Hey reddit,

I have been in a LDR with my wonderful girlfriend for 2.5 years. 3 semesters ago she moved to NYC to study and we have seen each other 4-5 times since.

LDR always sucks, but we have been doing quite a good job, I believe. We texted each other everyday, we tried to call each other and every break either one of us would visit the other for at least 3 weeks.

We have figured, that we share the same hobbies and we could motivate each other to try different things together. Everytime we met we got along as good as a couple could possibly do and when separated, I could focus on my studys. The latter one might not really be the case for my girlfriend, since she had problems with the language, with her being very shy and finding friends. 

However,  recently she has told me that she is considering having a break. After 2 weeks of discussion, she has confessed to me, that she has no emotions at the moment. She feels exhausted because of her tight schedule and the fact that she seems to keep disappointing me.

But she has also told me, that she is really thankful for everything I do for her and she wishes me to be with her right now. She still knows that I am the person she wants to spend her life with and she also knows breaking up with me is something she will always regret. She was keep repeating that she wants to go back where everything was alright.

I know that the chances for us are very slim. But being in a LDR was a hard decision anyways, so we have lived with slim chances to begin with. I know at a certain point I have to let her go, but before I do, I want to know what choices I have. I have read so many storys of similar LDRs with bad endings and I cannot believe that this is the only choice we have.

So, what is reddit's experience with a seemingly good LDR, where one person suddenly does not feel the same anymore?
user
LDR GF is tired of the long distance relationship and is considering a break. She has admitted she still loves me. What is your experience with a LDR that seems good but one person suddenly does not feel the same anymore?
assistant
Hey reddit,

I have been in a LDR with my wonderful girlfriend for 2.5 years. 3 semesters ago she moved to NYC to study and we have seen each other 4-5 times since.

LDR always sucks, but we have been doing quite a good job, I believe. We texted each other everyday, we tried to call each other and every break either one of us would visit the other for at least 3 weeks.

We have figured, that we share the same hobbies and we could motivate each other to try different things together. Everytime we met we got along as good as a couple could possibly do and when separated, I could focus on my studys. The latter one might not really be the case for my girlfriend, since she had problems with the language, with her being very shy and finding friends. 

However,  recently she has told me that she is considering having a break. After 2 weeks of discussion, she has confessed to me, that she has no emotions at the moment. She feels exhausted because of her tight schedule and the fact that she seems to keep disappointing me.

But she has also told me, that she is really thankful for everything I do for her and she wishes me to be with her right now. She still knows that I am the person she wants to spend her life with and she also knows breaking up with me is something she will always regret. She was keep repeating that she wants to go back where everything was alright.

I know that the chances for us are very slim. But being in a LDR was a hard decision anyways, so we have lived with slim chances to begin with. I know at a certain point I have to let her go, but before I do, I want to know what choices I have. I have read so many storys of similar LDRs with bad endings and I cannot believe that this is the only choice we have.

So, what is reddit's experience with a seemingly good LDR, where one person suddenly does not feel the same anymore?
user
LDR with girlfriend for 2.5 years. She suddenly does not love me anymore. I want to know how you experienced it and what actions you took.
assistant