Have been together for approximately 8 years, married almost four. At first we joked, "when we have kids, they'll look like that, wear this" etc. About 2-3 years ago he started saying we weren't having kids when I jested about it. I brushed it off as him joking still since it wasn't said in a serious tone. 

The jokes did turn more serious.  Asking me when I was going to take birth control/when he was going to get a vasectomy. I eventually convinced myself we weren't going to have children but I realized it wasn't fair when he knew how I felt before getting married.

So I brought up adoption/fostering and he was negative towards those options. He has also stated no more pets after ours get old and die. (Pretty sure my ovaries cried out when I was told that)

We've already had a tough time overcoming normal relationship problems due to being polar opposites personality wise and interests. I am so torn, stressed with working/classes. I tried to set my emotions aside but it's becoming too much to ignore.
user
Husband doesn't want kids now, knew ahead that I did. Has anyone else been through this, and what was the outcome?
assistant
Have been together for approximately 8 years, married almost four. At first we joked, "when we have kids, they'll look like that, wear this" etc. About 2-3 years ago he started saying we weren't having kids when I jested about it. I brushed it off as him joking still since it wasn't said in a serious tone. 

The jokes did turn more serious.  Asking me when I was going to take birth control/when he was going to get a vasectomy. I eventually convinced myself we weren't going to have children but I realized it wasn't fair when he knew how I felt before getting married.

So I brought up adoption/fostering and he was negative towards those options. He has also stated no more pets after ours get old and die. (Pretty sure my ovaries cried out when I was told that)

We've already had a tough time overcoming normal relationship problems due to being polar opposites personality wise and interests. I am so torn, stressed with working/classes. I tried to set my emotions aside but it's becoming too much to ignore.
user
Husband doesn't want kids, said it was joking 2-3 years ago. Said he wouldn't adopt, or have any pets after we've grown old. Then he's even less
assistant