I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We both recently graduated from college (we're both 21) and our sex life is an eighth of what it used to be. 
For the first year, we were like rabbits, skipping class and calling in sick to work and I understand that the honeymoon phase of all relationships are usually like that, but this seems extreme. We've gone from eight times a week to sometimes once a week. 

I'm finding that I don't want to have sex because he's so lazy now. The last eleven (I've kept track) times we've had sex he's sloppily kissed me like an over eager fourteen year old, then immediately sticks his hand below my waist frantically going through these two motions for about three minutes. 

He still gets sexual attention from me (hand jobs, blow jobs, kissing) and I get nothing from him. Unless it's the three minutes before sex, I get nothing. 

I've tried to mention it in a fun kind of way like "if I you get me in the mood I'll get you in the mood", and I try to slow it down a bit by spending more time on him, but all that gets is him laying on his back and going "worship me". When we actually do get to having sex, he's lost all passion he had before and he just goes through the motions. 

In my opinion, I think it's lazy and a bit selfish. He usually doesn't go a day without finishing without some sort of assistance from me, and yet I can go for months without him touching me of his free will. 

I take good care of my body (shower, full body wax, work out, eat healthy), I don't smoke and I'm not overweight in any standard. 

He does have a naturally selfish personality, but he's never been like this with sex and it's been happening since February. 

I'm wondering if there's something that I can say to him or do that could get him out of this slump? Is there something that I could be doing wrong?
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My sex god boyfriend is now just like anyone else and has lost all passion for sex. What can I do to get him to pick his
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I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We both recently graduated from college (we're both 21) and our sex life is an eighth of what it used to be. 
For the first year, we were like rabbits, skipping class and calling in sick to work and I understand that the honeymoon phase of all relationships are usually like that, but this seems extreme. We've gone from eight times a week to sometimes once a week. 

I'm finding that I don't want to have sex because he's so lazy now. The last eleven (I've kept track) times we've had sex he's sloppily kissed me like an over eager fourteen year old, then immediately sticks his hand below my waist frantically going through these two motions for about three minutes. 

He still gets sexual attention from me (hand jobs, blow jobs, kissing) and I get nothing from him. Unless it's the three minutes before sex, I get nothing. 

I've tried to mention it in a fun kind of way like "if I you get me in the mood I'll get you in the mood", and I try to slow it down a bit by spending more time on him, but all that gets is him laying on his back and going "worship me". When we actually do get to having sex, he's lost all passion he had before and he just goes through the motions. 

In my opinion, I think it's lazy and a bit selfish. He usually doesn't go a day without finishing without some sort of assistance from me, and yet I can go for months without him touching me of his free will. 

I take good care of my body (shower, full body wax, work out, eat healthy), I don't smoke and I'm not overweight in any standard. 

He does have a naturally selfish personality, but he's never been like this with sex and it's been happening since February. 

I'm wondering if there's something that I can say to him or do that could get him out of this slump? Is there something that I could be doing wrong?
user
Boyfriend is lazy and indifferent to sex, I'm having none, I'm wondering if there's anything I can do to fix this.
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