Two years ago my mother[58/F] was diagnosed with small cell carcinoma, it was stage 4, and she had an inoperable tumor in her lung.

After very aggressive chemo and radiation, the lung tumor shrunk and went dormant. Meanwhile, it metastasized as a tumor in her brain. She had several months of radiation treatments on her brain, but it did not help, so surgery was performed(knowing there would be life repercussions). Doctors still say they don't expect her to survive another two years.

 After the surgery, she has completely lost her balance, depth perception, etc., and can no longer drive(and needs the help of a walker to walk). She has also lost her ability to perform simple mental tasks, can no longer operate a computer, and her short term memory has taken a very bad hit, so she can no longer work.

Last June she asked me to move into her place, so I can help her, as she had tried to drive to get groceries and had driven into a ditch. I did so, as she had raised me by her self, I can help her now too. She can still do most daily functions, and so I can go to work and leave her home.

This comes to why I am asking. I've tried dating since moving here, and have not had much luck. First two said there just wasn't a spark, and well sure, whatever, but last weekend my date didn't tell me that. When we were getting to know each other, and why I moved to town, I mentioned the situation, as I am not going to start off lying.

This particular woman told said "What are you a momma's boy? That is weird your are 27 and live with your mom, if she needs help, that is what nursing homes are for." Needless to say, I didn't call her again.

I was pretty angry then, but have since wondered if this is why I have struck out so much. Is my situation something that makes me undateable at the moment? I know there is that stigma of adult children living at home, but this is a different situation, or so I thought. Should I just wait until she passes to try and find a partner?
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Wondering if me moving into disabled mother's home to help her has made
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Two years ago my mother[58/F] was diagnosed with small cell carcinoma, it was stage 4, and she had an inoperable tumor in her lung.

After very aggressive chemo and radiation, the lung tumor shrunk and went dormant. Meanwhile, it metastasized as a tumor in her brain. She had several months of radiation treatments on her brain, but it did not help, so surgery was performed(knowing there would be life repercussions). Doctors still say they don't expect her to survive another two years.

 After the surgery, she has completely lost her balance, depth perception, etc., and can no longer drive(and needs the help of a walker to walk). She has also lost her ability to perform simple mental tasks, can no longer operate a computer, and her short term memory has taken a very bad hit, so she can no longer work.

Last June she asked me to move into her place, so I can help her, as she had tried to drive to get groceries and had driven into a ditch. I did so, as she had raised me by her self, I can help her now too. She can still do most daily functions, and so I can go to work and leave her home.

This comes to why I am asking. I've tried dating since moving here, and have not had much luck. First two said there just wasn't a spark, and well sure, whatever, but last weekend my date didn't tell me that. When we were getting to know each other, and why I moved to town, I mentioned the situation, as I am not going to start off lying.

This particular woman told said "What are you a momma's boy? That is weird your are 27 and live with your mom, if she needs help, that is what nursing homes are for." Needless to say, I didn't call her again.

I was pretty angry then, but have since wondered if this is why I have struck out so much. Is my situation something that makes me undateable at the moment? I know there is that stigma of adult children living at home, but this is a different situation, or so I thought. Should I just wait until she passes to try and find a partner?
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Mother with cancer has lost her ability to function due to chemo and
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