We dated two years most of which was good. We broke up a month ago after a prolonged argument from a long spat of arguments. I left crying from his house. I got home at 3 AM, had a moment of clarity called him and dumped him. Then I went over and we talked it out and I explained the breakup in person.

Obviously he was hurt but he agreed it was probably for the best. I told him we should take time and space from each other but he begged me not to. So we kept in contact and things seemed alright.

The other night I call him asking about reconciliation. He says mentally/rationally he wants to be together but he is emotionally damaged. That the breakup really hurt him but we can take it slow. However, I ask him if he's seeing anyone else/fucking other people and he claims it's not my business. That if I was so concerned I shouldn't have dumped him in the first place. I can't "have my cake and eat it too," expect monogamy when I ended it.

To add to this, he still wants me to come as his guest for a wedding, still wants to celebrate his bday, AND asks if I want to take a trip with his family this summer.

He sounds resentful to me and I believe his attitude is turning a cycle of resentment. To me, it sounds like he just wants to punish me. When I argue that is important for my sexual, emotional health, he claims let's use condoms then. But his stance is firm. He claims he's not saying he has or even wants to fuck other ppl, but I shouldn't ask those things when I ended it. What should I do?
user
BF and I broke up, I broke up a/him. I would like to reconcile And he is willing but he also thinks it's not my business who else he decides to fuck. I fear
assistant
We dated two years most of which was good. We broke up a month ago after a prolonged argument from a long spat of arguments. I left crying from his house. I got home at 3 AM, had a moment of clarity called him and dumped him. Then I went over and we talked it out and I explained the breakup in person.

Obviously he was hurt but he agreed it was probably for the best. I told him we should take time and space from each other but he begged me not to. So we kept in contact and things seemed alright.

The other night I call him asking about reconciliation. He says mentally/rationally he wants to be together but he is emotionally damaged. That the breakup really hurt him but we can take it slow. However, I ask him if he's seeing anyone else/fucking other people and he claims it's not my business. That if I was so concerned I shouldn't have dumped him in the first place. I can't "have my cake and eat it too," expect monogamy when I ended it.

To add to this, he still wants me to come as his guest for a wedding, still wants to celebrate his bday, AND asks if I want to take a trip with his family this summer.

He sounds resentful to me and I believe his attitude is turning a cycle of resentment. To me, it sounds like he just wants to punish me. When I argue that is important for my sexual, emotional health, he claims let's use condoms then. But his stance is firm. He claims he's not saying he has or even wants to fuck other ppl, but I shouldn't ask those things when I ended it. What should I do?
user
Ex bf still wants to be together but won't have a monogamous relationship. I am hurt and resentful. What do?
assistant