Hey all,
So I'm new here, I've read heaps in the past but never signed up! But I need some advice... So I've recently split up with my partner (Let's call him Bob [23M]) of 5 years. We lived together for about 4.5 of those, so life is quite different now. He was doing some crappy substances behind my back for the last year so it was definitely a massive shock. I met someone else quite soon afterwards (Let's say Nick [21/M])...

So this new guy is pretty great. He's attentive and affectionate and doesn't do drugs or drink until he passes out. Pretty much everything that Bob was not. There's a few issues though. This is his first relationship, and me coming straight off the back of such a long and toxic one is I think the root of most of the problems. He's not used to spending much time at all with a girl, and I'm used to living with a partner. We've been official for about 2 months and its great. It's just when he cancels or says that he's got other things planned I really struggle. I know it's dumb but I need to get over it. The only way I do this is to tell myself that I should end it. So I pull away in my head and heart. And then I see him the next day and I fall in love all over again.

I just feel so vulnerable to being hurt. I know it's not healthy to be so backwards and forwards. I really want things to work too. He's really great. 

I should say that I've now moved out alone so this is hard too. I'm an only child and my mum lives with her new family. I just don't want to lose him but I spend so much time trying to protect myself I'm scared I will...

How do you not feel so attached and hurt everytime someone can't see you...
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New relationship after long relationship. How to move from living with someone
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Hey all,
So I'm new here, I've read heaps in the past but never signed up! But I need some advice... So I've recently split up with my partner (Let's call him Bob [23M]) of 5 years. We lived together for about 4.5 of those, so life is quite different now. He was doing some crappy substances behind my back for the last year so it was definitely a massive shock. I met someone else quite soon afterwards (Let's say Nick [21/M])...

So this new guy is pretty great. He's attentive and affectionate and doesn't do drugs or drink until he passes out. Pretty much everything that Bob was not. There's a few issues though. This is his first relationship, and me coming straight off the back of such a long and toxic one is I think the root of most of the problems. He's not used to spending much time at all with a girl, and I'm used to living with a partner. We've been official for about 2 months and its great. It's just when he cancels or says that he's got other things planned I really struggle. I know it's dumb but I need to get over it. The only way I do this is to tell myself that I should end it. So I pull away in my head and heart. And then I see him the next day and I fall in love all over again.

I just feel so vulnerable to being hurt. I know it's not healthy to be so backwards and forwards. I really want things to work too. He's really great. 

I should say that I've now moved out alone so this is hard too. I'm an only child and my mum lives with her new family. I just don't want to lose him but I spend so much time trying to protect myself I'm scared I will...

How do you not feel so attached and hurt everytime someone can't see you...
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I'm a newbie here and I'm not sure how to feel about
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