To elaborate, she currently lives in southern CA and I in northern CA. She is enrolled in the online cohort of a university of here and apparently there is a mandatory meeting of some sort in November. Thus, she asked if she could stay at my place. "You'll barely see me since I'll be gone to the meeting" she said.

I had mixed feelings from the second she asked to stay. The breakup was kinda rough because we had been together for six years, and I didn't want to take a step back so to speak, by having her stay around and reintroducing the emotion that was between us. It was my first relationship and thus a difficult breakup.

One mistake I made was, after the breakup, trying to be as compassionate as possible and remain friends with her, and offer to help wherever I could. So I really set myself up for this situation.

Ultimately I told her I'm not comfortable with her staying here, even if we barely see each other, because of what I mentioned earlier that it will bring back those emotions. I'm in graduate school right now too, so the less distractions the better.

Obviously she wasn't ok with it and had a pretty emotional response, now I feel guilty, but I'm trying to stay firm on this.

I'd like some input on whether I made the right decision here. Also, I was thinking of reaching out to her when she is here, just to meet and chat in public, though that would seem to have the same negative effect I mentioned. What do you all think? I appreciate your responses in advance.
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Ex-girlfriend asked to stay over after breakup, I'm not comfortable with it.
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To elaborate, she currently lives in southern CA and I in northern CA. She is enrolled in the online cohort of a university of here and apparently there is a mandatory meeting of some sort in November. Thus, she asked if she could stay at my place. "You'll barely see me since I'll be gone to the meeting" she said.

I had mixed feelings from the second she asked to stay. The breakup was kinda rough because we had been together for six years, and I didn't want to take a step back so to speak, by having her stay around and reintroducing the emotion that was between us. It was my first relationship and thus a difficult breakup.

One mistake I made was, after the breakup, trying to be as compassionate as possible and remain friends with her, and offer to help wherever I could. So I really set myself up for this situation.

Ultimately I told her I'm not comfortable with her staying here, even if we barely see each other, because of what I mentioned earlier that it will bring back those emotions. I'm in graduate school right now too, so the less distractions the better.

Obviously she wasn't ok with it and had a pretty emotional response, now I feel guilty, but I'm trying to stay firm on this.

I'd like some input on whether I made the right decision here. Also, I was thinking of reaching out to her when she is here, just to meet and chat in public, though that would seem to have the same negative effect I mentioned. What do you all think? I appreciate your responses in advance.
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ex-girlfriend asked to stay over and I'm not comfortable with it so
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