I did not spend Christmas with my family, I instead decided to spend it with my boyfriend's family. Because of this, I thought that we could visit them in late January when we had a break. We have both booked our reservations, but have now been informed by my catholic mother that we cannot share a room. I am twenty one and he is twenty three. We live together, and have done so for ten months. We have been together for almost a year. My mother knows all of this.

She said that if we couldn't respect her wishes, then we shouldn't come. She is enforcing these religious and regressive rules on us, despite the fact that she permits my brother and his girlfriend to sleep together in the same bed. My brother was permitted to do this when he was nineteen. Furthermore, a few months ago she had even told me that if my boyfriend were to visit, he could sleep in my bed. She said it was fine with her. 

My father is atheist, btw. Also grew up in Scotland, so one would not think him to be so puritanical. My mother and I already have a strained relationship, one that was beginning to get better. However, now it would seem that nothing has actually changed with her. My only fear is that she is going to convince my father to turn against us. 

I apologise for the rant. But I am pretty irritated. I have cancelled my boyfriend's reservation to avoid the loss of any money (it has not been paid for). And if my father were to change my mother's mind, I do not think we would go anyway. 

What do you think reddit?
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Mother is forcing us to share a room because she doesn't like us communicating
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I did not spend Christmas with my family, I instead decided to spend it with my boyfriend's family. Because of this, I thought that we could visit them in late January when we had a break. We have both booked our reservations, but have now been informed by my catholic mother that we cannot share a room. I am twenty one and he is twenty three. We live together, and have done so for ten months. We have been together for almost a year. My mother knows all of this.

She said that if we couldn't respect her wishes, then we shouldn't come. She is enforcing these religious and regressive rules on us, despite the fact that she permits my brother and his girlfriend to sleep together in the same bed. My brother was permitted to do this when he was nineteen. Furthermore, a few months ago she had even told me that if my boyfriend were to visit, he could sleep in my bed. She said it was fine with her. 

My father is atheist, btw. Also grew up in Scotland, so one would not think him to be so puritanical. My mother and I already have a strained relationship, one that was beginning to get better. However, now it would seem that nothing has actually changed with her. My only fear is that she is going to convince my father to turn against us. 

I apologise for the rant. But I am pretty irritated. I have cancelled my boyfriend's reservation to avoid the loss of any money (it has not been paid for). And if my father were to change my mother's mind, I do not think we would go anyway. 

What do you think reddit?
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Father is a strict mother, but is going to try to force us to
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