My girlfriend and I are both 20 and juniors in college. We've been dating for about a year now and we haven't been able to really enjoy sex. Unfortunately, we seem to be on opposite ends of the sexual organ spectrum. She has a really small vagina and I happen to be pretty well endowed (8.5" x 6"). This has led to considerable problems that make me simply shy away from sex altogether.

Every time we try, it is painful for her. No matter how much foreplay we engage in or how much lube we use, it's never easy. It is always slow and cautious and even then, I can see her flinch, assuming she doesn't say anything. This really bothers me because I don't want to hurt her and seeing her in any kind of pain/discomfort ruins the mood for me and makes me feel bad. With all that, I just don't get excited for sex and we usually just stick to handjobs/blowjobs most of the time.

This wasn't so much of a problem in the beginning, but it is starting to become bothersome for me. I want to be able to have moderately rough sex. Not crazy rough, but I don't want to have super slow, cautious sex every time and it just can't seem to be avoided.

What should we do? I've been giving thought to the idea of opening the relationship up a little bit to see if that might be a solution, but that would be very challenging and I'm not sure if I'm ready to bring that up with her for fear of upsetting her. I truly love her more than anyone I have ever loved, she is like my best friend, but not being able to have sex is becoming increasingly frustrating.
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My girlfriend and I are not matched up in terms of sexual organs. I am well endowed and my gf has a small vagina making sex incredibly difficult, painful, slow and infrequent. This has been bothering
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My girlfriend and I are both 20 and juniors in college. We've been dating for about a year now and we haven't been able to really enjoy sex. Unfortunately, we seem to be on opposite ends of the sexual organ spectrum. She has a really small vagina and I happen to be pretty well endowed (8.5" x 6"). This has led to considerable problems that make me simply shy away from sex altogether.

Every time we try, it is painful for her. No matter how much foreplay we engage in or how much lube we use, it's never easy. It is always slow and cautious and even then, I can see her flinch, assuming she doesn't say anything. This really bothers me because I don't want to hurt her and seeing her in any kind of pain/discomfort ruins the mood for me and makes me feel bad. With all that, I just don't get excited for sex and we usually just stick to handjobs/blowjobs most of the time.

This wasn't so much of a problem in the beginning, but it is starting to become bothersome for me. I want to be able to have moderately rough sex. Not crazy rough, but I don't want to have super slow, cautious sex every time and it just can't seem to be avoided.

What should we do? I've been giving thought to the idea of opening the relationship up a little bit to see if that might be a solution, but that would be very challenging and I'm not sure if I'm ready to bring that up with her for fear of upsetting her. I truly love her more than anyone I have ever loved, she is like my best friend, but not being able to have sex is becoming increasingly frustrating.
user
Can't get excited for sex, even when I've tried a lot of times. I hope this helps!
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