My husband suffered from depression a few years ago before we met and he actually was baker acted a few times. In the time we've been together he says his symptoms have subsided and against my protests, he decided to stop taking his anti depressants. 

He moved for a new job and I'm supposed to move after I complete my studies this summer. We have an unplanned pregnancy that we discussed extensively and decided to keep and raise together.

One time I was rushed to the emergency room for a bleed and rapid heart rate. He was not very supportive about it and so I have started to consider the option I may be raising the baby alone.

This morning he sent me a text that said he had his own trip to the ER last night and that I "couldn't do anything about it" cause I "wasn't physically there." He doesn't communicate any of this with me and it sounded more like an accusation to make a point that I shouldn't have been upset with him when he wasn't there for me in the ER.

My question is, how do I continue to be loving and kind to him when he shuts me out and doesn't tell me anything?? It's so stressful worrying about him. I've told him that I'm here for him if he needs anything. I've offered to drive to him and be physically there if that's what he needs. I can't help but feel guilty or even selfish because I want him to let me help him and I'm the one getting frustrated and feeling ignored.
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my husband is depressed and I
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My husband suffered from depression a few years ago before we met and he actually was baker acted a few times. In the time we've been together he says his symptoms have subsided and against my protests, he decided to stop taking his anti depressants. 

He moved for a new job and I'm supposed to move after I complete my studies this summer. We have an unplanned pregnancy that we discussed extensively and decided to keep and raise together.

One time I was rushed to the emergency room for a bleed and rapid heart rate. He was not very supportive about it and so I have started to consider the option I may be raising the baby alone.

This morning he sent me a text that said he had his own trip to the ER last night and that I "couldn't do anything about it" cause I "wasn't physically there." He doesn't communicate any of this with me and it sounded more like an accusation to make a point that I shouldn't have been upset with him when he wasn't there for me in the ER.

My question is, how do I continue to be loving and kind to him when he shuts me out and doesn't tell me anything?? It's so stressful worrying about him. I've told him that I'm here for him if he needs anything. I've offered to drive to him and be physically there if that's what he needs. I can't help but feel guilty or even selfish because I want him to let me help him and I'm the one getting frustrated and feeling ignored.
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how can I be supportive to
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