We have been dating for a year and see each other most days. We have a friend who we see usually once a week. She's divorced. We see her at a wine club that we belong to.

He's very friendly with her (talks to her a lot, always makes sure to tell her little things that are happening in his life, always asks her to sit with us, hugs her goodbye now and then). I've at times thought it was maybe slightly strange how much attention he gives her, but really I have never been insecure of her because (1) she's truly not very attractive (she is super sweet but very plain-jane and not his "type" at all), and (2) she just isn't flirty in the least, and she's my (casual) friend as well.  I thought he was just being very nice to her because she attends alone and she's just a really nice person.

Recently in conversation it came up that he would definitely ask her out if he wasn't with me. I was surprised by this and asked him if he finds her attractive. He said yes, he is attracted to her.

I am not sure how to process any of this. It kind of puts all their interaction in a different light now. Before I thought he was just being nice, but now that I know he's actually **attracted** to her, I feel really strange when he gives her so much attention or hugs her. And I can't help but looking at her differently now and noticing how she's dressed, how she responds to him etc. It has made everything so weird and now I really don't even want to attend the wine club.

I haven't said anything to him but I'm just disturbed overall by the whole thing. And I'm noticing that I'm feeling very annoyed now when he talks to her a lot or anything (whereas before I wouldn't have thought much of it because I didn't think he thought of her that way).

Should I just ignore this?
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BF admitted that he's attracted to our friend, who I never before
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We have been dating for a year and see each other most days. We have a friend who we see usually once a week. She's divorced. We see her at a wine club that we belong to.

He's very friendly with her (talks to her a lot, always makes sure to tell her little things that are happening in his life, always asks her to sit with us, hugs her goodbye now and then). I've at times thought it was maybe slightly strange how much attention he gives her, but really I have never been insecure of her because (1) she's truly not very attractive (she is super sweet but very plain-jane and not his "type" at all), and (2) she just isn't flirty in the least, and she's my (casual) friend as well.  I thought he was just being very nice to her because she attends alone and she's just a really nice person.

Recently in conversation it came up that he would definitely ask her out if he wasn't with me. I was surprised by this and asked him if he finds her attractive. He said yes, he is attracted to her.

I am not sure how to process any of this. It kind of puts all their interaction in a different light now. Before I thought he was just being nice, but now that I know he's actually **attracted** to her, I feel really strange when he gives her so much attention or hugs her. And I can't help but looking at her differently now and noticing how she's dressed, how she responds to him etc. It has made everything so weird and now I really don't even want to attend the wine club.

I haven't said anything to him but I'm just disturbed overall by the whole thing. And I'm noticing that I'm feeling very annoyed now when he talks to her a lot or anything (whereas before I wouldn't have thought much of it because I didn't think he thought of her that way).

Should I just ignore this?
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BF is attracted to divorced friend of mine. We see each other
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