Essentially I'm in a historical study group with some friends. We study historical documents, or papers relating to historical documents that we've found.

On one hand, I love to share things just with my friend. He never responds (another gripe for another time) but he will talk about them later. I really like when I find things that will interest him, and sending him an email.

On the other hand, when things are discussed in the group, I would like it if I would be seen as being a contributor- esp. when it's things that I found. My friend is in charge of the weekly reading and will sometimes send out things that I sent him, which is fine. I really try hard not to keep score.

But when I am talking to the group, there is one guy who will just start talking when I'm speaking, and essentially force me to stop. Recently I've not stopped, but I never like trying to out asshole someone. The same guy will respond to anything that I present to the group with a 'I'll have to look that up.' He responds to my friend much more positively. Honestly I'm a bit jealous.

I've been struggling with this for a while, I just posted something I had sent to my friend to the email list. I don't like how uncomfortable I feel about doing that. I don't like being out in front.

I also just found something I want to share with my friend, but I don't want him to feel that I send him something and then try and take all the credit and to dominate the conversation.
user
I just want to be seen as at least smart, and like I'm contributing. Mostly though, I just want to send my friend things.
assistant
Essentially I'm in a historical study group with some friends. We study historical documents, or papers relating to historical documents that we've found.

On one hand, I love to share things just with my friend. He never responds (another gripe for another time) but he will talk about them later. I really like when I find things that will interest him, and sending him an email.

On the other hand, when things are discussed in the group, I would like it if I would be seen as being a contributor- esp. when it's things that I found. My friend is in charge of the weekly reading and will sometimes send out things that I sent him, which is fine. I really try hard not to keep score.

But when I am talking to the group, there is one guy who will just start talking when I'm speaking, and essentially force me to stop. Recently I've not stopped, but I never like trying to out asshole someone. The same guy will respond to anything that I present to the group with a 'I'll have to look that up.' He responds to my friend much more positively. Honestly I'm a bit jealous.

I've been struggling with this for a while, I just posted something I had sent to my friend to the email list. I don't like how uncomfortable I feel about doing that. I don't like being out in front.

I also just found something I want to share with my friend, but I don't want him to feel that I send him something and then try and take all the credit and to dominate the conversation.
user
I feel uncomfortable being the center of the group, but when I'm talking to friends I don't enjoy being 'the center of attention.'
assistant