I dated a girl who at times, I felt like she really loved me. Then other times I felt like she was completely uninterested in me and probably was wishing she was with another guy. 

During those times of disinterest, she doesn't smile and stares off (which is a big departure from her happy and engaged state), she becomes what i would call "formally polite", she doesn't look at me much and does not laugh. When she breaks out of her somberness its usually when talking to another person/stranger. She doesn't say she is unhappy or uninterested but i don't think i'm too far off in thinking so. Do you find it is so common or uncommon to varry (in the radical way i described) in how you feel for a lover? She could be loving me at 5pm and cold at 7pm.

It makes me feel inadequate that there will be times where i cannot reach her and make her happy or satisfy her. Is that something that every relationship will have to deal with?
user
My ex really liked me during our time together. other times she was uninterested in me. What are the normal things that go through
assistant
I dated a girl who at times, I felt like she really loved me. Then other times I felt like she was completely uninterested in me and probably was wishing she was with another guy. 

During those times of disinterest, she doesn't smile and stares off (which is a big departure from her happy and engaged state), she becomes what i would call "formally polite", she doesn't look at me much and does not laugh. When she breaks out of her somberness its usually when talking to another person/stranger. She doesn't say she is unhappy or uninterested but i don't think i'm too far off in thinking so. Do you find it is so common or uncommon to varry (in the radical way i described) in how you feel for a lover? She could be loving me at 5pm and cold at 7pm.

It makes me feel inadequate that there will be times where i cannot reach her and make her happy or satisfy her. Is that something that every relationship will have to deal with?
user
Need perspective on how common it is to feel uninterested for a partner. Is it something that i have to deal with?
assistant