So my boyfriend and I have been together for six months. Awesome relationship overall, he consistently says that I'm the best thing that ever happened to him, etc. Recently, he's been really distant via text. I saw him on Sunday and he was exhausted from work so I only stayed for a little bit and left (we were definitely on good terms that day).

We typically text regularly throughout the day, but yesterday (Monday) he barely texted me at all. We had plans to hang out today (Tuesday) and he cancelled on me this afternoon because his friend was "going through some sh*t". I said okay and good luck with his friend, and I haven't heard from him since. The past few weeks have had the same type of thing, with very inconsistent communication and two other occasions of cancelled plans in the last month and a half.

This probably makes me sound like a crazy girlfriend, which is why I'm asking Reddit - should I proceed as normal (because I guess he hasn't really done anything wrong)? My pride and instinct tells me to cancel on him for our plans on Saturday just so I won't be the one getting treated badly, but that also seems immature.

I know the standard Reddit answer (which I know and love) is to talk to him. But because this is kind of not a tangible thing, I don't want to seem controlling or obsessive. My worst case scenario here is to appear like I'm freaking out over nothing. Is my best move to just forget about it and keep going as usual, or to start distancing myself from the relationship?
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boyfriend of six months is cancelling plans and not keeping in touch like he used
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So my boyfriend and I have been together for six months. Awesome relationship overall, he consistently says that I'm the best thing that ever happened to him, etc. Recently, he's been really distant via text. I saw him on Sunday and he was exhausted from work so I only stayed for a little bit and left (we were definitely on good terms that day).

We typically text regularly throughout the day, but yesterday (Monday) he barely texted me at all. We had plans to hang out today (Tuesday) and he cancelled on me this afternoon because his friend was "going through some sh*t". I said okay and good luck with his friend, and I haven't heard from him since. The past few weeks have had the same type of thing, with very inconsistent communication and two other occasions of cancelled plans in the last month and a half.

This probably makes me sound like a crazy girlfriend, which is why I'm asking Reddit - should I proceed as normal (because I guess he hasn't really done anything wrong)? My pride and instinct tells me to cancel on him for our plans on Saturday just so I won't be the one getting treated badly, but that also seems immature.

I know the standard Reddit answer (which I know and love) is to talk to him. But because this is kind of not a tangible thing, I don't want to seem controlling or obsessive. My worst case scenario here is to appear like I'm freaking out over nothing. Is my best move to just forget about it and keep going as usual, or to start distancing myself from the relationship?
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My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. He's been acting really distant
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