Me and my husband have been married for 3 years. Last night, we were lying awake in bed, talking. We both admitted that sometimes, we think about how our lives would be if the other died. I said I think about travelling the world and he said he thinks about living the bachelor life again (short term relationships, no commitment etc). 

I wasn't offended til then. I'd myself admitted that the thought crossed my mind sometimes. It was completely normal. But what really shocked me was when I asked how frequently the thought crossed his mind.

For me, this type of thought comes maybe once in 3 or 4 months. He said he thinks about it every week or so. Sometimes every 2 weeks. That really hurt me.

When he saw that I was upset, he said I was taking it too literally and that every week was just an approximate. But I'm still pretty upset. How can you live with someone who fantasizes about you dying EVERY WEEK? Isn't that too much?
user
Husband admits he thinks about me dying every week. I'm pretty upset and don't know what to do.
assistant
Me and my husband have been married for 3 years. Last night, we were lying awake in bed, talking. We both admitted that sometimes, we think about how our lives would be if the other died. I said I think about travelling the world and he said he thinks about living the bachelor life again (short term relationships, no commitment etc). 

I wasn't offended til then. I'd myself admitted that the thought crossed my mind sometimes. It was completely normal. But what really shocked me was when I asked how frequently the thought crossed his mind.

For me, this type of thought comes maybe once in 3 or 4 months. He said he thinks about it every week or so. Sometimes every 2 weeks. That really hurt me.

When he saw that I was upset, he said I was taking it too literally and that every week was just an approximate. But I'm still pretty upset. How can you live with someone who fantasizes about you dying EVERY WEEK? Isn't that too much?
user
My husband admitted that he fantasizes about me dying and then never tells me. I'm hurt by this, and don't know how to handle it.
assistant