My SO and I have been married a few years, and his family is very nice to me. We go out to eat, I get gifts on my birthday/Christmas. One of my in-laws even drove my car to our house when we moved so I wouldn't have to drive the long road alone.

Yet despite their kindness and seeing them on a semi-regular basis, they make me uncomfortable. My SO's siblings I get along with more or less, but even their kids make me feel uneasy, even though I want them to like me.

My husband wants to spend more time with them, and I don't want to deny him that, but I don't want to go every time and he doesn't like going alone. I already take anti-anxiety meds, and it's hard to spend time around them without me drinking 1-3 alcoholic beverages to feel at ease. I'm really scared that when we have kids, this will continue. But the idea of not being able to be calm around them really upsets me. I haven't told my husband, because I don't want to hurt his feelings.
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In-laws are nice, but I don't want to be around them, because I'm
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My SO and I have been married a few years, and his family is very nice to me. We go out to eat, I get gifts on my birthday/Christmas. One of my in-laws even drove my car to our house when we moved so I wouldn't have to drive the long road alone.

Yet despite their kindness and seeing them on a semi-regular basis, they make me uncomfortable. My SO's siblings I get along with more or less, but even their kids make me feel uneasy, even though I want them to like me.

My husband wants to spend more time with them, and I don't want to deny him that, but I don't want to go every time and he doesn't like going alone. I already take anti-anxiety meds, and it's hard to spend time around them without me drinking 1-3 alcoholic beverages to feel at ease. I'm really scared that when we have kids, this will continue. But the idea of not being able to be calm around them really upsets me. I haven't told my husband, because I don't want to hurt his feelings.
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my in-laws make me uncomfortable, and I'm scared of being around them when
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