So, my boyfriend is having some issues with maintaining an erection and because of it we can't have sex. It goes soft as soon as I put a condom on him; I'm thinking that's the issue. I tried to do it quickly today so that maybe if he could just put it inside he'd be okay but as soon as I started to unravel the condom he went soft. I laid down beside him because I was a bit frustrated, but I just thought, we can try again later.

The poor fellow got really upset and started crying and wouldn't look at me. He said he was a failure and said "What kind of guy can't please his girlfriend?" I tried to reassure him and tell him it was fine, we'd figure something out, I don't need sex to like him...

He ended up going back to his dorm and won't text me back. I really want to help him.

What do I do? What should he do?
user
Boyfriend cannot remain erect enough for us to begin sex, he thinks he's a massive failure.
assistant
So, my boyfriend is having some issues with maintaining an erection and because of it we can't have sex. It goes soft as soon as I put a condom on him; I'm thinking that's the issue. I tried to do it quickly today so that maybe if he could just put it inside he'd be okay but as soon as I started to unravel the condom he went soft. I laid down beside him because I was a bit frustrated, but I just thought, we can try again later.

The poor fellow got really upset and started crying and wouldn't look at me. He said he was a failure and said "What kind of guy can't please his girlfriend?" I tried to reassure him and tell him it was fine, we'd figure something out, I don't need sex to like him...

He ended up going back to his dorm and won't text me back. I really want to help him.

What do I do? What should he do?
user
Boyfriend thinks he's a failure because he can't remain erect. What do I do?
assistant