I'm not going to pretend that I haven't dated before being with my BF; we met at the bar where I work about a week after my ex-fiance (29 M) and I broke up and called off our wedding (he was actually out celebrating his divorce). We're trying to take it as slow as possible without artificially dragging our feet because we both came out of serious relationships, but it seems like we're hitting it off really well! We're having fun, building confidence in knowing what we want in a life partner and if it happens that we become something deeper, it will happen in its own time. This question isn't really about us, but more about my personal reactions to things.

I was looking for a specific photo on Facebook related to one of his hobbies, and happened to find the one photo of his first wedding (not really relevant, but they'd eloped). I'd Facebook stalked him before and knew what she looked like, but it was the first time I'd seen them actually together (another person had taken the photo, so it wasn't directly on his Facebook, but on this other person's) and I found myself comparing myself to her and making a mental list of how I fall short- I'm not overweight but a little on the heavier side of normal where she's willowy, her skin is beautiful and unblemished where I have scars and bruises and permanent marks from disease, etc. 

I've felt super self-conscious about myself since then and I guess I just want to know if it's normal. I don't think I should say anything to him because it isn't really healthy to compare a current relationship to an ex or ask if I'm prettier than she is (although I really do want to hear "No, Diabrotica, you're prettier than she is"). I know I'm being insecure and I know it will pass, but I have a history of being told my reactions are "wrong" and I guess I want to hear that other normal people sometimes have these kinds of thoughts.
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me [27 F] and my BF [38 M] have a relationship, but have a history of both being in serious relationships before the relationship started, but I'm worried I'm comparing myself to
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I'm not going to pretend that I haven't dated before being with my BF; we met at the bar where I work about a week after my ex-fiance (29 M) and I broke up and called off our wedding (he was actually out celebrating his divorce). We're trying to take it as slow as possible without artificially dragging our feet because we both came out of serious relationships, but it seems like we're hitting it off really well! We're having fun, building confidence in knowing what we want in a life partner and if it happens that we become something deeper, it will happen in its own time. This question isn't really about us, but more about my personal reactions to things.

I was looking for a specific photo on Facebook related to one of his hobbies, and happened to find the one photo of his first wedding (not really relevant, but they'd eloped). I'd Facebook stalked him before and knew what she looked like, but it was the first time I'd seen them actually together (another person had taken the photo, so it wasn't directly on his Facebook, but on this other person's) and I found myself comparing myself to her and making a mental list of how I fall short- I'm not overweight but a little on the heavier side of normal where she's willowy, her skin is beautiful and unblemished where I have scars and bruises and permanent marks from disease, etc. 

I've felt super self-conscious about myself since then and I guess I just want to know if it's normal. I don't think I should say anything to him because it isn't really healthy to compare a current relationship to an ex or ask if I'm prettier than she is (although I really do want to hear "No, Diabrotica, you're prettier than she is"). I know I'm being insecure and I know it will pass, but I have a history of being told my reactions are "wrong" and I guess I want to hear that other normal people sometimes have these kinds of thoughts.
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I've been seeing my current boyfriend for a couple months, but I've been self-conscious about my own looks. Is this normal?
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