I’m a 19yo female. I’ve been in a relationship with my best friend (20M) for 3 1/2 years. Its been a long 3 years, don’t want to bore anyone with the details, but we both suffer from crippling panic disorders, and it puts a lot of strain on the relationship, but is also so helpful in dealing with the anxiety. When I’m stressed I have a tendency to feel alone and isolated and having him there is really important. When he gets stressed, he feels overwhelmed and he retreats into isolation.

Lately we’ve both been under a lot of pressure, and he’s twice as distant as usual, and I’m twice as clingy as usual. I’ve told him in every way I can that the lack of intimacy and romance feels neglectful, and he doesn’t seem to get it. I feel like I’ve tried everything. I even went full Linda Belcher and wrote out romantic activities in little envelopes. He hasn’t opened one. Instead of getting upset, I wrote a letter detailing what I was feeling. I gave it to him a week ago, and he hasn’t even mentioned it. It seems like the more I try the more I push him away.

I adore him more than anything, but I feel like this isn’t the same person who was so desperately in love with me at first. Does this mark the end of the honeymoon phase? I feel like I’m too young to be settling into what feels more like a doomed marriage than a college relationship.
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Boyfriend of 3 1/2 years is becoming distant and I feel like its the end
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I’m a 19yo female. I’ve been in a relationship with my best friend (20M) for 3 1/2 years. Its been a long 3 years, don’t want to bore anyone with the details, but we both suffer from crippling panic disorders, and it puts a lot of strain on the relationship, but is also so helpful in dealing with the anxiety. When I’m stressed I have a tendency to feel alone and isolated and having him there is really important. When he gets stressed, he feels overwhelmed and he retreats into isolation.

Lately we’ve both been under a lot of pressure, and he’s twice as distant as usual, and I’m twice as clingy as usual. I’ve told him in every way I can that the lack of intimacy and romance feels neglectful, and he doesn’t seem to get it. I feel like I’ve tried everything. I even went full Linda Belcher and wrote out romantic activities in little envelopes. He hasn’t opened one. Instead of getting upset, I wrote a letter detailing what I was feeling. I gave it to him a week ago, and he hasn’t even mentioned it. It seems like the more I try the more I push him away.

I adore him more than anything, but I feel like this isn’t the same person who was so desperately in love with me at first. Does this mark the end of the honeymoon phase? I feel like I’m too young to be settling into what feels more like a doomed marriage than a college relationship.
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Is it unethical to rely so heavily on someone else for stress relief? Am I
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