I dunno if this is the best place for it but I'm not sure what to do. They work as contractors and spend a lot of time apart and have had a semi tumultuous relationship the last few years between that, my younger sister causing trouble, and money. She's gonna try and get him into marriage counseling but it sounds like he's basically checked out and ready to leave. He told her that he was going to go file for divorce after he finished work today. He says that he just feels empty inside and that nothing matters anymore and he just wants out, and that's basically it. I can't get him to really talk to me.

If he leaves I'm about 99.9% positive she would just give up on life and be done. She considers him the love of her life and feels blindsided by all this, and with her health failing her and in all likelihood losing her home in the aftermath/not being able to afford everything by herself, I just. I don't know. She's had a very, very hard life and my Stepdad was basically what made her feel like things could be okay. She feels like there's just no respite in sight.

I just graduated college and moved out to California to look for work, and with my brother going to school out of state she basically lives alone out in the country and doesn't really have any support network, with either friends or family. I've been trying to tell her she needs to open up to somebody but she refuses divulge what's going on in her marriage because she says she would be absolutely humiliated and doesn't feel like anybody would care enough to stick around. And she doesn't want to go to like a women's support group or therapy because at this stage she doesn't even want to acknowledge it's happening or want a bunch of people sitting around going "Yep, mhmm. Your life is falling apart".

I don't know what the fuck I'm supposed to do. Do I go home? Christ.
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Stepdad wants
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I dunno if this is the best place for it but I'm not sure what to do. They work as contractors and spend a lot of time apart and have had a semi tumultuous relationship the last few years between that, my younger sister causing trouble, and money. She's gonna try and get him into marriage counseling but it sounds like he's basically checked out and ready to leave. He told her that he was going to go file for divorce after he finished work today. He says that he just feels empty inside and that nothing matters anymore and he just wants out, and that's basically it. I can't get him to really talk to me.

If he leaves I'm about 99.9% positive she would just give up on life and be done. She considers him the love of her life and feels blindsided by all this, and with her health failing her and in all likelihood losing her home in the aftermath/not being able to afford everything by herself, I just. I don't know. She's had a very, very hard life and my Stepdad was basically what made her feel like things could be okay. She feels like there's just no respite in sight.

I just graduated college and moved out to California to look for work, and with my brother going to school out of state she basically lives alone out in the country and doesn't really have any support network, with either friends or family. I've been trying to tell her she needs to open up to somebody but she refuses divulge what's going on in her marriage because she says she would be absolutely humiliated and doesn't feel like anybody would care enough to stick around. And she doesn't want to go to like a women's support group or therapy because at this stage she doesn't even want to acknowledge it's happening or want a bunch of people sitting around going "Yep, mhmm. Your life is falling apart".

I don't know what the fuck I'm supposed to do. Do I go home? Christ.
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My mom
assistant