We met in Japan two years ago, I was a student over there and we hit it off at a bar. Decided I'd go back to my country and get a college degree, I asked her if she'd come with and she said yes, but we agreed it would take some time. This was 8 months into our relationship, and when I got back home we said we'd do daily messaging and regular phone calls, which we did. She then came to visit last summer and all was good. 

I got into college. After that, gradually our phone calls went from bi-weekly to monthly, and our messaging got closer to once daily. She told me it's due to her work, and I could believe that as I know she does alot of overtime (pretty normal in Japan). I should mention that we rarely fight, but if something upsets her she goes pretty quiet and won't tell me what it is until I notice and ask her straight up. Obviously it's harder for me to tell if she's upset when I can't see her. After about half a year in college, for different reasons I decided I'll go back over there when I get my degree. Consulted her, and she told me she's fine either way. At this point the phone calls are bi-monthly and on occasion she'll go two days without replying to my texts. 

In Feb/March, she got a second job that she does on her off days, to save money and work off some credit debt. Since then the two day wait has become a more regular occurrence, and today it's been three days. We spoke on the phone a couple of days ago and she still says it's because she's been so busy with work. I'm going to Japan in less than a month so I'll have a chance to judge the situation better, but it's bugging me alot. Maybe I'm overthinking it and it is really just her work, but at the same time I know she cheated in a previous relationship. In any case I want her to talk more to me, but I'm not getting anywhere as it stands.
user
Girlfriend in Japan replying ever slower to my texts, says it's due to work. She's cheated in previous relationship, I'm worried. How do I get her to talk to me?
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We met in Japan two years ago, I was a student over there and we hit it off at a bar. Decided I'd go back to my country and get a college degree, I asked her if she'd come with and she said yes, but we agreed it would take some time. This was 8 months into our relationship, and when I got back home we said we'd do daily messaging and regular phone calls, which we did. She then came to visit last summer and all was good. 

I got into college. After that, gradually our phone calls went from bi-weekly to monthly, and our messaging got closer to once daily. She told me it's due to her work, and I could believe that as I know she does alot of overtime (pretty normal in Japan). I should mention that we rarely fight, but if something upsets her she goes pretty quiet and won't tell me what it is until I notice and ask her straight up. Obviously it's harder for me to tell if she's upset when I can't see her. After about half a year in college, for different reasons I decided I'll go back over there when I get my degree. Consulted her, and she told me she's fine either way. At this point the phone calls are bi-monthly and on occasion she'll go two days without replying to my texts. 

In Feb/March, she got a second job that she does on her off days, to save money and work off some credit debt. Since then the two day wait has become a more regular occurrence, and today it's been three days. We spoke on the phone a couple of days ago and she still says it's because she's been so busy with work. I'm going to Japan in less than a month so I'll have a chance to judge the situation better, but it's bugging me alot. Maybe I'm overthinking it and it is really just her work, but at the same time I know she cheated in a previous relationship. In any case I want her to talk more to me, but I'm not getting anywhere as it stands.
user
Girlfriend waiting on me to respond to my texts, she hasn't since I moved back to Japan, she said it's because she's been busy with work. Should I go to her place at all
assistant