I'm 25 (M) and she's 22 (F). We have been dating for a year. We are still very much in love, but things feel different. I've sought advice before, but I didn't get much for this issue.

Half way through our relationship, while we were having sex, I said to her "I love you" but I used my ex's name. We got past it eventually. It was a brain fart. It happens and it doesn't mean I love her any less. I was stressed out at the time and it slipped out. I also think it's important to say that I do not have any feelings for any of my exes. I never think about them!

Lately our intimacy has dwindled. She says she just doesn't have any urge to do anything. I can still turn her on once in a while, but we don't have a lot of privacy (why isn't important right now) to be free about it. We recently had a couple of weeks of privacy, but nothing changed because this was ongoing. She gave me many reasons, but this came up once and now I know that this is the real issue. She had also said things along the lines of "I'm just not in the mood and I don't know why" and "it seems too planned." Valid, yes I know they are. We still touch and play while clothed so I do know she is still attracted to me.

I'm struggling to get us past this and I could really use some help. We have a fantastic relationship and I know we can get past this. This is really starting to hurt me. I am an excellent boyfriend and I deserve forgiveness. How can she come to move on from this and see that it's okay for us to be sexually intimate again?
user
I said I love you during sex. We had some time to be intimate, but she doesn't seem to want anything to do with me anymore and I'm struggling to get her to see that it's okay for us to be sexually intimate
assistant
I'm 25 (M) and she's 22 (F). We have been dating for a year. We are still very much in love, but things feel different. I've sought advice before, but I didn't get much for this issue.

Half way through our relationship, while we were having sex, I said to her "I love you" but I used my ex's name. We got past it eventually. It was a brain fart. It happens and it doesn't mean I love her any less. I was stressed out at the time and it slipped out. I also think it's important to say that I do not have any feelings for any of my exes. I never think about them!

Lately our intimacy has dwindled. She says she just doesn't have any urge to do anything. I can still turn her on once in a while, but we don't have a lot of privacy (why isn't important right now) to be free about it. We recently had a couple of weeks of privacy, but nothing changed because this was ongoing. She gave me many reasons, but this came up once and now I know that this is the real issue. She had also said things along the lines of "I'm just not in the mood and I don't know why" and "it seems too planned." Valid, yes I know they are. We still touch and play while clothed so I do know she is still attracted to me.

I'm struggling to get us past this and I could really use some help. We have a fantastic relationship and I know we can get past this. This is really starting to hurt me. I am an excellent boyfriend and I deserve forgiveness. How can she come to move on from this and see that it's okay for us to be sexually intimate again?
user
I used my ex's name while having sex, but I still love her. How do I get us past this and get her to see that this is nothing to be ashamed of?
assistant