Hi

I've been with my gf for just under 2 years. Generally, we get along quite well.

We moved in together about 11 months ago. At the time she had no one else to move in with and I felt kind of pressured without her actually asking and I ended up asking her to move in with me. I also got the impression she was doing it because some of her friends were moving in with their partners and so forth, I did bring this up at the time. When we were discussing moving in together I raised the issue that she does not earn much money and has a lot of credit card debt and a car loan, so I did not want her relying on me for money.

Since we've moved in we generally we get along well, not much fighting. There have been a few issues, mainly surrounding "give and take" e.g. I felt like I was supporting her a lot and she did very little for me in return. I feel like the situation has improved somewhat but still not quite where I'd like it to be.

I've never been quite sure whether I'd like to be with this girl forever, there are a few things I'm not sure about. I don't know whether I'm being nit-picky or whether I should be genuinely concerned e.g. she seems very quick to judge some people, quite anti-intellectual at times and very immature with money.

In addition to all that, I don't know what I want from her. I really really enjoyed the freedom of being single prior to being with her.

In the last couple of days I decided it'd be nice to move out to my own place when our lease is up (in about 5 weeks). Not surprisingly, she is very upset about it. I'm looking for a bit of clarity on whether it's worth trying to get over these issues or if it's better to cut my losses? I'd appreciate any insight you guys could offer!
user
asked to move in together, she moved in with me. I feel like I'm a bit stuck and I don't know whether to try to work it
assistant
Hi

I've been with my gf for just under 2 years. Generally, we get along quite well.

We moved in together about 11 months ago. At the time she had no one else to move in with and I felt kind of pressured without her actually asking and I ended up asking her to move in with me. I also got the impression she was doing it because some of her friends were moving in with their partners and so forth, I did bring this up at the time. When we were discussing moving in together I raised the issue that she does not earn much money and has a lot of credit card debt and a car loan, so I did not want her relying on me for money.

Since we've moved in we generally we get along well, not much fighting. There have been a few issues, mainly surrounding "give and take" e.g. I felt like I was supporting her a lot and she did very little for me in return. I feel like the situation has improved somewhat but still not quite where I'd like it to be.

I've never been quite sure whether I'd like to be with this girl forever, there are a few things I'm not sure about. I don't know whether I'm being nit-picky or whether I should be genuinely concerned e.g. she seems very quick to judge some people, quite anti-intellectual at times and very immature with money.

In addition to all that, I don't know what I want from her. I really really enjoyed the freedom of being single prior to being with her.

In the last couple of days I decided it'd be nice to move out to my own place when our lease is up (in about 5 weeks). Not surprisingly, she is very upset about it. I'm looking for a bit of clarity on whether it's worth trying to get over these issues or if it's better to cut my losses? I'd appreciate any insight you guys could offer!
user
Have a few issues with my gf, I asked to move to separate places. Not sure if I should keep going or end it.
assistant