We got married a bit over a year ago. Why did we get married? I loved him, but I wasn't in love with him. He knew that before we got married, but decided to marry me anyway. 

Within our marriage, I've consciously try to make our sex life better (it was never mind-blowing) by trying different things, being more intimate, etc. to try to transform my love for him to being in love with him. But he has real issues being emotionally/physically intimate (he was this way before we married.) I feel as though, as his wife, he doesn't desire me. Along with his communication and drug use issues, I can sense it hasn't helped me fall in love with my husband. 

I've reached a boiling point in the marriage, so I told him we needed to see a counselor together. After giving him a couple of semi-ultimatums, he decided to go. I started seeing the counselor by myself, and I was told I really need to tell him how I feel towards him. I know it's something that has to, and will be done, but I still want to be considerate and mindful in how I tell him.
user
Not in love with husband; counselor told me I need to tell him how I feel; How do I tell him? Is there even such
assistant
We got married a bit over a year ago. Why did we get married? I loved him, but I wasn't in love with him. He knew that before we got married, but decided to marry me anyway. 

Within our marriage, I've consciously try to make our sex life better (it was never mind-blowing) by trying different things, being more intimate, etc. to try to transform my love for him to being in love with him. But he has real issues being emotionally/physically intimate (he was this way before we married.) I feel as though, as his wife, he doesn't desire me. Along with his communication and drug use issues, I can sense it hasn't helped me fall in love with my husband. 

I've reached a boiling point in the marriage, so I told him we needed to see a counselor together. After giving him a couple of semi-ultimatums, he decided to go. I started seeing the counselor by myself, and I was told I really need to tell him how I feel towards him. I know it's something that has to, and will be done, but I still want to be considerate and mindful in how I tell him.
user
I'm not in love with my husband, how do I tell him how I feel without hurting him or making our marriage worse?
assistant