So, as per the title, my gf used to be a driving instructor, but after multiple rear end collisions she developed fibromyalgia and quit the business in July 2014. I agreed to support her for a few months until she could get some treatment and get back on her feet. At the time I was having chemotherapy for cancer, but still worked whenever possible to support us both. In October last year our landlord gave us notice to quit, leaving us to find another house with only one income. We managed to find one, but the rent went up by £100 a month, still all on my salary.

Now we're 14 months further down the line and despite her being somewhat better, she insists she cannot get a normal job, and instead wants to start her own business. I'm starting to feel resentful since I pay not only all the rent, but also all the bills, food, entertainment etc. She may, once in a while, use her disability money to pay a takeaway, or buy a few essentials at the shops, but that's it.

The business she wants to start is theater related, but right now, despite it being several months since she initiated it, all she has done is the fun stuff, writing scripts, doing makeup etc, which to me makes it seem more like a hobby than an actual business.

I want to buy a house rather than keep paying someone elses mortgage for them, but her dream was for us to buy one together, which is obviously not possible with no money or job, but she insists I should put the house in 50/50 ownership even though I will have to cover the entire deposit and all of the mortgage payments. I absolutely balked at the very idea.

If not for her disability, I would have addressed this months ago, but I feel like a bastard for bringing it up, but have had enough and don't think it impossible for her to at least get a part time job and work on her "business" in her spare time.

Reddit, am I being unreasonable here?
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So, as per the title, my gf used to be a driving instructor, but after multiple rear end collisions she developed fibromyalgia and quit the business in July 2014. I agreed to support her for a few months until she could get some treatment and get back on her feet. At the time I was having chemotherapy for cancer, but still worked whenever possible to support us both. In October last year our landlord gave us notice to quit, leaving us to find another house with only one income. We managed to find one, but the rent went up by £100 a month, still all on my salary.

Now we're 14 months further down the line and despite her being somewhat better, she insists she cannot get a normal job, and instead wants to start her own business. I'm starting to feel resentful since I pay not only all the rent, but also all the bills, food, entertainment etc. She may, once in a while, use her disability money to pay a takeaway, or buy a few essentials at the shops, but that's it.

The business she wants to start is theater related, but right now, despite it being several months since she initiated it, all she has done is the fun stuff, writing scripts, doing makeup etc, which to me makes it seem more like a hobby than an actual business.

I want to buy a house rather than keep paying someone elses mortgage for them, but her dream was for us to buy one together, which is obviously not possible with no money or job, but she insists I should put the house in 50/50 ownership even though I will have to cover the entire deposit and all of the mortgage payments. I absolutely balked at the very idea.

If not for her disability, I would have addressed this months ago, but I feel like a bastard for bringing it up, but have had enough and don't think it impossible for her to at least get a part time job and work on her "business" in her spare time.

Reddit, am I being unreasonable here?
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GF was disabled, wants to start business, I
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