A couple of weeks ago I'd realized that I had fallen in love with my SO. So I told her, expecting the worst (because she had been always really shy with expressing her affection beforehand). She replied then that she thought she was in love with me, too, and when I left her place that night and restated my own shpeel, she more confidently said that she loved me, too.
  
However, for the most part, I felt/feel that she's maintained the same level of distance from me, or at least hasn't done a good job of showing it with her actions (other than hanging out with me pretty frequently throughout the week, she didn't get me anything for Valentine's Day, while I gifted her flowers a few times and presented her some poetry that was inspired by her). I recently talked about feeling jealous about the way she spoke to one of my close-friends, as well as elaborated of these feelings of her distance, and she told me not to worry and that I'd misconstrued her intentions, that she really just wants the approval of my friends.
 
I'm not worried about that jealousy at all, now. The bulk of that conversation was about what I perceived to be her disinterest in me. She got that I worried very often about her truly loving me, and advised very emphatically not to worry about that any more. But I'm not sure; I still have that nagging thought that she had said she loved me just to reassure me that time, and continues on with it now for much the same reason. She only ever says "I love you, too" (because I'm always the one to initiate with those sorts of things).
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I feel like my SO is keeping distance from me, but does
assistant
A couple of weeks ago I'd realized that I had fallen in love with my SO. So I told her, expecting the worst (because she had been always really shy with expressing her affection beforehand). She replied then that she thought she was in love with me, too, and when I left her place that night and restated my own shpeel, she more confidently said that she loved me, too.
  
However, for the most part, I felt/feel that she's maintained the same level of distance from me, or at least hasn't done a good job of showing it with her actions (other than hanging out with me pretty frequently throughout the week, she didn't get me anything for Valentine's Day, while I gifted her flowers a few times and presented her some poetry that was inspired by her). I recently talked about feeling jealous about the way she spoke to one of my close-friends, as well as elaborated of these feelings of her distance, and she told me not to worry and that I'd misconstrued her intentions, that she really just wants the approval of my friends.
 
I'm not worried about that jealousy at all, now. The bulk of that conversation was about what I perceived to be her disinterest in me. She got that I worried very often about her truly loving me, and advised very emphatically not to worry about that any more. But I'm not sure; I still have that nagging thought that she had said she loved me just to reassure me that time, and continues on with it now for much the same reason. She only ever says "I love you, too" (because I'm always the one to initiate with those sorts of things).
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How do I fix the jealousy I have from failing to realize
assistant