Ages: Late 20's.

Length of relationship: ~5 years

Genders: me M, SO is F

One of the biggest issues I have with my SO is constant 'doing things' for her. My SO is the boss man at work, handling any crisis (at a very stressful job), but when it comes down to anything outside of work it falls on me.

"Uh oh I'm lost, better call [throwaway] to get me back home". Even if I'm at work, in a meeting, etc. If I don't answer my phone... holy shit. It rains fire and brimstone. "WHERE WERE YOU? I WAS IN TROUBLE!" You have multiple GPS devices, use them. "BUT I WAS ALREADY DRIVING", etc.

She just called and wanted me to book a hotel for the impromptu trip that came out of nowhere this morning. "Hey find me and my friends a hotel in [city]". You want someone not involved in any of your plans to just randomly choose your hotel? Oh and be certain that if it sucks I'll never hear the end of it. I declined, said I wasn't comfortable picking a hotel in a city I've never been too (plus I've no idea what their plans are). So now it's passive aggressive text messages and mad thoughts, because I won't be instant-travel butler.

It's not like I don't like being helpful, but I really do more than what I feel is my fair share of EVERY crisis. Regardless of hour. Or if I'm at work.
user
I'm a nice guy who always does what he's told and gets himself into trouble.
assistant
Ages: Late 20's.

Length of relationship: ~5 years

Genders: me M, SO is F

One of the biggest issues I have with my SO is constant 'doing things' for her. My SO is the boss man at work, handling any crisis (at a very stressful job), but when it comes down to anything outside of work it falls on me.

"Uh oh I'm lost, better call [throwaway] to get me back home". Even if I'm at work, in a meeting, etc. If I don't answer my phone... holy shit. It rains fire and brimstone. "WHERE WERE YOU? I WAS IN TROUBLE!" You have multiple GPS devices, use them. "BUT I WAS ALREADY DRIVING", etc.

She just called and wanted me to book a hotel for the impromptu trip that came out of nowhere this morning. "Hey find me and my friends a hotel in [city]". You want someone not involved in any of your plans to just randomly choose your hotel? Oh and be certain that if it sucks I'll never hear the end of it. I declined, said I wasn't comfortable picking a hotel in a city I've never been too (plus I've no idea what their plans are). So now it's passive aggressive text messages and mad thoughts, because I won't be instant-travel butler.

It's not like I don't like being helpful, but I really do more than what I feel is my fair share of EVERY crisis. Regardless of hour. Or if I'm at work.
user
SO wants me to do EVERYTHING, but I can't be a 20 year old who can't do anything but
assistant