I hate it but I have severe anxiety in relationships (probably stemming from past events in my life that I don't want to go on about here).

I guess I'm very non-confrontational and hate when strife arises and then I completely disengage and think of breaking up whenever a problem comes up. For example, my bf was stressed out today and it was a good day for me (we're long distance atm). I texted him earlier and he said "I was stressed and so lost in class but I'm better now." So when I called him I began talking about my good day. I noticed though that he was pretty quiet/bored sounding so I asked if he was busy. Then he said "no, I just had a stressful day." I THEN asked him about his day and so on and what stressed him etc. Then we ended the convo. on a kind of stressed out note/he didn't want to talk much.

He then texted me and called me to apologize. I said it was okay. Then he said "well, you know... it's just I don't like to volunteer information and I guess I just expect the person I'm with to ask me more about how I am. You're the type to just talk, talk, talk, and that's great but I'm not like that and I just don't volunteer stuff but I do want to be asked."

It made me very uncomfortable. I said I would try to be more attentive but I'm not good at picking up on cues. :( Now I'm very stressed. I think he was inadvertently asking me to try and coax more out of him, ask more questions etc. but in a very passive aggressive kind of way.... 

And now I feel so anxious. I feel like I'm always missing something or not doing something right. I haven't complained to him about much of anything. He doesn't do everything perfectly but I appreciate what he does. It seems like he is unsatisfied with me. I said I'd try harder but idk :(
user
I'm very non-confrontational and don't initiate any conflict. I feel like I'm not doing well
assistant
I hate it but I have severe anxiety in relationships (probably stemming from past events in my life that I don't want to go on about here).

I guess I'm very non-confrontational and hate when strife arises and then I completely disengage and think of breaking up whenever a problem comes up. For example, my bf was stressed out today and it was a good day for me (we're long distance atm). I texted him earlier and he said "I was stressed and so lost in class but I'm better now." So when I called him I began talking about my good day. I noticed though that he was pretty quiet/bored sounding so I asked if he was busy. Then he said "no, I just had a stressful day." I THEN asked him about his day and so on and what stressed him etc. Then we ended the convo. on a kind of stressed out note/he didn't want to talk much.

He then texted me and called me to apologize. I said it was okay. Then he said "well, you know... it's just I don't like to volunteer information and I guess I just expect the person I'm with to ask me more about how I am. You're the type to just talk, talk, talk, and that's great but I'm not like that and I just don't volunteer stuff but I do want to be asked."

It made me very uncomfortable. I said I would try to be more attentive but I'm not good at picking up on cues. :( Now I'm very stressed. I think he was inadvertently asking me to try and coax more out of him, ask more questions etc. but in a very passive aggressive kind of way.... 

And now I feel so anxious. I feel like I'm always missing something or not doing something right. I haven't complained to him about much of anything. He doesn't do everything perfectly but I appreciate what he does. It seems like he is unsatisfied with me. I said I'd try harder but idk :(
user
Boyfriend is weird/non-confrontational and I am constantly anxious. I don't know how to deal with
assistant