I (F 32) recently began a relationship with a long time friend (M 35). I fell for him long before we became more, but he had told me shortly after we met that he wasn't interested in having a relationship.  Long story short, I finally couldn't keep my feelings to myself any longer and I kissed him while we were watching a movie at his place.  Turns out he felt the same way.  Yay!

I knew all along that he wasn't very experienced, and that it had to have been a long time since he'd last been with anyone.  However, the other day while we were fooling around he told me he is still a virgin, and that I am his first everything.

I've been thinking about it since, and I know that I am in no way willing to leave him because of this, but I am worried.  How do I go about this?  How do I help show him how to be a boyfriend without changing who he is?  How do I make him comfortable with the idea of sex?  I've no issues with waiting as long as he needs to wait, but he said that over time when it didn't happen that it became this huge thing in his head until he just gave up hoping. He is incredibly nervous, and whenever we get close he goes soft.  It's upsetting him, and I hate to know that he feels that way because of me.

He is such a wonderful, caring, and sincere man.  I have never been so comfortable with letting my guard down and being vulnerable with anyone I've ever been with.  All of the fear that I've always had surrounding relationships is gone.  I love him, and I think he loves me too.  I want to make sure I do this right.  Advice?
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I (F 32) recently began a relationship with a long time friend (M 35). I fell for him long before we became more, but he had told me shortly after we met that he wasn't interested in having a relationship.  Long story short, I finally couldn't keep my feelings to myself any longer and I kissed him while we were watching a movie at his place.  Turns out he felt the same way.  Yay!

I knew all along that he wasn't very experienced, and that it had to have been a long time since he'd last been with anyone.  However, the other day while we were fooling around he told me he is still a virgin, and that I am his first everything.

I've been thinking about it since, and I know that I am in no way willing to leave him because of this, but I am worried.  How do I go about this?  How do I help show him how to be a boyfriend without changing who he is?  How do I make him comfortable with the idea of sex?  I've no issues with waiting as long as he needs to wait, but he said that over time when it didn't happen that it became this huge thing in his head until he just gave up hoping. He is incredibly nervous, and whenever we get close he goes soft.  It's upsetting him, and I hate to know that he feels that way because of me.

He is such a wonderful, caring, and sincere man.  I have never been so comfortable with letting my guard down and being vulnerable with anyone I've ever been with.  All of the fear that I've always had surrounding relationships is gone.  I love him, and I think he loves me too.  I want to make sure I do this right.  Advice?
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