Hi, me and my partner have been together for almost two years and having gone through ups and downs, almost breaking up during an extended trip overseas a couple of months ago, it feels like were on track now. We have a lot of proyects together, bands, we are putting up a tattoo studio together. It feels, however, like romance and erotism are dwindlign away.

Let me first say that I understand that I know this is normal to some extent, I've been in long term relationships before. Because of a plethora of reasons, having to do with her lack of communication, her not very physically affectionate character (which she has worked on), my insecurities having to do with previous relationships, sex has become a touchy subject, and over a period of time I've developed a lot of anxiety around it, leading to PE and a very unsatisfactory sex like. Sure, I cum, but I don't think that counts as being satisfactory for either. 

The issue of seeing other people has come up, seeing as we had discussed the notion of an open realtionship before. I, however, am not inclined to pursue it now because a) it generates a lot of insecurities seeing as it feels I am sorely lacking in this area and b) I don't think it is a good idea to pursue an OR when the edificie of the relationship, at least in that aspect, is shaky. It seems like asking for trouble.

She has been very unwilling to a) work on my PE with me and b) be more open about what ways we could make our sex life more satisfactory. She tells me that it is not that important (sex), and that I am overthinking it. I don't think, however, that it is as simple as that. I know that she masturbates regularly, which is normal, so I know that it is not the case she is not horny or disinterested in the sexual dimension of her life. It just feels like I am no longer an object of desire. I never feel she is checking me out or feels lust for me. Other than that she is still very affectionate, tells me she loves me, cuddles, etc.
user
2 years into a relationship, erotism and romance are dwindling,
assistant
Hi, me and my partner have been together for almost two years and having gone through ups and downs, almost breaking up during an extended trip overseas a couple of months ago, it feels like were on track now. We have a lot of proyects together, bands, we are putting up a tattoo studio together. It feels, however, like romance and erotism are dwindlign away.

Let me first say that I understand that I know this is normal to some extent, I've been in long term relationships before. Because of a plethora of reasons, having to do with her lack of communication, her not very physically affectionate character (which she has worked on), my insecurities having to do with previous relationships, sex has become a touchy subject, and over a period of time I've developed a lot of anxiety around it, leading to PE and a very unsatisfactory sex like. Sure, I cum, but I don't think that counts as being satisfactory for either. 

The issue of seeing other people has come up, seeing as we had discussed the notion of an open realtionship before. I, however, am not inclined to pursue it now because a) it generates a lot of insecurities seeing as it feels I am sorely lacking in this area and b) I don't think it is a good idea to pursue an OR when the edificie of the relationship, at least in that aspect, is shaky. It seems like asking for trouble.

She has been very unwilling to a) work on my PE with me and b) be more open about what ways we could make our sex life more satisfactory. She tells me that it is not that important (sex), and that I am overthinking it. I don't think, however, that it is as simple as that. I know that she masturbates regularly, which is normal, so I know that it is not the case she is not horny or disinterested in the sexual dimension of her life. It just feels like I am no longer an object of desire. I never feel she is checking me out or feels lust for me. Other than that she is still very affectionate, tells me she loves me, cuddles, etc.
user
I have no idea how to approach this situation, her
assistant