My ex and I decided to live together even after being officially broken up 4 years ago because we were still able to accomplish our goals together very well.  Both parties were okay with having a relatively sexless yet emotionally fulfilling friendship, so at one time it worked well. I actually pushed for it, and selfishly dragged him back to me any time he expressed doubt about what we were doing. I have done many terrible things to damage our relationship, and deserve no sympathy. I have made attempts to distance myself, but every time I do, he tries to give me affection (hugs, cuddles, sweet things) and I fall back into a delusion that he still loves me more than one would a close friend. I just don't know what to do.

   We aren't in a financial spot to separate, I don't know how to get over him. I have zero interest in another relationship, over the years I have developed a bit of social anxiety and feel my libido is at rock bottom. He recently rekindled a friendship with an old elementary schoolmate, who has been mercilessly flirting with him in front of me (both before and after knowing the complications of our friendship) I want to say I don't care, but it hurts so much to watch. I realize it is unfair since on the books, we are friends.. I told him today and he just doesn't understand. He does not want a sexual relationship with her either, and feels like I'm trying to say he can never have female friends. It isn't that! I just need help before I do something stupid.. That's if he doesn't beat me to it first.
user
living with ex-boyfriend, have no interest in relationship, he has a best friend who is flirting with him, I don't want anything to do with her but I want to get over him.
assistant
My ex and I decided to live together even after being officially broken up 4 years ago because we were still able to accomplish our goals together very well.  Both parties were okay with having a relatively sexless yet emotionally fulfilling friendship, so at one time it worked well. I actually pushed for it, and selfishly dragged him back to me any time he expressed doubt about what we were doing. I have done many terrible things to damage our relationship, and deserve no sympathy. I have made attempts to distance myself, but every time I do, he tries to give me affection (hugs, cuddles, sweet things) and I fall back into a delusion that he still loves me more than one would a close friend. I just don't know what to do.

   We aren't in a financial spot to separate, I don't know how to get over him. I have zero interest in another relationship, over the years I have developed a bit of social anxiety and feel my libido is at rock bottom. He recently rekindled a friendship with an old elementary schoolmate, who has been mercilessly flirting with him in front of me (both before and after knowing the complications of our friendship) I want to say I don't care, but it hurts so much to watch. I realize it is unfair since on the books, we are friends.. I told him today and he just doesn't understand. He does not want a sexual relationship with her either, and feels like I'm trying to say he can never have female friends. It isn't that! I just need help before I do something stupid.. That's if he doesn't beat me to it first.
user
cannot get over 5yr relationship with exbf turned cuddly best friend i live with, although I did many things to ruin it, no possible way financially for either to leave. Only I am emotionally attached, old elementary school friend
assistant