I just broke up with my ex, who was one of my best friends before we started dating. He's always given it to me straight, so I believe everything he told me when we broke up, which is:

1) He loves me as a person and considers me one of his best friends, and loves our friendship.

2) He (very suddenly) stopped being "excited" about our future as a couple and doesn't want to recover the romantic part, but...

3) He still treats me like his girlfriend. He sleeps over, cuddles me, asks me for advice, wants to hang out (nonsexually) constantly, and all that.

4) He's not leaving me for someone else. I checked.

If you didn't know us, you would think we were together. We've always had a very open, loving, and compatible relationship/friendship. Nothing has ever gone wrong between us. I'm really shocked by how quickly things changed (for him).

I know he's not a committment-phobe or using me for sex, but I don't understand how we can basically have all of the different parts of a relationship without him actually... wanting a relationship. Need perspective. Thank you.
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I just broke up with my ex, who was one of my best friends before we started dating. He's always given it to me straight, so I believe everything he told me when we broke up, which is:

1) He loves me as a person and considers me one of his best friends, and loves our friendship.

2) He (very suddenly) stopped being "excited" about our future as a couple and doesn't want to recover the romantic part, but...

3) He still treats me like his girlfriend. He sleeps over, cuddles me, asks me for advice, wants to hang out (nonsexually) constantly, and all that.

4) He's not leaving me for someone else. I checked.

If you didn't know us, you would think we were together. We've always had a very open, loving, and compatible relationship/friendship. Nothing has ever gone wrong between us. I'm really shocked by how quickly things changed (for him).

I know he's not a committment-phobe or using me for sex, but I don't understand how we can basically have all of the different parts of a relationship without him actually... wanting a relationship. Need perspective. Thank you.
user
ex treats
assistant