Hey,
 
My SO (20m) and I (20f), dating 2 years, have been experiencing a rough patch lately. I've basically felt like I've been putting in the majority of the effort and molding my schedule to his while he does as he pleases for the last few months. Last night I was telling him how I've been feeling really upset by his behaviour lately and it's really starting to weigh down on me. Something that's really been bothering me is I don't think we've spent a saturday night together since this semester began (we're both 3rd year uni). I always ask him to hang out and he says he'll let me know later. I wait and usually get no response until i ask again or until very late, at which point I'm unable to make plans with other people so I end up sitting home alone very sad. I understand everyone needs some alone time but I feel like he's just being selfish now. 

But anyways, after I told him all of this his response to me is that he doesn't value the relationship as much as i do. This broke my heart, and he's acting like it's no big deal. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't care about me as much as I do them, and even worse, doesn't see anything wrong with not caring as much. This whole thing has been quite the mindfuck. I don't want this to end, but I don't know how to move on from what he said when he clearly doesn't see that this is a serious problem.

Am i making too big of a deal out of this or do I have a right to be upset? What can I do or say to him to get past this? I'm so lost.
user
BF told me he doesn't value the relationship as much as i do. He doesn't see
assistant
Hey,
 
My SO (20m) and I (20f), dating 2 years, have been experiencing a rough patch lately. I've basically felt like I've been putting in the majority of the effort and molding my schedule to his while he does as he pleases for the last few months. Last night I was telling him how I've been feeling really upset by his behaviour lately and it's really starting to weigh down on me. Something that's really been bothering me is I don't think we've spent a saturday night together since this semester began (we're both 3rd year uni). I always ask him to hang out and he says he'll let me know later. I wait and usually get no response until i ask again or until very late, at which point I'm unable to make plans with other people so I end up sitting home alone very sad. I understand everyone needs some alone time but I feel like he's just being selfish now. 

But anyways, after I told him all of this his response to me is that he doesn't value the relationship as much as i do. This broke my heart, and he's acting like it's no big deal. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't care about me as much as I do them, and even worse, doesn't see anything wrong with not caring as much. This whole thing has been quite the mindfuck. I don't want this to end, but I don't know how to move on from what he said when he clearly doesn't see that this is a serious problem.

Am i making too big of a deal out of this or do I have a right to be upset? What can I do or say to him to get past this? I'm so lost.
user
BF makes me feel like I don't matter, I don't see any problem with this. Going
assistant