I'm 22f seeing a 26m, we'll call him M.

Basically I like M a lot, we've been seeing each other for a little over a month. He works in computers, is fun, sarcastic, a little aloof but slowly opening up, I can mentally and verbally spar with him in good fun. We have a great time together and the sex is really good. I think I'm starting to fall for him.

The catch is over the weeks we've touched on the topic of an official relationship and his answers morphed from 'I dunno what I want right now'-which I honestly believe was his honest answer at the time to 'I don't want to feel obligated to do things/spend time together or be tied down' now. 

I don't need a giant commitment from him now, but I'd like to know at some point in the future there's a chance for it. When I though he just didn't know what he wanted I thought I would just wow him with how awesome and not crazy I am and he'd fall for me. Now the not wanting to be tied down, gah, fuck. Eh. I need to cut him off. Distance myself, something. We both really like the set up we have, seeing each other once a week, texting several times a week and in general really enjoying each other's company when we're together.

So what do I do from here? His work schedule is crazy so we can only see each other on weekends and I'm going out of town for the next weekend, so we won't see each other for two weeks. I'd like to have this conversation in person, but I think I should call him. 

What do I say? Do I just say I don't think I can keep seeing him if there's no chance for something more in the future. Just say I don't want to see him anymore. Fuck. I don't want to stop seeing him. I need someone who lived through this to tell me what I need to hear.
user
I'm in love with a guy, he doesn't want to be tied down, and I don't know how to break it off without being hurt.
assistant
I'm 22f seeing a 26m, we'll call him M.

Basically I like M a lot, we've been seeing each other for a little over a month. He works in computers, is fun, sarcastic, a little aloof but slowly opening up, I can mentally and verbally spar with him in good fun. We have a great time together and the sex is really good. I think I'm starting to fall for him.

The catch is over the weeks we've touched on the topic of an official relationship and his answers morphed from 'I dunno what I want right now'-which I honestly believe was his honest answer at the time to 'I don't want to feel obligated to do things/spend time together or be tied down' now. 

I don't need a giant commitment from him now, but I'd like to know at some point in the future there's a chance for it. When I though he just didn't know what he wanted I thought I would just wow him with how awesome and not crazy I am and he'd fall for me. Now the not wanting to be tied down, gah, fuck. Eh. I need to cut him off. Distance myself, something. We both really like the set up we have, seeing each other once a week, texting several times a week and in general really enjoying each other's company when we're together.

So what do I do from here? His work schedule is crazy so we can only see each other on weekends and I'm going out of town for the next weekend, so we won't see each other for two weeks. I'd like to have this conversation in person, but I think I should call him. 

What do I say? Do I just say I don't think I can keep seeing him if there's no chance for something more in the future. Just say I don't want to see him anymore. Fuck. I don't want to stop seeing him. I need someone who lived through this to tell me what I need to hear.
user
Dating guy who doesn't want to be 'tied down' right now, but I'm growing some serious feelings for him. I need to be told to break it off, tell me to break it off and
assistant