I moved to a new city a few months ago and ended up moving in with two other women around my age who I had never met before. Not knowing anyone yet, I initially accepted any invitation to go out with both of them.

In some ways I think this has backfired. While I'm more interested in having a somewhat detached, do my own thing kind of thing roommate relationship, one of them now wants to be my best friend. I don't mind listening to her vent about her life, but I'm kind of a quiet and secretive person about my personal life and don't care to share very much. She regularly asks me personal questions about my romantic life, asks where I'm going every time I leave the house, texts me if I'm not home after a certain hour to see if I'm okay, etc. I was on a date recently and around midnight received a frantic phone call from her that she hadn't seen me all day. If I leave the house to meet friends or even just run errands I get a "so where are you going!?!?"

How do I politely tell her to fuck off? I feel like her asking what I've been up to is just friendly and fair, but I also want to maintain boundaries. Suggestions?
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roommate wants to be my best friend, I'm not sure how
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I moved to a new city a few months ago and ended up moving in with two other women around my age who I had never met before. Not knowing anyone yet, I initially accepted any invitation to go out with both of them.

In some ways I think this has backfired. While I'm more interested in having a somewhat detached, do my own thing kind of thing roommate relationship, one of them now wants to be my best friend. I don't mind listening to her vent about her life, but I'm kind of a quiet and secretive person about my personal life and don't care to share very much. She regularly asks me personal questions about my romantic life, asks where I'm going every time I leave the house, texts me if I'm not home after a certain hour to see if I'm okay, etc. I was on a date recently and around midnight received a frantic phone call from her that she hadn't seen me all day. If I leave the house to meet friends or even just run errands I get a "so where are you going!?!?"

How do I politely tell her to fuck off? I feel like her asking what I've been up to is just friendly and fair, but I also want to maintain boundaries. Suggestions?
user
my roommate wants to be my best friend, constantly asks about
assistant