My boyfriend graduated last year and both of us were making relatively the same wage. Recently he's accepted a job that is almost a 6 figure salary. Not only am I fiercely jealous of his wage at such a young age but he wants to move to a bigger "swanky" apartment next to a city that I know I can not afford to pay equal share with and if I do, I will have nothing saved up. 

I can accept that he is making more, however I feel like the relationship is unbalanced. He suddenly will treat me to a lot of things I can't afford, which is nice, but I can't reciprocate. I won't be able to buy him anything expensive much less have the time to do anything nice now that I'm working 2 jobs.

I just want to figure out a way to feel like I'm not being "taken care of " and actually contributing to the relationship even if I can't financially. I want to make things as equal and fair as possible, but how can I when I wouldn't be able to pay half of our rent? How can I make things fair when I'll be out of the house working 80 hours a week so I can't even cook for him unless its at 11pm? My fear is that he will grow to feel like I'm freeloading or not contributing and I don't want that to strain us because we're in a really good place right now. "More money, more problems" etc. LOL
user
My boyfriend is making way more money than me and I feel like the relationship is unbalanced due to the fact that he wants a bigger apartment, I can't afford it, how to make the relationship fair and equal?
assistant
My boyfriend graduated last year and both of us were making relatively the same wage. Recently he's accepted a job that is almost a 6 figure salary. Not only am I fiercely jealous of his wage at such a young age but he wants to move to a bigger "swanky" apartment next to a city that I know I can not afford to pay equal share with and if I do, I will have nothing saved up. 

I can accept that he is making more, however I feel like the relationship is unbalanced. He suddenly will treat me to a lot of things I can't afford, which is nice, but I can't reciprocate. I won't be able to buy him anything expensive much less have the time to do anything nice now that I'm working 2 jobs.

I just want to figure out a way to feel like I'm not being "taken care of " and actually contributing to the relationship even if I can't financially. I want to make things as equal and fair as possible, but how can I when I wouldn't be able to pay half of our rent? How can I make things fair when I'll be out of the house working 80 hours a week so I can't even cook for him unless its at 11pm? My fear is that he will grow to feel like I'm freeloading or not contributing and I don't want that to strain us because we're in a really good place right now. "More money, more problems" etc. LOL
user
Boyfriend's high salary job will mean I can't afford to support him or make him very happy. I can't just "let him do his thing" but I'd love to contribute and feel like the relationship will be as equal as it could be. Any tips on how to make things fair
assistant