We've been together for almost 2 years, and are making plans for moving in together, getting engaged, etc., etc.  
  
Due to our mutual career paths, I'm on track to be making CONSIDERABLY more money than she will. Which I'm 100% fine with, I knew that when we met, it's never been a problem for me, she loves what she does, and I would never, ever want her to work a job that makes her miserable solely to earn us more money.  
  
Last night we were talking about how stressed we are right now with our finances, and what we need to do financially, to take forward steps. The conversation, direct quotes:   
  
>"I'm aware that you're making about as much as you'll ever make, and that's fine. Nearly all of our financial future is my burden to carry. It's on my mind constantly, and it's scary."  
   
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>"Sorry. Didn't know I was a burden. Ouch."  
  
I certainly didn't mean that SHE is a burden, in hindsight I can see how it could read that way. Now she's just hurt and pissed and won't listen to me try to explain myself. I kept trying to explain, but she's so hung up on the word "burden." Later she said, "Please refrain from using the word burden when we're discussing my part in your future."  
  
I feel awful. But at the same time, the fact is, I do have the larger earning potential, and I'm fine with that...but sometimes I DO get overwhelmed, and I do think I should be able to talk to her about that. ESPECIALLY once we are living together/married and our finances are way more intertwined than they are now.  
  
I want to figure the money issue out sooner rather than later...before it becomes a huge issue. I need to apologize AND have a constructive conversation about our money/finances in the future.
user
Might have insinuated that my girlfriend is a burden due to our
assistant
We've been together for almost 2 years, and are making plans for moving in together, getting engaged, etc., etc.  
  
Due to our mutual career paths, I'm on track to be making CONSIDERABLY more money than she will. Which I'm 100% fine with, I knew that when we met, it's never been a problem for me, she loves what she does, and I would never, ever want her to work a job that makes her miserable solely to earn us more money.  
  
Last night we were talking about how stressed we are right now with our finances, and what we need to do financially, to take forward steps. The conversation, direct quotes:   
  
>"I'm aware that you're making about as much as you'll ever make, and that's fine. Nearly all of our financial future is my burden to carry. It's on my mind constantly, and it's scary."  
   
.  
>"Sorry. Didn't know I was a burden. Ouch."  
  
I certainly didn't mean that SHE is a burden, in hindsight I can see how it could read that way. Now she's just hurt and pissed and won't listen to me try to explain myself. I kept trying to explain, but she's so hung up on the word "burden." Later she said, "Please refrain from using the word burden when we're discussing my part in your future."  
  
I feel awful. But at the same time, the fact is, I do have the larger earning potential, and I'm fine with that...but sometimes I DO get overwhelmed, and I do think I should be able to talk to her about that. ESPECIALLY once we are living together/married and our finances are way more intertwined than they are now.  
  
I want to figure the money issue out sooner rather than later...before it becomes a huge issue. I need to apologize AND have a constructive conversation about our money/finances in the future.
user
might have implied that girlfriend is a burden due to our financial
assistant