I've been having an increasing number of insecure moments with my relationship with my girlfriend and its really taking a toll on her and our relationship.  We've been dating for 2 months.  Im not sure exactly why Im having these moments but I need to find a solution.

The way my girlfriend describes it, is that I look at relationships as a way to "complete" myself rather than to "compliment" myself.  I guess part of my problem is that I have a hard time distinguishing those two ideologies.

I constantly find myself afraid that I'm going to lose her and it affects our relationship in a very negative way.  My gf feels "smothered" and that she can't be the person she wants to be because of me and my insecurities.

I find myself always needing constant attention from her, and that when we are not together a part of me is missing.  She has lots of goals and aspirations for her life, and it bothers me that she has this level of independence, and doesn't require me to accomplish these goals.  

I realize that these insecurities are not normal and that I have to work on them, but I'm just not sure how to do it.  I don't want her life to be negatively affected because of me.

Does anyone have any advise on how I can be a less dependent significant other, and allow my gf to live her life they way she needs to without me smothering her with insecurities?
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I have lots of insecurities and it's
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I've been having an increasing number of insecure moments with my relationship with my girlfriend and its really taking a toll on her and our relationship.  We've been dating for 2 months.  Im not sure exactly why Im having these moments but I need to find a solution.

The way my girlfriend describes it, is that I look at relationships as a way to "complete" myself rather than to "compliment" myself.  I guess part of my problem is that I have a hard time distinguishing those two ideologies.

I constantly find myself afraid that I'm going to lose her and it affects our relationship in a very negative way.  My gf feels "smothered" and that she can't be the person she wants to be because of me and my insecurities.

I find myself always needing constant attention from her, and that when we are not together a part of me is missing.  She has lots of goals and aspirations for her life, and it bothers me that she has this level of independence, and doesn't require me to accomplish these goals.  

I realize that these insecurities are not normal and that I have to work on them, but I'm just not sure how to do it.  I don't want her life to be negatively affected because of me.

Does anyone have any advise on how I can be a less dependent significant other, and allow my gf to live her life they way she needs to without me smothering her with insecurities?
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I'm having a hard time taking my
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