So as you probably guessed we met in high school and things lasted for quite a while. It was awesome, it was terrible, it got ugly at times. I don't dwell on it, but you can kind of get the gist of it. We were each others' first everything and she was the first girl I ever thought I truly loved.

We broke things off when I went to college and basically things didn't end well and we aren't on speaking terms anymore. Despite it being my first and a very long relationship I finally got over it, stopped thinking about her regularly, went on with my life, dated other people and have felt fairly invested although not to the extent I felt with her.

And yet I still have dreams about her from time to time, I'll wonder how she's doing, but I haven't checked on her social media in years. The fact that this is happening when I thought I had closed that chapter of my life is daunting. 

My concern now is that I will never completely get over her. That something inside me will always love her and that worries me. Is this normal? Is it unhealthy for future relationships or even unfair to anyone I enter a serious relationship with? It's also rather embarrassing to admit this to my friends even though I know they'd take me seriously, so I'm asking you guys. I've lurked on here for a while now and could use at least one person's help. Thanks (:
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I have dreams about a girl from my first relationship and I'm not sure if this will ever go away. Is it normal for this to happen?
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So as you probably guessed we met in high school and things lasted for quite a while. It was awesome, it was terrible, it got ugly at times. I don't dwell on it, but you can kind of get the gist of it. We were each others' first everything and she was the first girl I ever thought I truly loved.

We broke things off when I went to college and basically things didn't end well and we aren't on speaking terms anymore. Despite it being my first and a very long relationship I finally got over it, stopped thinking about her regularly, went on with my life, dated other people and have felt fairly invested although not to the extent I felt with her.

And yet I still have dreams about her from time to time, I'll wonder how she's doing, but I haven't checked on her social media in years. The fact that this is happening when I thought I had closed that chapter of my life is daunting. 

My concern now is that I will never completely get over her. That something inside me will always love her and that worries me. Is this normal? Is it unhealthy for future relationships or even unfair to anyone I enter a serious relationship with? It's also rather embarrassing to admit this to my friends even though I know they'd take me seriously, so I'm asking you guys. I've lurked on here for a while now and could use at least one person's help. Thanks (:
user
Been 3 years since broken up with first ex. Worried about what it means when I still think of her/miss her.
assistant