Somewhat of a long backstory; I apologize...

About a month ago I met this guy at an event I went to for work. He approached me, and we hit it off pretty well. I contacted him a week or so later and we eventually began chatting regularly. Since then we have only met again in person a few times (we're both really busy), but already things have become quite heated.  We haven't had sex, but I ended up spending the night at his place last time I was there. It's clear he wants something physical, but he's also been very clear he's not looking for a relationship.

We both just got out of long-term partnerships (me 6 years, him 2) and neither of us want to risk becoming attached again so quickly. I have told him I'm not looking for a rebound, that I just want to have fun, and he has expressed similar sentiments.

This is new to me. I have only seriously dated one guy (my last boyfriend), and have only ever been intimate with him. This new guy is much more outgoing than I am--I assume he's had at least a few partners in his lifetime; he seems to know what he's doing, at least, and I can't say I didn't enjoy it already. My concern lies with the fact that if I do end up sleeping with him, I'm going to become attached. Obviously neither of us wants that. It's just that I'm the type of person who develops an emotional bond before a physical one, and I'm afraid it's very one-sided at this point.

Up until now I hadn't ever considered having multiple sexual partners in my life. But things change, and I'm finding myself very attracted to him. I just feel like I want to get to know him more, but he seems reluctant about developing even a friendship.

Reddit, am I being blinded by his dashing good looks? He doesn't seem like the type of guy to sleep and run, but then again I really don't know him that well. I don't want to end up getting hurt because I let my guard down. Is this just a recipe for disaster?
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I (25f) just met him (29m). Mutual sexual attraction has developed, but I'm hesitant because I get very emotional about sex. Part of me wants to explore it further, but the other part of me is afraid of being hurt in the long run. Is being intimate with him nothing more
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Somewhat of a long backstory; I apologize...

About a month ago I met this guy at an event I went to for work. He approached me, and we hit it off pretty well. I contacted him a week or so later and we eventually began chatting regularly. Since then we have only met again in person a few times (we're both really busy), but already things have become quite heated.  We haven't had sex, but I ended up spending the night at his place last time I was there. It's clear he wants something physical, but he's also been very clear he's not looking for a relationship.

We both just got out of long-term partnerships (me 6 years, him 2) and neither of us want to risk becoming attached again so quickly. I have told him I'm not looking for a rebound, that I just want to have fun, and he has expressed similar sentiments.

This is new to me. I have only seriously dated one guy (my last boyfriend), and have only ever been intimate with him. This new guy is much more outgoing than I am--I assume he's had at least a few partners in his lifetime; he seems to know what he's doing, at least, and I can't say I didn't enjoy it already. My concern lies with the fact that if I do end up sleeping with him, I'm going to become attached. Obviously neither of us wants that. It's just that I'm the type of person who develops an emotional bond before a physical one, and I'm afraid it's very one-sided at this point.

Up until now I hadn't ever considered having multiple sexual partners in my life. But things change, and I'm finding myself very attracted to him. I just feel like I want to get to know him more, but he seems reluctant about developing even a friendship.

Reddit, am I being blinded by his dashing good looks? He doesn't seem like the type of guy to sleep and run, but then again I really don't know him that well. I don't want to end up getting hurt because I let my guard down. Is this just a recipe for disaster?
user
I'm afraid if I sleep with this new guy, I'll become attached.
assistant