Yesterday was my birthday, and around lunch time, I got a text from him asking what I wanted for my birthday.  I told him I didn't really know, but gave him a few ideas.  I got home last night, and he said "The under armour outlet is having a sale, I'm just going to take you down there and you can pick something."  The gift ideas I gave him were mostly athletic stuff, so UA makes sense.  But it just feels like he's not willing to put any effort into getting me something thoughtful.

For Christmas I had to tell him exactly what to buy and where because he said otherwise he just wasn't going to get me anything.  For Valentine's Day I got a small bag of chocolate (not a big deal, Valentine's Day isn't that important to me).  For our anniversary, I got nothing.

I don't want to seem high maintenance and say that he needs to go buy me something, but I want him to put some effort into his gifts.

Am I being unreasonable?  How do I explain this to him without upsetting him?
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Yesterday was my birthday, and around lunch time, I got a text from him asking what I wanted for my birthday.  I told him I didn't really know, but gave him a few ideas.  I got home last night, and he said "The under armour outlet is having a sale, I'm just going to take you down there and you can pick something."  The gift ideas I gave him were mostly athletic stuff, so UA makes sense.  But it just feels like he's not willing to put any effort into getting me something thoughtful.

For Christmas I had to tell him exactly what to buy and where because he said otherwise he just wasn't going to get me anything.  For Valentine's Day I got a small bag of chocolate (not a big deal, Valentine's Day isn't that important to me).  For our anniversary, I got nothing.

I don't want to seem high maintenance and say that he needs to go buy me something, but I want him to put some effort into his gifts.

Am I being unreasonable?  How do I explain this to him without upsetting him?
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