I was in the process of knitting my SO a Christmas gift that I didn't finish on time as we were busy during the holidays. He didn't know I was making him something, but I busted it out yesterday and showed him because it was almost done and I was planning to finish making it while we watched tv shows together. As I sat down on the couch nect to him, he told me to stop making it because he wasn't going to use it, and I got upset and asked him why. He told me not to worry about it, he didn't feel comfortable telling me at the moment. I was noticeably upset and he asked me if I was ok. I told him that I make gifts for my friends and loved ones because I feel they are more personal than buying gifts, and he admitted that he felt uncomfortable accepting these kinds of gifts because they give him a sense of obligation towards the person who made it and that he likes to keep a certain amount of emotional detachment from people. He agreed that he over analyzes these things, and I told him its ok. Threw the gift away that night. I'm not sure how to react to this. 
We've been together for a year now.
The gift didn't mean anything more to me than a nice gesture, as I've made gifts for my close friends and my siblings before. The fact that he saw it as a way "for me to get closer to him" was a shock. 
I don't know how to feel about this. I didn't realize how detached this relationship was until yesterday. Does anyone here have similar experiences or advice as to what I should do or what this means?
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My SO of a year rejected a home made gift because he felt that it gave him a
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I was in the process of knitting my SO a Christmas gift that I didn't finish on time as we were busy during the holidays. He didn't know I was making him something, but I busted it out yesterday and showed him because it was almost done and I was planning to finish making it while we watched tv shows together. As I sat down on the couch nect to him, he told me to stop making it because he wasn't going to use it, and I got upset and asked him why. He told me not to worry about it, he didn't feel comfortable telling me at the moment. I was noticeably upset and he asked me if I was ok. I told him that I make gifts for my friends and loved ones because I feel they are more personal than buying gifts, and he admitted that he felt uncomfortable accepting these kinds of gifts because they give him a sense of obligation towards the person who made it and that he likes to keep a certain amount of emotional detachment from people. He agreed that he over analyzes these things, and I told him its ok. Threw the gift away that night. I'm not sure how to react to this. 
We've been together for a year now.
The gift didn't mean anything more to me than a nice gesture, as I've made gifts for my close friends and my siblings before. The fact that he saw it as a way "for me to get closer to him" was a shock. 
I don't know how to feel about this. I didn't realize how detached this relationship was until yesterday. Does anyone here have similar experiences or advice as to what I should do or what this means?
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SO rejected my Christmas gift for him, and I'm not sure what to do next.
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