I've been with my boyfriend (let's call him J) for about 5 months, not very long. We get along great and have had hardly any issues, when we were in school there was a mutual friend of ours (closer to me) who we'll call H (m18). H started to develop feelings for me a couple months ago and J told me. H never told me directly but I got hints because he would flirt a lot and I let him know that J and I were not comfortable with this and I just wanted to remain friends. H got mad at J because he was jealous and they havent really been friends since. H is still my friend so I wanted to hang with him like I do my other friends but I always got the feeling that J wouldnt feel comfortable with this. I told J today that I wanted to hang with H because we were still friends and that I understood if he wasnt comfortable with me doing this and that if he wasnt I wouldnt go. He responded in text saying to go ahead and when I asked if he was sure he just replied "ya". So what im asking you all is if me hanging with H sounds like its unreasonable considering the past even though I dont return his feelings and if this would be and issue if you were in J's place.
user
I want to hang with a friend who used to have feelings for me but I dont know if this would be an issue with my boyfriend even though I asked permission. I dont want
assistant
I've been with my boyfriend (let's call him J) for about 5 months, not very long. We get along great and have had hardly any issues, when we were in school there was a mutual friend of ours (closer to me) who we'll call H (m18). H started to develop feelings for me a couple months ago and J told me. H never told me directly but I got hints because he would flirt a lot and I let him know that J and I were not comfortable with this and I just wanted to remain friends. H got mad at J because he was jealous and they havent really been friends since. H is still my friend so I wanted to hang with him like I do my other friends but I always got the feeling that J wouldnt feel comfortable with this. I told J today that I wanted to hang with H because we were still friends and that I understood if he wasnt comfortable with me doing this and that if he wasnt I wouldnt go. He responded in text saying to go ahead and when I asked if he was sure he just replied "ya". So what im asking you all is if me hanging with H sounds like its unreasonable considering the past even though I dont return his feelings and if this would be and issue if you were in J's place.
user
would hanging with my friend from school be an issue if you were in his place?
assistant