A little background: My boyfriend is 10 years older than me, and has a five year old son.  We have been together for 2 years and have a great relationship, but we always seem to run into the same problems regarding his son.

We were invited to a party at one of our friends houses.  All of our friends , the people at the party, are around my age (20-24) while BF is 31.  This party falls on one of weekends that he has his son.  His band has been asked to play there as well, so there will be about a half hour of time when he will be completely unable to watch the kid.  there wont be any other kids there, either.

My issue is that whenever he is with a group of kids with his son, he leaves it up to everyone to watch him, he will walk away without saying anything or get focused on something and lose sight of his son.  The rest of us are still young, we want to be able to hang out and have a good time without worrying about a kid, so everyone sees it as not their responsibility.  Unfortunately, this leaves me with the responsibility, because I'm the girlfriend, to make sure the kid isn't doing something dangerous or more often, getting into and potentially destroying other peoples things.

I've told BF that this isn't my responsibility, and that when his son is around it's up to him to be 100% focused on what he is doing. He isn't around that often so it shouldn't be too difficult to give him the attention he needs when he is here.  This always turns into "If I wanted kids I'd have my own," and him telling me that I need to do more for his kid (although that's not exactly how he words it, that's what his actions imply).  He also get's mad at our friends for not hanging out when his kid is around, but they don't hang out because they are also frustrated with feeling responsible for him.

So basically, I'm considering not going to this party just to avoid that.  But everyone will be there and I'll just spend the day home alone if I dont go. As parents, do you have any insight into this?
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A little background: My boyfriend is 10 years older than me, and has a five year old son.  We have been together for 2 years and have a great relationship, but we always seem to run into the same problems regarding his son.

We were invited to a party at one of our friends houses.  All of our friends , the people at the party, are around my age (20-24) while BF is 31.  This party falls on one of weekends that he has his son.  His band has been asked to play there as well, so there will be about a half hour of time when he will be completely unable to watch the kid.  there wont be any other kids there, either.

My issue is that whenever he is with a group of kids with his son, he leaves it up to everyone to watch him, he will walk away without saying anything or get focused on something and lose sight of his son.  The rest of us are still young, we want to be able to hang out and have a good time without worrying about a kid, so everyone sees it as not their responsibility.  Unfortunately, this leaves me with the responsibility, because I'm the girlfriend, to make sure the kid isn't doing something dangerous or more often, getting into and potentially destroying other peoples things.

I've told BF that this isn't my responsibility, and that when his son is around it's up to him to be 100% focused on what he is doing. He isn't around that often so it shouldn't be too difficult to give him the attention he needs when he is here.  This always turns into "If I wanted kids I'd have my own," and him telling me that I need to do more for his kid (although that's not exactly how he words it, that's what his actions imply).  He also get's mad at our friends for not hanging out when his kid is around, but they don't hang out because they are also frustrated with feeling responsible for him.

So basically, I'm considering not going to this party just to avoid that.  But everyone will be there and I'll just spend the day home alone if I dont go. As parents, do you have any insight into this?
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BF's son is always around, leaving it up to me to watch him. I'm having second
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