In January 2010, my ex husband tried to blackmail me into signing green card documents several months after I had moved home to the US and cut off all contact with him. He did not have my phone number and I blocked him from my facebook and made it completely private. I had not yet filed for divorce due to fear of his gangster militia-owning family.

I was in a Costa Rican jungle with no internet at the time and he sent crazy rambling messages to every person who was on my friends list (he made a fake girl's account to friend them while he was still a 'friend'), everyone on their friend lists, everyone connected to my boss- including his extended family, and all of my linked in connections. He especially targeted my then 10 year old sister and her friends and their parents. 

According to him, I apparently stole $300,000 from his family (pfft... I supported his dumb ass), was a prostitute specializing in Saudi gangbangs, and flew to Jordan for secret abortions, among many other schizophrenic accusations. That's zero percent true by the way. The only 'real' thing he had in me was a fully clothed BJ video taken while we were married. That, along with all of my professional contacts, were on an iPod touch that he 'lost' shortly before I left. 

As you can imagine, it was a massively embarrassing incident for my family and I so I deleted everything. About a year later, I found out that he only stopped after my mom gave him money. 

Now I have some new friends in a new city and I'm looking into upgrading to a new job, but people view me with suspicion when they find that I'm not online. Should I start over with just new people and keep my friends list private? What about linked in? I'm terrified of another incident or of people hearing these accusations and thinking them to be true.  I'm now 30 and a stable professional, btw.
user
ex husband blackmailed me into signing green card papers. Now I'm off-grid and need help getting back online.
assistant
In January 2010, my ex husband tried to blackmail me into signing green card documents several months after I had moved home to the US and cut off all contact with him. He did not have my phone number and I blocked him from my facebook and made it completely private. I had not yet filed for divorce due to fear of his gangster militia-owning family.

I was in a Costa Rican jungle with no internet at the time and he sent crazy rambling messages to every person who was on my friends list (he made a fake girl's account to friend them while he was still a 'friend'), everyone on their friend lists, everyone connected to my boss- including his extended family, and all of my linked in connections. He especially targeted my then 10 year old sister and her friends and their parents. 

According to him, I apparently stole $300,000 from his family (pfft... I supported his dumb ass), was a prostitute specializing in Saudi gangbangs, and flew to Jordan for secret abortions, among many other schizophrenic accusations. That's zero percent true by the way. The only 'real' thing he had in me was a fully clothed BJ video taken while we were married. That, along with all of my professional contacts, were on an iPod touch that he 'lost' shortly before I left. 

As you can imagine, it was a massively embarrassing incident for my family and I so I deleted everything. About a year later, I found out that he only stopped after my mom gave him money. 

Now I have some new friends in a new city and I'm looking into upgrading to a new job, but people view me with suspicion when they find that I'm not online. Should I start over with just new people and keep my friends list private? What about linked in? I'm terrified of another incident or of people hearing these accusations and thinking them to be true.  I'm now 30 and a stable professional, btw.
user
Scizopherenic ex-husband trashed my reputation online 3 years ago. Should I restart FB/LinkedIn or just stay under the radar? LinkedIn is my biggest problem because ten years worth of connections were lost.
assistant