My girlfriend and I started dating in August of 2013. We hit it off really well, our relationship was great. We never argued or anything. Sometime before the end of the year, we slept together -- the first for both of us.

Now, from the very beginning of the relationship I knew she had issues with her mood (Depression) but it never affected our relationship to the point it has now. We used to have a very healthy sex life, yet now we are likely to have sex once a month. Shes no more depressed then she has ever been, but for some reason it is now an issue. Everytime I attempt to initiate sex, she makes up an excuse -- ranging from shes tired to "I never get turned on anymore." 

It is obviously causing problems. I am becoming very frustrated with everything. I love her, I believe but I find myself getting very annoyed with the relationship. I am unsure of what to do. Hell, I am unsure if I should even believe it is her depression causing this. Her high libido dropped about the same time I started to gain some weight (My dad passed away in June 2014, started to gain some weight after that due to stress). I have self esteem issues, so naturally I think she just doesn't find me attractive anymore and just doesn't want to break up with me because I do everything for her. 

I just don't know what to do or what to think at this point. I am beyond frustrated, and I've tried talking to her about it but she just always makes me feel like a douche for asking for sex.
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My girlfriend and I started dating in August of 2013. We hit it off really well, our relationship was great. We never argued or anything. Sometime before the end of the year, we slept together -- the first for both of us.

Now, from the very beginning of the relationship I knew she had issues with her mood (Depression) but it never affected our relationship to the point it has now. We used to have a very healthy sex life, yet now we are likely to have sex once a month. Shes no more depressed then she has ever been, but for some reason it is now an issue. Everytime I attempt to initiate sex, she makes up an excuse -- ranging from shes tired to "I never get turned on anymore." 

It is obviously causing problems. I am becoming very frustrated with everything. I love her, I believe but I find myself getting very annoyed with the relationship. I am unsure of what to do. Hell, I am unsure if I should even believe it is her depression causing this. Her high libido dropped about the same time I started to gain some weight (My dad passed away in June 2014, started to gain some weight after that due to stress). I have self esteem issues, so naturally I think she just doesn't find me attractive anymore and just doesn't want to break up with me because I do everything for her. 

I just don't know what to do or what to think at this point. I am beyond frustrated, and I've tried talking to her about it but she just always makes me feel like a douche for asking for sex.
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