I’m not sure if this qualifies as an update, [but I made a previous post about the breakup]( I’m looking for some more insight on how to handle the upcoming vacation.

Months ago we planned a vacation across the country to see a special concert in May. I used to live in this city so I would be visiting family as well that I haven’t seen in nearly 9 years. I really tried but I didn’t believe I could keep our relationship together for another month before we go, but things escalated recently – I asked her to go home after she spent an evening yelling at me, and she banged on the windows and rung my doorbell for an hour – upsetting me and my roommate.

She has made it clear that she still wants to go on the trip together as friends. I’m not sure how I feel about that. I told her I was uncomfortable, and she’s accusing me of not only breaking her heart but ruining our planned vacation. The trip is in a month and I’m not sure how I will feel at that time – and I was concerned she may start arguments during the trip, one of the reasons I ended things.

Some of the tickets we purchased (concert, airline) are non-refundable, but there may be ways to get credit I have to explore. Everything else is refundable, so I guess worst case scenario we would be out around $500 each, but probably less.

Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable about going on a trip with her right after breaking up? I honestly don’t know how I will feel then so I don’t want to make a commitment to go with her at this point. I was really looking forward to travelling and seeing old family, but I feel that it would be awkward to bring my ex-girlfriend to meet them. I suppose I would also feel weird going alone if I could somehow figure that out, since we planned the trip together.

Thanks everyone.
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Broke up with my girlfriend after a planned trip a month before. She still wants to go on
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I’m not sure if this qualifies as an update, [but I made a previous post about the breakup]( I’m looking for some more insight on how to handle the upcoming vacation.

Months ago we planned a vacation across the country to see a special concert in May. I used to live in this city so I would be visiting family as well that I haven’t seen in nearly 9 years. I really tried but I didn’t believe I could keep our relationship together for another month before we go, but things escalated recently – I asked her to go home after she spent an evening yelling at me, and she banged on the windows and rung my doorbell for an hour – upsetting me and my roommate.

She has made it clear that she still wants to go on the trip together as friends. I’m not sure how I feel about that. I told her I was uncomfortable, and she’s accusing me of not only breaking her heart but ruining our planned vacation. The trip is in a month and I’m not sure how I will feel at that time – and I was concerned she may start arguments during the trip, one of the reasons I ended things.

Some of the tickets we purchased (concert, airline) are non-refundable, but there may be ways to get credit I have to explore. Everything else is refundable, so I guess worst case scenario we would be out around $500 each, but probably less.

Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable about going on a trip with her right after breaking up? I honestly don’t know how I will feel then so I don’t want to make a commitment to go with her at this point. I was really looking forward to travelling and seeing old family, but I feel that it would be awkward to bring my ex-girlfriend to meet them. I suppose I would also feel weird going alone if I could somehow figure that out, since we planned the trip together.

Thanks everyone.
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Broke up with girlfriend, she still wants to go on vacation together with me, I'm not sure how
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