So I broke up with my ex a couple of months ago but it seems like I have had a delayed reaction to the situation. I seemed to have got a lot more quieter and insecure of myself -my looks, my weight and my personality - to the point of me getting very jealous of friends getting attention of the sex they find attractive in clubs and at parties. I have become insecure about my writing (I take an English degree and the thing my ex used to do was read through my essays and fiction projects so I felt happy about them). Obviously now, I'm not with him so I think I am going to get shit marks because it is all up to me. This is my last year and I want to do so well. I have left all my uni work to the last minute and I somehow have to get my arse into gear but paralysed with anxiety about it all.  

My weight was an issue during the relationship because I always used to compare myself to his ex (she had some sort  of eating disorder, fucked up I know). I was constantly linking my weight to laziness and that just made me, at times, an insufferable girlfriend. I feel obese. Even though I am not. Like could lose some weight, but UK size 12 for 5"4 aint that big right?

I just don't get why people would find me interesting to talk to. 

Also I want to not get so clingy to people - I remember I used to be so chill about getting attention from guys, always making them do the first move subtly and now I get anxious when people, friends even, don't message me straight away. 

Bit of a mess atm. Any advice would be great :)
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Broke up with ex, feeling insecure about myself, feeling insecure about myself, even about my looks. Need advice on how to get
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So I broke up with my ex a couple of months ago but it seems like I have had a delayed reaction to the situation. I seemed to have got a lot more quieter and insecure of myself -my looks, my weight and my personality - to the point of me getting very jealous of friends getting attention of the sex they find attractive in clubs and at parties. I have become insecure about my writing (I take an English degree and the thing my ex used to do was read through my essays and fiction projects so I felt happy about them). Obviously now, I'm not with him so I think I am going to get shit marks because it is all up to me. This is my last year and I want to do so well. I have left all my uni work to the last minute and I somehow have to get my arse into gear but paralysed with anxiety about it all.  

My weight was an issue during the relationship because I always used to compare myself to his ex (she had some sort  of eating disorder, fucked up I know). I was constantly linking my weight to laziness and that just made me, at times, an insufferable girlfriend. I feel obese. Even though I am not. Like could lose some weight, but UK size 12 for 5"4 aint that big right?

I just don't get why people would find me interesting to talk to. 

Also I want to not get so clingy to people - I remember I used to be so chill about getting attention from guys, always making them do the first move subtly and now I get anxious when people, friends even, don't message me straight away. 

Bit of a mess atm. Any advice would be great :)
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Broke up with my ex and I have become insecure about myself and scared of making people do the first move. Need
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