So this evening I'm going to be having a discussion with this guy; let's call him Pat, (who is my flatmate/roommate) about his desire to move out and move in with his boyfriend, let's call him Roy. This has stemmed out of a desire to save money in an expensive city as well as spend more time with his boyfriend (which I totally understand).

I've taken on the role of flat dad and as a result am usually the one who reminds people that they have chores to do / when they're cooking / etc. Over the last month Pat has been spending more and more time over at his boyfriends place and has taken offense to my reminders to do his part around the house. This culminated a few days ago in his desire to move out and move in with his boyfriend. The problem has been a complete lack of communication from Pat, with whom I consider myself to be good friends.

Just yesterday two other mutual friends have met up with Pat and Roy together and seen that Roy has been badmouthing me relentlessly as well as encouraging Pat to move in with him. The two mutual friends have also noticed that a lot of Pat's original personality is being actively suppressed by Roy (passing Pat's legitimate creative pursuits off as "fads that'll disappear soon", encouraging unhealthy eating, and using emotion-heavy tactics to force Pat to agree with him). 

The mutual friends both came out and discussed this with me saying that Roy appears to be making the small flatting disagreement into a much larger issue than it really is and appears to be trying to force some kind of conflict between Pat and I. I don't understand what Roy is trying to do...but it's making life difficult between Pat and I. Both the mutual friends expressed concern over Roy emotionally manipulating Pat (who is an incredibly kind, sweet, generous guy).

Tonight I'm going to have a discussion with Pat about him wanting to move out, but after that is finished, I want to have a chat with just him about how he feels about his relationship. I'm really worried about him.
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Friend wants to move out and move in with his boyfriend. I'm worried he's being emotionally manipulated by the boyfriend and
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So this evening I'm going to be having a discussion with this guy; let's call him Pat, (who is my flatmate/roommate) about his desire to move out and move in with his boyfriend, let's call him Roy. This has stemmed out of a desire to save money in an expensive city as well as spend more time with his boyfriend (which I totally understand).

I've taken on the role of flat dad and as a result am usually the one who reminds people that they have chores to do / when they're cooking / etc. Over the last month Pat has been spending more and more time over at his boyfriends place and has taken offense to my reminders to do his part around the house. This culminated a few days ago in his desire to move out and move in with his boyfriend. The problem has been a complete lack of communication from Pat, with whom I consider myself to be good friends.

Just yesterday two other mutual friends have met up with Pat and Roy together and seen that Roy has been badmouthing me relentlessly as well as encouraging Pat to move in with him. The two mutual friends have also noticed that a lot of Pat's original personality is being actively suppressed by Roy (passing Pat's legitimate creative pursuits off as "fads that'll disappear soon", encouraging unhealthy eating, and using emotion-heavy tactics to force Pat to agree with him). 

The mutual friends both came out and discussed this with me saying that Roy appears to be making the small flatting disagreement into a much larger issue than it really is and appears to be trying to force some kind of conflict between Pat and I. I don't understand what Roy is trying to do...but it's making life difficult between Pat and I. Both the mutual friends expressed concern over Roy emotionally manipulating Pat (who is an incredibly kind, sweet, generous guy).

Tonight I'm going to have a discussion with Pat about him wanting to move out, but after that is finished, I want to have a chat with just him about how he feels about his relationship. I'm really worried about him.
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Mutual friends have noticed that my friend is being emotionally manipulated by his boyfriend; I don't know how to help. What
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