I don't know if I am being unfair or unreasonable, but, that's why I am hoping someone may be able to give me some advice/insight on how to handle this situation. 

My boyfriend smoked when we first started dating. I told myself I would never date a smoker, personal reasons, but yet I felt he was worth forgetting that rule for. He is. He is an amazing person. I won't ever deny that. 

The problem is, we've been together a year and a half...and the last six months of our relationship he maybe had 1 cigarette. He quit. It was amazing. No more smoke breath, no more standing out in the cold or waiting for him to finish a cigarette. No more imagining what every breath he took while inhaling that cigarette was doing to his lungs... it's been great.

Unfortunately he's been slowly getting back into it...and at first he started hiding it from me. I put a hoodie on of his and in the pocket was a wrapper from a box of cigarettes. I confronted him about it and he claimed it wasn't his. He isn't normally one to lie, but I am not sure if that was the truth or not. 

Then slowly but surely he eventually started smoking in front of me. This obviously bums me out, and when he smokes I end up getting really sad and give him the cold shoulder. I don't do it to be mean, or to punish him, I just can't help but feel disappointed and hurt... thinking about all the progress he's made. I understand it must be hard for him to not smoke when nearly all of his friends smoke...I'd say 95% of them do. I also recognize it is an addiction that many people never can fully quit. 

He says it's wrong of me to ignore him or give him the cold shoulder just because I feel it's a bad choice for him. Idk...it may be. I just can't hide that it makes me sad and that I'm disappointed when I know he's smoking. I don't do it to be mean. I really don't. 

Any advice/tips/thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
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boyfriend quit smoking but
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I don't know if I am being unfair or unreasonable, but, that's why I am hoping someone may be able to give me some advice/insight on how to handle this situation. 

My boyfriend smoked when we first started dating. I told myself I would never date a smoker, personal reasons, but yet I felt he was worth forgetting that rule for. He is. He is an amazing person. I won't ever deny that. 

The problem is, we've been together a year and a half...and the last six months of our relationship he maybe had 1 cigarette. He quit. It was amazing. No more smoke breath, no more standing out in the cold or waiting for him to finish a cigarette. No more imagining what every breath he took while inhaling that cigarette was doing to his lungs... it's been great.

Unfortunately he's been slowly getting back into it...and at first he started hiding it from me. I put a hoodie on of his and in the pocket was a wrapper from a box of cigarettes. I confronted him about it and he claimed it wasn't his. He isn't normally one to lie, but I am not sure if that was the truth or not. 

Then slowly but surely he eventually started smoking in front of me. This obviously bums me out, and when he smokes I end up getting really sad and give him the cold shoulder. I don't do it to be mean, or to punish him, I just can't help but feel disappointed and hurt... thinking about all the progress he's made. I understand it must be hard for him to not smoke when nearly all of his friends smoke...I'd say 95% of them do. I also recognize it is an addiction that many people never can fully quit. 

He says it's wrong of me to ignore him or give him the cold shoulder just because I feel it's a bad choice for him. Idk...it may be. I just can't hide that it makes me sad and that I'm disappointed when I know he's smoking. I don't do it to be mean. I really don't. 

Any advice/tips/thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
user
Boyfriend started smoking again
assistant