Me - typical INTJ. Type A, etc.  Terrible boss, I admit my own flaws...can be controlling, but also faithful to a fault, love spouse beyond words.  We had fight, l left (i shut down in emotional arguments), we still talk, tried to offer counsling, therapy etc - work on interpersonal relationship.

Her - seriously introverted, highly emotional - Im sure she still loves me, wants me to see other women, doesnt want to live with me any more (after 10+ years, probably wants own way).  Admits life is bleak without my 'insanity', suffers from depression, was thrilled when i admitted i had a date (she was relieved). 

Us - emotionally she trumps me, intellectually i trump her- my friends are lawyers, doctors and scientists.  I 'get off' on deep debate, which to her is like nails on a chalkboard.  ran business together, which thrived, but im a terrible boss - i think she resents me. we closed business (major tramatic situation).

I think we have evolved into 2 very different people.

She is very happy to remain married, but single?  Wants me to go out and meet new women, and she wants to also go out and meet new women.

wtf?  Im very confused. 

What do I do?  Has anyone ever experienced this before?
user
introverted/emotionally distant married 10 years, unhappy with marriage, wants me to go out and meet new women. Confused, what to do? Advice appreciated
assistant
Me - typical INTJ. Type A, etc.  Terrible boss, I admit my own flaws...can be controlling, but also faithful to a fault, love spouse beyond words.  We had fight, l left (i shut down in emotional arguments), we still talk, tried to offer counsling, therapy etc - work on interpersonal relationship.

Her - seriously introverted, highly emotional - Im sure she still loves me, wants me to see other women, doesnt want to live with me any more (after 10+ years, probably wants own way).  Admits life is bleak without my 'insanity', suffers from depression, was thrilled when i admitted i had a date (she was relieved). 

Us - emotionally she trumps me, intellectually i trump her- my friends are lawyers, doctors and scientists.  I 'get off' on deep debate, which to her is like nails on a chalkboard.  ran business together, which thrived, but im a terrible boss - i think she resents me. we closed business (major tramatic situation).

I think we have evolved into 2 very different people.

She is very happy to remain married, but single?  Wants me to go out and meet new women, and she wants to also go out and meet new women.

wtf?  Im very confused. 

What do I do?  Has anyone ever experienced this before?
user
How do I 'cure my wife of her emotional problems' so I can 'mold' her into a better woman?
assistant