Hey everyone, thanks for reading. I'm a 24 year old guy who has been married for only about 2 weeks to my wife, age 27. My wife is a devout Christian (I am not) and as such, we did not have sex before marriage, though we dated almost 7 years. We did "fool around" quite a lot and do a lot of outercourse, but it was always kind of forbidden. We had cutesy words for everything (it was never "sex" and words like penis and vagina were big no no's!). I guess over time, though, by thinking of sex as forbidden, I've grown to not really be attracted to my wife. What I mean is, the thought of making love to her seems really wrong, and there's just nothing about her that I find super attractive. On the other hand, there are girls that are not nearly as good looking as my wife who I can certainly see myself getting intimate with, but whenever I try to think of my wife in that way, I feel guilty. 

To make matters worse, my wife is very sensitive. We still can't use "real" words while *actually* having sex, and anytime I move my face more than a foot away from hers, she feels bad and feels like I'm leaving her or it's not personal enough. There are things I think I'd like to try, but I can't even begin to imagine asking. (Head for example...my, I'd feel more comfortably asking one of female executives at work for head than my own wife!) Basically, how can I learn to be attracted again after being kind of sexually "repressed" for 7 or so years. How can I view my wife sexually after being conditioned not to for so long?
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Sexually repressed for 7 years, finally have sex, not sexually attracted to wife. How do I learn
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Hey everyone, thanks for reading. I'm a 24 year old guy who has been married for only about 2 weeks to my wife, age 27. My wife is a devout Christian (I am not) and as such, we did not have sex before marriage, though we dated almost 7 years. We did "fool around" quite a lot and do a lot of outercourse, but it was always kind of forbidden. We had cutesy words for everything (it was never "sex" and words like penis and vagina were big no no's!). I guess over time, though, by thinking of sex as forbidden, I've grown to not really be attracted to my wife. What I mean is, the thought of making love to her seems really wrong, and there's just nothing about her that I find super attractive. On the other hand, there are girls that are not nearly as good looking as my wife who I can certainly see myself getting intimate with, but whenever I try to think of my wife in that way, I feel guilty. 

To make matters worse, my wife is very sensitive. We still can't use "real" words while *actually* having sex, and anytime I move my face more than a foot away from hers, she feels bad and feels like I'm leaving her or it's not personal enough. There are things I think I'd like to try, but I can't even begin to imagine asking. (Head for example...my, I'd feel more comfortably asking one of female executives at work for head than my own wife!) Basically, how can I learn to be attracted again after being kind of sexually "repressed" for 7 or so years. How can I view my wife sexually after being conditioned not to for so long?
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How can I prevent my mind from making me repulsive to my wife (who is a devout
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