My co-worker is a very proud, grumpy and conceited older woman (in her 50s). She's the kind of person who complains about everyone and thinks her shit doesn't stink. She's also higher ranking than me as the senior on the team. She's very brash and doesn't really know how to be tactful even when it comes to simple communication issues. We all work from home, which means we're not in the same physical location. We do have phone meetings but most of these issues are outside of meetings.

Most of the problems are via e-mail or instant messenger. Keep in mind that we all hate to talk on the phone (her especially) and our job makes it difficult to always pick up the phone whenever we need to communicate because there's constant communicating going on while we're trying to actually work.

The issue is that she knows she has these problems. She's been reprimanded several times through the years for this. Several people have quit working with her because of these issues. I figured I was tough enough but the reality is it's difficult to work with her and even more difficult to approach her about these difficulties.

Basically her communication problems can be summed up: 1) she writes short, cryptic responses that are often condescending, 2) she doesn't ever *directly* answer a question, 3) she doesn't answer *all* questions or address everything that's been brought up, and 4) her grammar is a mess.

She's the kind of person that if I were to point out any of these items to her, she would make up some excuse as to why it's *my* fault and why *she's* perfect. I don't want to go to the manager until I've tried to rectify this situation between ourselves.

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My co-worker is a very proud, grumpy and conceited older woman (in her 50s). She's the kind of person who complains about everyone and thinks her shit doesn't stink. She's also higher ranking than me as the senior on the team. She's very brash and doesn't really know how to be tactful even when it comes to simple communication issues. We all work from home, which means we're not in the same physical location. We do have phone meetings but most of these issues are outside of meetings.

Most of the problems are via e-mail or instant messenger. Keep in mind that we all hate to talk on the phone (her especially) and our job makes it difficult to always pick up the phone whenever we need to communicate because there's constant communicating going on while we're trying to actually work.

The issue is that she knows she has these problems. She's been reprimanded several times through the years for this. Several people have quit working with her because of these issues. I figured I was tough enough but the reality is it's difficult to work with her and even more difficult to approach her about these difficulties.

Basically her communication problems can be summed up: 1) she writes short, cryptic responses that are often condescending, 2) she doesn't ever *directly* answer a question, 3) she doesn't answer *all* questions or address everything that's been brought up, and 4) her grammar is a mess.

She's the kind of person that if I were to point out any of these items to her, she would make up some excuse as to why it's *my* fault and why *she's* perfect. I don't want to go to the manager until I've tried to rectify this situation between ourselves.

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