My boyfriend and I have been together about a year and will be moving in together in a few months, we are both full-time students and I work 20 hours a week. About 2 months ago he got a second job and since has been working 60 hours a week, working doubles almost every day. I only get to see him for maybe about an hour between shifts and late at night right before we go to sleep - if he's not doing homework. 

I've expressed to him a couple times before how difficult its been not seeing each other as much as we used to. (We used to cook dinner together, have date nights, study sessions, etc.) He's expressed that it is difficult for him too, but this is something he *really* wants to do and that it will benefit us both in the future when he has extra money saved up and such. 

I am feeling very torn and uncertain about the situation. On the one hand I want him to reduce his hours so we can spend more time together - and so he's not as stressed out, but at the same time I don't want to interfere with him doing something he really wants to do, I don't want to be a controlling partner. I want to support him, but it is taking a toll on our relationship.
user
Boyfriend of a year started a second job and now we barely see each other. I'm torn between supporting his decision to work and save money and my needs in the relationship. Are there any compromises I may be missing? How
assistant
My boyfriend and I have been together about a year and will be moving in together in a few months, we are both full-time students and I work 20 hours a week. About 2 months ago he got a second job and since has been working 60 hours a week, working doubles almost every day. I only get to see him for maybe about an hour between shifts and late at night right before we go to sleep - if he's not doing homework. 

I've expressed to him a couple times before how difficult its been not seeing each other as much as we used to. (We used to cook dinner together, have date nights, study sessions, etc.) He's expressed that it is difficult for him too, but this is something he *really* wants to do and that it will benefit us both in the future when he has extra money saved up and such. 

I am feeling very torn and uncertain about the situation. On the one hand I want him to reduce his hours so we can spend more time together - and so he's not as stressed out, but at the same time I don't want to interfere with him doing something he really wants to do, I don't want to be a controlling partner. I want to support him, but it is taking a toll on our relationship.
user
My boyfriend is working 60+ hours a week and it's hurting us emotionally and physically, but he is very committed to his decision and is working to get his life together.
assistant