I'm a 22 year old female who works in a setting dominated by men. While I love my job in every way it does cause a bit of tension between my boyfriend and I because 1. we are in a long distance relationship because of it 2. I am so busy we don't talk as much and 3. my male coworkers make him feel uncomfortable. We've been working on 1 and 2, however now I have a massive problem arise with one of my other coworkers. He's 24 and is a good friend of mine, one of the rare people I can count on here. We see each other every day. He keeps my creepy boss off my back and is a genuinely good guy who I've come to love and adore as a friend.  Our relationship is as platonic as I can make it and for the most part he is respectful of our relationship. He has expressed that he is in love with me drunkenly but apologized for saying it and has said nothing afterwords. I've set strict boundaries so my boyfriend won't be uncomfortable and I can still maintain a friendship with him. However, for Christmas, my friend/coworker bought me plane tickets and court side seats to a basketball game in my hometown for us to go together. This has caused a bit of tension between my boyfriend and I as he is uncomfortable with such a lavish gift. I'm not really sure how to go about this situation without ruining a good friendship, a work relationship, or seeming ungrateful. However it seems a bit intimate and lavish of a gift for me to accept.
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my friend/coworker is buying me gifts for a basketball game in my hometown. Not sure how to handle it.
assistant
I'm a 22 year old female who works in a setting dominated by men. While I love my job in every way it does cause a bit of tension between my boyfriend and I because 1. we are in a long distance relationship because of it 2. I am so busy we don't talk as much and 3. my male coworkers make him feel uncomfortable. We've been working on 1 and 2, however now I have a massive problem arise with one of my other coworkers. He's 24 and is a good friend of mine, one of the rare people I can count on here. We see each other every day. He keeps my creepy boss off my back and is a genuinely good guy who I've come to love and adore as a friend.  Our relationship is as platonic as I can make it and for the most part he is respectful of our relationship. He has expressed that he is in love with me drunkenly but apologized for saying it and has said nothing afterwords. I've set strict boundaries so my boyfriend won't be uncomfortable and I can still maintain a friendship with him. However, for Christmas, my friend/coworker bought me plane tickets and court side seats to a basketball game in my hometown for us to go together. This has caused a bit of tension between my boyfriend and I as he is uncomfortable with such a lavish gift. I'm not really sure how to go about this situation without ruining a good friendship, a work relationship, or seeming ungrateful. However it seems a bit intimate and lavish of a gift for me to accept.
user
I'm a 22 year old female with a boyfriend, my coworker/friend is a 24 year old guy who I'm close to and I don't know
assistant