I had a rough weekend. Nothing to really complain about, but aggravating. Dogs having seizures, roommate smelling like rotting flesh, and some minor inconveniences. Girlfriend and I get in a dumb argument about Halloween plans of all things. I get overly defensive about some things, make myself have a timeout and get over it and talk to her like an adult, problem solved.

This morning while sitting on the train I realized that while I have always been told that I'm empathetic and kind-hearted, there are times when I am not. I realize this is normal for everyone, but when it comes to relationships, until I started dating my current girlfriend, there was little to no sympathy or remorse for previous relationships that did not work out. 

For example, I had a high school sweetheart that was very good to me. I broke my back and she not only came to the hospital, but nearly every day in my recovery to bring me books to read. I was bitter and angry all the time, but she suffered through it. After my recovery she broke up with me and I was crushed. A few years later (after I recovered emotionally from the accident), she suggested we go out. I shut her down so fast and hard I think I gave myself whiplash. I refused to forgive her despite knowing better.

Today I decided to be better. I've apologized to the people I have abandoned in the past but I did it with an empty heart and void of true intention. I realized that regardless of how kind I am, how I treat people that I have known and loved for years is the true reflection of my character. To wrap up my long-winded introduction... What self realizations have lead you to change, Reddit?
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I realized I'm a douchebag to past
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I had a rough weekend. Nothing to really complain about, but aggravating. Dogs having seizures, roommate smelling like rotting flesh, and some minor inconveniences. Girlfriend and I get in a dumb argument about Halloween plans of all things. I get overly defensive about some things, make myself have a timeout and get over it and talk to her like an adult, problem solved.

This morning while sitting on the train I realized that while I have always been told that I'm empathetic and kind-hearted, there are times when I am not. I realize this is normal for everyone, but when it comes to relationships, until I started dating my current girlfriend, there was little to no sympathy or remorse for previous relationships that did not work out. 

For example, I had a high school sweetheart that was very good to me. I broke my back and she not only came to the hospital, but nearly every day in my recovery to bring me books to read. I was bitter and angry all the time, but she suffered through it. After my recovery she broke up with me and I was crushed. A few years later (after I recovered emotionally from the accident), she suggested we go out. I shut her down so fast and hard I think I gave myself whiplash. I refused to forgive her despite knowing better.

Today I decided to be better. I've apologized to the people I have abandoned in the past but I did it with an empty heart and void of true intention. I realized that regardless of how kind I am, how I treat people that I have known and loved for years is the true reflection of my character. To wrap up my long-winded introduction... What self realizations have lead you to change, Reddit?
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Had a rough weekend. Had a shitty
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