My boyfriend of two years has a moderate-to-large stash of content related to his two sexual fetishes. This collection includes a number of images and videos which prominently feature obviously underaged people, from young looking teenagers to elementary school kids. Let it be made clear that his fetishes themselves have nothing expressly to do with children, and the images are not overtly sexual or of an otherwise illegal/exploitative nature. They just happen to have kids engaged in something that my boyfriend finds sexually prurient (the way a gap kids catalogue might seem to someone who fetishizes the wearing of polo shirts).

For the most part, I understand why he has these images in his
collection; people rarely consciously control what they find arousing. Most of the pictures/videos seem to be uploaded by the child or the child's family, so I am fairly sure that none of the children are being abused or exploited in any way. I am fully confident that he would never inappropriately interact with a child, and pretty sure that he does not have an inherent attraction to children.

The problem is that despite my best efforts to be accepting, the thought of him keeping and deriving sexual pleasure from these pictures of underaged people turns my stomach. I'll suddenly think about it during the day and it'll sour my mood. I have difficulty enjoying sex because it'll pop into my head and completely turn me off. I can't find any real problem with his behavior from a logical standpoint (since no one's really getting hurt), but there's something about it that I find inherently distasteful, even disgusting.

Our relationship is pretty solid in almost every other regard. We are mutually supportive and communicative, and I genuinely love being with him. I've told him about my discomfort with his collection several times, but he hasn't really done anything about it, aside from offering his sympathy. I want this relationship to work, but I can't stand the idea of having this hang over my head all the time.
user
My boyfriend has a collection of pictures/videos of underage people which I find sexually gross/distasteful.
assistant
My boyfriend of two years has a moderate-to-large stash of content related to his two sexual fetishes. This collection includes a number of images and videos which prominently feature obviously underaged people, from young looking teenagers to elementary school kids. Let it be made clear that his fetishes themselves have nothing expressly to do with children, and the images are not overtly sexual or of an otherwise illegal/exploitative nature. They just happen to have kids engaged in something that my boyfriend finds sexually prurient (the way a gap kids catalogue might seem to someone who fetishizes the wearing of polo shirts).

For the most part, I understand why he has these images in his
collection; people rarely consciously control what they find arousing. Most of the pictures/videos seem to be uploaded by the child or the child's family, so I am fairly sure that none of the children are being abused or exploited in any way. I am fully confident that he would never inappropriately interact with a child, and pretty sure that he does not have an inherent attraction to children.

The problem is that despite my best efforts to be accepting, the thought of him keeping and deriving sexual pleasure from these pictures of underaged people turns my stomach. I'll suddenly think about it during the day and it'll sour my mood. I have difficulty enjoying sex because it'll pop into my head and completely turn me off. I can't find any real problem with his behavior from a logical standpoint (since no one's really getting hurt), but there's something about it that I find inherently distasteful, even disgusting.

Our relationship is pretty solid in almost every other regard. We are mutually supportive and communicative, and I genuinely love being with him. I've told him about my discomfort with his collection several times, but he hasn't really done anything about it, aside from offering his sympathy. I want this relationship to work, but I can't stand the idea of having this hang over my head all the time.
user
My boyfriend has a large collection of images of underage people, images which I find to be sexualized in some way. I'm not sure
assistant