So my fiance (M) and I have been together a little over two years. Prior to that he dated a girl (L) for 5 years on and off. She was very controlling and struggled with depression and an eating disorder while they dated. She frequently broke up with him to date other guys, only to come crawling back when those relationships ended. 

When M and I met he and L were still together, but barely. She refused to acknowledge their relationship, but he wasn't allowed to talk to/hang out with/see other girls. We worked together, and I think I was a sharp contrast to L. 

M and I began spending more and more time together, becoming very close friends. His relationship with L also got increasingly more emotionally abusive, and then became physically abusive. M sort of shrugged it off because of L's size and inability to hurt him. Anyways, I'm rambling. On to us.

We are very recently engaged, but have had a very good relationship thus far. I have never worried previously of him having thoughts of L and we are very open about our feelings. We have talked about L relatively frequently, but we've also talked about my crappy exes too.

This brings us to last night. We went out and he got pretty drunk (not something we typically do). He brought L up and talked about her a lot. More than we usually do. The way he was talking about her made me uncomfortable, so I didn't really engage him on it, but he kept talking about her. Things said include; "I always told her we'd have jewish looking babies with giant noses."; "She was such a bitch but that's what I like about her."; "She was really terrible in the end, but it was so much better in the beginning."

Now, I don't know if I'm overreacting, if he was just remembering fond times before things went south, or what. I'm more than willing to discuss this with him, and I plan to today when we get home from work, but I just need some opinions.
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So my fiance (M) and I have been together a little over two years. Prior to that he dated a girl (L) for 5 years on and off. She was very controlling and struggled with depression and an eating disorder while they dated. She frequently broke up with him to date other guys, only to come crawling back when those relationships ended. 

When M and I met he and L were still together, but barely. She refused to acknowledge their relationship, but he wasn't allowed to talk to/hang out with/see other girls. We worked together, and I think I was a sharp contrast to L. 

M and I began spending more and more time together, becoming very close friends. His relationship with L also got increasingly more emotionally abusive, and then became physically abusive. M sort of shrugged it off because of L's size and inability to hurt him. Anyways, I'm rambling. On to us.

We are very recently engaged, but have had a very good relationship thus far. I have never worried previously of him having thoughts of L and we are very open about our feelings. We have talked about L relatively frequently, but we've also talked about my crappy exes too.

This brings us to last night. We went out and he got pretty drunk (not something we typically do). He brought L up and talked about her a lot. More than we usually do. The way he was talking about her made me uncomfortable, so I didn't really engage him on it, but he kept talking about her. Things said include; "I always told her we'd have jewish looking babies with giant noses."; "She was such a bitch but that's what I like about her."; "She was really terrible in the end, but it was so much better in the beginning."

Now, I don't know if I'm overreacting, if he was just remembering fond times before things went south, or what. I'm more than willing to discuss this with him, and I plan to today when we get home from work, but I just need some opinions.
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