I've been married to my husband for 3 years, it's been wonderful, I couldn't ask for a better man to spend my life with. He has always gotten along very well with my friends, one friend in particular, Adam. 

Adam and I have been close friends for about 7 years, but we grew up in the same small town, and went to the same high school. We never had a sexual relationship, but we were very close, the best of friends. After high school we ended up moving to opposite ends of the country, but still kept in touch and occasionally visited. 

This past Christmas, my husband had to work. I decided to go visit my parents back in my hometown. Adam was also home visiting family, so we went out to the bar. We had a bit too much to drink and Adam tried to kiss me. I turned him away, and he didn't persist, and I didn't really think anything of it.

When I returned home, I felt guilty about what had happened and I told my husband. He was pretty angry, but figured there was nothing really to worry about. Three days later, Adam was killed in a car accident. 

I've never been more upset in my life, I could barely handle all of the emotion I was feeling. My husband was initially very supportive, and I was so grateful. As soon as I came back from Adam's funeral, my husband began acting strangely whenever I mentioned Adam. At first he'd just ignore me when I began to sob or when I wanted to talk. Then he became angry and would scream at me, and accuse me of having an affair with Adam. That's pretty much how it has been since December. 

I don't really have anyone here where I live to talk to about my loss, and it's been bothering me. I really need my husband to understand that there was no sexual relationship between Adam and I. One drunken mistake shouldn't erase all of the years of friendship. Every time I try to bring up this issue with my husband, he gets very angry. Am I being unreasonable in trying to talk to him about my feelings on this subject?
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husband becomes angry and accuses me of an affair
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I've been married to my husband for 3 years, it's been wonderful, I couldn't ask for a better man to spend my life with. He has always gotten along very well with my friends, one friend in particular, Adam. 

Adam and I have been close friends for about 7 years, but we grew up in the same small town, and went to the same high school. We never had a sexual relationship, but we were very close, the best of friends. After high school we ended up moving to opposite ends of the country, but still kept in touch and occasionally visited. 

This past Christmas, my husband had to work. I decided to go visit my parents back in my hometown. Adam was also home visiting family, so we went out to the bar. We had a bit too much to drink and Adam tried to kiss me. I turned him away, and he didn't persist, and I didn't really think anything of it.

When I returned home, I felt guilty about what had happened and I told my husband. He was pretty angry, but figured there was nothing really to worry about. Three days later, Adam was killed in a car accident. 

I've never been more upset in my life, I could barely handle all of the emotion I was feeling. My husband was initially very supportive, and I was so grateful. As soon as I came back from Adam's funeral, my husband began acting strangely whenever I mentioned Adam. At first he'd just ignore me when I began to sob or when I wanted to talk. Then he became angry and would scream at me, and accuse me of having an affair with Adam. That's pretty much how it has been since December. 

I don't really have anyone here where I live to talk to about my loss, and it's been bothering me. I really need my husband to understand that there was no sexual relationship between Adam and I. One drunken mistake shouldn't erase all of the years of friendship. Every time I try to bring up this issue with my husband, he gets very angry. Am I being unreasonable in trying to talk to him about my feelings on this subject?
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My husband and I have been close friends for
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