For the last 2 months we've had a bit of a rough time, she was depressed about her grandfather dying and then about her university life. And eventually she started being rude etc to me and our meetings became unpleasant. I should have backed off and given her room then and there, but it felt wrong leaving her on her own when she had no one else around her to talk to so I made the mistake of seeing her almost every other day.

So after a while of this I finally decided to confront her about her attitude and rudeness toward me and say that I hadn't felt like myself around her while. She starts to cry and says she doesn't feel a spark between us anymore and she feels like she takes me for granted so she suggested we have some time apart. In a way I understand what she means, we see each other every other day and while I do all the right stuff on paper "take her to the movies, make her dinner, be lovey dovey and nice" I realised I was only being that way now to try snap her out of her mood rather than because I wanted to and the fact that I wasnt happy doing it definitely made our dynamic returning to normal impossible.

I know this sounds delusional but finally talking about our problems openly, snapped me out of the outlook I had about her and for the first time in a while I felt like myself. And I know I can make this work if me and her come back to the relationship with a clean slate. But that wont happen if she doesn't come back excited to see me.

So my question is this, how do I make these 2 weeks apart help my relationship? She has messaged me every day since we decided to spend time apart and speaking to her feels natural for the first time in months. I've planned nights out with friends every night of the next 3 weekends so my time is filled but I just want to make sure she's thinking of me while we're apart. I want to make her feel the excitement of seeing me again and I don't know how to do that.
Help me /r/relationships you're my only hope
user
Girlfriend and I had a rough patch and I planned a weekend away from her to give me a break
assistant
For the last 2 months we've had a bit of a rough time, she was depressed about her grandfather dying and then about her university life. And eventually she started being rude etc to me and our meetings became unpleasant. I should have backed off and given her room then and there, but it felt wrong leaving her on her own when she had no one else around her to talk to so I made the mistake of seeing her almost every other day.

So after a while of this I finally decided to confront her about her attitude and rudeness toward me and say that I hadn't felt like myself around her while. She starts to cry and says she doesn't feel a spark between us anymore and she feels like she takes me for granted so she suggested we have some time apart. In a way I understand what she means, we see each other every other day and while I do all the right stuff on paper "take her to the movies, make her dinner, be lovey dovey and nice" I realised I was only being that way now to try snap her out of her mood rather than because I wanted to and the fact that I wasnt happy doing it definitely made our dynamic returning to normal impossible.

I know this sounds delusional but finally talking about our problems openly, snapped me out of the outlook I had about her and for the first time in a while I felt like myself. And I know I can make this work if me and her come back to the relationship with a clean slate. But that wont happen if she doesn't come back excited to see me.

So my question is this, how do I make these 2 weeks apart help my relationship? She has messaged me every day since we decided to spend time apart and speaking to her feels natural for the first time in months. I've planned nights out with friends every night of the next 3 weekends so my time is filled but I just want to make sure she's thinking of me while we're apart. I want to make her feel the excitement of seeing me again and I don't know how to do that.
Help me /r/relationships you're my only hope
user
I don't know how to get my girlfriend back to me after spending 2 months apart without her falling out
assistant