Short relationship description: we've been together for over 3 years, and we've been living together for just over 2 months now.

I guess I'll keep it short and simple.  I was going through a box of some of my boyfriend's electronic stuff (we haven't completely unpacked yet) looking for a specific charger when I spy a butt plug that appears to be used (it's not wrapped or in a box or anything).  Now I know it's not mine, as I do not own one, and a number of thoughts start to go through my head: is it his?  Does he even know about it?  Could it be from his previous relationship?  My mind is running like crazy, and obviously starts to spin toward the worst.  My bf is really big into ass-play with me, but he never lets me reciprocate to him.  He has suggested in the past that he plans on getting me my own plug for us to play with, but I can definitely tell this isn't some hidden gift that I accidentally came upon.

So now I'm debating whether or not to wait until he gets home from work to bring it up, or to ask him via text.  I decide to text him and just casually ask if he knows anything about it.  I instantly regret the decision.  I think I went about it the wrong way, I should've waited until he got home to ask.  But I was just so anxious and worried.  I sent him a text apologizing for asking via text, but I haven't gotten any responses yet.  This was about a half hour ago.  I can't exactly call him either, he works in a basement lab and can't really take phone calls.

I'm just not really sure what to do now, how I should go about this before and after he gets home...
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Short relationship description: we've been together for over 3 years, and we've been living together for just over 2 months now.

I guess I'll keep it short and simple.  I was going through a box of some of my boyfriend's electronic stuff (we haven't completely unpacked yet) looking for a specific charger when I spy a butt plug that appears to be used (it's not wrapped or in a box or anything).  Now I know it's not mine, as I do not own one, and a number of thoughts start to go through my head: is it his?  Does he even know about it?  Could it be from his previous relationship?  My mind is running like crazy, and obviously starts to spin toward the worst.  My bf is really big into ass-play with me, but he never lets me reciprocate to him.  He has suggested in the past that he plans on getting me my own plug for us to play with, but I can definitely tell this isn't some hidden gift that I accidentally came upon.

So now I'm debating whether or not to wait until he gets home from work to bring it up, or to ask him via text.  I decide to text him and just casually ask if he knows anything about it.  I instantly regret the decision.  I think I went about it the wrong way, I should've waited until he got home to ask.  But I was just so anxious and worried.  I sent him a text apologizing for asking via text, but I haven't gotten any responses yet.  This was about a half hour ago.  I can't exactly call him either, he works in a basement lab and can't really take phone calls.

I'm just not really sure what to do now, how I should go about this before and after he gets home...
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