I'm finally outta school for the first time and, while everything is all right overall, I have been feeling lonely this past week.

It's been 4 months since I've graduated uni, and of course friends have left to go back home or move to where their career takes them; but a good amount of my close friends are still here - post-grad and undergrad. The only issue is timing. I think back 2 years and it seemed like hanging out was second-nature. Now, it is a real task to get to see people between everyone's work, classes, and internships. It doesn't seem like all that much has changed, yet the reality of the situation is drastically different.

Now, the past year has been a bit of a rollercoaster; a lot of friends found a significant other and others are no longer friends. It just seems like I've lost many close friends to emotions (romance and frustration). I relied on these people as my pillars. They were people I could always just show up to hang out with, no warnings necessary. It's all changed now and it's difficult to adjust. 

Everything that seemed set in stone a year ago is now in transition. The absence of those supports I once relied upon is an intermittent reminder of the past. I have made new friends this past summer, but I do not feel so close to them yet, though they are each amazing people in their own regard. Hopefully, these friendships can grow into something more concrete.

With all this being said, I have one pillar that has remained a constant: my best friend here in Ithaca. I am so thankful for her. She was a major support this past year when I needed it most. Now, she is having a rough spell and I need to be there for her.
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Life has been a bit rocky lately since friends have been leaving to pursue other opportunities. I have a constant support pillar in my life - my best friend in Ithaca. Should I reach
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I'm finally outta school for the first time and, while everything is all right overall, I have been feeling lonely this past week.

It's been 4 months since I've graduated uni, and of course friends have left to go back home or move to where their career takes them; but a good amount of my close friends are still here - post-grad and undergrad. The only issue is timing. I think back 2 years and it seemed like hanging out was second-nature. Now, it is a real task to get to see people between everyone's work, classes, and internships. It doesn't seem like all that much has changed, yet the reality of the situation is drastically different.

Now, the past year has been a bit of a rollercoaster; a lot of friends found a significant other and others are no longer friends. It just seems like I've lost many close friends to emotions (romance and frustration). I relied on these people as my pillars. They were people I could always just show up to hang out with, no warnings necessary. It's all changed now and it's difficult to adjust. 

Everything that seemed set in stone a year ago is now in transition. The absence of those supports I once relied upon is an intermittent reminder of the past. I have made new friends this past summer, but I do not feel so close to them yet, though they are each amazing people in their own regard. Hopefully, these friendships can grow into something more concrete.

With all this being said, I have one pillar that has remained a constant: my best friend here in Ithaca. I am so thankful for her. She was a major support this past year when I needed it most. Now, she is having a rough spell and I need to be there for her.
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Lost many friends to other relationships or emotions, feel like I've lost my best friend in Ithaca. Need to be there for her. How can I do so?
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