So, last night, I posed a question to my boyfriend and it spiraled out of control. He thought something was wrong (which is the only time I should ask questions in his opinion- he hates theoretical conversations) and it opened up a gigantic can of worms. One of them being he thinks I think the time and attention he gives me isn't enough for me. He generally likes to be alone, so being around me, doing things to involve me is actually a huge thing for him. It is enough for me, and I tell him so. If anything, I feel like he's paying too much attention to me, and doing too many nice things for me. But he won't listen when I tell him. I don't know how I can get him to.

I've worked so hard to be with him, and I always try to give him enough space so he doesn't feel smothered or hounded. I live with him, so it's hard not to see him all the time, but when I didn't, I made a point not to call or text him unless it was important- edit: this would sometimes mean I wouldn't see or talk to him for weeks on end. In the beginning of our relationship, I texted him several times a day, and found out he detested it, so I stopped. So unless he called or texted, and if he was really busy at work, I sometimes wouldn't see him for two weeks. I never complain if he wants to play video games- I just ask if I can watch, and that's good enough for me. I rarely ask him to alter his schedule, since he has such a long work week. Only if he's had time off do I ask maybe if we can watch a DVD instead of him playing video games.

And I really am happy with what we have. I've even told him I don't know why he tries as hard as he does for me. I just don't think he believes me.
(edited for clarity)
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Had a fight with fiance last night over miscommunication, bringing up
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So, last night, I posed a question to my boyfriend and it spiraled out of control. He thought something was wrong (which is the only time I should ask questions in his opinion- he hates theoretical conversations) and it opened up a gigantic can of worms. One of them being he thinks I think the time and attention he gives me isn't enough for me. He generally likes to be alone, so being around me, doing things to involve me is actually a huge thing for him. It is enough for me, and I tell him so. If anything, I feel like he's paying too much attention to me, and doing too many nice things for me. But he won't listen when I tell him. I don't know how I can get him to.

I've worked so hard to be with him, and I always try to give him enough space so he doesn't feel smothered or hounded. I live with him, so it's hard not to see him all the time, but when I didn't, I made a point not to call or text him unless it was important- edit: this would sometimes mean I wouldn't see or talk to him for weeks on end. In the beginning of our relationship, I texted him several times a day, and found out he detested it, so I stopped. So unless he called or texted, and if he was really busy at work, I sometimes wouldn't see him for two weeks. I never complain if he wants to play video games- I just ask if I can watch, and that's good enough for me. I rarely ask him to alter his schedule, since he has such a long work week. Only if he's had time off do I ask maybe if we can watch a DVD instead of him playing video games.

And I really am happy with what we have. I've even told him I don't know why he tries as hard as he does for me. I just don't think he believes me.
(edited for clarity)
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Boyfriend doesn't believe I'm "truly" in love with him, and I
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