I've been dating my boyfriend for a while and it's been ok, and he said something to me recently that I found disturbing. 

Background is that he used to mention girls he interacts and finds attractive in front me. In my opinion, he did this at a really high frequency, especially in situations I found inappropriate such as when we were having sex. Additionally, there were some girls he would talk about multiple times. I told him it bothered me and asked him to stop telling me stuff like that so he did. I also told him it bothered me he thought about these people at such a high frequency especially when we were together. 

Recently, my boyfriend told me that he thinks about whether being with me is worth the cost of not getting to be with all these other girls he sees and finds attractive. I was kind of taken aback by this statement because it made me question how much he values our relationship.

I don't have a problem in theory with someone checking out other girls. I look at guys occasionally myself. I think it is made worse that my boyfriend always checks out people he interacts with and talks to versus porn stars, celebrities, or someone else that you would never actually date. I think I do not feel secure enough and/or appreciated enough in our relationship to be comfortable with the amount he does it. I also worry about how much he values the emotional part of our relationship. 

I am pretty hurt by his behavior, but I don't know if I am overreacting. I guess I am considering ending it to find someone who is more interested in being with me. However, in my understanding, guys notice attractive girls way more and in a way I do not understand because I am a girl.
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Boyfriend obssessed with looking at other girls, thinks about
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I've been dating my boyfriend for a while and it's been ok, and he said something to me recently that I found disturbing. 

Background is that he used to mention girls he interacts and finds attractive in front me. In my opinion, he did this at a really high frequency, especially in situations I found inappropriate such as when we were having sex. Additionally, there were some girls he would talk about multiple times. I told him it bothered me and asked him to stop telling me stuff like that so he did. I also told him it bothered me he thought about these people at such a high frequency especially when we were together. 

Recently, my boyfriend told me that he thinks about whether being with me is worth the cost of not getting to be with all these other girls he sees and finds attractive. I was kind of taken aback by this statement because it made me question how much he values our relationship.

I don't have a problem in theory with someone checking out other girls. I look at guys occasionally myself. I think it is made worse that my boyfriend always checks out people he interacts with and talks to versus porn stars, celebrities, or someone else that you would never actually date. I think I do not feel secure enough and/or appreciated enough in our relationship to be comfortable with the amount he does it. I also worry about how much he values the emotional part of our relationship. 

I am pretty hurt by his behavior, but I don't know if I am overreacting. I guess I am considering ending it to find someone who is more interested in being with me. However, in my understanding, guys notice attractive girls way more and in a way I do not understand because I am a girl.
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Boyfriend of 7 months seems to have an interest
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