I don't frequent r/relationships, so I don't know how much this gets brought up. Regardless I want to be very clear that I'm not complaining about being in the friendzone or any stupid shit like that. I live 3 states away and I'm not hoping to win her over. I simply have never encountered something like this story.

We mostly talked online for a year or so before this, but the instant we met we felt like old friends. We were both going through a rough time and leaned on each other a lot. We became really good friends for the couple months before I moved away last August. She was constantly bashing her ex, so I was blown away when fast-forward to present time she says she's getting back together with him.

We kept in fairly good contact over the last year through mostly texts, chatting and the occasional phone call. We had some long conversations when her latest bf broke up with her.

When she told me she was getting back together, I responded by asking her why she's getting back together with the guy that did all those things (listing all the shit she had told me he did). I realized I sounded very judgmental so I said I didn't mean to sound that way, but she had to at least know from my perspective it sounded very unwise.

She never said anything back, so I'm pretty sure she decided I was being an asshole and discounts my opinion. I'm not going to go to great lengths to keep her from this, because it's her life. But at this point if there is anything I could tell her to keep her from doing this, I would make sure she heard it. Any ideas?
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I don't frequent r/relationships, so I don't know how much this gets brought up. Regardless I want to be very clear that I'm not complaining about being in the friendzone or any stupid shit like that. I live 3 states away and I'm not hoping to win her over. I simply have never encountered something like this story.

We mostly talked online for a year or so before this, but the instant we met we felt like old friends. We were both going through a rough time and leaned on each other a lot. We became really good friends for the couple months before I moved away last August. She was constantly bashing her ex, so I was blown away when fast-forward to present time she says she's getting back together with him.

We kept in fairly good contact over the last year through mostly texts, chatting and the occasional phone call. We had some long conversations when her latest bf broke up with her.

When she told me she was getting back together, I responded by asking her why she's getting back together with the guy that did all those things (listing all the shit she had told me he did). I realized I sounded very judgmental so I said I didn't mean to sound that way, but she had to at least know from my perspective it sounded very unwise.

She never said anything back, so I'm pretty sure she decided I was being an asshole and discounts my opinion. I'm not going to go to great lengths to keep her from this, because it's her life. But at this point if there is anything I could tell her to keep her from doing this, I would make sure she heard it. Any ideas?
user
A friend is
assistant