I feel like this situation is common enough that maybe some of you have experience or advice. 

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, living together for 2. We have been planning a future together and are buying our first house together. We had moved away from his hometown (about a 6 hour drive) about 7 months ago for a promotion he received. I found a new job. His parents come up to visit about every 3 weeks and stay in their camper at a close campground. His parents are very sweet and will do ANYTHING for him. 

Recently he got in trouble at work during one of their visits for turning something in late. His father made a suggestion about shadowing my bf for a week to "help" and to look at his work documents. His mother did not want to leave on their scheduled date because he "needed her mentally" since he was upset about it. They even asked me to put alarms on his phone so he won't be late again and to make certain Excel sheets to make his work easier. How is this in any way appropriate? He is 32 years old. He's a man. I feel like a lot of his insecurities stem from his dependency on them. It hasn't been until we moved that I feel like he is becoming more independent and growing as a person. 

Another example is that we just put an offer on house that we both loved in our price range. His parent's called last night to lecture him about how he needs to figure out this... and that... everything we've already done. But since it is his parents he doesn't stand up for himself and he just stresses himself out. I do what I can to rebuild his trust in our decisions we felt good about a few hours ago.

There are so many other examples... I love him so much and we have so much fun together. I am just getting tired of his parents and wonder if there is anything I can do/say to him or his parents to have them understand that he is old enough to make his own decisions. I'm very happy for them to come visit and hike and play but we don't need a lecture every time.
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My boyfriend's parents won't stop baby-sitting him. It is starting to affect our
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I feel like this situation is common enough that maybe some of you have experience or advice. 

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, living together for 2. We have been planning a future together and are buying our first house together. We had moved away from his hometown (about a 6 hour drive) about 7 months ago for a promotion he received. I found a new job. His parents come up to visit about every 3 weeks and stay in their camper at a close campground. His parents are very sweet and will do ANYTHING for him. 

Recently he got in trouble at work during one of their visits for turning something in late. His father made a suggestion about shadowing my bf for a week to "help" and to look at his work documents. His mother did not want to leave on their scheduled date because he "needed her mentally" since he was upset about it. They even asked me to put alarms on his phone so he won't be late again and to make certain Excel sheets to make his work easier. How is this in any way appropriate? He is 32 years old. He's a man. I feel like a lot of his insecurities stem from his dependency on them. It hasn't been until we moved that I feel like he is becoming more independent and growing as a person. 

Another example is that we just put an offer on house that we both loved in our price range. His parent's called last night to lecture him about how he needs to figure out this... and that... everything we've already done. But since it is his parents he doesn't stand up for himself and he just stresses himself out. I do what I can to rebuild his trust in our decisions we felt good about a few hours ago.

There are so many other examples... I love him so much and we have so much fun together. I am just getting tired of his parents and wonder if there is anything I can do/say to him or his parents to have them understand that he is old enough to make his own decisions. I'm very happy for them to come visit and hike and play but we don't need a lecture every time.
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My boyfriend is still a baby to his parents and I'm tired of
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