Backstory: I met a girl while studying abroad, and we started hooking up in the first couple weeks.

I like her for a lot of reasons, she's smart, cute, and apparently was into me, but I don't think I'd ever want to date this girl for other reasons that make us incompatible, and on top of that I have attachment issues, I could fall in love with anything that moved. I have some SERIOUS cognitive dissonance going on.

I enjoy hooking up with her, but she has intimacy issues so a lot of the time, I don't think she enjoys it.

On top of all of this, I know she maintains contact with her ex, who she didn't really break up with, she used the breakup as a tool to get him to change, and apparently they started talking again right before she went abroad.

I know she texts/sexts with him frequently, talks about how much she misses him, etc., very intimate stuff. I should mention I have major issues with jealousy which I'm working on in therapy.

Meanwhile, I have developed feelings for her, and despite my better judgement, I do love this girl, even though I'm not in love with her, if that makes sense. My brain knows what's good for me, and my heart is a desperate motherfucker.

We are pretty intimate, but I can't help feeling that I'm just a surrogate while she's here, and she is only into me because I'm the best option for her right now, I know she plans on getting back together with him. I didn't really have a chance from the start, and I just feel used and disappointed.

At the same time, I want to enjoy the FWB situation as best I can and live in the moment, considering I know she isn't right for me.

This is more of a vent than anything else, but any advice or comments would be greatly appreciated.
user
I'm hooking up with a girl who has an attachment disorder and has an ex she's using me for. I have feelings for her, but I don't think she feels the same towards me. I like her, but she
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Backstory: I met a girl while studying abroad, and we started hooking up in the first couple weeks.

I like her for a lot of reasons, she's smart, cute, and apparently was into me, but I don't think I'd ever want to date this girl for other reasons that make us incompatible, and on top of that I have attachment issues, I could fall in love with anything that moved. I have some SERIOUS cognitive dissonance going on.

I enjoy hooking up with her, but she has intimacy issues so a lot of the time, I don't think she enjoys it.

On top of all of this, I know she maintains contact with her ex, who she didn't really break up with, she used the breakup as a tool to get him to change, and apparently they started talking again right before she went abroad.

I know she texts/sexts with him frequently, talks about how much she misses him, etc., very intimate stuff. I should mention I have major issues with jealousy which I'm working on in therapy.

Meanwhile, I have developed feelings for her, and despite my better judgement, I do love this girl, even though I'm not in love with her, if that makes sense. My brain knows what's good for me, and my heart is a desperate motherfucker.

We are pretty intimate, but I can't help feeling that I'm just a surrogate while she's here, and she is only into me because I'm the best option for her right now, I know she plans on getting back together with him. I didn't really have a chance from the start, and I just feel used and disappointed.

At the same time, I want to enjoy the FWB situation as best I can and live in the moment, considering I know she isn't right for me.

This is more of a vent than anything else, but any advice or comments would be greatly appreciated.
user
Met a girl, we have some serious problems that make me not want to date her, but I can't shake the feeling that our FWB situation is more than I bargained for.
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