Hello reddit
I need some perspective on a situation I've gotten myself into.

About a year ago I married my husband.
We had known each other for only 1 year.
Our relationship moved at a fast pace because we were forced too think about the future. He is from The UK, I am from canada. We didn't have the choice to have a normal relationship because we had to make heavy decisions about how to stay together.
I was a full time student and could not go to the UK to be with him, he had used up allotted visas for Canada. 
We mentioned to our close friends that we might get married to stay together. They completely turned up their noses at the idea and basically told us it was stupid.  Their reaction caused me a lot of pain and confusion, I should be able to make a decision without such criticism from my best friends.
So we got married in private, my family was there and we recorded the ceremony for his family to watch. 
We decided that we had gotten married strictly to stay together because we couldnt stand the thought of being seperated, and it was our only option (it was,trust me we tried other things like sponsorship from an employer etc.)  We agree that we do not think of us as married because we want to do it properly I the future.

My dilemma now is that I hate that I had to lie to my friends, I want to tell them but I feel that they will hate me for keeping it from them. it is also Important to know that I still want to be properly married, be engaged and everything but I feel that if ppl know I'm already married it won't be as special.

So reddit, please be tell me

What would you do in my situation?
How would you feel knowing your best friend kept this from you?
Could you forgive him/her?
Any and all advice is welcomed
user
got married in secret, didn't tell friends, feel horrible, need help.
assistant
Hello reddit
I need some perspective on a situation I've gotten myself into.

About a year ago I married my husband.
We had known each other for only 1 year.
Our relationship moved at a fast pace because we were forced too think about the future. He is from The UK, I am from canada. We didn't have the choice to have a normal relationship because we had to make heavy decisions about how to stay together.
I was a full time student and could not go to the UK to be with him, he had used up allotted visas for Canada. 
We mentioned to our close friends that we might get married to stay together. They completely turned up their noses at the idea and basically told us it was stupid.  Their reaction caused me a lot of pain and confusion, I should be able to make a decision without such criticism from my best friends.
So we got married in private, my family was there and we recorded the ceremony for his family to watch. 
We decided that we had gotten married strictly to stay together because we couldnt stand the thought of being seperated, and it was our only option (it was,trust me we tried other things like sponsorship from an employer etc.)  We agree that we do not think of us as married because we want to do it properly I the future.

My dilemma now is that I hate that I had to lie to my friends, I want to tell them but I feel that they will hate me for keeping it from them. it is also Important to know that I still want to be properly married, be engaged and everything but I feel that if ppl know I'm already married it won't be as special.

So reddit, please be tell me

What would you do in my situation?
How would you feel knowing your best friend kept this from you?
Could you forgive him/her?
Any and all advice is welcomed
user
I got married 3 months ago secretly, I want to tell my best friend but I
assistant