I'm 23f, hes 24m, we were in a 3 year relationship. We never lived together, but over the years some of my personal belongings accumulated at his place, and vice versa.

We broke up a month ago, and as far as breakups go, it wasn't messy. Over the course of our three year relationship, we tried everything to make our relationship work, but eventually the ship sank. Even though we still loved each other, we realized we were incompatible. There was no spite or manipulation, no other person on the side. It wasn't his fault or mine. We respectfully agreed as adults that we couldn't make each other happy, and although we will remember the times we had fondly with each other, it simply had to end.

We agreed that after some time passed we would try to be friends again. Then we initiated a no contact rule. We've both been following it. Until yesterday.

He texted me, asking me when we should exchange our items. I harbor no will ill towards him, nor have any intention of getting back together, but the truth is... I'm not completely ready to see him again. I'd rather not if I could help it. However, I do need my things back, and he probably wants my stuff out of his house. 

I wish he could just drop it off on my stoop, and vice versa. However, there are two pieces of furniture (an office desk and a mini fridge) from his place that require heavy lifting.

I don't want to show any weakness (or any hint of pain) by having a friend go over and get my things. I still have my pride and my ego, and I rather woman up and face him like a mature adult than throw our mutual friend into this. 

I'm just afraid of the feelings that will bubble up seeing my presence being erased from a place I have so many good memories in. I don't want to cry in front of him.

So I have to ask, what is the best way to handle this while keeping my dignity intact?
user
Boyfriend and I broke up, agreed to a no contact rule. He wants my items back from his place. I don't feel comfortable with that. I need my things, but I don't want
assistant
I'm 23f, hes 24m, we were in a 3 year relationship. We never lived together, but over the years some of my personal belongings accumulated at his place, and vice versa.

We broke up a month ago, and as far as breakups go, it wasn't messy. Over the course of our three year relationship, we tried everything to make our relationship work, but eventually the ship sank. Even though we still loved each other, we realized we were incompatible. There was no spite or manipulation, no other person on the side. It wasn't his fault or mine. We respectfully agreed as adults that we couldn't make each other happy, and although we will remember the times we had fondly with each other, it simply had to end.

We agreed that after some time passed we would try to be friends again. Then we initiated a no contact rule. We've both been following it. Until yesterday.

He texted me, asking me when we should exchange our items. I harbor no will ill towards him, nor have any intention of getting back together, but the truth is... I'm not completely ready to see him again. I'd rather not if I could help it. However, I do need my things back, and he probably wants my stuff out of his house. 

I wish he could just drop it off on my stoop, and vice versa. However, there are two pieces of furniture (an office desk and a mini fridge) from his place that require heavy lifting.

I don't want to show any weakness (or any hint of pain) by having a friend go over and get my things. I still have my pride and my ego, and I rather woman up and face him like a mature adult than throw our mutual friend into this. 

I'm just afraid of the feelings that will bubble up seeing my presence being erased from a place I have so many good memories in. I don't want to cry in front of him.

So I have to ask, what is the best way to handle this while keeping my dignity intact?
user
broke up with long time bf. He wants to exchange belongings but I don't want to see him. How can I get my things back in the most respectful way?
assistant