Throwaway because my brother has a Reddit account.

The older I get the more overprotective my mother becomes, and since im leaving for uni this year, its becoming increasingly frustrating to deal with.

We're having arguments about it nearly every other day and its getting to the point where I almost want to cut her off and move out which is something I'd prefer to avoid (it would be hard to keep in touch with my ill grandma).

Most of my frustration stems from the fact that she views me as a child, even though I'm very responsible and mature for my age. As well as that she was much more relaxed with my brother who's 22, even though he was frankly a mess at my age (drinking illegally, bullying other students, hanging around with the wrong crowd, violent, moody and angry etc).

I've tried to bring this up to her, and she keeps coming up with shitty excuses; im too young to understand, im a girl so of course she's going to treat me differently, my brother is a boy so there's no danger of getting raped, she's less overprotective than my friends parents etc etc which is all bullshit, not that she cares.

So basically what I'm asking is how do I get her to back off, or should I just suck it up and deal with it until I leave for uni?
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my mother is getting more and more overprotective since im leaving "the nest" this year, how do I get her to stop
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Throwaway because my brother has a Reddit account.

The older I get the more overprotective my mother becomes, and since im leaving for uni this year, its becoming increasingly frustrating to deal with.

We're having arguments about it nearly every other day and its getting to the point where I almost want to cut her off and move out which is something I'd prefer to avoid (it would be hard to keep in touch with my ill grandma).

Most of my frustration stems from the fact that she views me as a child, even though I'm very responsible and mature for my age. As well as that she was much more relaxed with my brother who's 22, even though he was frankly a mess at my age (drinking illegally, bullying other students, hanging around with the wrong crowd, violent, moody and angry etc).

I've tried to bring this up to her, and she keeps coming up with shitty excuses; im too young to understand, im a girl so of course she's going to treat me differently, my brother is a boy so there's no danger of getting raped, she's less overprotective than my friends parents etc etc which is all bullshit, not that she cares.

So basically what I'm asking is how do I get her to back off, or should I just suck it up and deal with it until I leave for uni?
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Overprotective mother who views me as a child and who's becoming increasingly frustrated at my behaviour. How do I get her to back off, or should I deal with it until I leave for uni?
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