Okay so, firstly, I'm in a long distance relationship at the moment with an amazing guy I'm just head over heels for. We've been dating for over a year, and we can finally meet in march. He hadn't been able to visit before due to switching jobs. He's paying for all his expenses over here and we're planning a trip to a big city in my state after a few days of meeting my family and being in my hometown.

Another thing, I'm still very dependant on my mom (she still grounds me!). I'm trying not to be, trying to fix past mistakes (which revolved around my pretty bad depression), and looking for a job. Still, I haven't found one, and I still need her to pay for my school. I help around the house and have been writing down everything I owe her lately, too. My goal is to be self sufficient by next year. 

The problem is my mom doesn't like him. She's never even exchanged a word with him, mind you, but not for lack of trying. She just fb stalked him and made a crapload of snap judgements. Our age difference and long distance nature hasn't exactly helped my cause either. I think meeting him would soothe a lot of her anxieties, but I'm still not sure.

Anyway, she's been saying that she might not even let me go to the 3 day trip within a trip with him. He needs to book these reservations now. She also hints that she won't let me spend the night with him,  or really do anything alone with him (except eating out and showing him around our tiny, unimpressive town in the daytime). Is there any way I can get her to back off from my relationship? She treats me like I'm 16. Do I have any right to a bit of freedom? I realize there's a heavy "her house, her rules" kinda sentiment, but do I deserve a bit of leeway? I don't think it's unreasonable to want privacy and a good time with someone who I'll only see a couple times a year at best at no expense to her.
user
mom's overbearing and treating me like a child. Doesn't approve of or respect my relationship at all. Boyfriend of over a year is coming to meet me for the first time, and she's getting in the way. I'm still dependent on her.
assistant
Okay so, firstly, I'm in a long distance relationship at the moment with an amazing guy I'm just head over heels for. We've been dating for over a year, and we can finally meet in march. He hadn't been able to visit before due to switching jobs. He's paying for all his expenses over here and we're planning a trip to a big city in my state after a few days of meeting my family and being in my hometown.

Another thing, I'm still very dependant on my mom (she still grounds me!). I'm trying not to be, trying to fix past mistakes (which revolved around my pretty bad depression), and looking for a job. Still, I haven't found one, and I still need her to pay for my school. I help around the house and have been writing down everything I owe her lately, too. My goal is to be self sufficient by next year. 

The problem is my mom doesn't like him. She's never even exchanged a word with him, mind you, but not for lack of trying. She just fb stalked him and made a crapload of snap judgements. Our age difference and long distance nature hasn't exactly helped my cause either. I think meeting him would soothe a lot of her anxieties, but I'm still not sure.

Anyway, she's been saying that she might not even let me go to the 3 day trip within a trip with him. He needs to book these reservations now. She also hints that she won't let me spend the night with him,  or really do anything alone with him (except eating out and showing him around our tiny, unimpressive town in the daytime). Is there any way I can get her to back off from my relationship? She treats me like I'm 16. Do I have any right to a bit of freedom? I realize there's a heavy "her house, her rules" kinda sentiment, but do I deserve a bit of leeway? I don't think it's unreasonable to want privacy and a good time with someone who I'll only see a couple times a year at best at no expense to her.
user
Mom might be sticking with my boyfriend, but she's not letting me go for a 3 day trip with him
assistant