogs, and he said that he's never talked to her about it. I told him that he needs to because these dogs have been a big part of my life for 4 years and I feel absolutely crushed learning that I might not be able to see them again.  
Even though I don't "own" them, they are still my babies and I love them. I never thought that the last time I saw them would be the last time ever and I'm feeling really distraught about this whole situation.  
  
I tried talking to 3 of my close friends about this and they have been less than supportive. One said it wasn't his problem and that he didn't want to get involved, one said that if John wants to stop talking to me that I should let him (even though that's not what I said at all, I said he didn't want me to come see the dogs), and the other one is a wannabe psychologist whose best advice is to go pet cats.
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Ex-boyfriend who I dated for 3.5 years recently got new
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My ex-boyfriend "John" and I dated for over 3 years. Him and I made a mutual decision to end our relationship in November of last year.  EDIT: **Even though him and I broke up, we have remained very good friends, that's why this is an issue.**  
He recently started dating someone new. First problem is that instead of talking to me about it or even just doing nothing, he decidedly to actively hide it from me. This is upsetting that he would make that kind of decision, but I write it off as him being socially awkward and not knowing what to do in this situation since I was his first girlfriend.  
  
I've been asking him all week about when I could come over and see the dogs, which he kept putting off giving a real answer by either saying "I don't know" or giving an excuse. Since I know him, I called him out on it, and he said that he "has a good thing going" and doesn't want to mess it up with his new girlfriend "Erin."  
  
I asked him if Erin specifically said that she would be uncomfortable with me coming over to see the dogs, and he said that he's never talked to her about it. I told him that he needs to because these dogs have been a big part of my life for 4 years and I feel absolutely crushed learning that I might not be able to see them again.  
Even though I don't "own" them, they are still my babies and I love them. I never thought that the last time I saw them would be the last time ever and I'm feeling really distraught about this whole situation.  
  
I tried talking to 3 of my close friends about this and they have been less than supportive. One said it wasn't his problem and that he didn't want to get involved, one said that if John wants to stop talking to me that I should let him (even though that's not what I said at all, I said he didn't want me to come see the dogs), and the other one is a wannabe psychologist whose best advice is to go pet cats.
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My ex-boyfriend started dating a new girl and now says
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