Hi reddit,

Been with my girl for 7 years. Ups and downs like any relationship, but we get along well. Lately we have been talking lightly about marriage, kids, what we want in the future. Im ready to sell the condo that I've worked hard to pay a lot off and build a house outside the city.

Girlfriend has liv d with me the last two years almost. Before that she was living at home and working, she's a manager of a bar and does well. I have some concerns.

One is that she hasn't been financially open with me and doesn't have any savings, but we want three kids, I just don't know how realistic it will be. Secondly... I feel like I barely see her. She has her yearly girlfriend only trips to coachella and all over. She's into the gay clubbing scene which crosses me out. She works shitty hours, or sometimes she's hungover... Or she's off doing something that excludes me. (A last minute trip with girlfriends to Las Vegas.)

She's supportive of me building a house, but she says she would stay in the city and see me on occasion until it's ready. Her grandparents own a lot of property and she is depending on inheriting it. Is there any hope of is meeting in the middle?
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Is there hope of me meeting in the middle with my long term girlfriend who wants to marry me and I want to get
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Hi reddit,

Been with my girl for 7 years. Ups and downs like any relationship, but we get along well. Lately we have been talking lightly about marriage, kids, what we want in the future. Im ready to sell the condo that I've worked hard to pay a lot off and build a house outside the city.

Girlfriend has liv d with me the last two years almost. Before that she was living at home and working, she's a manager of a bar and does well. I have some concerns.

One is that she hasn't been financially open with me and doesn't have any savings, but we want three kids, I just don't know how realistic it will be. Secondly... I feel like I barely see her. She has her yearly girlfriend only trips to coachella and all over. She's into the gay clubbing scene which crosses me out. She works shitty hours, or sometimes she's hungover... Or she's off doing something that excludes me. (A last minute trip with girlfriends to Las Vegas.)

She's supportive of me building a house, but she says she would stay in the city and see me on occasion until it's ready. Her grandparents own a lot of property and she is depending on inheriting it. Is there any hope of is meeting in the middle?
user
Girlfriend hasn't been financially open with me, but says she would like to meet in the middle.
assistant