A year ago, my current husband and I got married. My sex drive is very high but he approaches sex differently. While he does have a libido, he approaches sex with me the same way he would approach jacking off. It feels the same - like I am a full figured fleshlight. Also he finishes before I do, he always state that he is sorry and we can try again later but every session is the same. He doesn't take pleasure in pleasure, he just approaches it the way he would a job. He does say he wants me to finish as well, but usually that means he will just lay back and let me be on top while taking the time to catch some extra z's. I have tried to give him tricks and hints but to no avail. I could try to talk some more but I feel like it is fruitless to try and engineer a*"desire"* to please. Even if your attempts are successful the fact that you have to make an attempt flies in the face of natural sexual chemistry.

I am not the type of women that is overly concerned with sex. I would never have imagined that a relationship that is healthy otherwise would be damaged because of a sexual misalignment. But now that I am married and in my 30's it seems I want nothing more than an emotionally and sexually fulfilling sexual encounter . My husband is very traditional and conservative so there is not much flexibility. Admittedly, the relationship has its emotional deficits too. I am quite conservative myself. I am committed to my husband and our marriage. If for nothing else then the structure it provides my very young son, but now I finding myself needing something that isn't there. I feel like I am in a pressurized cooker ready to blow.
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My husband approaches sex the same way he would a job - lack
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A year ago, my current husband and I got married. My sex drive is very high but he approaches sex differently. While he does have a libido, he approaches sex with me the same way he would approach jacking off. It feels the same - like I am a full figured fleshlight. Also he finishes before I do, he always state that he is sorry and we can try again later but every session is the same. He doesn't take pleasure in pleasure, he just approaches it the way he would a job. He does say he wants me to finish as well, but usually that means he will just lay back and let me be on top while taking the time to catch some extra z's. I have tried to give him tricks and hints but to no avail. I could try to talk some more but I feel like it is fruitless to try and engineer a*"desire"* to please. Even if your attempts are successful the fact that you have to make an attempt flies in the face of natural sexual chemistry.

I am not the type of women that is overly concerned with sex. I would never have imagined that a relationship that is healthy otherwise would be damaged because of a sexual misalignment. But now that I am married and in my 30's it seems I want nothing more than an emotionally and sexually fulfilling sexual encounter . My husband is very traditional and conservative so there is not much flexibility. Admittedly, the relationship has its emotional deficits too. I am quite conservative myself. I am committed to my husband and our marriage. If for nothing else then the structure it provides my very young son, but now I finding myself needing something that isn't there. I feel like I am in a pressurized cooker ready to blow.
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My husband is conservative and traditional and I am very controlled and conservative
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