Me and 'Andy' met at university and were good friends for the four years we were there. Every holiday he would be terrible keeping in touch, sometimes to the point that I'd be surprised that he'd ask me out for a pint or whatever once term started again.

I accepted early on that his communication just sucked and that was fine, we'd carry on being friends regardless. 

Then came the end of university and we went our seperate ways, him promising he would make an effort to keep in touch.

I'd send him a message every now and again (after he'd come back from holiday, when he moved to a new city etc.) but never heard anything back, apart from a thank you for the birthday card I sent. 

I figured, he's busy, I'll give him time to get back to me (usually several weeks), before I'd try again to strike up a conversation.

The other week I saw he was online on facebook so figured I'd try one last time, asking how his new Masters course was going and mentioning that I'd been trying to get in touch, was his phone broken or something. 

He saw it immediately (thank you for that feature) but didn't get back to me. 

Again, I waited over a week for some response - nothing.

I think I'm just going to have to accept that he isn't committed to making this friendship last and I need some advice on how to handle it. It's making me feel low, confused and a little worthless.

I realise he is terrible at communicating but from my view that is no reason to ignore a friend for several months without any apparent reason.

Has anyone been through anything similar? I'd really like some advice on how to get through this, or what may be going through his head? 

Tbh I'm starting to get to the point where I wonder if I even want to try and keep a friendship alive with someone who apparently has no time for me. 

*Side note - just in case anyone is wondering, there was never any romantic/sexual things between us - he has a very long term girlfriend who he's super in love with and I'm gay.
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Friend stopped trying to keep in touch after a few months, I'm feeling depressed
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Me and 'Andy' met at university and were good friends for the four years we were there. Every holiday he would be terrible keeping in touch, sometimes to the point that I'd be surprised that he'd ask me out for a pint or whatever once term started again.

I accepted early on that his communication just sucked and that was fine, we'd carry on being friends regardless. 

Then came the end of university and we went our seperate ways, him promising he would make an effort to keep in touch.

I'd send him a message every now and again (after he'd come back from holiday, when he moved to a new city etc.) but never heard anything back, apart from a thank you for the birthday card I sent. 

I figured, he's busy, I'll give him time to get back to me (usually several weeks), before I'd try again to strike up a conversation.

The other week I saw he was online on facebook so figured I'd try one last time, asking how his new Masters course was going and mentioning that I'd been trying to get in touch, was his phone broken or something. 

He saw it immediately (thank you for that feature) but didn't get back to me. 

Again, I waited over a week for some response - nothing.

I think I'm just going to have to accept that he isn't committed to making this friendship last and I need some advice on how to handle it. It's making me feel low, confused and a little worthless.

I realise he is terrible at communicating but from my view that is no reason to ignore a friend for several months without any apparent reason.

Has anyone been through anything similar? I'd really like some advice on how to get through this, or what may be going through his head? 

Tbh I'm starting to get to the point where I wonder if I even want to try and keep a friendship alive with someone who apparently has no time for me. 

*Side note - just in case anyone is wondering, there was never any romantic/sexual things between us - he has a very long term girlfriend who he's super in love with and I'm gay.
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Best friend of four years no longer interested in making it out to be
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