I have a second cousin who I rarely ever get to see because she lives about a 4 hour flight away from me. The other day she was visiting in the area and I got to spend the whole day with her. She is not only beautiful on the outside, but her personality is incredible. There's no other person I'd rather spend my time with. She's just so smart and compassionate and cool. I can not think of any other girl I've ever met who is as perfect as she is.

 Since then we've been texting each other regularly and she seems to really like me. I'm hoping to see her again within the next couple of months. Now here's the issue: there is absolutely no way I could ever have a relationship with her. We both come from religious traditional families and it would absolutely tear apart our entire family. If anyone so much as found out about this crush that I have for her, I would permanently be an outcast of the family. 

Of course I would never tell her either because why would I cause unnecessary pain if I know the relationship could never happen? I know what you guys are gonna say. You're going to say that it's just a stupid teenage crush that will go away. And do you know what? I really hope you are right.

So ultimately here is my issue that I need advice with: knowing fully well that there could never ever be a relationship between us (because I'm not willing to damage our family like that and I know she wouldn't be willing either), what can I possibly do to help ease this emotional torture and ultimately make the crush go away as fast as possible? Thank you so much for any advice. It means the world to me. 

Sincerely,
 an emotionally unstable teenager.
user
I have a huge crush
assistant
I have a second cousin who I rarely ever get to see because she lives about a 4 hour flight away from me. The other day she was visiting in the area and I got to spend the whole day with her. She is not only beautiful on the outside, but her personality is incredible. There's no other person I'd rather spend my time with. She's just so smart and compassionate and cool. I can not think of any other girl I've ever met who is as perfect as she is.

 Since then we've been texting each other regularly and she seems to really like me. I'm hoping to see her again within the next couple of months. Now here's the issue: there is absolutely no way I could ever have a relationship with her. We both come from religious traditional families and it would absolutely tear apart our entire family. If anyone so much as found out about this crush that I have for her, I would permanently be an outcast of the family. 

Of course I would never tell her either because why would I cause unnecessary pain if I know the relationship could never happen? I know what you guys are gonna say. You're going to say that it's just a stupid teenage crush that will go away. And do you know what? I really hope you are right.

So ultimately here is my issue that I need advice with: knowing fully well that there could never ever be a relationship between us (because I'm not willing to damage our family like that and I know she wouldn't be willing either), what can I possibly do to help ease this emotional torture and ultimately make the crush go away as fast as possible? Thank you so much for any advice. It means the world to me. 

Sincerely,
 an emotionally unstable teenager.
user
I have a crush on
assistant