I've known this girl (let's call her Becky) for ~4 years. When we met we were both in committed relationships, but there was clearly a spark between us. A year later she broke up with her BF (he cheated on her) and asked me to keep her company most of that week, although I still had a GF so nothing happened. 

Fast forward to 1.5 years ago, I've been single for a few months and Becky & I go on a few casual dates. We make out a lot, but after a couple weeks she says she needs a serious committment from me to take things any further. I tell her that, being freshly single, I'm just not in a place where I'm ready to make that kind of committment. So we ended things and stopped talking for 2-3 months. 

We slowly became friends again, and that's been the status quo for the past year. I always still liked her, but didn't want to fuck up our friendship since I wasn't ready to commit.

Well, a month ago I decided I was ready to try a serious relationship again, and I asked her out. I told her that I'd always liked her, and was finally ready to see where things go. She said she still liked me too, but wasn't sure if the timing was right for her. Okay, fair's fair.

So we kept hanging out, and I kept letting her know I was interested. Then last week she explained that the reason she was unsure and standoffish was that she was on-again-off-again with her ex, although they were currently "off" as of a month ago. She said she "needed to cut some ties before she could go on a date with me."

I *want* to believe that's really the case, but my gut is telling me she's keeping me as a backup if things don't work out with her ex (did I mention they have a very long and sordid history, in which he has repeatedly cheated on her and given her severe trust issues).
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girl I've liked for years said 'maybe' when I asked her out, and has been recently seeing her ex. Is she
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I've known this girl (let's call her Becky) for ~4 years. When we met we were both in committed relationships, but there was clearly a spark between us. A year later she broke up with her BF (he cheated on her) and asked me to keep her company most of that week, although I still had a GF so nothing happened. 

Fast forward to 1.5 years ago, I've been single for a few months and Becky & I go on a few casual dates. We make out a lot, but after a couple weeks she says she needs a serious committment from me to take things any further. I tell her that, being freshly single, I'm just not in a place where I'm ready to make that kind of committment. So we ended things and stopped talking for 2-3 months. 

We slowly became friends again, and that's been the status quo for the past year. I always still liked her, but didn't want to fuck up our friendship since I wasn't ready to commit.

Well, a month ago I decided I was ready to try a serious relationship again, and I asked her out. I told her that I'd always liked her, and was finally ready to see where things go. She said she still liked me too, but wasn't sure if the timing was right for her. Okay, fair's fair.

So we kept hanging out, and I kept letting her know I was interested. Then last week she explained that the reason she was unsure and standoffish was that she was on-again-off-again with her ex, although they were currently "off" as of a month ago. She said she "needed to cut some ties before she could go on a date with me."

I *want* to believe that's really the case, but my gut is telling me she's keeping me as a backup if things don't work out with her ex (did I mention they have a very long and sordid history, in which he has repeatedly cheated on her and given her severe trust issues).
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THIS GIRL I'VE HAD A HISTORY WITH MITTERS HER EX'S RAP, AND I'M STILL IMAGINING SHE'S KEEPING ME AS A BACKUP.
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