Hey, so I'm currently breaking up after a happy year together. It's had its ups and downs, but I really thought she was my everything. 

She is going through depression, and before you accuse me, no, I'm not leaving her because she's depressed.

It's been a culmination of a whole bunch of shit, but the final straw on the metaphorical camel's back was this:

She is trying to make friends. Okay, I'm totally ready to help! I told her I want to help her foster good, healthy friendships. She said that I need to accept that she's going to go and get high/ drunk with people in an attempt to make friends. 

I told her that's a shitty idea, that I want her to have good healthy friendships, ones not forged through drugs, with people that she can trust and rely on. True friends.

She told me she doesn't care what I think anymore, because I'm a controlling asshole. Apparently what makes me a controlling asshole is the fact that I was uncomfortable with her constantly texting an ex-FWB, and her going out and getting high with an old friend of hers who asked for nudes and tells her she's pretty a lot. 

I never stopped her from doing anything, I just was uncomfortable with a lot of things she did.

Well apparently, she's had enough of my "controlling" and doesn't care how I feel anymore. 

This was the last thing I could take (not to mention all her insults), so I told her we're through.

I really do love her, but she seems so dead set on getting me to accept that she is going to do whatever she wants (which I'm okay with, to a certain extent), and if she gets hurt, then that's on her. I don't want her to get hurt. I just want to help her out of her depression and get her good friends that she can rely on to support her.
user
GF has depression and I'm not sure if I'm still her best friend. Any help is appreciated. Thank you!
assistant
Hey, so I'm currently breaking up after a happy year together. It's had its ups and downs, but I really thought she was my everything. 

She is going through depression, and before you accuse me, no, I'm not leaving her because she's depressed.

It's been a culmination of a whole bunch of shit, but the final straw on the metaphorical camel's back was this:

She is trying to make friends. Okay, I'm totally ready to help! I told her I want to help her foster good, healthy friendships. She said that I need to accept that she's going to go and get high/ drunk with people in an attempt to make friends. 

I told her that's a shitty idea, that I want her to have good healthy friendships, ones not forged through drugs, with people that she can trust and rely on. True friends.

She told me she doesn't care what I think anymore, because I'm a controlling asshole. Apparently what makes me a controlling asshole is the fact that I was uncomfortable with her constantly texting an ex-FWB, and her going out and getting high with an old friend of hers who asked for nudes and tells her she's pretty a lot. 

I never stopped her from doing anything, I just was uncomfortable with a lot of things she did.

Well apparently, she's had enough of my "controlling" and doesn't care how I feel anymore. 

This was the last thing I could take (not to mention all her insults), so I told her we're through.

I really do love her, but she seems so dead set on getting me to accept that she is going to do whatever she wants (which I'm okay with, to a certain extent), and if she gets hurt, then that's on her. I don't want her to get hurt. I just want to help her out of her depression and get her good friends that she can rely on to support her.
user
= Girlfriend thinks I'm controlling for being uncomfortable with things like constantly texting an ex FWB, tells me she doesn't care
assistant