I married my wife 18 months ago after a 4 year LDR. I was happy for about 6 months. Then I started to lose interest. My wife and I lack chemistry - I'm just not attracted to her - and we have different life goals: she wants kids very soon; I don't.

Ideally, I'd like to divorce and part ways. The trouble is that, legally, we need to live together for 14 more months. This was a condition of my wife's immigration. In an effort to crack down on fraudulent marriages, my government wrote a law forcing foreign spouses to live with their partners for several years. If either of us moves out, my wife will run a (small) risk of being kicked out of the country. In 14 months she'll be a resident and can live where she likes.

I'd like to date other people to try to find a better fit for me. I'd like to give my wife the chance to do the same. But we need to keep on living together. In essence, I'd like to turn my marriage into a friend/roommate relationship. Does anyone have advice on how to do this?

The obvious solution is to plainly tell my wife everything I've written above. Unfortunately, my wife is deeply in love with me. She'll be crushed. I wish I could make a clean break and leave: she'd be sad, but she'd get over it. I worry that breaking up and continuing to see me will be unbearable for her.
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I don't want to break up with
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I married my wife 18 months ago after a 4 year LDR. I was happy for about 6 months. Then I started to lose interest. My wife and I lack chemistry - I'm just not attracted to her - and we have different life goals: she wants kids very soon; I don't.

Ideally, I'd like to divorce and part ways. The trouble is that, legally, we need to live together for 14 more months. This was a condition of my wife's immigration. In an effort to crack down on fraudulent marriages, my government wrote a law forcing foreign spouses to live with their partners for several years. If either of us moves out, my wife will run a (small) risk of being kicked out of the country. In 14 months she'll be a resident and can live where she likes.

I'd like to date other people to try to find a better fit for me. I'd like to give my wife the chance to do the same. But we need to keep on living together. In essence, I'd like to turn my marriage into a friend/roommate relationship. Does anyone have advice on how to do this?

The obvious solution is to plainly tell my wife everything I've written above. Unfortunately, my wife is deeply in love with me. She'll be crushed. I wish I could make a clean break and leave: she'd be sad, but she'd get over it. I worry that breaking up and continuing to see me will be unbearable for her.
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I want to stay married but not
assistant