He and I have been dating for roughly 8 months,
for the most part communication in our relationship has been excellent, we try to do most of the talking in a face to face setting, rather than texting which is something I really like. 
One issue we have discussed numerous times but has continued to be an issue is; he'd really not like to get too emotionally attached which I understand completely (High School duh!) and I for the most part I agree with. Only there are times in our relationship where his actions or the things he says are contradictory. If I'm having a hard time, I sometimes will tell him about it but I don't rely on him for comfort. He told me after a particularly nasty incident in my house, that he wants me to come to him because he just wants me to be happy... Erm...What? But, you just said...? 

Anyway! Now there was an incident where his brother got sick and was taken to the hospital, he didn't tell me until two days later. He told me how stressed and scared he was, and I got upset that he hadn't told me so that I could have supported him. I didn't think it fell under "emotional attachment" because I would have supported any of my friends if they had gone through something like that...I guess my other question is how can he ask not to get attached then say he's there for me if I need him, then not tell me when I could have helped. I'm just slightly confused on how I'm supposed to act in regards to upsets...
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Boyfriend wants me to be
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He and I have been dating for roughly 8 months,
for the most part communication in our relationship has been excellent, we try to do most of the talking in a face to face setting, rather than texting which is something I really like. 
One issue we have discussed numerous times but has continued to be an issue is; he'd really not like to get too emotionally attached which I understand completely (High School duh!) and I for the most part I agree with. Only there are times in our relationship where his actions or the things he says are contradictory. If I'm having a hard time, I sometimes will tell him about it but I don't rely on him for comfort. He told me after a particularly nasty incident in my house, that he wants me to come to him because he just wants me to be happy... Erm...What? But, you just said...? 

Anyway! Now there was an incident where his brother got sick and was taken to the hospital, he didn't tell me until two days later. He told me how stressed and scared he was, and I got upset that he hadn't told me so that I could have supported him. I didn't think it fell under "emotional attachment" because I would have supported any of my friends if they had gone through something like that...I guess my other question is how can he ask not to get attached then say he's there for me if I need him, then not tell me when I could have helped. I'm just slightly confused on how I'm supposed to act in regards to upsets...
user
Boyfriend wants me to be
assistant