So, to give a little context, my current girlfriend and I were friends for years before we ever hooked up and now that we are finally together, things are turning sour pretty quick. Found out she went to her exes house and slept with him while we were together and she's been leading this other guy on for years (since highschool). She keeps a lot of secrets from me and every time I try to talk to her about this stuff, she gets defensive and tries to make it about me. She says things like "Why don't you trust me?" When she knows she has lied before and has even gone as far as to make up stories about me and my ex trying to incriminate me in something, even though my ex lives in another state. Not only that, but when I say I'm not happy in our relationship, she says how much she loves me and wants me to stay. These are the obvious signs of manipulation or at least some kind of deep rooted issue, but I really do love this girl. I found out this stuff recently, but there were things that happened before too. My question is, do you think the relationship is worth saving? As I said, I've tried to forgive the stuff she did before, but this seems like it's going way too far and I've already given her chances to show she can change.
user
Is it worth salvaging my relationship with my girlfriend, despite her cheating
assistant
So, to give a little context, my current girlfriend and I were friends for years before we ever hooked up and now that we are finally together, things are turning sour pretty quick. Found out she went to her exes house and slept with him while we were together and she's been leading this other guy on for years (since highschool). She keeps a lot of secrets from me and every time I try to talk to her about this stuff, she gets defensive and tries to make it about me. She says things like "Why don't you trust me?" When she knows she has lied before and has even gone as far as to make up stories about me and my ex trying to incriminate me in something, even though my ex lives in another state. Not only that, but when I say I'm not happy in our relationship, she says how much she loves me and wants me to stay. These are the obvious signs of manipulation or at least some kind of deep rooted issue, but I really do love this girl. I found out this stuff recently, but there were things that happened before too. My question is, do you think the relationship is worth saving? As I said, I've tried to forgive the stuff she did before, but this seems like it's going way too far and I've already given her chances to show she can change.
user
Girlfriend hooked up with exes house and lied to me about it,
assistant