This is an awkward position for me to be in. My boyfriend was out of town for the past few days for a convention and was supposed to be back this afternoon. I tried to text / call a few times and got no response. By the time it got to about 4 hours after he normally gets home, I started getting worried.

I know he carpools to the convention with a female friend, whose number I do not have, so I opted to try to look at her Facebook messages between him to see if her phone number was in there. She lives about 30 minutes away, so I figured if he had dropped her off she could at least tell me when. By now I thought he had been in a car accident.

However, when I opened the messages I noticed only a few between them from the day he left, just simple stuff about packing and him telling her he was on his way. But ... I know they've talked on FB messages before, I've seen them.

Shortly after this he finally called me back and told me he was roughly half an hour away ... so he pretty much just dropped her off. He said he went out to lunch with some of the others and they spent a couple of hours there, and he had forgotten his phone in the car. (Not unlike him to take forever to respond to texts or leave his phone places.)

I don't know how to bring this up without looking like I tried to snoop. Before this I never would have thought to check his messages but now I feel sick.

Do I confront him? Do I keep an eye on the messages until I see if there's anything actually going on? I could just be crazy; he could have deleted them for some other reason, I have no clue.
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Boyfriend deleted FB messages between him and a female friend; do I confront him? Is
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This is an awkward position for me to be in. My boyfriend was out of town for the past few days for a convention and was supposed to be back this afternoon. I tried to text / call a few times and got no response. By the time it got to about 4 hours after he normally gets home, I started getting worried.

I know he carpools to the convention with a female friend, whose number I do not have, so I opted to try to look at her Facebook messages between him to see if her phone number was in there. She lives about 30 minutes away, so I figured if he had dropped her off she could at least tell me when. By now I thought he had been in a car accident.

However, when I opened the messages I noticed only a few between them from the day he left, just simple stuff about packing and him telling her he was on his way. But ... I know they've talked on FB messages before, I've seen them.

Shortly after this he finally called me back and told me he was roughly half an hour away ... so he pretty much just dropped her off. He said he went out to lunch with some of the others and they spent a couple of hours there, and he had forgotten his phone in the car. (Not unlike him to take forever to respond to texts or leave his phone places.)

I don't know how to bring this up without looking like I tried to snoop. Before this I never would have thought to check his messages but now I feel sick.

Do I confront him? Do I keep an eye on the messages until I see if there's anything actually going on? I could just be crazy; he could have deleted them for some other reason, I have no clue.
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Boyfriend (26M) of several years deleted Facebook messages between himself & a female friend (26F).
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