My husband and I are high school sweethearts and best friends. We went through a lot of ups and downs, but stuck together through it all. It wasn't easy. Finally, in our late twenties, things started to click for us and it became easier. We got married, bought a house and have cute pets. We've always talked about whether we want kids, but we were both ambivalent as we were happy and focused on our careers. My husband has always said while he's not really keen on having kids he's open to it and would do it for me. 

Another thing to note is my work takes me abroad for long stretches (3-6 months) at a time. This has been regularly occurring for the 6 years. During this last stint, I decided I didn't want to be away from him anymore and want to start focusing on our lives together. We've been kind of putting our lives on hold until I got back.

I've been home for a month now and a few days ago, he tells me he's made a decision and is pretty sure he doesn't want kids. He doesn't want the responsibility. It was a kick in the gut. My plan was to finally come home, find another job that keeps me in the city and we could think about starting a family, but now that has been blown apart by his announcement. 

There were other issues he brought up, but the kids issue hurts the most. I don't know what to do. I'm 36 turning 37 soon and I don't have a lot of time left. I also don't want to start over with someone else. I love my husband. What should I do? What are my options? Should I stay? Go? Does anyone have any insight they want to share?
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I don't have a lot of time left and husband tells me he
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My husband and I are high school sweethearts and best friends. We went through a lot of ups and downs, but stuck together through it all. It wasn't easy. Finally, in our late twenties, things started to click for us and it became easier. We got married, bought a house and have cute pets. We've always talked about whether we want kids, but we were both ambivalent as we were happy and focused on our careers. My husband has always said while he's not really keen on having kids he's open to it and would do it for me. 

Another thing to note is my work takes me abroad for long stretches (3-6 months) at a time. This has been regularly occurring for the 6 years. During this last stint, I decided I didn't want to be away from him anymore and want to start focusing on our lives together. We've been kind of putting our lives on hold until I got back.

I've been home for a month now and a few days ago, he tells me he's made a decision and is pretty sure he doesn't want kids. He doesn't want the responsibility. It was a kick in the gut. My plan was to finally come home, find another job that keeps me in the city and we could think about starting a family, but now that has been blown apart by his announcement. 

There were other issues he brought up, but the kids issue hurts the most. I don't know what to do. I'm 36 turning 37 soon and I don't have a lot of time left. I also don't want to start over with someone else. I love my husband. What should I do? What are my options? Should I stay? Go? Does anyone have any insight they want to share?
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Husband says he doesn't want kids, I don't. What do?
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