Me (25/f) and my boyfriend (24/m) have been together for 3 months now. It has been a very intensive and happy relationship so far and we have a lot of fun together. 

However, I have been feeling very insecure about myself in the relationship. I have previously been bullied and have had issues with my self-confidence. 

We are both attractive people and when we go out in clubs my boyfriend gets attention quite a lot. I feel very uncomfortable about this and have also some trust issues. It's all down to my low self-esteem and insecurity about my looks.

I just don't feel like I'm enough and that my boyfriend would prefer the other girls. I take it very heavily when he refuses sex when I initiate it, that seems to happen quite often and I have talked to him about this a little but I'm not sure if he really understod how big of an issue this is for me and how often he does that and how it makes me feel very rejected and unattractive. He also looks at girls online sometimes and seems to get turned on by them, and watches porn. I sometimes feel he prefers them over having sex with me.

I know it's very silly as he's obviously chosen me for a reason, but this bothers me daily and the last thing to do is to cause problems in our relationships because of this. I hate being insecure and teary all the time, and I really like being with my boyfriend so I want to make myself and him happy.

Please Reddit, if you have any advice or comments how I should solve this issue, please share. Big thanks.
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25/f has insecurity and trust issues in a 3 months old relationship with bf (m/24), doesn't feel attractive or good enough for boyfriend who gets lots of attention and enjoys watching porn/attractive girls online and often refuses sex when I initiate. Please give your best advice!
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Me (25/f) and my boyfriend (24/m) have been together for 3 months now. It has been a very intensive and happy relationship so far and we have a lot of fun together. 

However, I have been feeling very insecure about myself in the relationship. I have previously been bullied and have had issues with my self-confidence. 

We are both attractive people and when we go out in clubs my boyfriend gets attention quite a lot. I feel very uncomfortable about this and have also some trust issues. It's all down to my low self-esteem and insecurity about my looks.

I just don't feel like I'm enough and that my boyfriend would prefer the other girls. I take it very heavily when he refuses sex when I initiate it, that seems to happen quite often and I have talked to him about this a little but I'm not sure if he really understod how big of an issue this is for me and how often he does that and how it makes me feel very rejected and unattractive. He also looks at girls online sometimes and seems to get turned on by them, and watches porn. I sometimes feel he prefers them over having sex with me.

I know it's very silly as he's obviously chosen me for a reason, but this bothers me daily and the last thing to do is to cause problems in our relationships because of this. I hate being insecure and teary all the time, and I really like being with my boyfriend so I want to make myself and him happy.

Please Reddit, if you have any advice or comments how I should solve this issue, please share. Big thanks.
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insecure about my looks and boyfriend frequently rejects sex when I try to initiate it. I don't want to cause problems in the relationship or cause any resentment. Any advice?
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