Have been in an amazing, committed relationship for seven years. We are both 33. My fiancé is out of the country for three weeks and I have been dealing with my loneliness by drinking alone (unhealthy coping mechanisms). An old college friend texted me last night, while I was practically black out drunk, telling me that he was coming out of the closet. We text for a while and, suddenly, I thought I could cheer him up by texting him a picture of my boobs. Then we start texting dirty shit back and forth. Terrible, terrible, I have literally no idea what I was thinking and why I would jeopardize my amazing relationship for something so fucking irrational and stupid. I cannot stop thinking about this and feel so terrible. I don't think telling fiancé is the thing to do: the whole exchange with college friend meant absolutely nothing and it will absolutely be more confusing and hurtful than anything. But I now have terrible anxiety that college friend is going to do soemthing terrible with the texts or pictures and ruin my life. I know this was wrong, I'm not trying to rationalize anything, but I just need to know whether I've ruined the best thing in my life.  I never had any romantic involvement with college friend, and he is generally a good human being (but I can never know for sure).
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A college friend texted me and
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Have been in an amazing, committed relationship for seven years. We are both 33. My fiancé is out of the country for three weeks and I have been dealing with my loneliness by drinking alone (unhealthy coping mechanisms). An old college friend texted me last night, while I was practically black out drunk, telling me that he was coming out of the closet. We text for a while and, suddenly, I thought I could cheer him up by texting him a picture of my boobs. Then we start texting dirty shit back and forth. Terrible, terrible, I have literally no idea what I was thinking and why I would jeopardize my amazing relationship for something so fucking irrational and stupid. I cannot stop thinking about this and feel so terrible. I don't think telling fiancé is the thing to do: the whole exchange with college friend meant absolutely nothing and it will absolutely be more confusing and hurtful than anything. But I now have terrible anxiety that college friend is going to do soemthing terrible with the texts or pictures and ruin my life. I know this was wrong, I'm not trying to rationalize anything, but I just need to know whether I've ruined the best thing in my life.  I never had any romantic involvement with college friend, and he is generally a good human being (but I can never know for sure).
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Made dumb sexual advances on a
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