I dated a girl who at times, I felt like she really loved me. Then other times I felt like she was completely uninterested in me and probably was wishing she was with another guy. 

During those times of disinterest, she doesn't smile and stares off (which is a big departure from her happy and engaged state), she becomes what i would call "formally polite", she doesn't look at me much and does not laugh. When she breaks out of her somberness its usually when talking to another person/stranger. She doesn't say she is unhappy or uninterested but i don't think i'm too far off in thinking so. Do you find it is so common or uncommon to varry (in the radical way i described) in how you feel for a lover? She could be loving me at 5pm and cold at 7pm.

It makes me feel inadequate that there will be times where i cannot reach her and make her happy or satisfy her. Is that something that every relationship will have to deal with?
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I dated a girl who at times, I felt like she really loved me. Then other times I felt like she was completely uninterested in me and probably was wishing she was with another guy. 

During those times of disinterest, she doesn't smile and stares off (which is a big departure from her happy and engaged state), she becomes what i would call "formally polite", she doesn't look at me much and does not laugh. When she breaks out of her somberness its usually when talking to another person/stranger. She doesn't say she is unhappy or uninterested but i don't think i'm too far off in thinking so. Do you find it is so common or uncommon to varry (in the radical way i described) in how you feel for a lover? She could be loving me at 5pm and cold at 7pm.

It makes me feel inadequate that there will be times where i cannot reach her and make her happy or satisfy her. Is that something that every relationship will have to deal with?
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