Okay- so my bf (of 3 months) is willing to listen to the feedback of reddit so here's the situation: bf and ex were married twice in the course of 20 years (there is a 19y.o. son). they separated a year ago and she was with someone else until recently when her bf tried to physically attacked her and injured her bad. in the span of her new relationship she had little contact with my bf except when she needed something. 

the night she was attacked she wanted him to come stay the night with her. I also have an ex that I would call in emergencies so I understood. since then she has asked him to move in with her (as roommates), texted him late at night, and paid $200 for him to join her in an art class. 

I'm not comfortable with him going to this class with her given the current circumstances. I want them to be friends and I recognize her as his family- but for the beginning of our relationship she was not a presence and within a couple of weeks I'm handed all of this and I'm not comfortable with it YET. 

She has a pattern of turning to him when she's in need and I feel that she's in a very vulnerable place right now. My heart goes out to her but not when it involves her overdependence on my boyfriend for a friend. I told him if it were three months from now and all of these things did not just happen then I would be fine. I just need some time. I trust him but I do not feel comfortable with this at all- and I have met her and respect her and think she's really cool- I just see where she's currently at.
user
my current bf wants his ex to be a temporary roommate and pay for her to move in with him for the next few weeks. I'm uncomfortable with him and I do not feel comfortable with this
assistant
Okay- so my bf (of 3 months) is willing to listen to the feedback of reddit so here's the situation: bf and ex were married twice in the course of 20 years (there is a 19y.o. son). they separated a year ago and she was with someone else until recently when her bf tried to physically attacked her and injured her bad. in the span of her new relationship she had little contact with my bf except when she needed something. 

the night she was attacked she wanted him to come stay the night with her. I also have an ex that I would call in emergencies so I understood. since then she has asked him to move in with her (as roommates), texted him late at night, and paid $200 for him to join her in an art class. 

I'm not comfortable with him going to this class with her given the current circumstances. I want them to be friends and I recognize her as his family- but for the beginning of our relationship she was not a presence and within a couple of weeks I'm handed all of this and I'm not comfortable with it YET. 

She has a pattern of turning to him when she's in need and I feel that she's in a very vulnerable place right now. My heart goes out to her but not when it involves her overdependence on my boyfriend for a friend. I told him if it were three months from now and all of these things did not just happen then I would be fine. I just need some time. I trust him but I do not feel comfortable with this at all- and I have met her and respect her and think she's really cool- I just see where she's currently at.
user
am I being unreasonable in asking him to not go to the class with her and to give me time with being comfortable in them hanging out?
assistant