Hey all,

Throwaway because I'm a private person.  I don't take reddit advice as a guide, but I just need to know if I'm overreacting.  I have a history of being a little too jealous and just want some perspective.  

I'm on exchange from the US in Austria and my girlfriend is also on exchange from the US in Germany.  On Tuesday, she went out for drinks with a 20 M friend of hers who I don't like.  We've had fights about him before, I consider him shady, I don't like the relationship.  Whatever, it's fine they hang out.

At 12:30am, she texts me and says shes going home, and then at 1:00am, texts me and says she's at home and going to bed.  But when I get home, I see the location tag on her message is from his house.  My heart drops and I start to freak out and spend the hour figuring out there's no way he story lines up.

We talk first thing the next morning.  She lies about it at first and then after an hour comes clean.  Says the subway was closed and she was scared to go home so she figured she would just sleep at his place.  It's not a good excuse, there are options to get home, she could have taken a cab (hell I would have paid for one to avoid this) or at the very least, not lied about it.  They slept in the same bed.  She alleges nothing else happened, but I don't really know if I believe her.

If nothing happened, am I overreacting by considering this to be enough to end the relationship?
user
I have a history of being jealous and I feel like she lied to me about sleeping at a man's house. Is there
assistant
Hey all,

Throwaway because I'm a private person.  I don't take reddit advice as a guide, but I just need to know if I'm overreacting.  I have a history of being a little too jealous and just want some perspective.  

I'm on exchange from the US in Austria and my girlfriend is also on exchange from the US in Germany.  On Tuesday, she went out for drinks with a 20 M friend of hers who I don't like.  We've had fights about him before, I consider him shady, I don't like the relationship.  Whatever, it's fine they hang out.

At 12:30am, she texts me and says shes going home, and then at 1:00am, texts me and says she's at home and going to bed.  But when I get home, I see the location tag on her message is from his house.  My heart drops and I start to freak out and spend the hour figuring out there's no way he story lines up.

We talk first thing the next morning.  She lies about it at first and then after an hour comes clean.  Says the subway was closed and she was scared to go home so she figured she would just sleep at his place.  It's not a good excuse, there are options to get home, she could have taken a cab (hell I would have paid for one to avoid this) or at the very least, not lied about it.  They slept in the same bed.  She alleges nothing else happened, but I don't really know if I believe her.

If nothing happened, am I overreacting by considering this to be enough to end the relationship?
user
Girlfriend slept in the same bed with her friend, claims she was scared to go home after the fight.
assistant