I have problems being present and being there with Him or when we are out with friends he feels like I'm not there. We could be cuddling on the couch but he feels like he is alone. We went out and he felt like I was a rain cloud bringing everything down. We have been fighting over this, and he feels like I am not trying to be more there. We have been together for 7/8 months and at first he felt like I just wanted him for the "arm candy". Really I loved that he made an effort. Most guys have always just wanted to have sex with me, he didn't want that. Because of most guys just wanting sex I never really put stock in people, and push them away.  
 
I am not the perky bubbly girl, I have always been the quite one reading. I have read a bunch of stuff on how to present. But I don't know if it is the right advice and if it has helped. Mostly the things I have found have been people asking for help with getting their SO to be there, but here are two of them [this one]( [another one I read.]( I don't know what to do or say to be there enough for him. 

Yes for a long while I was very emotionally detached. I grew up being over looked so I pushed everything away as well. I am trying but I don't know if he can tell. 

And any other advice for making him feel loved and appreciated would be very thankful.
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need help boyfriend [24] says I [20,F] am not present and emotionally detrached. I would
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I have problems being present and being there with Him or when we are out with friends he feels like I'm not there. We could be cuddling on the couch but he feels like he is alone. We went out and he felt like I was a rain cloud bringing everything down. We have been fighting over this, and he feels like I am not trying to be more there. We have been together for 7/8 months and at first he felt like I just wanted him for the "arm candy". Really I loved that he made an effort. Most guys have always just wanted to have sex with me, he didn't want that. Because of most guys just wanting sex I never really put stock in people, and push them away.  
 
I am not the perky bubbly girl, I have always been the quite one reading. I have read a bunch of stuff on how to present. But I don't know if it is the right advice and if it has helped. Mostly the things I have found have been people asking for help with getting their SO to be there, but here are two of them [this one]( [another one I read.]( I don't know what to do or say to be there enough for him. 

Yes for a long while I was very emotionally detached. I grew up being over looked so I pushed everything away as well. I am trying but I don't know if he can tell. 

And any other advice for making him feel loved and appreciated would be very thankful.
user
I don't know how to emotionally connect with my boyfriend and want tips to help.
assistant