My wife and I recently got our first dog together, a shih tzu-bichon mix, currently 4 months old.  Potty training is going well, but she inevitably has a few slip-ups now and then.  My in-laws always tell me I should rub her nose in it and scold her so she knows not to do it.  I always think this sounds cruel and ignorant to do.  And I know most trainers, as well as the majority of this subreddit, says that dogs don't think that way.  The dog doesn't connect the punishment to the accident, and all that's happening is they are learning to fear you.

But my in-laws' dog virtually NEVER has accidents.  The few times it does, you can tell it feels really bad.  It seems like their dog did make the connection between the punishment and the accidents.  I'm not considering using this method, but my mother-in-law brings it up all the time, so I just would like more information.
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My in-laws' dog almost always has accidents. Is this a big reason for them to choose to rub their dog's nose in house
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My wife and I recently got our first dog together, a shih tzu-bichon mix, currently 4 months old.  Potty training is going well, but she inevitably has a few slip-ups now and then.  My in-laws always tell me I should rub her nose in it and scold her so she knows not to do it.  I always think this sounds cruel and ignorant to do.  And I know most trainers, as well as the majority of this subreddit, says that dogs don't think that way.  The dog doesn't connect the punishment to the accident, and all that's happening is they are learning to fear you.

But my in-laws' dog virtually NEVER has accidents.  The few times it does, you can tell it feels really bad.  It seems like their dog did make the connection between the punishment and the accidents.  I'm not considering using this method, but my mother-in-law brings it up all the time, so I just would like more information.
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What is your rebuttal to the claim, "Negative reinforcement for housebreaking worked great for me!"
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