My boyfriend [24M] and I would like to get engaged soon (we've been together for 5 years, intending to get married for most of it) and are considering using a family engagement ring (of which we have 3 stored away in jewelry boxes). However, I'm not sure if I should ask for them because they have some negative emotional connotations for my parents.

Ring #1: From my mom's (broken) first engagement, which I would understand why she wouldn't want it to be re-used.

Ring #2: From my parent's (divorced) marriage/engagement. Also would understand why it wouldn't be re-used.

Ring #3: From my (recently deceased) grandparents' marriage/engagement. This might be 'reserved' for my cousin, since he is the only male carrying on the last name.

Should I just assume that my parents, since they have not offered them, don't want to give the rings? I don't want them to give the rings up just because I asked, if they really don't want to.
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My boyfriend [24M] and I would like to get engaged soon (we've been together for 5 years, intending to get married for most of it) and are considering using a family engagement ring (of which we have 3 stored away in jewelry boxes). However, I'm not sure if I should ask for them because they have some negative emotional connotations for my parents.

Ring #1: From my mom's (broken) first engagement, which I would understand why she wouldn't want it to be re-used.

Ring #2: From my parent's (divorced) marriage/engagement. Also would understand why it wouldn't be re-used.

Ring #3: From my (recently deceased) grandparents' marriage/engagement. This might be 'reserved' for my cousin, since he is the only male carrying on the last name.

Should I just assume that my parents, since they have not offered them, don't want to give the rings? I don't want them to give the rings up just because I asked, if they really don't want to.
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Should I ask my parents for family engagement
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