Long story short: my mom is planning on leaving my dad once she feels secure enough to be on her own financially (they're not married). I know because she shared it with me in confidence to which I asked if she had expressed her concerns and the why's of her leaving with my dad to which she said she hadn't. I asked why, her response, "he's old and he's not going to change."

My dad has also expressed the concerns about my mom not being affectionate for the past few months and in general wanting to be alone often (I see this as her distancing herself before she does w/e) to which I asked if he asked why. His response, "yeah but she always says everything is fine."

So WTF do I do when this situation is so clearly wrong? I feel like I've done everything I can do w/o playing a role in the decision for my mom one way or the other. I just want everyone to be happy and believe in letting things take their course but at the same time I don't agree morally with my mom leaving my dad "at her convenience," because that only hurts my dad even MORE by having her leech off of him when it's not his fault for her not sharing her feelings anyways.

p.s. - she had a stroke a year ago and he's been taking care of her ever since and she just recently was able to go back to work
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mom is leeching off of dad until she can leave
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Long story short: my mom is planning on leaving my dad once she feels secure enough to be on her own financially (they're not married). I know because she shared it with me in confidence to which I asked if she had expressed her concerns and the why's of her leaving with my dad to which she said she hadn't. I asked why, her response, "he's old and he's not going to change."

My dad has also expressed the concerns about my mom not being affectionate for the past few months and in general wanting to be alone often (I see this as her distancing herself before she does w/e) to which I asked if he asked why. His response, "yeah but she always says everything is fine."

So WTF do I do when this situation is so clearly wrong? I feel like I've done everything I can do w/o playing a role in the decision for my mom one way or the other. I just want everyone to be happy and believe in letting things take their course but at the same time I don't agree morally with my mom leaving my dad "at her convenience," because that only hurts my dad even MORE by having her leech off of him when it's not his fault for her not sharing her feelings anyways.

p.s. - she had a stroke a year ago and he's been taking care of her ever since and she just recently was able to go back to work
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mom is leaving dad and plans to leave him, dad
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