Last week, I ended things with a guy I had been seeing for four months. Basically, I was ready to become exclusive and he was not ready or willing to commit to that. It felt disrespectful to me to continue on when I was focusing solely on him and he could not return the favor. I didn’t want to wonder if he was out with another woman or hooking up with someone every night that we were not together. I am better than that.

That being said, I definitely listened to my brain and not my heart when making this decision. This is the first person I have ever dated on a somewhat serious basis. I wouldn’t say I was in love, but he is the first person I had deeper feelings for. He just made me really, really happy. In so many ways, he was compatible with me-weird sense of humor, upbringing, lifestyle, etc. Also, I lost my virginity to him, which maybe factors into it as well.

I miss him, Reddit. Everything I do reminds me of him and I have dreamt about him a couple of times. I know that not being on the same page is a good reason to break up, but I can’t stop replaying the great moments we had together in my head. I feel like I was not emotionally ready to make this decision, even if it was the right decision. My heart is not moving forward. I feel like an idiot for not being happy that I respected myself. I feel like an idiot for not having closure.

Reddit, give me a dose of reality here. Tell me that I made the right call. Tell me that my heart will catch up with my head soon enough. Tell me what I can do to make that happen. Please, Reddit.
user
End things with a guy I was seeing because I wasn't happy, despite my best intentions and the fact that I love him a lot. He is emotionally unavailable.
assistant
Last week, I ended things with a guy I had been seeing for four months. Basically, I was ready to become exclusive and he was not ready or willing to commit to that. It felt disrespectful to me to continue on when I was focusing solely on him and he could not return the favor. I didn’t want to wonder if he was out with another woman or hooking up with someone every night that we were not together. I am better than that.

That being said, I definitely listened to my brain and not my heart when making this decision. This is the first person I have ever dated on a somewhat serious basis. I wouldn’t say I was in love, but he is the first person I had deeper feelings for. He just made me really, really happy. In so many ways, he was compatible with me-weird sense of humor, upbringing, lifestyle, etc. Also, I lost my virginity to him, which maybe factors into it as well.

I miss him, Reddit. Everything I do reminds me of him and I have dreamt about him a couple of times. I know that not being on the same page is a good reason to break up, but I can’t stop replaying the great moments we had together in my head. I feel like I was not emotionally ready to make this decision, even if it was the right decision. My heart is not moving forward. I feel like an idiot for not being happy that I respected myself. I feel like an idiot for not having closure.

Reddit, give me a dose of reality here. Tell me that I made the right call. Tell me that my heart will catch up with my head soon enough. Tell me what I can do to make that happen. Please, Reddit.
user
I'm second guessing my decision, even though I know in my head that it was the right thing to do.
assistant