Last night, my boyfriend (of about 5 months) had spent the night with me. We mostly just stayed up chatting all night and he brought up that he was joining a fraternity at our college as a sort of back-up plan, as he said, just in case I broke up with him. I told him that there's absolutely no reason that I'd want to break up with him, but that hasn't stopped me from dwelling on this idea and making myself really upset about it.

I had never given any thought to doing something like that, or at least not deliberately. Both of us have plenty of friends, some of which overlap between the two of us, and we can still enjoy lives separately of each other even while we're in a relationship. I'm not planning on breaking up with him, as I think we have a good relationship and are understanding and mature enough to work through any problems that have arisen since we got together. I don't think, at this point, any sort of specific "if he breaks up with me I'll do X" plan is necessary.

I think I want to talk to him about this and tell him that it hurt me. Not that he's joining an activity that excludes me, but because he said he was doing it just to have something to do if we broke up. The problem is that I don't want to seem like I'm overreacting on the chance that this is a normal thing for people to do in relationships and I'm just being too emotional and causing even more conflict because I'd be completely twisting what he said.
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Boyfriend made "contingency plan" in case I break
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Last night, my boyfriend (of about 5 months) had spent the night with me. We mostly just stayed up chatting all night and he brought up that he was joining a fraternity at our college as a sort of back-up plan, as he said, just in case I broke up with him. I told him that there's absolutely no reason that I'd want to break up with him, but that hasn't stopped me from dwelling on this idea and making myself really upset about it.

I had never given any thought to doing something like that, or at least not deliberately. Both of us have plenty of friends, some of which overlap between the two of us, and we can still enjoy lives separately of each other even while we're in a relationship. I'm not planning on breaking up with him, as I think we have a good relationship and are understanding and mature enough to work through any problems that have arisen since we got together. I don't think, at this point, any sort of specific "if he breaks up with me I'll do X" plan is necessary.

I think I want to talk to him about this and tell him that it hurt me. Not that he's joining an activity that excludes me, but because he said he was doing it just to have something to do if we broke up. The problem is that I don't want to seem like I'm overreacting on the chance that this is a normal thing for people to do in relationships and I'm just being too emotional and causing even more conflict because I'd be completely twisting what he said.
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boyfriend says he's making a contingency plan in
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