We are finishing our degrees together (May graduation) in a state far away from our families. I don't know if I can handle the constant arguing for three more months. The fighting is beginning to affect my grades, and although the relationship has its ups, the stress that incurs is detrimental to my stomach, my head, and my voice.

If something upsets her (almost to the point of no matter how small), she will not tell me what is wrong after many quiet attempts to mediate the situation. I try my absolute damnedest not to start raising my voice after MANY failed attempts to inquire and/or leave her in peace, but I mostly fail because I don't feel like I'm at a point in my self-control technique where I can maintain the same tone of voice when the responses I get before I react are sidetracked, or the real reason she feels a particular way is delayed by hours or even days. I make the mistake of returning to her when I feel calm or relaxed, but another (prolonged) argument seems to come around in the future. I have also made the mistake of regularly saying, in slightly different ways, "I've had enough. Please, I've reached the edge. I can't take this any longer. This arguing is not worth the stress," once the noise settles, yet the situation, in some way, coerces the two of us to be in the same room and continue our occasionally, extremely frustrating relationship. The relationship never reaches violence, but the arguing and subsequent stress feels just as intense.

I have no doubt that I am in love with her. I feel like I don't have the energy to deal with the extreme ups and downs, and I would rather be alone for a while than feel that type of stress.
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We are finishing our degrees together (May graduation) in a state far away from our families. I don't know if I can handle the constant arguing for three more months. The fighting is beginning to affect my grades, and although the relationship has its ups, the stress that incurs is detrimental to my stomach, my head, and my voice.

If something upsets her (almost to the point of no matter how small), she will not tell me what is wrong after many quiet attempts to mediate the situation. I try my absolute damnedest not to start raising my voice after MANY failed attempts to inquire and/or leave her in peace, but I mostly fail because I don't feel like I'm at a point in my self-control technique where I can maintain the same tone of voice when the responses I get before I react are sidetracked, or the real reason she feels a particular way is delayed by hours or even days. I make the mistake of returning to her when I feel calm or relaxed, but another (prolonged) argument seems to come around in the future. I have also made the mistake of regularly saying, in slightly different ways, "I've had enough. Please, I've reached the edge. I can't take this any longer. This arguing is not worth the stress," once the noise settles, yet the situation, in some way, coerces the two of us to be in the same room and continue our occasionally, extremely frustrating relationship. The relationship never reaches violence, but the arguing and subsequent stress feels just as intense.

I have no doubt that I am in love with her. I feel like I don't have the energy to deal with the extreme ups and downs, and I would rather be alone for a while than feel that type of stress.
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