I posted this to r/dating_advice, but didn't get anything helpful.

I (23F) have been seeing a (26M) for about 4 months now. We've talked about how we weren't dating anyone else (about 3 months ago) and we act like a couple. I want things to be official, but I don't know how to ask. I want to leave the question open ended so he doesn't have to flat out reject me if he doesn't want the boyfriend/girlfriend title.

No, this is not for Facebook. I don't have a Facebook. It's sort of long distance relationship and I want to clarify where this is headed. (We live about 3 hours apart. If I am lucky I get to see him a few weekends in a row, but it is more like every other weekend). Just because he isn't currently dating anyone else doesn't mean he wouldn't. I've been asked out numerous times, have given my phone number away... I've even gone on a date or two, but I don't WANT to be with anyone else (if things ever escalated with someone I would have told my current guy, but I never let them get to that point). Until we make it official, I'm not going to turn away other men to whom I'm attracted, i.e. I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket. I guess it's my way of asking if he wants to take me off the market or not.
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I want to make a real relationship with a guy for the first time, but I don't want the title and I don't want to settle. I don't want to give him the
assistant
I posted this to r/dating_advice, but didn't get anything helpful.

I (23F) have been seeing a (26M) for about 4 months now. We've talked about how we weren't dating anyone else (about 3 months ago) and we act like a couple. I want things to be official, but I don't know how to ask. I want to leave the question open ended so he doesn't have to flat out reject me if he doesn't want the boyfriend/girlfriend title.

No, this is not for Facebook. I don't have a Facebook. It's sort of long distance relationship and I want to clarify where this is headed. (We live about 3 hours apart. If I am lucky I get to see him a few weekends in a row, but it is more like every other weekend). Just because he isn't currently dating anyone else doesn't mean he wouldn't. I've been asked out numerous times, have given my phone number away... I've even gone on a date or two, but I don't WANT to be with anyone else (if things ever escalated with someone I would have told my current guy, but I never let them get to that point). Until we make it official, I'm not going to turn away other men to whom I'm attracted, i.e. I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket. I guess it's my way of asking if he wants to take me off the market or not.
user
I want to bring up the question, but I don't want to make it seem like I'm asking to cheat.
assistant