Hello Reddit. This is my first post here, hoping to get some advice from some of you more experienced folk :) A few years back I was involved in a pretty brutal relationship. It started out great, we were happy, close, and in love. But slowly over time I started to see signs that the relationship wasn't for me. My ex smoked pot multiple times a day (I did not), he was lazy, unmotivated, and slowly over time turned into a controlling, emotionally abusive situation. It took me such a long time before realizing that I had to get out, even with loads of friends and family support. The problem is now that I have a close friend who seems to be heading down that same road.
She and her boyfriend have been together for a few years now. She has been supporting him financially for 90% of that time. I have met the guy, and while he seems like a nice enough person, I have a gut feeling that he's not right for her. She's constantly upset, talking about how he has started to choose weed over her. How he doesn't make an effort to help around the house, to look for a job. She's starting to resent the fact that he's not putting any effort into their relationship. 
Not only that, but after seeing some of their texts, and hearing about their conversations, it's beginning to sound like he's becoming emotionally abusive, similar to the way that my ex was. He makes her feel bad for seeing friends, he puts her down. And as soon as she's ready to call it quits, he'll pull a complete 180' - suddenly she's his whole world, and he doesn't know what he'd do without her. She sounds like she wants out. It's weighing on her. It's all she talks about. But she keeps getting sucked back in. I have listened to her, and told her my feelings, and about my past experience and how I wish so badly that I hadn't gone through it as long as I did. But, I'm not sure she's really getting it. I don't want her to have the same regrets that I did, or get sucked in further and end up hitting bottom. 
Anyone have advice on what else I can do to help a friend in need?
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Friend in poopy relationship. Want to help her see that
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Hello Reddit. This is my first post here, hoping to get some advice from some of you more experienced folk :) A few years back I was involved in a pretty brutal relationship. It started out great, we were happy, close, and in love. But slowly over time I started to see signs that the relationship wasn't for me. My ex smoked pot multiple times a day (I did not), he was lazy, unmotivated, and slowly over time turned into a controlling, emotionally abusive situation. It took me such a long time before realizing that I had to get out, even with loads of friends and family support. The problem is now that I have a close friend who seems to be heading down that same road.
She and her boyfriend have been together for a few years now. She has been supporting him financially for 90% of that time. I have met the guy, and while he seems like a nice enough person, I have a gut feeling that he's not right for her. She's constantly upset, talking about how he has started to choose weed over her. How he doesn't make an effort to help around the house, to look for a job. She's starting to resent the fact that he's not putting any effort into their relationship. 
Not only that, but after seeing some of their texts, and hearing about their conversations, it's beginning to sound like he's becoming emotionally abusive, similar to the way that my ex was. He makes her feel bad for seeing friends, he puts her down. And as soon as she's ready to call it quits, he'll pull a complete 180' - suddenly she's his whole world, and he doesn't know what he'd do without her. She sounds like she wants out. It's weighing on her. It's all she talks about. But she keeps getting sucked back in. I have listened to her, and told her my feelings, and about my past experience and how I wish so badly that I hadn't gone through it as long as I did. But, I'm not sure she's really getting it. I don't want her to have the same regrets that I did, or get sucked in further and end up hitting bottom. 
Anyone have advice on what else I can do to help a friend in need?
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My friend is getting sucked back into a relationship that
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