I have a colleague who enjoys gambling. He goes almost daily on his lunch break to the casino to get food at the bar (no alcohol) and gamble. I do enjoy his company but I don't care for gambling and the second hand smoke is really bad. Also I can't afford to eat there more than once a month as the prices are ridiculous. This is not a problem for him as he makes more than quadruple my income plus his investments. I've told him these things and he always says that he'll loan me money. I don't need a money I just don't want to go!

Anyway, whenever I decline he gets very sour at me. The longer I don't go the more pressure he puts on me and I feel very uncomfortable. I need to interact with him daily so I don't want to get on his bad side, plus I don't know if he would get canned for going to what is essentially a bar if HR found out. It seems like something two adults could just discuss but I can't get the message through to him.
user
colleague keeps pressuring me to go to lunch with him despite my lack of interest in gambling; does not respect my wishes and is creating a bad vibe; need
assistant
I have a colleague who enjoys gambling. He goes almost daily on his lunch break to the casino to get food at the bar (no alcohol) and gamble. I do enjoy his company but I don't care for gambling and the second hand smoke is really bad. Also I can't afford to eat there more than once a month as the prices are ridiculous. This is not a problem for him as he makes more than quadruple my income plus his investments. I've told him these things and he always says that he'll loan me money. I don't need a money I just don't want to go!

Anyway, whenever I decline he gets very sour at me. The longer I don't go the more pressure he puts on me and I feel very uncomfortable. I need to interact with him daily so I don't want to get on his bad side, plus I don't know if he would get canned for going to what is essentially a bar if HR found out. It seems like something two adults could just discuss but I can't get the message through to him.
user
colleague keeps pressing me to go to lunch with him constantly despite me not wanting to and creating bad vibe when I refuse. need advice on how to interact
assistant