OK, My husband and I were high school sweet hearts, gave each other our virginities, the whole shebang.  

Shortly after we got married we got into a HUGE fight that was never really resolved, but we swept it under the rug to save our marriage.  For the last seven - eight months  I've had conflicting feelings.  Sometimes I really want the white picket fence with the 2.5 children....  Other times, I want to pack my stuff,  get my own place, and do my own thing.  Figure out who I AM as a person.

We never took the chance to figure out who we are.  We went from living with our parents, to living with each other.  I often find myself wondering "what if" A LOT.  

But after I have these thoughts I think of all the little things.  We have SO much history together and our families are SO intertwined that it would be impossible to completely move on.  It's not that I DON'T love him, because I do.  He is such a wonderful man, basically everything that I have ever wanted, minus a few things, but he doesn't make my knees weak.  If I am completely honest, I doubt that I make him feel butterflies too.  Anyways back to topic...

I've noticed lately that the "spark" isn't there anymore.  Now it's  more of a comforting rhythm between us.  I find myself wondering if it's normal to be married in your twenties and feel like you have the marriage of your grandparents. 

Is it possible to rekindle that spark?  Is it a working relationship if there is no spark? If I am the only one who feels this way; is it selfish to stay?
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OK, My husband and I were high school sweet hearts, gave each other our virginities, the whole shebang.  

Shortly after we got married we got into a HUGE fight that was never really resolved, but we swept it under the rug to save our marriage.  For the last seven - eight months  I've had conflicting feelings.  Sometimes I really want the white picket fence with the 2.5 children....  Other times, I want to pack my stuff,  get my own place, and do my own thing.  Figure out who I AM as a person.

We never took the chance to figure out who we are.  We went from living with our parents, to living with each other.  I often find myself wondering "what if" A LOT.  

But after I have these thoughts I think of all the little things.  We have SO much history together and our families are SO intertwined that it would be impossible to completely move on.  It's not that I DON'T love him, because I do.  He is such a wonderful man, basically everything that I have ever wanted, minus a few things, but he doesn't make my knees weak.  If I am completely honest, I doubt that I make him feel butterflies too.  Anyways back to topic...

I've noticed lately that the "spark" isn't there anymore.  Now it's  more of a comforting rhythm between us.  I find myself wondering if it's normal to be married in your twenties and feel like you have the marriage of your grandparents. 

Is it possible to rekindle that spark?  Is it a working relationship if there is no spark? If I am the only one who feels this way; is it selfish to stay?
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