So I recently was broken up with by my boyfriend of two years. We had been friends for about a year prior and had been living together through pretty much the entire relationship. We were that ideal couple. The couple that others wanted to be. We never fought. Very rarely disagreed. I thought we were perfect. 

However, out of nowhere he springs on me that he wanted the relationship to end. He said he wasn't happy with his life and didn't want to be in a relationship any more. I had no idea that there were even problems with the relationship and once this all came to light he was completely uninterested in working on the relationship. 

Problems he listed with us included the fact that I was selfish in bed (which I disagree- we never really were able to openly talk about our sex life together. We both had problems and honestly, we stopped having an intimate connection months ago). But when he is saying these things he's also saying that the breakup had nothing to do with me or us even. I'm not sure what to believe. 

The problem lies in the fact that I miss him like crazy. He really was my best friend and the person I could talk to about anything. He always knew just what to do when I was stressing and we had so much fun together. He has a serious phobia of commitment and that was okay with me. I didn't pressure him about marriage or anything. I was just happy the way we were.

Its been about 4 weeks now since this all has happened and I want to talk to him. I want to know if separation has changed anything. I saw him a few nights ago (we work at the same place) and he did seem genuinely happy to see me. I just don't know if I'm going to be setting myself up for more pain by talking with him. How do I know when to let go or when to stick around? I'm so confused.
user
boyfriend of two years ended relationship without really giving clear reasonings. Saw him recently and he seemed happy to see me. Do I give up or see if there's any chance
assistant
So I recently was broken up with by my boyfriend of two years. We had been friends for about a year prior and had been living together through pretty much the entire relationship. We were that ideal couple. The couple that others wanted to be. We never fought. Very rarely disagreed. I thought we were perfect. 

However, out of nowhere he springs on me that he wanted the relationship to end. He said he wasn't happy with his life and didn't want to be in a relationship any more. I had no idea that there were even problems with the relationship and once this all came to light he was completely uninterested in working on the relationship. 

Problems he listed with us included the fact that I was selfish in bed (which I disagree- we never really were able to openly talk about our sex life together. We both had problems and honestly, we stopped having an intimate connection months ago). But when he is saying these things he's also saying that the breakup had nothing to do with me or us even. I'm not sure what to believe. 

The problem lies in the fact that I miss him like crazy. He really was my best friend and the person I could talk to about anything. He always knew just what to do when I was stressing and we had so much fun together. He has a serious phobia of commitment and that was okay with me. I didn't pressure him about marriage or anything. I was just happy the way we were.

Its been about 4 weeks now since this all has happened and I want to talk to him. I want to know if separation has changed anything. I saw him a few nights ago (we work at the same place) and he did seem genuinely happy to see me. I just don't know if I'm going to be setting myself up for more pain by talking with him. How do I know when to let go or when to stick around? I'm so confused.
user
boyfriend broke up with me out of nowhere and I don't know what to do now.
assistant