Been with the hubby for 9 years, married for two. We have a really, really good relationship. I love him and he loves me; we're best friends. 5 years ago I left my friends, job, and family to move across the country so he could go to school. I quickly found a job and supported him through his three years of school and while he took and passed the bar exam.  We got married right after he graduated. 

It has now been two years since he graduated and he's still unemployed. I pay all the bills and we're drowning. I make OK money, but our city is expensive and every month we come up a few hundred dollars short. I had savings, the two years of unemployment has slowly and steadily eaten that away. I don't know what to do. 

He promised he'd find something, anything, but he hasn't. 

I love him.  I'm not at all considering divorce. But I feel like maybe I've made it too easy for him to be unemployed. Maybe if I kicked him out for a bit he'd reprioritize and find something. But I also don't want to destroy our relationship. We really do have a solid marriage outside of this financial stress. Am I being crazy?  If he moved out I could save some money and he might be more motivated to become employed. He won't talk to me about his employment options because he says I get too stressed and that stresses him out. He's right, but who can I talk to if not him?!

I've recently started taking pills for my anxiety caused directly by our financial problems.  Can't sleep, can't relax. I'm really starting to lose it. Is this really a good idea or just some crazy stress induced delerium?
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I'm thinking of asking my husband to move out in hope of motivating him to find a job.
assistant
Been with the hubby for 9 years, married for two. We have a really, really good relationship. I love him and he loves me; we're best friends. 5 years ago I left my friends, job, and family to move across the country so he could go to school. I quickly found a job and supported him through his three years of school and while he took and passed the bar exam.  We got married right after he graduated. 

It has now been two years since he graduated and he's still unemployed. I pay all the bills and we're drowning. I make OK money, but our city is expensive and every month we come up a few hundred dollars short. I had savings, the two years of unemployment has slowly and steadily eaten that away. I don't know what to do. 

He promised he'd find something, anything, but he hasn't. 

I love him.  I'm not at all considering divorce. But I feel like maybe I've made it too easy for him to be unemployed. Maybe if I kicked him out for a bit he'd reprioritize and find something. But I also don't want to destroy our relationship. We really do have a solid marriage outside of this financial stress. Am I being crazy?  If he moved out I could save some money and he might be more motivated to become employed. He won't talk to me about his employment options because he says I get too stressed and that stresses him out. He's right, but who can I talk to if not him?!

I've recently started taking pills for my anxiety caused directly by our financial problems.  Can't sleep, can't relax. I'm really starting to lose it. Is this really a good idea or just some crazy stress induced delerium?
user
I'm thinking of asking my recently unemployed husband to move out of our house and find a job until he finds a job. I think this will help our relationship
assistant