We've been together for about 9 months now. We're currently long distance because I'm back home for the summer. 

Two weeks ago at a friend's birthday party, he got really drunk (well whadaya know) and almost kissed a girl. He claims that he was talking to her for the birthday boy, then it turned into just him talking to her. Progressed to holding hands, sitting together, both of them leaning in and then him pulling away at the last second.

Honestly, it would've been better if he just outright cheated on me, because then at least I can accept it and break up with him. But now I'm stuck in the in-between. I've been in relationships before but this is the first time I've felt so strongly about another person. My roommates and his friends can see that he's madly in love with me as well. 

He's sincerely sorry for what he did, regretting everything. I want to forgive him, I really do. But I can't stop feeling hurt and angry. I can't stop thinking about him and this other girl, feeling inadequate and unimportant. It doesn't matter that he didn't cheat, he had the intent to and that's what's gripping my mind and making me feel sick to my stomach, it's made my trust in him go all wonky. He's asking me what he can do to redeem himself and I honestly don't know what to say to him.

Advice? Reddit, help me forgive.
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Boyfriend almost kissed a girl at a party, I want to forgive him but I'm in a horrible place in my emotional
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We've been together for about 9 months now. We're currently long distance because I'm back home for the summer. 

Two weeks ago at a friend's birthday party, he got really drunk (well whadaya know) and almost kissed a girl. He claims that he was talking to her for the birthday boy, then it turned into just him talking to her. Progressed to holding hands, sitting together, both of them leaning in and then him pulling away at the last second.

Honestly, it would've been better if he just outright cheated on me, because then at least I can accept it and break up with him. But now I'm stuck in the in-between. I've been in relationships before but this is the first time I've felt so strongly about another person. My roommates and his friends can see that he's madly in love with me as well. 

He's sincerely sorry for what he did, regretting everything. I want to forgive him, I really do. But I can't stop feeling hurt and angry. I can't stop thinking about him and this other girl, feeling inadequate and unimportant. It doesn't matter that he didn't cheat, he had the intent to and that's what's gripping my mind and making me feel sick to my stomach, it's made my trust in him go all wonky. He's asking me what he can do to redeem himself and I honestly don't know what to say to him.

Advice? Reddit, help me forgive.
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boyfriend kissed another girl, I don't know how to forgive him.
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