We've been together nearly a decade (met when we were really young) and were almost into our 30s now. In the last year or so, I've been wanting our relationship to move forward and we have been discussing marriage. 

His family is very well off. Mine isn't. We both work and make decent money but he has the safety net of his family. He wants to buy a home as soon as we get married. Average homes here are close to 1M. His family has already given him enough for a down payment. I have a good amount already saved but not nearly enough for a 20% down. 

He says he will not rent an apartment when we get married because he doesn't want to "downgrade" his lifestyle. He currently owns a home with his sibling. 

I don't think it is fair because he knows I don't have the money right now and won't for another couple of years.

I don't know what to do. My dream isn't to own a home and he kind of sprang thus on me. I can save my money but god damn, that will take a long time. 4-5 years? I really don't want to be in a 15 year relationship before I get married. I don't think that's unreasonable.
user
Boyfriend says he won't get married until I have enough money to buy a home. I'm tired. How do I bring this up without making things
assistant
We've been together nearly a decade (met when we were really young) and were almost into our 30s now. In the last year or so, I've been wanting our relationship to move forward and we have been discussing marriage. 

His family is very well off. Mine isn't. We both work and make decent money but he has the safety net of his family. He wants to buy a home as soon as we get married. Average homes here are close to 1M. His family has already given him enough for a down payment. I have a good amount already saved but not nearly enough for a 20% down. 

He says he will not rent an apartment when we get married because he doesn't want to "downgrade" his lifestyle. He currently owns a home with his sibling. 

I don't think it is fair because he knows I don't have the money right now and won't for another couple of years.

I don't know what to do. My dream isn't to own a home and he kind of sprang thus on me. I can save my money but god damn, that will take a long time. 4-5 years? I really don't want to be in a 15 year relationship before I get married. I don't think that's unreasonable.
user
bf has a lot of money, won't marry me until I have enough for my half of a down payment for a home.
assistant