My sister and I are a few years apart and in our 30s. I am the youngest, she is the oldest. I am trying to figure out the best way to be supportive of her as she is working through her marriage problems. She randomly said she was going to visit for a few days, which caught me off guard. Unfortunately I made the mistake of telling her that I already had plans. I didn't realize until a little later that maybe she was reaching out because she needed to get out of the house and take some time away from her spouse.
  
She recently lost her job a few months ago and is stuck at home in a suburb area. They only have one car (they used to commute together) so I can only imagine how hard it is for her right now to be going through difficulties and stuck at home all day.  
  
She is not the type to reach out to me for help, especially with me being the younger sibling, so I feel bad that I missed out on this opportunity to show her support. I tried to tell her she was welcome to spend some time with me but it might have come across as being too charity-like. I honestly don't know. Our parents are great, but have their own lives and are more hands off with anything concerning advice. I would at least like my sister to know that she has options and shouldn't feel stuck or that she has no one to turn to.
  
Have any of you been in my sister's situation - stuck at home, unhappy in marriage? What kind of support systems did you find helpful? Should I just stay hands off and let her know she's welcome to stay with me while she sorts things out and leave it at that? I really appreciate any insight into this.
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sibling in a bad spot with marriage and personal situation. need advice on
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My sister and I are a few years apart and in our 30s. I am the youngest, she is the oldest. I am trying to figure out the best way to be supportive of her as she is working through her marriage problems. She randomly said she was going to visit for a few days, which caught me off guard. Unfortunately I made the mistake of telling her that I already had plans. I didn't realize until a little later that maybe she was reaching out because she needed to get out of the house and take some time away from her spouse.
  
She recently lost her job a few months ago and is stuck at home in a suburb area. They only have one car (they used to commute together) so I can only imagine how hard it is for her right now to be going through difficulties and stuck at home all day.  
  
She is not the type to reach out to me for help, especially with me being the younger sibling, so I feel bad that I missed out on this opportunity to show her support. I tried to tell her she was welcome to spend some time with me but it might have come across as being too charity-like. I honestly don't know. Our parents are great, but have their own lives and are more hands off with anything concerning advice. I would at least like my sister to know that she has options and shouldn't feel stuck or that she has no one to turn to.
  
Have any of you been in my sister's situation - stuck at home, unhappy in marriage? What kind of support systems did you find helpful? Should I just stay hands off and let her know she's welcome to stay with me while she sorts things out and leave it at that? I really appreciate any insight into this.
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Sister is in a very difficult marriage situation and should not feel left
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