Hello. Me and my fiance are going to get married next month. We purchased a home 3 months ago, and having a big fluffy 70lb dog. We both work full time.

His sister had her kids taken away by the government. Now his mom is freaking out, everyone is freaking out. We live 900 miles away from them, we are the only responsible ones, with good jobs, with a house, with decent income. 

He wants to foster the kids and probably adopt. The kids are 3 and almost 1, both boys. I kind of don't want to. I had to take care of my little sister back when i was 12 and know how hard it was for me. No sleep, kids get sick, you need to take care of them 24/7. Plus I always wanted to have my own child (but later), and I don't even know these 2 kids, I saw the oldest one back in a day and he seemed to look unruly hitting his grandma with a stick while everyone was laughing. 

He tells me this is family, we are the only one, that I have no heart, that if one of my nieces was in the same situation he would have been on board, etc. I understand that it is a fmaily and i was offering to help his sister and help with money, but I don't really want to take care of 2 kids at home. He thinks it is not a big deal and millions of people do that and survive.
user
I am not sure if I should get him to foster or adopt in this situation. I think it is a lot of work, and it is harder for me. I want to support
assistant
Hello. Me and my fiance are going to get married next month. We purchased a home 3 months ago, and having a big fluffy 70lb dog. We both work full time.

His sister had her kids taken away by the government. Now his mom is freaking out, everyone is freaking out. We live 900 miles away from them, we are the only responsible ones, with good jobs, with a house, with decent income. 

He wants to foster the kids and probably adopt. The kids are 3 and almost 1, both boys. I kind of don't want to. I had to take care of my little sister back when i was 12 and know how hard it was for me. No sleep, kids get sick, you need to take care of them 24/7. Plus I always wanted to have my own child (but later), and I don't even know these 2 kids, I saw the oldest one back in a day and he seemed to look unruly hitting his grandma with a stick while everyone was laughing. 

He tells me this is family, we are the only one, that I have no heart, that if one of my nieces was in the same situation he would have been on board, etc. I understand that it is a fmaily and i was offering to help his sister and help with money, but I don't really want to take care of 2 kids at home. He thinks it is not a big deal and millions of people do that and survive.
user
Getting married next month, wanted to adopt, my fiance is not sure if its a good idea/what is the right answer.
assistant