I need some perspective because I did not expect to be so bothered by her comment.

Last night my wife and I were watching a TV.  After the show ended we were talking (I forget what she said before) and I made a comment about being the best husband ever to her.  Her response was "but you aren't the best husband to me."  Thinking she was joking I said "okay, who is the best?"  To which she named the husband of one of her friends.

I was taken aback, confused and hurt.  I tried to explain to her that she doesn't actually know their relationship, just what her friend tells her which is never the full picture.  We disagreed and decided to put a movie on.

I thought no big deal and I'll just drop it, but I couldn't.  I stopped watching the movie a couple minutes in and went to bed.  Now we are a day later and I feel more hurt by her comment.  This morning she tried to dismiss me being hurting by saying that I can't possibly believe she is the best wife.

I understand that in reality it is not possible for everyone to have the "best" husband/wife, but I believe they should certainly think so.  I believe my wife is the best wife ever, if I didn't I wouldn't be with her as I don't believe in settling for anything but the best.

In my mind, the fact that she not only doesn't think I'm the best but has given thought about who she considers the best is hurtful.  Now I'm questioning why she is with me if she thinks better is out there.

I still think my mind is overreacting, but I can't seem to shake the thought and move past it.  Please let me know your thoughts on the matter.
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Wife said I'm not the best husband ever and named her friends husband as who she thinks is the best. I'm hurt and can't seem
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I need some perspective because I did not expect to be so bothered by her comment.

Last night my wife and I were watching a TV.  After the show ended we were talking (I forget what she said before) and I made a comment about being the best husband ever to her.  Her response was "but you aren't the best husband to me."  Thinking she was joking I said "okay, who is the best?"  To which she named the husband of one of her friends.

I was taken aback, confused and hurt.  I tried to explain to her that she doesn't actually know their relationship, just what her friend tells her which is never the full picture.  We disagreed and decided to put a movie on.

I thought no big deal and I'll just drop it, but I couldn't.  I stopped watching the movie a couple minutes in and went to bed.  Now we are a day later and I feel more hurt by her comment.  This morning she tried to dismiss me being hurting by saying that I can't possibly believe she is the best wife.

I understand that in reality it is not possible for everyone to have the "best" husband/wife, but I believe they should certainly think so.  I believe my wife is the best wife ever, if I didn't I wouldn't be with her as I don't believe in settling for anything but the best.

In my mind, the fact that she not only doesn't think I'm the best but has given thought about who she considers the best is hurtful.  Now I'm questioning why she is with me if she thinks better is out there.

I still think my mind is overreacting, but I can't seem to shake the thought and move past it.  Please let me know your thoughts on the matter.
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Wife said I'm not the best husband to her, I feel hurt and I'm not sure how to move past it.
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