I have been seeing this girl for a long time--since my last year of high school (with a recent split, followed by a reunion, but that's beside the point). And from the beginning of the relationship she had trouble coping with her brother's tragic, untimely death. 

Though I thought it best in the beginning to try and help  her move past these awful memories and feelings, I quickly learned that it's not my place to try and do such a thing, for everybody grieves in there own way and doesn't necessarily "move on" as I have been informed on many occasions. 

It's just so difficult to lend emotional support to someone who is grieving a death. It happens so much I just don't know what to say and I don't want to go on repeating things. It's especially difficult with her being so sensitive to issue (understandably). Offering advice is out of the question because I "could never understand what she's going through." And she's right. I've never lost someone like that. But what does that leave me to say?? That's the big question. What can I say to someone who say's she "misses her brother" "nobody can relate" "I'm about to be the same age as him when he died." WHAT DO I SAY TO THIS? There there? Don't even try the "time heals all wounds" line--I barely made it out alive after trying that one.
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This girl I'm dating is grieving a brother who
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I have been seeing this girl for a long time--since my last year of high school (with a recent split, followed by a reunion, but that's beside the point). And from the beginning of the relationship she had trouble coping with her brother's tragic, untimely death. 

Though I thought it best in the beginning to try and help  her move past these awful memories and feelings, I quickly learned that it's not my place to try and do such a thing, for everybody grieves in there own way and doesn't necessarily "move on" as I have been informed on many occasions. 

It's just so difficult to lend emotional support to someone who is grieving a death. It happens so much I just don't know what to say and I don't want to go on repeating things. It's especially difficult with her being so sensitive to issue (understandably). Offering advice is out of the question because I "could never understand what she's going through." And she's right. I've never lost someone like that. But what does that leave me to say?? That's the big question. What can I say to someone who say's she "misses her brother" "nobody can relate" "I'm about to be the same age as him when he died." WHAT DO I SAY TO THIS? There there? Don't even try the "time heals all wounds" line--I barely made it out alive after trying that one.
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