I have been married for 8 years, we are pretty happy, have sex 4 times a week, but I think my husband is thinking about cheating on me, or wishing he could. I have known him a long time, I know when he is lying, and the "new office girl" is making him a fibber. 

Here are my concerns;

1) When he is more involved with someone at work than he should be he is more prone to bringing up that person over and over again in conversation, the new girl has been brought up A LOT recently.

2) He will say rude things about the women in his office, I think in an attempt to make me think he's not interested, but this is how I know who the attractive girls at his job are. For example, the new girl has been called "gap tooth" even though I have seen her facebook and I know that yes, she does have a gap in her teeth, but the rest of her is adorable. So freaking lame of him.

3) He will suddenly get VERY enthusiastic about having sex. Last week he was all about my boobs suddenly. I have good sized breasts but they are mostly ignored as he is an ass man. New girl happens to have large breasts as well, and I dont think it's a coincidence  that this girl with big boobs starts working there and all of sudden my husband is all about my breasts.

All of this kind of crap annoys me to no end, I feel like when he is having sex with me, he is probably thinking about her, and that makes me want to punch him. So, my question is this...When men have sex with their wife, are they usually thinking about someone else? I mean, how much of this nonsense should I put up with? I dont think he would straight up cheat on me, but the thought of him thinking about her while having sex with me just makes me angry, but I don't know if it should make me angry or if hes just being a guy. I'm confused, can you tell?
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When men have sex with their wife, are they usually
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I have been married for 8 years, we are pretty happy, have sex 4 times a week, but I think my husband is thinking about cheating on me, or wishing he could. I have known him a long time, I know when he is lying, and the "new office girl" is making him a fibber. 

Here are my concerns;

1) When he is more involved with someone at work than he should be he is more prone to bringing up that person over and over again in conversation, the new girl has been brought up A LOT recently.

2) He will say rude things about the women in his office, I think in an attempt to make me think he's not interested, but this is how I know who the attractive girls at his job are. For example, the new girl has been called "gap tooth" even though I have seen her facebook and I know that yes, she does have a gap in her teeth, but the rest of her is adorable. So freaking lame of him.

3) He will suddenly get VERY enthusiastic about having sex. Last week he was all about my boobs suddenly. I have good sized breasts but they are mostly ignored as he is an ass man. New girl happens to have large breasts as well, and I dont think it's a coincidence  that this girl with big boobs starts working there and all of sudden my husband is all about my breasts.

All of this kind of crap annoys me to no end, I feel like when he is having sex with me, he is probably thinking about her, and that makes me want to punch him. So, my question is this...When men have sex with their wife, are they usually thinking about someone else? I mean, how much of this nonsense should I put up with? I dont think he would straight up cheat on me, but the thought of him thinking about her while having sex with me just makes me angry, but I don't know if it should make me angry or if hes just being a guy. I'm confused, can you tell?
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My husband talks incessantly about the new girl at his
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