Here's the basic outline: My boyfriend (27) and I (25-F) have been enjoying over three months of what I would call bliss. We're both goofy intellectuals who enjoy a degree of independence and happen to have an interwoven circle of friends, thus preventing the occasionally bumpy "meeting the friends" step. 

I don't see him as much as I would like, since, though his job is awesome, it is also fairly demanding, leaving him stressed and/or tired frequently. This also means that we only really see each other on weekends.

That being said, I get pulled aside last Sunday and informed that a friend of his from out of town would be visiting this weekend. Well, she's more of an ex than a friend. Well, they mostly just had a lot of sex then she left for home a few days later. Oh, and she doesn't know I exist and she may very well be calling him to hang out in hopes of revisiting that brief, sweaty fling that actually occurred two weeks before I met him. He had also told me that when we met, he had been having somewhat of a dry spell which is obviously not all that true.

To add insult to injury, I was not invited to hang out with them tonight. He had hoped to break it to her gently and then call me later to let me know if she was okay with me joining them for a drink. It is 11:00 PM. I get the feeling I'm staying in tonight.

Am I crazy for being really uncomfortable with this? I trust my bf implicitly; however, this whole ordeal is making me feel as though he values her more and is more concerned about how she feels. I exited an abusive relationship about 6 months ago and am open to the possibility that I'm pretty damaged and a little paranoid, which I recognize isn't exactly fair to him. 

I came here, Reddit, because I knew you would give it to me straight. So, don't hold back.
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BF is spending time
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Here's the basic outline: My boyfriend (27) and I (25-F) have been enjoying over three months of what I would call bliss. We're both goofy intellectuals who enjoy a degree of independence and happen to have an interwoven circle of friends, thus preventing the occasionally bumpy "meeting the friends" step. 

I don't see him as much as I would like, since, though his job is awesome, it is also fairly demanding, leaving him stressed and/or tired frequently. This also means that we only really see each other on weekends.

That being said, I get pulled aside last Sunday and informed that a friend of his from out of town would be visiting this weekend. Well, she's more of an ex than a friend. Well, they mostly just had a lot of sex then she left for home a few days later. Oh, and she doesn't know I exist and she may very well be calling him to hang out in hopes of revisiting that brief, sweaty fling that actually occurred two weeks before I met him. He had also told me that when we met, he had been having somewhat of a dry spell which is obviously not all that true.

To add insult to injury, I was not invited to hang out with them tonight. He had hoped to break it to her gently and then call me later to let me know if she was okay with me joining them for a drink. It is 11:00 PM. I get the feeling I'm staying in tonight.

Am I crazy for being really uncomfortable with this? I trust my bf implicitly; however, this whole ordeal is making me feel as though he values her more and is more concerned about how she feels. I exited an abusive relationship about 6 months ago and am open to the possibility that I'm pretty damaged and a little paranoid, which I recognize isn't exactly fair to him. 

I came here, Reddit, because I knew you would give it to me straight. So, don't hold back.
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I'm right there with
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