So a coworker and i who have always been good friends ended up hooking up a couple of weeks back after a longer period of significant flirting and interaction. I was very slow to get into this as it was a work relationship  and i thought it could be difficult  if things didnt work out. Well they didnt, it was largely  my falut in that i didnt return/validate enough of the effort that she was putting in, due to anxiety about how she felt about me / a bit of sexual dysfunction , that really stressed me out about the sexual part of everything.

 She was in a few significant  relationships before me while ive only ever had a few random flings. It all ended really badly one night when i was meant to hang out with her but blew it off and she ended up hooking up with someone else at a party and subsequently it all kind of fell apart.

 The thing is i realise how much i care about this person and want to be with her now and she still seems to have feelings for me on some level as well.  We were talking alot before we stopped hanging out and i feel like i miss alot of that emotional connection with her. 

Its just all very intense for me at the moment, i dont really have space to get over her and due to her own anxiety issues dont want to make things super werid at work either. 

 Theres also the issue of another of my co workers hitting on her alot which is making me feel really shit.   Im still talking to her at work and we occasionally  text or chat on facebook but there have also been soke tense moments between us lately.

 Just not sure how to proceed  with  things at the moment should i continue to try and interact with her as friends even if its hard for me or should i just try and make a bit of space between us. More importantly  should i try to re kindle things.
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Started flirting with coworker, had
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So a coworker and i who have always been good friends ended up hooking up a couple of weeks back after a longer period of significant flirting and interaction. I was very slow to get into this as it was a work relationship  and i thought it could be difficult  if things didnt work out. Well they didnt, it was largely  my falut in that i didnt return/validate enough of the effort that she was putting in, due to anxiety about how she felt about me / a bit of sexual dysfunction , that really stressed me out about the sexual part of everything.

 She was in a few significant  relationships before me while ive only ever had a few random flings. It all ended really badly one night when i was meant to hang out with her but blew it off and she ended up hooking up with someone else at a party and subsequently it all kind of fell apart.

 The thing is i realise how much i care about this person and want to be with her now and she still seems to have feelings for me on some level as well.  We were talking alot before we stopped hanging out and i feel like i miss alot of that emotional connection with her. 

Its just all very intense for me at the moment, i dont really have space to get over her and due to her own anxiety issues dont want to make things super werid at work either. 

 Theres also the issue of another of my co workers hitting on her alot which is making me feel really shit.   Im still talking to her at work and we occasionally  text or chat on facebook but there have also been soke tense moments between us lately.

 Just not sure how to proceed  with  things at the moment should i continue to try and interact with her as friends even if its hard for me or should i just try and make a bit of space between us. More importantly  should i try to re kindle things.
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hooked up with a co
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