I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months now and I'm so in love with this girl. In just these few months, we've created so many fantastic memories together. We have a great relationship going, however she has increasingly become more and more depressed over her weight and it's beginning to affect the both of us obviously.

She weighs 200+ lbs., though I would argue with anyone for hours that she is one of the most beautiful girls in the world. She used to weigh about 130 lbs. until about 2 years ago when her grandmother passed away. She considered her grandmother to be one of the only few people who truly cared about her and was her real parental guardian through her life. Her grandmother's passing left her with bills to pay for, a house to maintain, no money and no real family to help her. Because of this and her dead-end job, it has caused her to become depressed and gain her weight. She is also trying to maintain going to college, but she can no longer afford it. Her life long dream was to get into fashion, but now she considers her self to be "too fat and ugly" for such a career. Her dream has been shattered.

She finally cracked last night. She cried and cried to me about how horrible her life is. How it's not fair. She wants to look like her old self again. I tried to tell her she can change it, however she argues that every time she tries, she fails. She is sick and tiered of trying. 

I'll do anything I can to help this girl. I've offered to exercise with her, cook healthy meals with her, but she just doesn't have the will power. I obviously can't force her to do things, but she really needs to turn her life around pronto. If she doesn't, I feel like she may just waste away.

Any advice I will accept with an open heart and mind. How can I motivate this girl? How do I push her without becoming the bad guy?
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Girlfriend of 8
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I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months now and I'm so in love with this girl. In just these few months, we've created so many fantastic memories together. We have a great relationship going, however she has increasingly become more and more depressed over her weight and it's beginning to affect the both of us obviously.

She weighs 200+ lbs., though I would argue with anyone for hours that she is one of the most beautiful girls in the world. She used to weigh about 130 lbs. until about 2 years ago when her grandmother passed away. She considered her grandmother to be one of the only few people who truly cared about her and was her real parental guardian through her life. Her grandmother's passing left her with bills to pay for, a house to maintain, no money and no real family to help her. Because of this and her dead-end job, it has caused her to become depressed and gain her weight. She is also trying to maintain going to college, but she can no longer afford it. Her life long dream was to get into fashion, but now she considers her self to be "too fat and ugly" for such a career. Her dream has been shattered.

She finally cracked last night. She cried and cried to me about how horrible her life is. How it's not fair. She wants to look like her old self again. I tried to tell her she can change it, however she argues that every time she tries, she fails. She is sick and tiered of trying. 

I'll do anything I can to help this girl. I've offered to exercise with her, cook healthy meals with her, but she just doesn't have the will power. I obviously can't force her to do things, but she really needs to turn her life around pronto. If she doesn't, I feel like she may just waste away.

Any advice I will accept with an open heart and mind. How can I motivate this girl? How do I push her without becoming the bad guy?
user
girlfriend of 8
assistant