Info: I'm 22, she's 20 and we just started dating about a month and a half ago.

I'm trying to start this relationship right and set the mood for the whole thing. I've had bad experiences with past girlfriends who were too clingy and I wasn't firm on us not spending every waking moment together.

I have already floated the idea out there to her but it didn't go over too well. Yesterday we were texting while I was at work and I mentioned I was going to the gym afterward so we couldn't really do anything that evening. She replied by stating she could just come over after I got home and I told her that I needed to clean up the house/do dishes etc. and it was best if she didn't because whenever she comes over I'm not productive at all since we always end up watching something together, get into a deep conversation or make out. I followed this up by saying "Besides, we've seen each other like 5 out of the past 7 days *(not an exaggeration)* and I kind of want some alone time." She asked for my reasons and I told her it's not very healthy for our relationship if we spend every waking moment together when we aren't at work or busy.

She came back to this explanation stating that she doesn't like being alone and also doesn't think there is anything wrong with wanting to see me every day. As far as being alone I told her to make some dates with friends so she doesn't fall out of touch with them but I stood firm on not wanting to spend every possible moment with her. I told her I was speaking from experience and that I have friends who had similar experiences which led to a disastrous relationship but she only replied that "not every relationship is the same and I don't see anything wrong with wanting to spend all my time with you."
user
My girlfriend isn't crazy or super clingy, she just doesn't understand why it's a bad idea to spend every day and night together.
assistant
Info: I'm 22, she's 20 and we just started dating about a month and a half ago.

I'm trying to start this relationship right and set the mood for the whole thing. I've had bad experiences with past girlfriends who were too clingy and I wasn't firm on us not spending every waking moment together.

I have already floated the idea out there to her but it didn't go over too well. Yesterday we were texting while I was at work and I mentioned I was going to the gym afterward so we couldn't really do anything that evening. She replied by stating she could just come over after I got home and I told her that I needed to clean up the house/do dishes etc. and it was best if she didn't because whenever she comes over I'm not productive at all since we always end up watching something together, get into a deep conversation or make out. I followed this up by saying "Besides, we've seen each other like 5 out of the past 7 days *(not an exaggeration)* and I kind of want some alone time." She asked for my reasons and I told her it's not very healthy for our relationship if we spend every waking moment together when we aren't at work or busy.

She came back to this explanation stating that she doesn't like being alone and also doesn't think there is anything wrong with wanting to see me every day. As far as being alone I told her to make some dates with friends so she doesn't fall out of touch with them but I stood firm on not wanting to spend every possible moment with her. I told her I was speaking from experience and that I have friends who had similar experiences which led to a disastrous relationship but she only replied that "not every relationship is the same and I don't see anything wrong with wanting to spend all my time with you."
user
Told my SO that I want to go out every day without spending every waking moment together and she believes that's not wrong.
assistant