My boyfriend is everything I've ever hoped for. I love him and he loves me, we treat each other well, talk about absolutely everything and want to marry some day. But I always feel like something is off. It's not 100%... and it's because he is extroverted. Our thoughts, wishes and behavior are very similar, and people like to point out how great we get along. It's only this one thing that's different... he doesn't see life as a challenge: socializing is no big deal for him, while I have to fight not to embarrass myself in every conversation and can barely keep friends. He views the world differently.

With my ex, it was the other way round. We were both introverts and loved being it with each other. Life was difficult, but only if we couldn't fight a situation together. I never had to explain my weird thoughts to him. We loved each other to death, but the relationship didn't work out for some reasons that don't matter here. I'm completely over him and usually don't even think about him anymore because the breakup happened a year ago. It's only in these moments when I feel like I don't have the connection with my boyfriend that I should have, that I think about my ex and our perfect friendship.
Don't get me wrong, I don't want him back, but I miss the intimacy of a relationship between introverts.

I don't even know if my feelings are reasonable. My ex was very emotionally dependant on me. I was the very most important person on earth for him. He would have died for me with pride. It wasn't healthy how much he adored me, but I savored it anyway.

Now I don't know if I wish for something completely unhealthy or if there really is a problem between me and my boyfriend other than my doubts.
user
We don't have the "us against the world" relationship that I did before, and I don't know if I will
assistant
My boyfriend is everything I've ever hoped for. I love him and he loves me, we treat each other well, talk about absolutely everything and want to marry some day. But I always feel like something is off. It's not 100%... and it's because he is extroverted. Our thoughts, wishes and behavior are very similar, and people like to point out how great we get along. It's only this one thing that's different... he doesn't see life as a challenge: socializing is no big deal for him, while I have to fight not to embarrass myself in every conversation and can barely keep friends. He views the world differently.

With my ex, it was the other way round. We were both introverts and loved being it with each other. Life was difficult, but only if we couldn't fight a situation together. I never had to explain my weird thoughts to him. We loved each other to death, but the relationship didn't work out for some reasons that don't matter here. I'm completely over him and usually don't even think about him anymore because the breakup happened a year ago. It's only in these moments when I feel like I don't have the connection with my boyfriend that I should have, that I think about my ex and our perfect friendship.
Don't get me wrong, I don't want him back, but I miss the intimacy of a relationship between introverts.

I don't even know if my feelings are reasonable. My ex was very emotionally dependant on me. I was the very most important person on earth for him. He would have died for me with pride. It wasn't healthy how much he adored me, but I savored it anyway.

Now I don't know if I wish for something completely unhealthy or if there really is a problem between me and my boyfriend other than my doubts.
user
I love my boyfriend and he loves me, but I'm afraid I'm not getting enough intimacy from him.
assistant