Hi there, 

So my wife and I have been married for 2 years and some change. We dated a few years before as well. Ever since we've been intimate with each other, it's been clear that I am the one who doesn't pursue sex or intimacy. 

I do enjoy sex obviously, but that's only in the moment. I don't long for it or pursue it normally. On the other hand, she wants to be intimate pretty much all the time, and she gets upset when I push her away or when I'm not really into the idea. 

Sex and intimacy in general is never on the forefront of my mind, it never has been. So whenever we are intimate, it's her that is initiating it. 

I love her very much and I fear that if things go on like this she will (though she says she never will) leave me. 

How can we fix this? Should I get an alarm or something that tells me to stop what I'm doing and kiss my wife? that sounds tacky. 

Any comments are appreciated. Thanks.
user
I don't want to be intimate with my wife.
assistant
Hi there, 

So my wife and I have been married for 2 years and some change. We dated a few years before as well. Ever since we've been intimate with each other, it's been clear that I am the one who doesn't pursue sex or intimacy. 

I do enjoy sex obviously, but that's only in the moment. I don't long for it or pursue it normally. On the other hand, she wants to be intimate pretty much all the time, and she gets upset when I push her away or when I'm not really into the idea. 

Sex and intimacy in general is never on the forefront of my mind, it never has been. So whenever we are intimate, it's her that is initiating it. 

I love her very much and I fear that if things go on like this she will (though she says she never will) leave me. 

How can we fix this? Should I get an alarm or something that tells me to stop what I'm doing and kiss my wife? that sounds tacky. 

Any comments are appreciated. Thanks.
user
Wife is not into sex and I don't want to leave
assistant