Hey guys,
I (23F) recently got out of a several year-long relationship with my (24M) ex. About a year ago, I became emotionally detached from the person I was seeing. I tried to break it off with him a few times, but he kept convincing me to stay and I felt a bit trapped. I finally worked up the courage to end it permanently despite the consequences a few weeks ago. That was a big deal for me and I feel so relieved. It was difficult but I definitely think it was for the best. 

Here is where things get a little complicated. I have feelings for my (25M) roommate. I developed feelings for him a long time ago, while I was still with my ex and never acted on it but felt very guilty about it. I should have known at the time these feelings started that it meant things were probably over with me and my ex. However, I tried very hard to keep the breakup and these feelings for my roommate as separate as possible. That is to say, I did not break up with my ex to get with my roommate. Now I’ve just gotten out of a long term relationship but these feelings for my roommate keep getting stronger. I know that the sensible thing would be to wait to act on this and avoid the rebound and all of that, and I would feel guilty seeing someone else so soon after a breakup as well.  Then there is the fact that he is a roommate and the consequences of us possibly breaking up while living together. I am pretty confident that he has feelings for me, though.
user
I (23F) recently broke up with my ex (24M) of several years. I have had feelings for someone else (25M) for a while and feel conflicted
assistant
Hey guys,
I (23F) recently got out of a several year-long relationship with my (24M) ex. About a year ago, I became emotionally detached from the person I was seeing. I tried to break it off with him a few times, but he kept convincing me to stay and I felt a bit trapped. I finally worked up the courage to end it permanently despite the consequences a few weeks ago. That was a big deal for me and I feel so relieved. It was difficult but I definitely think it was for the best. 

Here is where things get a little complicated. I have feelings for my (25M) roommate. I developed feelings for him a long time ago, while I was still with my ex and never acted on it but felt very guilty about it. I should have known at the time these feelings started that it meant things were probably over with me and my ex. However, I tried very hard to keep the breakup and these feelings for my roommate as separate as possible. That is to say, I did not break up with my ex to get with my roommate. Now I’ve just gotten out of a long term relationship but these feelings for my roommate keep getting stronger. I know that the sensible thing would be to wait to act on this and avoid the rebound and all of that, and I would feel guilty seeing someone else so soon after a breakup as well.  Then there is the fact that he is a roommate and the consequences of us possibly breaking up while living together. I am pretty confident that he has feelings for me, though.
user
I guess I am struggling between the logical thing to do and what I actually want to do and am looking for outside advice. Thanks.
assistant