My girlfriend and I have been dating and living together for a long time. We get along OK. She is mad at me sometimes, usually about what she feels is a lack of communication, but we always work it out. We don't have any real problems, and I think are happier together than most couples after 10 years. I think she'll be a good mom.

We're talking about getting married, and I just can't feel OK with it. As a male I feel like there is absolutely no incentive to be married except to make her happy. 50%+ of marriages end in divorce. 80%+ women get custody of children. I make a lot of money, she doesn't make any. Alimony would be ridiculous.

I am supposed to be excited about getting married. But I can't be. People change, what if in 20 years we decided we want something different? Or even just she decides it? It stacks the deck incredibly against me, and is super illogical. I feel like it is this religious relic constructed to ease insecurity in males "shes mine now, under god", and for blackmail "dont change or I get half your things and your kids will hate you". 

Please talk some sense in to me.
user
I am a man who is afraid of marriage, but I don't want to be single forever.
assistant
My girlfriend and I have been dating and living together for a long time. We get along OK. She is mad at me sometimes, usually about what she feels is a lack of communication, but we always work it out. We don't have any real problems, and I think are happier together than most couples after 10 years. I think she'll be a good mom.

We're talking about getting married, and I just can't feel OK with it. As a male I feel like there is absolutely no incentive to be married except to make her happy. 50%+ of marriages end in divorce. 80%+ women get custody of children. I make a lot of money, she doesn't make any. Alimony would be ridiculous.

I am supposed to be excited about getting married. But I can't be. People change, what if in 20 years we decided we want something different? Or even just she decides it? It stacks the deck incredibly against me, and is super illogical. I feel like it is this religious relic constructed to ease insecurity in males "shes mine now, under god", and for blackmail "dont change or I get half your things and your kids will hate you". 

Please talk some sense in to me.
user
Afraid of marriage. No reason to be. Not sure if its rational.
assistant