My dad died 9 years ago, and my mum was left ccompletely alone and stuff. So, somehow, she wound up in an extramarital affair with this married guy, and has been in it for the past 4 years. 


I know that you all will scream about the morality, etc etc but she and I went over it already, that led to a very big rift in our family and basically nothing could deter her because both, she and the guy were equally invested and he did genuinely love her. Mum wasn't very demanding, she didn't ask him to leave his wife because if their affair came to light, he would lose his job. 


Basically what happened here is that his wife is now suspicious, and out of fear of that, he has cut off all contact with mum. For my mum, its like losing my dad again. 


My question is not about the morality of it all, neither am I looking for criticism about my mum. She was really lonely and while what she did was wrong, he did emerge as a companion for her and now that he's pulling away, mum is lonely, depressed and confused again. How do I help her cut loose from him, and how do I help her move on?
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my mum is in an affair with a married man, and he's
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My dad died 9 years ago, and my mum was left ccompletely alone and stuff. So, somehow, she wound up in an extramarital affair with this married guy, and has been in it for the past 4 years. 


I know that you all will scream about the morality, etc etc but she and I went over it already, that led to a very big rift in our family and basically nothing could deter her because both, she and the guy were equally invested and he did genuinely love her. Mum wasn't very demanding, she didn't ask him to leave his wife because if their affair came to light, he would lose his job. 


Basically what happened here is that his wife is now suspicious, and out of fear of that, he has cut off all contact with mum. For my mum, its like losing my dad again. 


My question is not about the morality of it all, neither am I looking for criticism about my mum. She was really lonely and while what she did was wrong, he did emerge as a companion for her and now that he's pulling away, mum is lonely, depressed and confused again. How do I help her cut loose from him, and how do I help her move on?
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mum's married bf is leaving her and moving out, she is going
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