My sister is 10 years older than me and pretty much raised me until I was 10. She married when I was 11 but I hated the guy, still do. In fact my entire family does not care for him but they never say it. The guy is a deadbeat who makes my sister do everything for him. His entire family is this way and it is very sad. He acts very macho and is constantly teases/mocks people for anything he considers strange or feminine. He just ruins all our family gatherings (if he shows up) and has been one of the reasons my sister and I have a rough relationship.

Yes, I know my sister is part of the problem. She views her husband as a good father and a good husband. Constantly posting on fb on how happy she is when I know it is the opposite. Every time I visit her home I am surprised at her living conditions and the way he treats her, so much to a point that I don't visit anymore because it saddens me.

My sister has two sons who are reaching their early teens. The problem is that I do not like the way my nephews are turning out. They idolize their father who is probably equivalent to that "cool prankster guy" in a school setting even though he is 34 as well. I hear my nephews talk about girls like their father does and they make sexual jokes all the time, trying to come off as cool to their father.

My question is, what should my relationship be with my nephews as they mimic and become their dad? I want a relationship with them but I feel almost disgusted when I hear them talk about girls the way they do. When I tell them that some of the things they are saying are not cool, they think I have a stick up my ass and will start teasing me about it. My sister and her husband think it is funny when this happens but it honestly seems super disrespectful. 

I attend my nephews sports games when they have it and I am there for their birthdays and holidays but I can't seem to bring myself around knowing they are acting like min versions of their dad. What do I do?
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My sister has a deadbeat immature sexist husband. Nephews are reaching teen years and mimic their father's behavior. Since my sister worships her husband, no one has a
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My sister is 10 years older than me and pretty much raised me until I was 10. She married when I was 11 but I hated the guy, still do. In fact my entire family does not care for him but they never say it. The guy is a deadbeat who makes my sister do everything for him. His entire family is this way and it is very sad. He acts very macho and is constantly teases/mocks people for anything he considers strange or feminine. He just ruins all our family gatherings (if he shows up) and has been one of the reasons my sister and I have a rough relationship.

Yes, I know my sister is part of the problem. She views her husband as a good father and a good husband. Constantly posting on fb on how happy she is when I know it is the opposite. Every time I visit her home I am surprised at her living conditions and the way he treats her, so much to a point that I don't visit anymore because it saddens me.

My sister has two sons who are reaching their early teens. The problem is that I do not like the way my nephews are turning out. They idolize their father who is probably equivalent to that "cool prankster guy" in a school setting even though he is 34 as well. I hear my nephews talk about girls like their father does and they make sexual jokes all the time, trying to come off as cool to their father.

My question is, what should my relationship be with my nephews as they mimic and become their dad? I want a relationship with them but I feel almost disgusted when I hear them talk about girls the way they do. When I tell them that some of the things they are saying are not cool, they think I have a stick up my ass and will start teasing me about it. My sister and her husband think it is funny when this happens but it honestly seems super disrespectful. 

I attend my nephews sports games when they have it and I am there for their birthdays and holidays but I can't seem to bring myself around knowing they are acting like min versions of their dad. What do I do?
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My nephews are imitating their dad in every way and I do not like it. They think it is funny when I tell them they are not cool.
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