I had no idea my wife felt this way until she told me 3 weeks ago that she was leaving me. My wife has repeatedly stated many times that she wants a divorce over this period after I have repeatedly spoken with her about working through our issues. I'm submitting this here not because I want advice on how to save the marriage ( she's very clear that she's happier without me and that she prefers to be alone; even stated I had been amazing to her the past months), but because I am having trouble in my day to day life.

I still love her very much and I am at an overwhelming loss on how to cope with this. We did everything together. I try to maintain composure in my Work life, but I can't make it through most days without crying and the emotions are overwhelmingly crushing me at times.  It's keeping me from focusing in my studies for my bachelors because I can't stop dwelling on this loss.  I've often thought of suicide as a way to cope with the pain, but I refuse to take a cowards way out and hurt my close family and friends. 

I'm afraid I've tied too much of my self-worth into this relationship; that I'll never find another person that could understand me and enjoy the things I enjoy. I drastically want to be part of her life, but I love her so I'm respecting her wishes on wanting to end the marriage.

Please offer any advice, insights, or stories on ways to make it through this. I need/want to work through this, but I don't know how to make it.  Everyday is a fight and struggle; I feel like I'm losing.

I can answer any questions people have about this.

EDIT : We moved to Louisville together in 2006 and most of our friends here are the same. One of my friends is actually marrying her sister and it makes it extremely hard emotionally to move on while most of my connections are heavily involved with her still.
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my wife left our 12 year relationship; I drastically need help, support, advice, or stories to get me through these rough times.
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I had no idea my wife felt this way until she told me 3 weeks ago that she was leaving me. My wife has repeatedly stated many times that she wants a divorce over this period after I have repeatedly spoken with her about working through our issues. I'm submitting this here not because I want advice on how to save the marriage ( she's very clear that she's happier without me and that she prefers to be alone; even stated I had been amazing to her the past months), but because I am having trouble in my day to day life.

I still love her very much and I am at an overwhelming loss on how to cope with this. We did everything together. I try to maintain composure in my Work life, but I can't make it through most days without crying and the emotions are overwhelmingly crushing me at times.  It's keeping me from focusing in my studies for my bachelors because I can't stop dwelling on this loss.  I've often thought of suicide as a way to cope with the pain, but I refuse to take a cowards way out and hurt my close family and friends. 

I'm afraid I've tied too much of my self-worth into this relationship; that I'll never find another person that could understand me and enjoy the things I enjoy. I drastically want to be part of her life, but I love her so I'm respecting her wishes on wanting to end the marriage.

Please offer any advice, insights, or stories on ways to make it through this. I need/want to work through this, but I don't know how to make it.  Everyday is a fight and struggle; I feel like I'm losing.

I can answer any questions people have about this.

EDIT : We moved to Louisville together in 2006 and most of our friends here are the same. One of my friends is actually marrying her sister and it makes it extremely hard emotionally to move on while most of my connections are heavily involved with her still.
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My wife [27 F] left me [28 M] after being together for 12 years and is now married 4 1/2. I need to work through this, but I
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