Every single day I when I get home I have a pile of problems waiting for me in the form of my girlfriend. She is unable to handle anything by herself and is in constant drama with her family/customer service/the landlord/ the neighbors/her car/ the tv/etc

She is constantly asking for help yet doesn't take any advice I give her. I've heard the adage that women don't want solutions they just want to be heard. thats an immature bullshit excuse for being either lazy or whiny. If I offer a solution (regardless if she acts on it) the talking about the god damn problem should stop. It warrants no more discussion. We're not talking about life changing problems were talking about inconsequential bull shit from the mind of an unemployed house wife.

For example: I come home, she says the sinks leaking, I tell her to call the landlord. Now we need to talk about incompetent the landlord is and how it won't get done even if she calls him. even after I end up calling him myself the conversation has to continue. The landlord sucks, he never fixed this or that on and on until I consider killing myself just to escape the inane conversation.

And god forbid I ask her for help here come the legion of sighs and complaints. even when I have a genuine issue I need help with.

Example: My job has me leaving for Minnesota on short notice, I ask her to please help me pack and take me to the airport (which is 20 min away). I get help but not without a laundry list of complaints and statement of why she can't help cause she is busy with whatever BS excuse she can come up with.

it's got to the point where I don't ask her for anything and never invite her anywhere because I can't trust that she won't cause some kind of scene or make my life more difficult.

/r/relationships usual solution is to talk to the person, but that hasn't worked. I need behavioral modifications I can put into place.
user
Girlfriend is always complaining and demanding solutions. I doubt any of us are actually unhappy. she is lazy and whiny. I need a solution to her
assistant
Every single day I when I get home I have a pile of problems waiting for me in the form of my girlfriend. She is unable to handle anything by herself and is in constant drama with her family/customer service/the landlord/ the neighbors/her car/ the tv/etc

She is constantly asking for help yet doesn't take any advice I give her. I've heard the adage that women don't want solutions they just want to be heard. thats an immature bullshit excuse for being either lazy or whiny. If I offer a solution (regardless if she acts on it) the talking about the god damn problem should stop. It warrants no more discussion. We're not talking about life changing problems were talking about inconsequential bull shit from the mind of an unemployed house wife.

For example: I come home, she says the sinks leaking, I tell her to call the landlord. Now we need to talk about incompetent the landlord is and how it won't get done even if she calls him. even after I end up calling him myself the conversation has to continue. The landlord sucks, he never fixed this or that on and on until I consider killing myself just to escape the inane conversation.

And god forbid I ask her for help here come the legion of sighs and complaints. even when I have a genuine issue I need help with.

Example: My job has me leaving for Minnesota on short notice, I ask her to please help me pack and take me to the airport (which is 20 min away). I get help but not without a laundry list of complaints and statement of why she can't help cause she is busy with whatever BS excuse she can come up with.

it's got to the point where I don't ask her for anything and never invite her anywhere because I can't trust that she won't cause some kind of scene or make my life more difficult.

/r/relationships usual solution is to talk to the person, but that hasn't worked. I need behavioral modifications I can put into place.
user
Gf cant handle a problem, always needs something to justify her actions and its ruining our relationship.
assistant