We've been fighting more often than not over the past 3 years and things just keep getting worse. We're never on the same page about anything, we don't respect each other and counseling has not helped. I deal with a lot of verbal abuse and collateral comments that are totally irrelevant to whatever the subject is. After a recent fight I've decided that we are too fundamentally different to work. 

The two biggest problems are that we have a baby (less than 1) and his family is more than capable of sustaining a long court battle while me and my family are not. Because of his abusive and nasty tendencies, I'm afraid of a malicious, gruesome legal battle just because he'd do it to prove some kind of point. I just want to settle things fairly and as amicably as possible, but if I pull the divorce trigger I know he'll come out guns blazing. 

The sad part is that I'm an attorney well versed in divorce law and I'm still scared of what he will put me through. How do I cope or avoid a nasty battle?
user
husband is abusive, mean, and has $$. I'm afraid of a malicious court
assistant
We've been fighting more often than not over the past 3 years and things just keep getting worse. We're never on the same page about anything, we don't respect each other and counseling has not helped. I deal with a lot of verbal abuse and collateral comments that are totally irrelevant to whatever the subject is. After a recent fight I've decided that we are too fundamentally different to work. 

The two biggest problems are that we have a baby (less than 1) and his family is more than capable of sustaining a long court battle while me and my family are not. Because of his abusive and nasty tendencies, I'm afraid of a malicious, gruesome legal battle just because he'd do it to prove some kind of point. I just want to settle things fairly and as amicably as possible, but if I pull the divorce trigger I know he'll come out guns blazing. 

The sad part is that I'm an attorney well versed in divorce law and I'm still scared of what he will put me through. How do I cope or avoid a nasty battle?
user
Am I just being a crazy bitch? How do I cope with a
assistant