Hi everyone!

So a little background before I get into the situation itself – my girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and a half and moved in with each other back in June of this year. We have had the typical issues everyone does when it comes to roommates (cleaning, chore division, watching our money closely, etc.) and things are looking up for us. We’ve had some tough times together but we always managed to pull through.

Now the current thing I need advice with: she has depression and anxiety. I knew when we started dating this would be something I’d have to learn and work with since I do not have either nor have dated someone with them. This explains why it’s hard for her to do simple tasks such as going to get her car registered without me, or simply asking for help from a store clerk. This also affects our relationship to a degree when it comes to us trying to explain our feelings or when I suggest her to help around the house or tell me how she feels. This has also affected our sex life which before was constant like every week or every other day but has now lowered to once every month or so.

I do not understand anxiety and depression, and it’s hard for me to forget about it when I set off on her a bit with things, but I always apologize after and she understands so everything is forgiven. Is anyone in a relationship or was in one with someone who had anxiety and depression? How did you cope with it and work with them? Is there anything I can do to help?
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My girlfriend has anxiety and depression and I need help
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Hi everyone!

So a little background before I get into the situation itself – my girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and a half and moved in with each other back in June of this year. We have had the typical issues everyone does when it comes to roommates (cleaning, chore division, watching our money closely, etc.) and things are looking up for us. We’ve had some tough times together but we always managed to pull through.

Now the current thing I need advice with: she has depression and anxiety. I knew when we started dating this would be something I’d have to learn and work with since I do not have either nor have dated someone with them. This explains why it’s hard for her to do simple tasks such as going to get her car registered without me, or simply asking for help from a store clerk. This also affects our relationship to a degree when it comes to us trying to explain our feelings or when I suggest her to help around the house or tell me how she feels. This has also affected our sex life which before was constant like every week or every other day but has now lowered to once every month or so.

I do not understand anxiety and depression, and it’s hard for me to forget about it when I set off on her a bit with things, but I always apologize after and she understands so everything is forgiven. Is anyone in a relationship or was in one with someone who had anxiety and depression? How did you cope with it and work with them? Is there anything I can do to help?
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I get anxiety and depression and it is causing me
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