Been together for a couple of years, moved in together earlier this year.  Sex was never what I'd call frequent (average 3x/ month) but great when it happened.  The past 3 or 4 months now it's been totally nonexistent.  She works a lot and is always tired.  Any time I try to initiate I'm ignored or brushed off.  She claims that her recent weight gain has her super self conscious and not wanting sex for feeling embarrassed.  It's to the point that I found myself bawling on the couch after leaving the bed one night, because I'm in actual physical pain from the depression I've been in from this.  Her lack of any kind of physical affection makes me feel unwanted and unloved.  She's very verbally affectionate and appreciative of all I do around the house and for her, but at some point my attitude is "yeah but what fucking good is that if none of my needs are being met?"
She's gone so far as to apologize for the lack of sex and say she feels guilty.  She even went so far as to say that she sometimes wished I was ok with an open relationship just so I didn't have to go without.  I'm confused and hurt, but also angry and resentful at her for essentially taking away my sex life.  At this point even  if she did make an effort I feel like I'd be so anxious and bitter that I either wouldn't be interested or wouldn't really enjoy it.  At the least, I'd feel like I HAD to do it anyway, because jesus, who knows when it'll happen again.  I thought this was a woman I wanted to marry but there's no light at the end of the tunnel, and I'm not sure what I should do.
user
GF of 2 years has sexless sex life and is super self conscious. I'm sad and resentful but
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Been together for a couple of years, moved in together earlier this year.  Sex was never what I'd call frequent (average 3x/ month) but great when it happened.  The past 3 or 4 months now it's been totally nonexistent.  She works a lot and is always tired.  Any time I try to initiate I'm ignored or brushed off.  She claims that her recent weight gain has her super self conscious and not wanting sex for feeling embarrassed.  It's to the point that I found myself bawling on the couch after leaving the bed one night, because I'm in actual physical pain from the depression I've been in from this.  Her lack of any kind of physical affection makes me feel unwanted and unloved.  She's very verbally affectionate and appreciative of all I do around the house and for her, but at some point my attitude is "yeah but what fucking good is that if none of my needs are being met?"
She's gone so far as to apologize for the lack of sex and say she feels guilty.  She even went so far as to say that she sometimes wished I was ok with an open relationship just so I didn't have to go without.  I'm confused and hurt, but also angry and resentful at her for essentially taking away my sex life.  At this point even  if she did make an effort I feel like I'd be so anxious and bitter that I either wouldn't be interested or wouldn't really enjoy it.  At the least, I'd feel like I HAD to do it anyway, because jesus, who knows when it'll happen again.  I thought this was a woman I wanted to marry but there's no light at the end of the tunnel, and I'm not sure what I should do.
user
GF stopped any sexual contact b/c she feels unattractive and feels overwhelmed, nothing I do has helped.
assistant