Recently my younger sister got married, and it was a miserable experience for the whole family. Calling her bridezilla would be an understatement. In addition to being uber-demanding and hysterical, she was also paranoid. She believed the family was coercing her into making certain decisions she alone had made (example, she asked for the family's opinion between 2 dresses, chose the family's favorite, then regretted the decision and blamed the family for ruining her wedding).

Despite her outrageous behavior, I made a reception toast as requested by her. My speech emphasized her true personality - how she walks to the beat of her own drum, and broke all traditional/cultural norms and despite facing pushback from conservative parents, was able to make herself successful, independent, and find true love. I earnestly concluded with how happy the family is for her. However, she took this as an affront. She ceased all communications with me, but she emailed my husband telling him that she is extremely insulted. She claimed that her in-laws and friends' parents are offering their condolences for the mean-spirited speech by her wicked sister, and that she goes to bed every night hoping to wake up with no memory of the horrible wedding. I'm at a lost. She isolated and demonized so many family members, and now she's turned my admiration into an insult. I want to reach out to her, but I didn't do anything wrong. What can I even apologize for? She has the tendency to take everything negatively and has a propensity to be insulted. How can I convince her that her perception of the speech is wrong?
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My sister is mad that I made a wedding speech that she feels insults her because she thought
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Recently my younger sister got married, and it was a miserable experience for the whole family. Calling her bridezilla would be an understatement. In addition to being uber-demanding and hysterical, she was also paranoid. She believed the family was coercing her into making certain decisions she alone had made (example, she asked for the family's opinion between 2 dresses, chose the family's favorite, then regretted the decision and blamed the family for ruining her wedding).

Despite her outrageous behavior, I made a reception toast as requested by her. My speech emphasized her true personality - how she walks to the beat of her own drum, and broke all traditional/cultural norms and despite facing pushback from conservative parents, was able to make herself successful, independent, and find true love. I earnestly concluded with how happy the family is for her. However, she took this as an affront. She ceased all communications with me, but she emailed my husband telling him that she is extremely insulted. She claimed that her in-laws and friends' parents are offering their condolences for the mean-spirited speech by her wicked sister, and that she goes to bed every night hoping to wake up with no memory of the horrible wedding. I'm at a lost. She isolated and demonized so many family members, and now she's turned my admiration into an insult. I want to reach out to her, but I didn't do anything wrong. What can I even apologize for? She has the tendency to take everything negatively and has a propensity to be insulted. How can I convince her that her perception of the speech is wrong?
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My sister thinks I insulted her on her wedding day, but I didn't!
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