I'll try to keep this short.

We've been together 7.5 years. For the first five years or so our sex life was great; not too frequent, but passionate and intense.

About two years ago I noticed that my girlfriend's sex drive sharply decreased.  We went from 2-3 times a week to maybe once a month.  In the years since I've been patient, but this has been difficult for me.

I've told myself that things will get better, that it's been a stressful time for us.  We spoke about the matter several times, and I've done my best to address the problem.

I've deferred my plans for working overseas.  I've worked to support us during these two years so she could focus on school.  II've tolerated the extremely religious part of her family that hates my guts.  I've planned trips and romantic dates.  And I've done it all with a smile because I love her.  She's my best friend.

But the lack of sex has gotten to me.  It's gotten to the point where every night feels like a rejection.  I've become resentful of every activity she suggests because I can't stop thinking "you have so much time and energy for this, but not for me?"

 We've been drinking a lot more. I haven't been comfortable with the amount, and I've just realized that I've gone along with it because for the past year the only times we've been intimate has been when we were drunk.  This makes me feel selfish and pathetic.

Last night she told me that she's just never thought of herself as a truly sexual person, and I fell apart.  I've been telling myself that it'll get better, that this is just a rough patch, but what if I'm wrong? What if these years of hope and sacrifice don't change a thing?

I love her more than anything, but I'm terrified of what my life might become.

If you made it through all this thank you.
user
My girlfriend's sex drive has dropped drastically and I feel like I'm wasting my time. I've been time and energy consuming myself so she can focus on school,
assistant
I'll try to keep this short.

We've been together 7.5 years. For the first five years or so our sex life was great; not too frequent, but passionate and intense.

About two years ago I noticed that my girlfriend's sex drive sharply decreased.  We went from 2-3 times a week to maybe once a month.  In the years since I've been patient, but this has been difficult for me.

I've told myself that things will get better, that it's been a stressful time for us.  We spoke about the matter several times, and I've done my best to address the problem.

I've deferred my plans for working overseas.  I've worked to support us during these two years so she could focus on school.  II've tolerated the extremely religious part of her family that hates my guts.  I've planned trips and romantic dates.  And I've done it all with a smile because I love her.  She's my best friend.

But the lack of sex has gotten to me.  It's gotten to the point where every night feels like a rejection.  I've become resentful of every activity she suggests because I can't stop thinking "you have so much time and energy for this, but not for me?"

 We've been drinking a lot more. I haven't been comfortable with the amount, and I've just realized that I've gone along with it because for the past year the only times we've been intimate has been when we were drunk.  This makes me feel selfish and pathetic.

Last night she told me that she's just never thought of herself as a truly sexual person, and I fell apart.  I've been telling myself that it'll get better, that this is just a rough patch, but what if I'm wrong? What if these years of hope and sacrifice don't change a thing?

I love her more than anything, but I'm terrified of what my life might become.

If you made it through all this thank you.
user
My girlfriend's sex drive has dropped to 0. I've tried to deal with it for months, but it's getting worse. It's ruining my life.
assistant