I’ve been with my boyfriend for six years but we have been having problems for the last year.  I bring up our issues often and think of ways to work on them but they are all still issues. One of the more important issues is the fact that we have had a semi dead bedroom for the past couple of years. Although I think he is handsome, physical/sexual attraction on my part has faded quite a bit unfortunately.  He isn’t a large man by any standards but he is very out of shape. He has poor eating habits, smokes too much (imo), and drinks too much. He has developed a pretty substantial “beer belly” since I have known him due to the combination of these habits and his refusal to go to the gym / work out.

I have asked him numerous times to get in better shape, not only for me, but for himself and for our relationship. I personally believe that if we both got in shape it would help our dead bedroom. I even joined the gym myself and started eating healthier with hopes he would join me. He has refused. He says that it’s my issue, not his and that he’s too lazy to go to the gym. It’s just not important to him.

As I said, we have been having quite a few issues.  This is the one issue I personally think would be the easiest to fix and he refuses to even make an attempt.  Am I in the wrong here? Am I the one with the issues like he is telling me? I have suggested solutions for the other issues we have been having and he refuses to make any efforts either. I’m starting to get very annoyed.  This man says he wants to marry me one day and wants to be the father of my children, yet he refuses to even do a simple thing like go to the gym.
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I’ve been with my boyfriend for six years but we have been having problems for the last year.  I bring up our issues often and think of ways to work on them but they are all still issues. One of the more important issues is the fact that we have had a semi dead bedroom for the past couple of years. Although I think he is handsome, physical/sexual attraction on my part has faded quite a bit unfortunately.  He isn’t a large man by any standards but he is very out of shape. He has poor eating habits, smokes too much (imo), and drinks too much. He has developed a pretty substantial “beer belly” since I have known him due to the combination of these habits and his refusal to go to the gym / work out.

I have asked him numerous times to get in better shape, not only for me, but for himself and for our relationship. I personally believe that if we both got in shape it would help our dead bedroom. I even joined the gym myself and started eating healthier with hopes he would join me. He has refused. He says that it’s my issue, not his and that he’s too lazy to go to the gym. It’s just not important to him.

As I said, we have been having quite a few issues.  This is the one issue I personally think would be the easiest to fix and he refuses to even make an attempt.  Am I in the wrong here? Am I the one with the issues like he is telling me? I have suggested solutions for the other issues we have been having and he refuses to make any efforts either. I’m starting to get very annoyed.  This man says he wants to marry me one day and wants to be the father of my children, yet he refuses to even do a simple thing like go to the gym.
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