I've always been the kind of person who doesn't like talking about myself with people I don't know really well. If a co-worker asks me if I did anything the weekend before, I'll probably say something along the lines of "not really," unless I went to a concert or went on a road trip, or something g equally exciting. Sometimes it's because I forgot that anything happened. (I'm a HUGE airhead.) Sometimes it's because I get anxious and answer on auto-pilot. Sometimes, because of the whole airhead with anxiety thing, I have to take a second to remember and that takes too long for conversation with anyone who's not a close friend.

Alternatively, I like forming friendships over common interests, and through in-depth conversations. I could talk about one episode of a tv show for half an hour and not get bored. If I like a song on the radio, I'll try addressing what it is about the song that I like (ie: rhythm, instrument tone, lyrics...) Its through these really specialized conversations, that I grow to trust people. It's through many of these conversations, that I feel comfortable telling someone that I sat outside and drew with chalk, or that I had six margaritas at dinner the night before. More or less, I need to share ideas with a person, before I share what I did in the physical world.

The problem: is that apparently it's weird to be so mysterious about myself. People assume I don't want to talk to them or get to know them and give up. That's quite the opposite: I DO want to get to know people, it just takes longer than they want. 

I'm American born and raised, but it seems, based on my readings, that I don't socialize like an American. But then I have I ask do I socialize in a manner that's socially acceptable in any country? I don't fucking know.
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I'd rather talk
assistant
I've always been the kind of person who doesn't like talking about myself with people I don't know really well. If a co-worker asks me if I did anything the weekend before, I'll probably say something along the lines of "not really," unless I went to a concert or went on a road trip, or something g equally exciting. Sometimes it's because I forgot that anything happened. (I'm a HUGE airhead.) Sometimes it's because I get anxious and answer on auto-pilot. Sometimes, because of the whole airhead with anxiety thing, I have to take a second to remember and that takes too long for conversation with anyone who's not a close friend.

Alternatively, I like forming friendships over common interests, and through in-depth conversations. I could talk about one episode of a tv show for half an hour and not get bored. If I like a song on the radio, I'll try addressing what it is about the song that I like (ie: rhythm, instrument tone, lyrics...) Its through these really specialized conversations, that I grow to trust people. It's through many of these conversations, that I feel comfortable telling someone that I sat outside and drew with chalk, or that I had six margaritas at dinner the night before. More or less, I need to share ideas with a person, before I share what I did in the physical world.

The problem: is that apparently it's weird to be so mysterious about myself. People assume I don't want to talk to them or get to know them and give up. That's quite the opposite: I DO want to get to know people, it just takes longer than they want. 

I'm American born and raised, but it seems, based on my readings, that I don't socialize like an American. But then I have I ask do I socialize in a manner that's socially acceptable in any country? I don't fucking know.
user
I like listening
assistant