The story to how we met is a LONG one, but let me do my best to sum it up (some details are fudged):

We met five years ago at camp and dated for as long as the camp lasted over the summer.  Since we were from different states we tried/did long distance on and off and had long breaks in between of different relationships until this summer where we both are in the same city for our jobs.

Now that we are together for the first time basically, I find that my sex drive around her is MUCH lower than it has been with other girls I've been with.  I often just don't feel it is worth the effort to have sex with her that often and more often just feel obligated to please her.  With other relationships I've been the usual 20 year old who can't keep his hands off of his S/O.

She noticed this and has frequently commented on how I rarely initiate and gets extremely self-conscious.  I do still love this girl but my lack of a sex drive and attraction to her has really made me think that this relationship isn't going to last to the point of marriage.  I would rather end it after this summer rather than continue to further this relationship that feels like a dead bedroom to me.

This is not meant to be a shallow decision as I have been diligently trying to change this with open conversation with her (as open as I can be without hurting her confidence in herself) and consulting close friends.
user
no longer very into my girlfriend of 5 years and lack of sex drive/attraction
assistant
The story to how we met is a LONG one, but let me do my best to sum it up (some details are fudged):

We met five years ago at camp and dated for as long as the camp lasted over the summer.  Since we were from different states we tried/did long distance on and off and had long breaks in between of different relationships until this summer where we both are in the same city for our jobs.

Now that we are together for the first time basically, I find that my sex drive around her is MUCH lower than it has been with other girls I've been with.  I often just don't feel it is worth the effort to have sex with her that often and more often just feel obligated to please her.  With other relationships I've been the usual 20 year old who can't keep his hands off of his S/O.

She noticed this and has frequently commented on how I rarely initiate and gets extremely self-conscious.  I do still love this girl but my lack of a sex drive and attraction to her has really made me think that this relationship isn't going to last to the point of marriage.  I would rather end it after this summer rather than continue to further this relationship that feels like a dead bedroom to me.

This is not meant to be a shallow decision as I have been diligently trying to change this with open conversation with her (as open as I can be without hurting her confidence in herself) and consulting close friends.
user
no longer very attracted to my girlfriend and sex drive is lower than it
assistant