This is my first post here so I'll try to follow the rules as best I can.  I am a 23 y/o male and she is 25.  We dated for a year and then broke up. Because of the break up, I don't think her family is too fond of me, so that adds a little more to the toughness. It's been about a year since then, but recently we started talking.  She basically is saying that she doesn't want to be friends unless we get back together because it's too hard for her.  I am just really back and forth here because she is my only relationship I'be ever had so I don't really have much to compare it to.  I do really like spending time with her and the idea of not seeing her anymore kind of tears me up, but I kind of feel like it's all or nothing.  I'm kind of a commitmentphobe anyway so I know that plays a role.  I know I'm fairly young, but in the year apart I didn't find anyone that I was very interested in and I think we're both getting close to the age when you look to start settling down.  And that part freaks me out a bit because, like I said, I haven't been with anyone else so I don't know how strong a relationship it is/was.  Basically I'm just wondering if this is a normal amount of doubt in a relationship or if it seems like I should just let it go?  Also, am I over-thinking it?   Because I tend to do a lot of that too.
user
I'm inexperienced and am not sure what a good relationship is supposed to
assistant
This is my first post here so I'll try to follow the rules as best I can.  I am a 23 y/o male and she is 25.  We dated for a year and then broke up. Because of the break up, I don't think her family is too fond of me, so that adds a little more to the toughness. It's been about a year since then, but recently we started talking.  She basically is saying that she doesn't want to be friends unless we get back together because it's too hard for her.  I am just really back and forth here because she is my only relationship I'be ever had so I don't really have much to compare it to.  I do really like spending time with her and the idea of not seeing her anymore kind of tears me up, but I kind of feel like it's all or nothing.  I'm kind of a commitmentphobe anyway so I know that plays a role.  I know I'm fairly young, but in the year apart I didn't find anyone that I was very interested in and I think we're both getting close to the age when you look to start settling down.  And that part freaks me out a bit because, like I said, I haven't been with anyone else so I don't know how strong a relationship it is/was.  Basically I'm just wondering if this is a normal amount of doubt in a relationship or if it seems like I should just let it go?  Also, am I over-thinking it?   Because I tend to do a lot of that too.
user
been talking to ex for a year, not sure if she wants to
assistant