So my fiancé and I are in the beginning stage of planning, where we're just kinda throwing ideas around and brainstorming etc.  Problem is though, he doesn't really want to be actively involved in the whole looking for inspiration, looking at different ideas for tuxes and dresses, and all that kind of stuff.  Whenever we talk about it, we have totally different ideas.  For example, I like the idea of a softer grey tux/suit for the groom and groomsmen and mix and match, but complementary, dresses for the bridesmaids, as we are having a semi-formal summertime wedding.  He wants traditional black tuxedo with cravate, and all the bridesmaids looking identical because that's how he has always seen weddings, that's how he was raised to think about weddings etc.

I've made the suggestion of us looking for ideas and then bringing them together to discuss and try to find a way to combine both of our preferences but he doesn't really seem interested in this.  He has said that he thinks it would be better if I just make the decisions about how the wedding should look and he'll be happy.  I don't want that, though.  I want us to both be actively involved in planning our special day *together*.

Am I crazy for not wanting to be in control of the whole thing and for not expecting a "yes, dear" response from him?
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Fiancé and I have different ideas about how to plan our wedding, so I'm looking for advice on how to proceed.
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So my fiancé and I are in the beginning stage of planning, where we're just kinda throwing ideas around and brainstorming etc.  Problem is though, he doesn't really want to be actively involved in the whole looking for inspiration, looking at different ideas for tuxes and dresses, and all that kind of stuff.  Whenever we talk about it, we have totally different ideas.  For example, I like the idea of a softer grey tux/suit for the groom and groomsmen and mix and match, but complementary, dresses for the bridesmaids, as we are having a semi-formal summertime wedding.  He wants traditional black tuxedo with cravate, and all the bridesmaids looking identical because that's how he has always seen weddings, that's how he was raised to think about weddings etc.

I've made the suggestion of us looking for ideas and then bringing them together to discuss and try to find a way to combine both of our preferences but he doesn't really seem interested in this.  He has said that he thinks it would be better if I just make the decisions about how the wedding should look and he'll be happy.  I don't want that, though.  I want us to both be actively involved in planning our special day *together*.

Am I crazy for not wanting to be in control of the whole thing and for not expecting a "yes, dear" response from him?
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Fiancé and I have different wedding ideas. I want bachelorette parties to be able to wear tuxes and dresses and stuff, he wants a more traditional style. I want him involved in the whole planning process and he doesn't really want that. Am I
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