My ex [M/21] and I [F/21] broke things off last week, we didn't last that long (about 2 months) but I had started to get greater feelings for him, but he was having issues with an ex-girlfriend who kept manipulating him and making him feel awful about himself. She would constantly bring up the topic of her deceased mother, and how he made her cry more than when she died. I noticed a change in him after he helped her move out because she offered him $500 (something he really needs right now). He told me after we broke up that he thought he was over her, but realized he still had the feelings even after all the abuse she had put him through. He told me that he's not sure how he feels about anything, and needed his space. Acting out of emotion, I gave him a week to decide. It was a stupid choice of mine, and I regret it. He told me that he wasn't ready for anything right now. I asked if we could still be friends, and we both agreed to it.

We've been going to the same dinner parties with friends, and talking to each other everyday, but it still hurts I guess? Part of me is understanding that he wants to figure out himself and get his life together (he was cut off from his family, so he can't finish school right now, also no job), but part of me is willing to wait for him to figure things out so that maybe we could get back together. It sounds stupid, I realize that, but I can't explain. Last night at the restaurant with our friends, we talked about stuff, laughed about things that've happened, and it was nice. For the first time in awhile, I felt happy and content with him around without some sort of anxiety. But when I got home I got upset because I just wonder how he feels.

I don't know what to do, I'm sorry if all of this is stupid, but I'm just at a a loss.
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Ex and
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My ex [M/21] and I [F/21] broke things off last week, we didn't last that long (about 2 months) but I had started to get greater feelings for him, but he was having issues with an ex-girlfriend who kept manipulating him and making him feel awful about himself. She would constantly bring up the topic of her deceased mother, and how he made her cry more than when she died. I noticed a change in him after he helped her move out because she offered him $500 (something he really needs right now). He told me after we broke up that he thought he was over her, but realized he still had the feelings even after all the abuse she had put him through. He told me that he's not sure how he feels about anything, and needed his space. Acting out of emotion, I gave him a week to decide. It was a stupid choice of mine, and I regret it. He told me that he wasn't ready for anything right now. I asked if we could still be friends, and we both agreed to it.

We've been going to the same dinner parties with friends, and talking to each other everyday, but it still hurts I guess? Part of me is understanding that he wants to figure out himself and get his life together (he was cut off from his family, so he can't finish school right now, also no job), but part of me is willing to wait for him to figure things out so that maybe we could get back together. It sounds stupid, I realize that, but I can't explain. Last night at the restaurant with our friends, we talked about stuff, laughed about things that've happened, and it was nice. For the first time in awhile, I felt happy and content with him around without some sort of anxiety. But when I got home I got upset because I just wonder how he feels.

I don't know what to do, I'm sorry if all of this is stupid, but I'm just at a a loss.
user
ex and
assistant