Hi /r/relationships! I've been having a few issues dating and I'd really appreciate any advice anyone has.

Guys rarely seem to think of me as girlfriend material and I'm not sure why. I get told a lot that I'm attractive and funny and fun to be around, but a lot of the time a guy will start messaging me and then it will just fizzle out after a couple weeks.

I'm an obsessive person by nature. Once I like something I usually love it. If I try a new hobby and like it, I'll spend all my time doing it, spend money on all the equipment, talk about it a lot. I'll see one episode of a show and binge 6 seasons in a week. I'll forget to eat for two days if I'm in the middle of a work project. Things like that.

I do this with guys too, but obviously I know to restrain myself. Once I start messaging them I find it hard to think about other things, particularly anyone else. My friends always laugh about my intense crushes, however brief they are.

I'm an all or nothing girl and I tend to get frustrated if a guy is not as into me and I am them (which usually happens). I don't like playing games (waiting days to reply to a message, making people jealous etc) but sometimes I wonder if that's what I should start doing? Because messaging normally (eg when I see they've text I just reply then) seems to put guys off?

Any questions are welcome because I don't get what I'm doing wrong. I'll be texting a guy and it'll seem great and we'll plan to meet up but then it just fizzles out before the date.
user
Guys tell me I'm attractive and funny but when we message it usually fizzles out before we go out on a date or after we've been messaging a while.
assistant
Hi /r/relationships! I've been having a few issues dating and I'd really appreciate any advice anyone has.

Guys rarely seem to think of me as girlfriend material and I'm not sure why. I get told a lot that I'm attractive and funny and fun to be around, but a lot of the time a guy will start messaging me and then it will just fizzle out after a couple weeks.

I'm an obsessive person by nature. Once I like something I usually love it. If I try a new hobby and like it, I'll spend all my time doing it, spend money on all the equipment, talk about it a lot. I'll see one episode of a show and binge 6 seasons in a week. I'll forget to eat for two days if I'm in the middle of a work project. Things like that.

I do this with guys too, but obviously I know to restrain myself. Once I start messaging them I find it hard to think about other things, particularly anyone else. My friends always laugh about my intense crushes, however brief they are.

I'm an all or nothing girl and I tend to get frustrated if a guy is not as into me and I am them (which usually happens). I don't like playing games (waiting days to reply to a message, making people jealous etc) but sometimes I wonder if that's what I should start doing? Because messaging normally (eg when I see they've text I just reply then) seems to put guys off?

Any questions are welcome because I don't get what I'm doing wrong. I'll be texting a guy and it'll seem great and we'll plan to meet up but then it just fizzles out before the date.
user
I'm an obsessive person and guys seem to either ignore me or get bored of me. How do I learn to be less obsessive and set boundaries?
assistant