Hi /r/relationships,

You've been kind to me in the past, so here goes:

Senior year, my friends broke into my recently deceased friend's house a stole a bunch of his stuff. It was horrible. A few years later, my long term girlfriend cheated on me. My friends at the time were supportive, but only for a little while, then they seemed to mostly forget about me.

I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with some past issues, like the title says, mainly insecurity and trust. I've written about some [bad stuff] that's happened to me before, and this sub helped me a lot. So, first, thank you.

What I want is help moving past this. I don't want to mistrust people as soon as I meet them. I don't want to be thinking of all the ways the people close to me could be lying to me or trying to manipulate me. I want to feel confident in my decisions and in the people I choose to trust.

I don't trust myself, mainly. I let people in who turned out to be terrible and I did it again and again, mostly because those people were funny or exciting.

But now I feel alone. I have maybe a handful of people who care enough about me to call me once in a while, and everyone else just ignores me. The person I'm dating has friends calling her all day and she's irritated about it because she's depressed. What I wouldn't give to have people care about me so much that them calling is a problem!

I want to give. I want to trust. I want to open up to the world and express myself and be free so badly! I just can't! I don't know why!

Does anybody have advice for getting over/moving through this?
user
Having lots of insecurity/trust issues due to past issues with people. Want to be confident and open up and express myself and be
assistant
Hi /r/relationships,

You've been kind to me in the past, so here goes:

Senior year, my friends broke into my recently deceased friend's house a stole a bunch of his stuff. It was horrible. A few years later, my long term girlfriend cheated on me. My friends at the time were supportive, but only for a little while, then they seemed to mostly forget about me.

I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with some past issues, like the title says, mainly insecurity and trust. I've written about some [bad stuff] that's happened to me before, and this sub helped me a lot. So, first, thank you.

What I want is help moving past this. I don't want to mistrust people as soon as I meet them. I don't want to be thinking of all the ways the people close to me could be lying to me or trying to manipulate me. I want to feel confident in my decisions and in the people I choose to trust.

I don't trust myself, mainly. I let people in who turned out to be terrible and I did it again and again, mostly because those people were funny or exciting.

But now I feel alone. I have maybe a handful of people who care enough about me to call me once in a while, and everyone else just ignores me. The person I'm dating has friends calling her all day and she's irritated about it because she's depressed. What I wouldn't give to have people care about me so much that them calling is a problem!

I want to give. I want to trust. I want to open up to the world and express myself and be free so badly! I just can't! I don't know why!

Does anybody have advice for getting over/moving through this?
user
Having trouble trusting and trusting myself, in spite of past issues. Anyone have advice for moving past this and trusting others?
assistant