Recently I've been having a lot of thoughts around dating and how feeling assertive to ones goal and view in relationships, however a question pops out here and then in my mind that makes if feel like im not ready for a relationship, even though I want to.

**Q (from potential partner): "What is it that you can provide for me, from anyone else?"**

This question might not be that much, relative to ones accomplishments, but in my situation on merits and relationship experiences I feel I don't have much to offer on both social (network, group etc)- and emotional experiences.

It's not so much as that I feel the question needs to be of materialistic value, but on how much knowledge and experience you have to create such experience with a potential partner. I can always say to myself of how I can provide her emotionally and willingness to try new things, but it doesn't feel like that's good enough when others can do it too but have much more to offer. 

While to me I do have somewhat of a goal, with my age **(26/M)** it will take some time (/years) to show this accomplishment. I am aware that not everyone expects great things to be achieved, just that I feel that I miss that "thing" that makes me *me*, and how that can stir up interest.

Does anyone else have some similar problems on this point of view and what are your thoughts in it? 

PS. Im aware of the "Nice-Guy Syndrome" and Im reading right now "No more Mr.Nice Guy", also have "The Slight Edge" as next reading. Just to be clear.
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Recently I've been having a lot of thoughts around dating and how feeling assertive to ones goal and view in relationships, however a question pops out here and then in my mind that makes if feel like im not ready for a relationship, even though I want to.

**Q (from potential partner): "What is it that you can provide for me, from anyone else?"**

This question might not be that much, relative to ones accomplishments, but in my situation on merits and relationship experiences I feel I don't have much to offer on both social (network, group etc)- and emotional experiences.

It's not so much as that I feel the question needs to be of materialistic value, but on how much knowledge and experience you have to create such experience with a potential partner. I can always say to myself of how I can provide her emotionally and willingness to try new things, but it doesn't feel like that's good enough when others can do it too but have much more to offer. 

While to me I do have somewhat of a goal, with my age **(26/M)** it will take some time (/years) to show this accomplishment. I am aware that not everyone expects great things to be achieved, just that I feel that I miss that "thing" that makes me *me*, and how that can stir up interest.

Does anyone else have some similar problems on this point of view and what are your thoughts in it? 

PS. Im aware of the "Nice-Guy Syndrome" and Im reading right now "No more Mr.Nice Guy", also have "The Slight Edge" as next reading. Just to be clear.
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