We met in college four years ago. We both graduated from college recently. I found a full time job in my field. He works part-time as a temp on a day-to-day basis (every day he is in a different office).

He has never been confident when it comes to working any job. He worries a lot about things going wrong. When we were students, he was reluctant to work during our summers off. He claims that every job he's ever had has gone badly. He says that he has no work ethic (his words, not mine). I have been worried about this on-and-off throughout our relationship. Unless he is willing to work, we have no future together.

In my opinion, he has never worked a job long enough to become comfortable with it. He saw a therapist a few times for anxiety but it didn't seem to help much.

We live separately right now. He doesn't make very much as a temp. We might be able to move in together on our incomes, but I don't know if we'd ever be able to buy a house or retire. It would be okay if his current job was temporary, but he is extremely scared to try another job.

I reminded him he could try out a full time position and then switch careers if he hates it. He wouldn't go for that either. 

He and I are such a good match in every other way that it sometimes boggles my mind. I love him and he is my best friend, which makes this whole thing so hard. I feel sick at the thought of breaking up. But we often fight about him not working. I feel stuck about what to do next. Any advice?
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Boyfriend of four years is hesitant to
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We met in college four years ago. We both graduated from college recently. I found a full time job in my field. He works part-time as a temp on a day-to-day basis (every day he is in a different office).

He has never been confident when it comes to working any job. He worries a lot about things going wrong. When we were students, he was reluctant to work during our summers off. He claims that every job he's ever had has gone badly. He says that he has no work ethic (his words, not mine). I have been worried about this on-and-off throughout our relationship. Unless he is willing to work, we have no future together.

In my opinion, he has never worked a job long enough to become comfortable with it. He saw a therapist a few times for anxiety but it didn't seem to help much.

We live separately right now. He doesn't make very much as a temp. We might be able to move in together on our incomes, but I don't know if we'd ever be able to buy a house or retire. It would be okay if his current job was temporary, but he is extremely scared to try another job.

I reminded him he could try out a full time position and then switch careers if he hates it. He wouldn't go for that either. 

He and I are such a good match in every other way that it sometimes boggles my mind. I love him and he is my best friend, which makes this whole thing so hard. I feel sick at the thought of breaking up. But we often fight about him not working. I feel stuck about what to do next. Any advice?
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My boyfriend doesn't have a work ethic
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