Wife and I have been married for just under two years. About six months ago, we decided to start trying for a kid. No luck yet. The doctor says nothing seems wrong and sometimes it takes awhile. 

About a month ago, my wife's best friend got pregnant. I wouldn't call it an accident, but the friend and her husband weren't actively 'trying' either. Life, uh, found a way.

That sent my wife into a huge depression. She's been having an incredibly hard time with it, due to a combination of jealousy and some not-so-tactful remarks by the best friend (i.e. saying "god, sometimes I wish this never happened" to a woman who really wants it to happen). My wife has basically cut off all contact with her friend and has been existing in a state of perpetual sadness for the past few weeks. 

She cries all the time. Whenever she sees ANYTHING pregnancy or baby related, she just curls up and sobs. At our age, that's virtually every other Facebook post. When the sadness abates, it turns to anger. She's lashed out at virtually everyone in her life in the past month. I, obviously, have been getting the brunt of it.

I don't know what to do. Obviously getting pregnant would go a long way to solving this problem, but there's an issue with that. Her depression and anger has caused our sex life to suffer, which exacerbates the problem. And what if we can't have them? I love my wife and could lead a happy life without kids, but after this, I'm not sure if she could. 

Has anyone been through this? Is there anything I can do? Drag her to therapy? I know it's selfish, but I'm honestly getting tired of it. This isn't the person I married.
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Wife's friend got pregnant, wife is having a really hard time
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Wife and I have been married for just under two years. About six months ago, we decided to start trying for a kid. No luck yet. The doctor says nothing seems wrong and sometimes it takes awhile. 

About a month ago, my wife's best friend got pregnant. I wouldn't call it an accident, but the friend and her husband weren't actively 'trying' either. Life, uh, found a way.

That sent my wife into a huge depression. She's been having an incredibly hard time with it, due to a combination of jealousy and some not-so-tactful remarks by the best friend (i.e. saying "god, sometimes I wish this never happened" to a woman who really wants it to happen). My wife has basically cut off all contact with her friend and has been existing in a state of perpetual sadness for the past few weeks. 

She cries all the time. Whenever she sees ANYTHING pregnancy or baby related, she just curls up and sobs. At our age, that's virtually every other Facebook post. When the sadness abates, it turns to anger. She's lashed out at virtually everyone in her life in the past month. I, obviously, have been getting the brunt of it.

I don't know what to do. Obviously getting pregnant would go a long way to solving this problem, but there's an issue with that. Her depression and anger has caused our sex life to suffer, which exacerbates the problem. And what if we can't have them? I love my wife and could lead a happy life without kids, but after this, I'm not sure if she could. 

Has anyone been through this? Is there anything I can do? Drag her to therapy? I know it's selfish, but I'm honestly getting tired of it. This isn't the person I married.
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Been trying to get pregnant. Wife's bestie got there first. Wife
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