I recently took a job out of state, leaving behind an amazing 2 year relationship with "Mary". Mary stayed behind for her own job, but she was seriously considering the idea of joining me in the new city. We agreed to break up, because of circumstances alone, and she booked a flight to visit 3 months after I arrived, with the subtext that we would both probably still be "single" (in it's loosest sense, i.e. not in a committed or sexual relationship) and would continue our romantic relationship during her visit, which is now one month away.

She also told me to tell her if I met someone, so she can cancel her flight. We are still really into each other, but Mary recently conceded that it doesn't seem realistic for her to move anytime soon. That said, she is still visiting in less than a month, and we are both very excited. Mary and I hold onto hope that we will be able to resume our awesome relationship somewhere down the road, even if not right now.

Meanwhile, I met a new girl ("Sarah"), went on a couple of dates, and we're to that point where she wants to start having sex, lot's of it, and I really want to oblige. However, I still love Mary and don't want to hurt her. I truly want her to visit, and our friendship is worth so much to me--I am afraid she would feel hurt and rejected if I told her about Sarah. I think Mary would understand if I started dating after her visit, just not before. 

On the other hand, we're broken up, and I'm really excited by Sarah and all the awesome sex we want to have (we really want to have a bunch of it). I question whether or not this thing with Mary is healthy to continue, or if I just need to tell her about the impending thing with Sarah and let it run its course, which could mean hurting Mary and our friendship.

What do I do? Do I tell Sarah about my situation and explain that I can't really get serious until after Mary's visit? Do I tell Mary about Sarah and risk her being hurt and estranged? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks!
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I recently moved for a job, left an incredibly wonderful 2 year relationship behind to move to a new city, and met someone new. We might still be "single" but we are both excited, and I'm not sure if I should tell her about the impending thing with Sarah.
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I recently took a job out of state, leaving behind an amazing 2 year relationship with "Mary". Mary stayed behind for her own job, but she was seriously considering the idea of joining me in the new city. We agreed to break up, because of circumstances alone, and she booked a flight to visit 3 months after I arrived, with the subtext that we would both probably still be "single" (in it's loosest sense, i.e. not in a committed or sexual relationship) and would continue our romantic relationship during her visit, which is now one month away.

She also told me to tell her if I met someone, so she can cancel her flight. We are still really into each other, but Mary recently conceded that it doesn't seem realistic for her to move anytime soon. That said, she is still visiting in less than a month, and we are both very excited. Mary and I hold onto hope that we will be able to resume our awesome relationship somewhere down the road, even if not right now.

Meanwhile, I met a new girl ("Sarah"), went on a couple of dates, and we're to that point where she wants to start having sex, lot's of it, and I really want to oblige. However, I still love Mary and don't want to hurt her. I truly want her to visit, and our friendship is worth so much to me--I am afraid she would feel hurt and rejected if I told her about Sarah. I think Mary would understand if I started dating after her visit, just not before. 

On the other hand, we're broken up, and I'm really excited by Sarah and all the awesome sex we want to have (we really want to have a bunch of it). I question whether or not this thing with Mary is healthy to continue, or if I just need to tell her about the impending thing with Sarah and let it run its course, which could mean hurting Mary and our friendship.

What do I do? Do I tell Sarah about my situation and explain that I can't really get serious until after Mary's visit? Do I tell Mary about Sarah and risk her being hurt and estranged? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks!
user
Fiance and I are broke up, and are having sex for the first time in a month. Do I tell her? And what do I do about my lack of commitment with her?
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