I was with my first love for 4 years. She was from a different country and had no family here so I was basically like her brother, parent, boyfriend all in one. That could be why our relationship failed but that's another story. Anyways, I was with her for 4 years, our relationship was great, I loved her very much, my parents loved her etc.. The only problem was that since she was from another country she needed to get married to stay here/go home/be a legal worker. I always promised to marry her but I am young and it was my first relationship so I kept selfishly putting it off until she couldn't take the empty promises and ran off with a guy from her work and they married after 3 months. I understand she doesn't love me anymore and I am not trying to get her back because that ship sailed a long time ago, however I am very worried about her. Like I said I took care of this girl like I was her parent and she meant a lot to me. It kills me to think about her with this guy. She says that she is happier than she has ever been but I think she is just trying to convince herself that since there is no going back now. How can a marriage last after only knowing the person for 3 months before getting married and the main reason for marriage is legal reasons? I am so worried for her because this guy is not attractive at all, has no money (filed for bankruptcy) would never be able to get a girl like her without her needing to be married , and he owns a gun. I am scared that after she gets what she wants (green card) she will regret marrying him and he will hurt her/cause her problems. I want her to be happy even though it hurts me and my brain tortures me thinking about her with this guy but I can't help but think that this marriage won't last and something bad will happen to her.
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My ex of 4 years married
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I was with my first love for 4 years. She was from a different country and had no family here so I was basically like her brother, parent, boyfriend all in one. That could be why our relationship failed but that's another story. Anyways, I was with her for 4 years, our relationship was great, I loved her very much, my parents loved her etc.. The only problem was that since she was from another country she needed to get married to stay here/go home/be a legal worker. I always promised to marry her but I am young and it was my first relationship so I kept selfishly putting it off until she couldn't take the empty promises and ran off with a guy from her work and they married after 3 months. I understand she doesn't love me anymore and I am not trying to get her back because that ship sailed a long time ago, however I am very worried about her. Like I said I took care of this girl like I was her parent and she meant a lot to me. It kills me to think about her with this guy. She says that she is happier than she has ever been but I think she is just trying to convince herself that since there is no going back now. How can a marriage last after only knowing the person for 3 months before getting married and the main reason for marriage is legal reasons? I am so worried for her because this guy is not attractive at all, has no money (filed for bankruptcy) would never be able to get a girl like her without her needing to be married , and he owns a gun. I am scared that after she gets what she wants (green card) she will regret marrying him and he will hurt her/cause her problems. I want her to be happy even though it hurts me and my brain tortures me thinking about her with this guy but I can't help but think that this marriage won't last and something bad will happen to her.
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I am worried about my first
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