Last weekend I lost my temper. Ex became more and more controlling, making more demands and we couldn't discuss anything because that's what "normal" people do. Relationship counseling or any form of talking about an issue was met with disgust.

Over the past few months there has been a lot of body shaming (telling me to cover up my "deformed parts") and making demands. I had enough, I was very unkind, asked him where we stood and told him how this behaviour made me feel. He stopped talking to me.

Now he sends me a message, he wants gifts he gave me back and money. Again, a control thing. The money is less than $100 and the gifts are less than $60. This isn't an awful lot for either of us. I offered him to pay the money back months ago when he paid the bill for me, but according to him it was a gift. 

I just threw everything he asked for and everything he didn't ask for in a box, but started wondering if I should give in to this. Should I just ship the box and not the money (I want to clean up my house anyway), tell him to pick it up himself? I feel like I'm giving in again.

Edit: I guess that is an overwhelming vote for ignore and not give in. Thanks for the perspective everyone! Really appreciate that!
user
Broke up, ex is demanding items and money back. Don't know if I should give in.
assistant
Last weekend I lost my temper. Ex became more and more controlling, making more demands and we couldn't discuss anything because that's what "normal" people do. Relationship counseling or any form of talking about an issue was met with disgust.

Over the past few months there has been a lot of body shaming (telling me to cover up my "deformed parts") and making demands. I had enough, I was very unkind, asked him where we stood and told him how this behaviour made me feel. He stopped talking to me.

Now he sends me a message, he wants gifts he gave me back and money. Again, a control thing. The money is less than $100 and the gifts are less than $60. This isn't an awful lot for either of us. I offered him to pay the money back months ago when he paid the bill for me, but according to him it was a gift. 

I just threw everything he asked for and everything he didn't ask for in a box, but started wondering if I should give in to this. Should I just ship the box and not the money (I want to clean up my house anyway), tell him to pick it up himself? I feel like I'm giving in again.

Edit: I guess that is an overwhelming vote for ignore and not give in. Thanks for the perspective everyone! Really appreciate that!
user
Ex is asking for money and gifts, I'm not interested. Should I still throw in the box and not
assistant