I have a friend who is a classic 'cool guy'. He is handsome, charismatic, has a nice car, makes good money, is fun to hang out with etc.

The problem is, he is also somewhat flaky. We might make plans, and then he'll cancel an hour before. Sometimes he'll just not show up, and when I ask him about it later, he would shrug it off and be like 'oh sorry dude, I forgot' and act like it's no big deal. Or sometimes, we will drive to a house party, and he will either become zapped out or he'll just disappear and I am left wondering how I'll get home.

Other times, he will be a great friend. One time, I became so drunk, I lost my phone, wallet etc. He tracked them down and nearly assaulted a guy to get them back for me.

Now, I act like this isn't a big deal for me, but it is. I was one of the nerdy types in school, and he would be a football-captain, gets-all-the-girls, sits-in-the-cool-table type guy. I have learned a lot from him, and in the year or so I have known him, I have gone from slightly-socially-awkward, quiet and somewhat overweight to a pretty social guy who works out, knows his priorities, takes school seriously, doesn't think twice about talking to new people etc.

I don't let him know how much of an affect he has had on me, but he has become a giant anchor for me, and it's frustrating, because it's kind of clingy and just very uncharacteristic of the sort of person I'm aiming to become.

How can I handle this?
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I have a friend who is a classic 'cool guy'. He is handsome, charismatic, has a nice car, makes good money, is fun to hang out with etc.

The problem is, he is also somewhat flaky. We might make plans, and then he'll cancel an hour before. Sometimes he'll just not show up, and when I ask him about it later, he would shrug it off and be like 'oh sorry dude, I forgot' and act like it's no big deal. Or sometimes, we will drive to a house party, and he will either become zapped out or he'll just disappear and I am left wondering how I'll get home.

Other times, he will be a great friend. One time, I became so drunk, I lost my phone, wallet etc. He tracked them down and nearly assaulted a guy to get them back for me.

Now, I act like this isn't a big deal for me, but it is. I was one of the nerdy types in school, and he would be a football-captain, gets-all-the-girls, sits-in-the-cool-table type guy. I have learned a lot from him, and in the year or so I have known him, I have gone from slightly-socially-awkward, quiet and somewhat overweight to a pretty social guy who works out, knows his priorities, takes school seriously, doesn't think twice about talking to new people etc.

I don't let him know how much of an affect he has had on me, but he has become a giant anchor for me, and it's frustrating, because it's kind of clingy and just very uncharacteristic of the sort of person I'm aiming to become.

How can I handle this?
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My friend [25m] has a spell over me [21m], and
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