We have been married for 4 years, together for 7. Past 6 months have been excruciating with fights and overcoming obstacles over obstacles.  It has lead to us to become petty and indifferent to one another.  So much so that I was so hurt one day I packed up everything and left.  I wanted to resolve everything right then and there before I came back and he wanted me back but I was so clouded with not having a resolution right away. 

I asked for a divorce but that was confusing talking as I felt I had no more connection and was kind led by family to this end.  After I asked for divorce he wants nothing to do with me or talk to me and says he will give me the divorce.  Now that divorce is here I don't want it. I just don't want it. Yes I exercised the idea but it took getting this bad for me to reflect and realize the hard line approach to address our issues was not the way. He was so hurt by what I did that he has shut down and told me to move on.  

I am now feeling what he must have felt when I asked for divorce.  The pain is unbearable and he has numbed himself to me to heal I guess. 

We both messed up and got ourselves here and I don't know what I should do. I love him and do not want to loose him but mutual hurt, fear, and anxiety is there.  

I know he still loves me. He feels betrayed and does not trust me. How do we overcome this. No divorce papers have been processed. 

I was just so clouded by the hurtful things said and done that I acted on instinct and allowed others to influence me.
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Together for 7 years and married for 4. We finally brought up all our past issues which led to miscommunication and me asking for a divorce
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We have been married for 4 years, together for 7. Past 6 months have been excruciating with fights and overcoming obstacles over obstacles.  It has lead to us to become petty and indifferent to one another.  So much so that I was so hurt one day I packed up everything and left.  I wanted to resolve everything right then and there before I came back and he wanted me back but I was so clouded with not having a resolution right away. 

I asked for a divorce but that was confusing talking as I felt I had no more connection and was kind led by family to this end.  After I asked for divorce he wants nothing to do with me or talk to me and says he will give me the divorce.  Now that divorce is here I don't want it. I just don't want it. Yes I exercised the idea but it took getting this bad for me to reflect and realize the hard line approach to address our issues was not the way. He was so hurt by what I did that he has shut down and told me to move on.  

I am now feeling what he must have felt when I asked for divorce.  The pain is unbearable and he has numbed himself to me to heal I guess. 

We both messed up and got ourselves here and I don't know what I should do. I love him and do not want to loose him but mutual hurt, fear, and anxiety is there.  

I know he still loves me. He feels betrayed and does not trust me. How do we overcome this. No divorce papers have been processed. 

I was just so clouded by the hurtful things said and done that I acted on instinct and allowed others to influence me.
user
I decided I didn't want a divorce. I did not want to get hurt again. He wanted a divorce but I want him back and he
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