I’ve been active all my life, playing multiple sports, but the past few years I focused on running. My boyfriend is a long distance runner and takes good care of himself. Last January I got injured and couldn’t run for a while. The physiotherapist suggested going to the gym to train my core and back muscles. It turned out I looove lifting weights. I feel so badass doing overhead presses, and feeling badass makes me incredibly happy.

I’ve always been slim, especially my upper body. Since I started going to the gym, I’ve gained 4kg muscle weight. Which is most clear on my upper body. I’m not small anymore, but I’m by no means broad. My boyfriend says I’m gaining too much muscle, and that he doesn’t find muscular woman attractive. He says he still thinks I’m beautiful, but he also that how I look now is kind of the limit of what he finds attractive.

Now I’m not sure what to do. I know you can’t change what you find attractive. If he would gain weight in fat, I wouldn’t find him that attractive anymore. But I love going to the gym, I love heavy weightlifting. I don’t go to the gym to change my body, I go to the gym to challenge and push myself. I go weight lifting because it makes me feel so good and I truly like getting stronger every week. I know I've gained muscle mass, and I don't necessarily think it looks good on me, but it kind of cool since it's a result of getting stronger. I don’t want to give up my new found hobby, but I also want my BF to find me attractive. He would never ask me to stop weight lifting, but brings my muscles up every week. Should I stop going to the gym? What to do?
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I’m getting too strong and my boyfriend
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I’ve been active all my life, playing multiple sports, but the past few years I focused on running. My boyfriend is a long distance runner and takes good care of himself. Last January I got injured and couldn’t run for a while. The physiotherapist suggested going to the gym to train my core and back muscles. It turned out I looove lifting weights. I feel so badass doing overhead presses, and feeling badass makes me incredibly happy.

I’ve always been slim, especially my upper body. Since I started going to the gym, I’ve gained 4kg muscle weight. Which is most clear on my upper body. I’m not small anymore, but I’m by no means broad. My boyfriend says I’m gaining too much muscle, and that he doesn’t find muscular woman attractive. He says he still thinks I’m beautiful, but he also that how I look now is kind of the limit of what he finds attractive.

Now I’m not sure what to do. I know you can’t change what you find attractive. If he would gain weight in fat, I wouldn’t find him that attractive anymore. But I love going to the gym, I love heavy weightlifting. I don’t go to the gym to change my body, I go to the gym to challenge and push myself. I go weight lifting because it makes me feel so good and I truly like getting stronger every week. I know I've gained muscle mass, and I don't necessarily think it looks good on me, but it kind of cool since it's a result of getting stronger. I don’t want to give up my new found hobby, but I also want my BF to find me attractive. He would never ask me to stop weight lifting, but brings my muscles up every week. Should I stop going to the gym? What to do?
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I've gained a lot of muscle and
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