I don't know how to write this without coming across as self-congratulatory. I have a pretty decent life. A loving SO and a 3 year old son. My friend Suzy is a mess. In the 11 years I have been with my SO she has been with so many men I have completely lost track. She would tire of them and break up pretty quickly into the relationship and in most cases they were very wrong for her and I could never understand why the relationship had even started. All these years I never judge her. I swear. I just want her to be happy but she's not.

Now from our group of friends she is practically the only one without a longterm partner and children. It's started to really eat at her. If we try to say something encouraging to her about meeting someone, she says that our guys are great, what do we know. I think she is fantastic with the kids but I feel really bad abt inviting her over or scheduling kid-friendly things because I know it is such a strong reminder of what she wants in her life.

I don't want to exclude her. I make time for adults only time, going for coffee and other fun things. I just feel like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't and I don't know what would be the best way to support her. Should I ask her whether it would be best if I never mention the kid and never ask her to interact with him? It's not like it will change anything, we all have children.:(

And with finding the right partner, I am totally hopeless there too. We are at an age group where all the single men I know are bad news and best left single. She keeps hoping for something good from meeting guys at bars (yeah, right) and Tinder. I'm not saying it's impossible to get a decent relationship this way but I doubt it.
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My friend is really unhappy with her life and I don't
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I don't know how to write this without coming across as self-congratulatory. I have a pretty decent life. A loving SO and a 3 year old son. My friend Suzy is a mess. In the 11 years I have been with my SO she has been with so many men I have completely lost track. She would tire of them and break up pretty quickly into the relationship and in most cases they were very wrong for her and I could never understand why the relationship had even started. All these years I never judge her. I swear. I just want her to be happy but she's not.

Now from our group of friends she is practically the only one without a longterm partner and children. It's started to really eat at her. If we try to say something encouraging to her about meeting someone, she says that our guys are great, what do we know. I think she is fantastic with the kids but I feel really bad abt inviting her over or scheduling kid-friendly things because I know it is such a strong reminder of what she wants in her life.

I don't want to exclude her. I make time for adults only time, going for coffee and other fun things. I just feel like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't and I don't know what would be the best way to support her. Should I ask her whether it would be best if I never mention the kid and never ask her to interact with him? It's not like it will change anything, we all have children.:(

And with finding the right partner, I am totally hopeless there too. We are at an age group where all the single men I know are bad news and best left single. She keeps hoping for something good from meeting guys at bars (yeah, right) and Tinder. I'm not saying it's impossible to get a decent relationship this way but I doubt it.
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I'm a nice person but my friend is a mess and
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