I've been working with this woman (let's call her Alison) for about 8 months and we get along really well and are close work friends. She's a lesbian and I'm straight and in a long term relationship. Shes been single the entire time I've known her, but she just started dating someone and now I feel immensely jealous. 

I recently realized that I have a full-blown crush on her, and it's beginning to become unbearable. My boyfriend and I have always had a pretty okay sex life, but recently I've been fantasizing about Alison and have barely wanted anything to do with him. Every time we have sex (which is not often) I imagine it's her who's touching me. I know it's pathetic,  but I've been masturbating to her facebook pictures. All I can think about is what it would be like to kiss her. She's very feminine, and she's so pretty that I find myself staring at her sometimes at work when she's concentrating on something and won't notice. 

I thought she might be interested in me because she always goes out of her way to do favors for me, and she told me I was beautiful once when I was complaining about my appearance. But she seems very interested in the girl she just started dating and I feel really hurt and jealous. I've tried distancing myself from her to reclaim some of my dignity, but it's difficult because we're working closely on many projects. 

The two of us went out to get drinks after work yesterday, which was a bad idea, and I ended up subtly insinuating that I had feelings for her and she seemed startled and quickly made an excuse to leave. We haven't talked since.

I really just wish I could turn these emotions off. I've only been attracted to men in the past, but my desire for Alison is more overwhelming than anything I've ever felt before. I'm terrified that my comment yesterday may have impacted our working relationship. I also feel like my boyfriend deserves an explanation for my recent disinterest. But I'm too afraid to say anything for fear of messing everything up even more.
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I'm a straight woman in a long term relationship a crush on my female coworker. I'm not sure how to proceed as I've never
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I've been working with this woman (let's call her Alison) for about 8 months and we get along really well and are close work friends. She's a lesbian and I'm straight and in a long term relationship. Shes been single the entire time I've known her, but she just started dating someone and now I feel immensely jealous. 

I recently realized that I have a full-blown crush on her, and it's beginning to become unbearable. My boyfriend and I have always had a pretty okay sex life, but recently I've been fantasizing about Alison and have barely wanted anything to do with him. Every time we have sex (which is not often) I imagine it's her who's touching me. I know it's pathetic,  but I've been masturbating to her facebook pictures. All I can think about is what it would be like to kiss her. She's very feminine, and she's so pretty that I find myself staring at her sometimes at work when she's concentrating on something and won't notice. 

I thought she might be interested in me because she always goes out of her way to do favors for me, and she told me I was beautiful once when I was complaining about my appearance. But she seems very interested in the girl she just started dating and I feel really hurt and jealous. I've tried distancing myself from her to reclaim some of my dignity, but it's difficult because we're working closely on many projects. 

The two of us went out to get drinks after work yesterday, which was a bad idea, and I ended up subtly insinuating that I had feelings for her and she seemed startled and quickly made an excuse to leave. We haven't talked since.

I really just wish I could turn these emotions off. I've only been attracted to men in the past, but my desire for Alison is more overwhelming than anything I've ever felt before. I'm terrified that my comment yesterday may have impacted our working relationship. I also feel like my boyfriend deserves an explanation for my recent disinterest. But I'm too afraid to say anything for fear of messing everything up even more.
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I really am attracted to a woman I work with and I'm getting jealous and insecure, but I have a boyfriend.
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