Long story short, my GF of about 8 months now (close for two years) broke up with me over the phone last night. After a bunch of cryptic "you're just not *the one*" & "I don't want to go into it", I finally got the reason from her. There's another guy she thinks she loves back home.

We live 4 hours away during the summer & both of us work full time jobs & have busy schedules outside of it. Unfortunately, that means I can't just drive over & talk to her about everything. There wasn't the slightest hint this was coming, even in hindsight & I'm just not sure what to do at this point.

If I didn't know there was someone else involved, I'd be OK just giving both of us time to think it over. I'd still want to save the relationship, but it wouldn't necessarily be something that needed to happen immediately.

Realistically though, I know with her interested in someone else, I don't exactly have much time. If they end up together, I'm not going to try to do anything to get between them. I'll still miss her & care for her deeply no matter what happens. But I'm hoping there's still a chance that she changes her mind & we end up working out.

I guess my question is this-what can/ should I do, if anything? She's told me there's nothing I did that made her come to this decision & that it's still the happiest she's ever been in a relationship. I believe her when she says that, so there's nothing I can set as a goal to "change". She said it's a large part due to just being away from me for so long. It's just tearing me up inside to know that the only thing keeping us apart is simply the fact that we're apart. Is there anything I can do to save this?
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Gf broke up with me, long
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Long story short, my GF of about 8 months now (close for two years) broke up with me over the phone last night. After a bunch of cryptic "you're just not *the one*" & "I don't want to go into it", I finally got the reason from her. There's another guy she thinks she loves back home.

We live 4 hours away during the summer & both of us work full time jobs & have busy schedules outside of it. Unfortunately, that means I can't just drive over & talk to her about everything. There wasn't the slightest hint this was coming, even in hindsight & I'm just not sure what to do at this point.

If I didn't know there was someone else involved, I'd be OK just giving both of us time to think it over. I'd still want to save the relationship, but it wouldn't necessarily be something that needed to happen immediately.

Realistically though, I know with her interested in someone else, I don't exactly have much time. If they end up together, I'm not going to try to do anything to get between them. I'll still miss her & care for her deeply no matter what happens. But I'm hoping there's still a chance that she changes her mind & we end up working out.

I guess my question is this-what can/ should I do, if anything? She's told me there's nothing I did that made her come to this decision & that it's still the happiest she's ever been in a relationship. I believe her when she says that, so there's nothing I can set as a goal to "change". She said it's a large part due to just being away from me for so long. It's just tearing me up inside to know that the only thing keeping us apart is simply the fact that we're apart. Is there anything I can do to save this?
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Gf broke up with me. No
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