So, I'm in a very happy relationship with my boyfriend of going on 6 months (Good friends with for over a year). We have disagreements but don't fight, but one disagreement I was a bit meh with and told my girl friends about. I would very much love to get nipple piercings, tongue split, genital piercings, etc. but he just is not into it at all and said I shouldn't. Ok fair enough. 
Now, I'm also very happy to cook for him whenever he comes over and I'm more than happy to bake cakes and other sweets for him to bring to him about every other time I go over his house (so every other week or so). I make a point to gush to them over the things I bake and put photos on facebook. I haven't heard anything negative from them aside from one comment on how "lol you're like a housewife"
Friends say to my face that the whole piercing thing and tongue splitting sucks and that he shouldn't say that, but I'm over it. Mulling it over, I don't want them after all and I don't bring up the subject again.

Here's where it gets ridiculous. I hear from a good trusted friend that they're talking behind my back about how my boyfriend is being manipulative and abusive by telling me what I can't do and that I need to stop "pampering" him. That I, as a Native American/Black woman am being oppressed by my white boyfriend and it's disgusting them. I don't even know.

The boyfriend has been nothing but a gentleman, very chivalrous, treating me, and giving me thoughtful gifts and all that jazz. Now maybe I'm just stupid, but I don't think there's anything wrong here. I told my boyfriend and he seemed a bit distraught. Do I just stop telling my friends everything and confront them, or drop it? Do I stop what I'm doing for the bf because I'm somehow being manipulated?
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I'm in a happy relationship with my boyfriend and I hear from people behind my back that he's
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So, I'm in a very happy relationship with my boyfriend of going on 6 months (Good friends with for over a year). We have disagreements but don't fight, but one disagreement I was a bit meh with and told my girl friends about. I would very much love to get nipple piercings, tongue split, genital piercings, etc. but he just is not into it at all and said I shouldn't. Ok fair enough. 
Now, I'm also very happy to cook for him whenever he comes over and I'm more than happy to bake cakes and other sweets for him to bring to him about every other time I go over his house (so every other week or so). I make a point to gush to them over the things I bake and put photos on facebook. I haven't heard anything negative from them aside from one comment on how "lol you're like a housewife"
Friends say to my face that the whole piercing thing and tongue splitting sucks and that he shouldn't say that, but I'm over it. Mulling it over, I don't want them after all and I don't bring up the subject again.

Here's where it gets ridiculous. I hear from a good trusted friend that they're talking behind my back about how my boyfriend is being manipulative and abusive by telling me what I can't do and that I need to stop "pampering" him. That I, as a Native American/Black woman am being oppressed by my white boyfriend and it's disgusting them. I don't even know.

The boyfriend has been nothing but a gentleman, very chivalrous, treating me, and giving me thoughtful gifts and all that jazz. Now maybe I'm just stupid, but I don't think there's anything wrong here. I told my boyfriend and he seemed a bit distraught. Do I just stop telling my friends everything and confront them, or drop it? Do I stop what I'm doing for the bf because I'm somehow being manipulated?
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My boyfriend is being manipulative/abusive by telling me what I can't do. Can I just stop?
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