I've been with this girl for almost 4 years and things were pretty good for the most part.  We had ups and downs but we always worked through them.  

Now over the past year she has been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.  I'm not sure if the pain has always been bad, or if maybe it just got worse over the last year, but it has gotten to the point that she barely does anything, and requires me to do most things for her, because she just doesn't have the energy, or she hurts too bad.  She goes to work, but the moment she gets home she climbs into bed and just lays there.  Sometimes on her laptop, sometimes doing nothing.  

I really feel terrible for thinking this way, but I'm not sure I can handle this life.  I always considered a relationship to be a partnership of sorts and now, I've got no back up and no one to turn to when I need support because of her illness.  I want to be strong enough for her, but it's tearing me apart to not be able to rely on her.  I'm now turning to my friends for emotional support more often, and her almost not at all, because I don't want to put more stress on her while she's suffering, but this feels like the beginning of the end.  Am I a scum bag for not wanting this?  For just wanting a normal relationship?  Cause I feel like one.  I feel like my love should be enough to keep me with her and taking care of her.  I feel like a failure as a SO for not wanting to spend my life taking care of her.  What can I do at this point to try to salvage it?
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My GF has Fibromyalgia and it's destroying our relationship. I feel like a failure as a
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I've been with this girl for almost 4 years and things were pretty good for the most part.  We had ups and downs but we always worked through them.  

Now over the past year she has been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.  I'm not sure if the pain has always been bad, or if maybe it just got worse over the last year, but it has gotten to the point that she barely does anything, and requires me to do most things for her, because she just doesn't have the energy, or she hurts too bad.  She goes to work, but the moment she gets home she climbs into bed and just lays there.  Sometimes on her laptop, sometimes doing nothing.  

I really feel terrible for thinking this way, but I'm not sure I can handle this life.  I always considered a relationship to be a partnership of sorts and now, I've got no back up and no one to turn to when I need support because of her illness.  I want to be strong enough for her, but it's tearing me apart to not be able to rely on her.  I'm now turning to my friends for emotional support more often, and her almost not at all, because I don't want to put more stress on her while she's suffering, but this feels like the beginning of the end.  Am I a scum bag for not wanting this?  For just wanting a normal relationship?  Cause I feel like one.  I feel like my love should be enough to keep me with her and taking care of her.  I feel like a failure as a SO for not wanting to spend my life taking care of her.  What can I do at this point to try to salvage it?
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My gf was diagnosed with chronic pain and now I'm having to take care of her.
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