Her: A recent graduate from a nursing school. She lives in Brazil and has zero interest in moving to the US. On a gap year before starting a masters in nursing, hopes to work in geriatrics.

Me: A returning student applying to transfer to four year schools from community college. I want to be a researching math professor. I'm extremely ambitious and hard working when it comes to academics. It's my top priority and I've already sacrificed a lot just to have a shot at the places I'm applying to. I have family in Brazil.

I met her once in Brazil when I was visiting several years ago. We started talking about seven months ago, quickly realized we really liked each other, started chatting all day and eventually skyping, and feelings developed. The other day she told me she loved me, which no girl has ever said to me before. However, there's really no long term plan. Moving to Brazil would almost certainly kill my career dreams and moving to the US is also too big a sacrifice for her to make. I'm not ok with this, especially since at the moment we are both on pretty limited incomes so visiting would be extremely difficult.

I told her I wasn't ok with being in a LDR with no plan. Twice we went for the 'let's be friends' option and it really didn't work out. We probably discussed how this wasn't working for me every day for the past two weeks. Last night I told her I thought we shouldn't talk anymore. She said she didn't agree but understood and respected the choice.

Today I feel just terrible. I miss her so much. She really is my best friend and I'm so excited when I get a message from her or a little video blog, or I send her one, or we talk by skype. She messaged me saying this was a terrible idea and she didn't want to give up on us. I'm really new to relationships and while this might seem like something a 26 year old guy should know I'm not really sure what to do or how to feel about it. It seems so cruel to just ignore her, but am I right in thinking I should?
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I'm a returning student from community college. She's a recent graduate from nursing school. We met 7 months ago and fell in love. We were talking until this past week when I told her I didn't want to be in a LDR. She said she didn't agree but understood and respected my choice. Today I feel
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Her: A recent graduate from a nursing school. She lives in Brazil and has zero interest in moving to the US. On a gap year before starting a masters in nursing, hopes to work in geriatrics.

Me: A returning student applying to transfer to four year schools from community college. I want to be a researching math professor. I'm extremely ambitious and hard working when it comes to academics. It's my top priority and I've already sacrificed a lot just to have a shot at the places I'm applying to. I have family in Brazil.

I met her once in Brazil when I was visiting several years ago. We started talking about seven months ago, quickly realized we really liked each other, started chatting all day and eventually skyping, and feelings developed. The other day she told me she loved me, which no girl has ever said to me before. However, there's really no long term plan. Moving to Brazil would almost certainly kill my career dreams and moving to the US is also too big a sacrifice for her to make. I'm not ok with this, especially since at the moment we are both on pretty limited incomes so visiting would be extremely difficult.

I told her I wasn't ok with being in a LDR with no plan. Twice we went for the 'let's be friends' option and it really didn't work out. We probably discussed how this wasn't working for me every day for the past two weeks. Last night I told her I thought we shouldn't talk anymore. She said she didn't agree but understood and respected the choice.

Today I feel just terrible. I miss her so much. She really is my best friend and I'm so excited when I get a message from her or a little video blog, or I send her one, or we talk by skype. She messaged me saying this was a terrible idea and she didn't want to give up on us. I'm really new to relationships and while this might seem like something a 26 year old guy should know I'm not really sure what to do or how to feel about it. It seems so cruel to just ignore her, but am I right in thinking I should?
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Broke up with long distance love interest, but should I talk to her even though she really just wants to right the ship?
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