So, tonight I got home from a trip - been away since Friday. Nothing crazy, a long weekend with a friend. But the same thing happens every time I go away. He does stuff around the house, as he always does, and maybe buys me a small bag of chocolates. If he picks me up we might talk for 5 minutes then he goes to bed, or if I take a cab, he's never awake. No affection, no hug, barely a kiss you'd get from a brother.

I've let this go on for years now, for various reasons, but I just can't live like this any more. ONCE, when e first got together, he did something very nice for me when I came home, but never since. 

Our whole relationship has been like this - he doesn't make me feel loved, he claims he is always thinking about me and doing things for me, but it's not like it's things that MEAN something to me. They don't, or they make me feel guilty, or trigger something from my (abusive, neglectful) childhood, or it's something I really DO NOT WANT. 

I'm at  total loss, I have stuck with this guy through sickness, injury, alcoholism, depression, procrastination, unemployment, all started less than 5 years since we got together, and I've been waiting for him to get his shit together, get help and fix himself for over 10 years now. 

I don't claim to be an angel or anything, but he hasn't paid bills for years now, he uses his money towards groceries. But I pay a mortgage, all debt, utilities, etc. Thankfully I have worked hard and earned enough so that it isn't a hardship, but still. When will i get a break When will I come home to someone who makes me feel loved and valued?

I just don't know what to do, I keep waiting.
user
I need to know what I should do about my husband who doesn't love me or treat
assistant
So, tonight I got home from a trip - been away since Friday. Nothing crazy, a long weekend with a friend. But the same thing happens every time I go away. He does stuff around the house, as he always does, and maybe buys me a small bag of chocolates. If he picks me up we might talk for 5 minutes then he goes to bed, or if I take a cab, he's never awake. No affection, no hug, barely a kiss you'd get from a brother.

I've let this go on for years now, for various reasons, but I just can't live like this any more. ONCE, when e first got together, he did something very nice for me when I came home, but never since. 

Our whole relationship has been like this - he doesn't make me feel loved, he claims he is always thinking about me and doing things for me, but it's not like it's things that MEAN something to me. They don't, or they make me feel guilty, or trigger something from my (abusive, neglectful) childhood, or it's something I really DO NOT WANT. 

I'm at  total loss, I have stuck with this guy through sickness, injury, alcoholism, depression, procrastination, unemployment, all started less than 5 years since we got together, and I've been waiting for him to get his shit together, get help and fix himself for over 10 years now. 

I don't claim to be an angel or anything, but he hasn't paid bills for years now, he uses his money towards groceries. But I pay a mortgage, all debt, utilities, etc. Thankfully I have worked hard and earned enough so that it isn't a hardship, but still. When will i get a break When will I come home to someone who makes me feel loved and valued?

I just don't know what to do, I keep waiting.
user
Relationship is dead, but he won't get his shit together, and I don't know how to get
assistant