I have been seeing a girl for 9 months who at first seemed really likeable, laid back, logical and definitely the sort of person I could see myself being with for a long time. In the initial few months, we became very close very quickly and all my friends became her friends. Over time though she has seemed to transform into a (jealous, needy, hypocritical, bitchy) totally different person. I still think she is a great girl but every little thing she does wrong gets to me so much. I just can't see myself putting up with it 10 years down the track. I am not attracted to her like I used to be either.

Am I an asshole for going in head first and now deciding that it is not something I wish to continue? There are all sorts of other problems, like the fact she doesn't trust me because of the very slight reputation I had when we met (what single guy doesn't sleep around a bit??), so I have no relationships with any other girls and travelling by myself is off the cards. I am struggling because I need to end it but we have become so codependent I keep convincing myself to just keep trying, but as time goes on I am just becoming colder and colder towards her, seeing more and more flaws and being angry at her probably more than is necessary. I'm also so mad that I've let her infiltrate my entire group of friends to the point where she is living with them.

Sorry for the long post.
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I'm now getting extremely attached to an
assistant
I have been seeing a girl for 9 months who at first seemed really likeable, laid back, logical and definitely the sort of person I could see myself being with for a long time. In the initial few months, we became very close very quickly and all my friends became her friends. Over time though she has seemed to transform into a (jealous, needy, hypocritical, bitchy) totally different person. I still think she is a great girl but every little thing she does wrong gets to me so much. I just can't see myself putting up with it 10 years down the track. I am not attracted to her like I used to be either.

Am I an asshole for going in head first and now deciding that it is not something I wish to continue? There are all sorts of other problems, like the fact she doesn't trust me because of the very slight reputation I had when we met (what single guy doesn't sleep around a bit??), so I have no relationships with any other girls and travelling by myself is off the cards. I am struggling because I need to end it but we have become so codependent I keep convincing myself to just keep trying, but as time goes on I am just becoming colder and colder towards her, seeing more and more flaws and being angry at her probably more than is necessary. I'm also so mad that I've let her infiltrate my entire group of friends to the point where she is living with them.

Sorry for the long post.
user
I am not attracted to my girlfriend
assistant