I got out of a serious relationship at the beginning of the new year. I have been dating casually because I am in a new area that I moved to to be with my ex and I don't know anyone. I didn't think I would find anyone worth dating seriously, but I stumbled onto someone that seems like my perfect match. I still have intentions of taking it extremely slowly (because I also have a child) but we talk a lot and will probably start spending more time together. 

The issue I am having is that I am not fully over my ex. I don't want to be with him and I am aware of how awful the relaitonship was however, this is someone who raised my child with me for over a year and who I was supposed to marry. We also lived together and because I am so busy with school, work, and my child he was a huge part of my life. I was basically a wife and a mom most of the time. 

Because of the connection he has to my life including still dealing with separating our finances, my apartment lease, his family who I still see because of the baby and just the general feeling of loss (mostly of my family falling apart rather than losing him specifically) It is on my mind alot and also tends to come up in conversation. He was my whole world basically until a few months ago. 

The new guy in my life is understanding and actually a very sweet and compassionate person but I would be very offended if someone brought up their ex. I wouldn't say I do it too often but it does come up in relevant context and I am working through the emotional stuff a lot right now. I feel like I would be holding back a lot of stuff if I refrained from ever bringing it up or mentioning him at all. 

What is the right thing to do? Does anyone have any advice regarding a similar situation? Any input is appreciated.
user
Having a hard time not over my ex. I don't want to be with him and am afraid
assistant
I got out of a serious relationship at the beginning of the new year. I have been dating casually because I am in a new area that I moved to to be with my ex and I don't know anyone. I didn't think I would find anyone worth dating seriously, but I stumbled onto someone that seems like my perfect match. I still have intentions of taking it extremely slowly (because I also have a child) but we talk a lot and will probably start spending more time together. 

The issue I am having is that I am not fully over my ex. I don't want to be with him and I am aware of how awful the relaitonship was however, this is someone who raised my child with me for over a year and who I was supposed to marry. We also lived together and because I am so busy with school, work, and my child he was a huge part of my life. I was basically a wife and a mom most of the time. 

Because of the connection he has to my life including still dealing with separating our finances, my apartment lease, his family who I still see because of the baby and just the general feeling of loss (mostly of my family falling apart rather than losing him specifically) It is on my mind alot and also tends to come up in conversation. He was my whole world basically until a few months ago. 

The new guy in my life is understanding and actually a very sweet and compassionate person but I would be very offended if someone brought up their ex. I wouldn't say I do it too often but it does come up in relevant context and I am working through the emotional stuff a lot right now. I feel like I would be holding back a lot of stuff if I refrained from ever bringing it up or mentioning him at all. 

What is the right thing to do? Does anyone have any advice regarding a similar situation? Any input is appreciated.
user
I'm dealing with my ex but it is going to be hard with the new guy and I
assistant