We met back in October, and became friends rather quickly. We both recently got out of a couple of long-term relationships (about 2 years each, both got out around 5-6 months ago). I've heard him bring up his ex a few times, and I've talked about mine with our friend group on a few occasions as well. Since we started out as friends, talking about these things didn't seem so taboo.

I knew immediately that I was somewhat attracted to him, but since I was still pretty hung up on my ex, I didn't want to pursue it at all. I recall him telling me the same thing back when we were first becoming friends.

Then about a month ago, we hooked up. No sex, but heavy making out/cuddling. We were drinking, but neither of us were anywhere near drunk. For a few weeks following this, we had some weird kind of cuddle-buddy thing going on. I know we probably should've, but we never talked about any of this.

Now he's really all I can think about. I'm starting to develop real feelings for him. I've also noticed that I'm not thinking about my ex that much anymore nowadays. I haven;t stopped thinking of him completely, but it's drastically less than the beginning of the semester.

The problem is that over break, I've been feel ourselves drifting apart. I don't know if I'm just too attached to my phone or he prefers talking in person more or whatever (our primary form of communications since break started is text), but we talk less and less everyday. I'm afraid that I'm getting on his nerves.

We get back from break in a few weeks, so I can see if there's any drastic change in the way he interacts with me when we get back.

My question is: Is this something I should pursue? I think I would be up to make the first move if I can confirm that there is even some kind of hope that he'd say yes. However, we have such a good friendship, and I'm afraid of losing that.

Also, should I take the talking less over break thing personally? Or am I just over-thinking things?
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Started lightly hooking up with a recent good friend of mine; starting to develop feelings for him; signs do not look favorable, but I could be over thinking
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We met back in October, and became friends rather quickly. We both recently got out of a couple of long-term relationships (about 2 years each, both got out around 5-6 months ago). I've heard him bring up his ex a few times, and I've talked about mine with our friend group on a few occasions as well. Since we started out as friends, talking about these things didn't seem so taboo.

I knew immediately that I was somewhat attracted to him, but since I was still pretty hung up on my ex, I didn't want to pursue it at all. I recall him telling me the same thing back when we were first becoming friends.

Then about a month ago, we hooked up. No sex, but heavy making out/cuddling. We were drinking, but neither of us were anywhere near drunk. For a few weeks following this, we had some weird kind of cuddle-buddy thing going on. I know we probably should've, but we never talked about any of this.

Now he's really all I can think about. I'm starting to develop real feelings for him. I've also noticed that I'm not thinking about my ex that much anymore nowadays. I haven;t stopped thinking of him completely, but it's drastically less than the beginning of the semester.

The problem is that over break, I've been feel ourselves drifting apart. I don't know if I'm just too attached to my phone or he prefers talking in person more or whatever (our primary form of communications since break started is text), but we talk less and less everyday. I'm afraid that I'm getting on his nerves.

We get back from break in a few weeks, so I can see if there's any drastic change in the way he interacts with me when we get back.

My question is: Is this something I should pursue? I think I would be up to make the first move if I can confirm that there is even some kind of hope that he'd say yes. However, we have such a good friendship, and I'm afraid of losing that.

Also, should I take the talking less over break thing personally? Or am I just over-thinking things?
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Started hooking up with friend of 3 months, unsure if I should pursue a relationship or not.
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