I met my boyfriend a year ago in the graduate program I'm a part of. When I met him, he was in a 10 year relationship that had gone long distance and failed (her decision). He pursued me 2 weeks later and we  began a very fulfilling and highly active relationship. We were taking dance lesson, backpacking trips, reading outloud at night, planting a garden, socializing with our friends, enjoying an active sex life, etc. He openly acknowledged me as his best friend and consistently made me feel treasured.

   I was always conscious of his continued struggle with betrayal from his previous relationship and we discussed it openly. He was also taking an anti-depressant to deal with these and other serious family issues (a death).  1 month ago, after what had been a wonderful week together, he told me flatly that he realized THAT DAY, that he wasn't falling in love with me. He said he had experienced almost no emotions for over a year, aside from anger at his ex, and guilt over that anger. I was devastated and completely surprised.

   A week ago he began inviting me out and increasing our dialogue about what had happened, then confessed he has made a terrible mistake and wanted to get back together and hoped to spend his life with me after rebuilding my trust. He said he had stopped taking the anti-depressant and sorted out his feelings during our time apart. 
   I want to give it another try...but how can I forget this happened? There were no clues leading up to it -- I think I will always fear that he might surprise me again or that he is mentally ill. His emotions seems to whip back an forth so quickly I feel unsure. What should I ask him to do to increase my confidence in our relationship?  How can I be myself when he rejected ME before? Can relationships recover from break ups like this? What is it like being with a SO that suffers from depression?
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SO rejected me after an emotionally draining breakup due to depressed state of mind.
assistant
I met my boyfriend a year ago in the graduate program I'm a part of. When I met him, he was in a 10 year relationship that had gone long distance and failed (her decision). He pursued me 2 weeks later and we  began a very fulfilling and highly active relationship. We were taking dance lesson, backpacking trips, reading outloud at night, planting a garden, socializing with our friends, enjoying an active sex life, etc. He openly acknowledged me as his best friend and consistently made me feel treasured.

   I was always conscious of his continued struggle with betrayal from his previous relationship and we discussed it openly. He was also taking an anti-depressant to deal with these and other serious family issues (a death).  1 month ago, after what had been a wonderful week together, he told me flatly that he realized THAT DAY, that he wasn't falling in love with me. He said he had experienced almost no emotions for over a year, aside from anger at his ex, and guilt over that anger. I was devastated and completely surprised.

   A week ago he began inviting me out and increasing our dialogue about what had happened, then confessed he has made a terrible mistake and wanted to get back together and hoped to spend his life with me after rebuilding my trust. He said he had stopped taking the anti-depressant and sorted out his feelings during our time apart. 
   I want to give it another try...but how can I forget this happened? There were no clues leading up to it -- I think I will always fear that he might surprise me again or that he is mentally ill. His emotions seems to whip back an forth so quickly I feel unsure. What should I ask him to do to increase my confidence in our relationship?  How can I be myself when he rejected ME before? Can relationships recover from break ups like this? What is it like being with a SO that suffers from depression?
user
long term emotionally distant boyfriend abruptly ends relationship in attempt to rebuild trust, says
assistant