My girlfriend and I have been together for coming up on a year now. I love her and she is amazing all around, I can honestly see her as being the one, however, there is one area that just doesn't connect us. We do tasks together, such as eat dinner, shower, go to the grocery store, and that's really it. Other than that, talking about our days, planning future career steps, and sex (which occurs less and less because we argue since I primarily don't feel any bond or connection), we do nothing together.

She loves watching TV shows, that's her thing. I hate watching TV, the only TV I can watch is sports and game shows. Whenever we watch a TV show, I get bored, and often times my body just naturally starts falling asleep, especially if we do this at night. Doesn't matter how much I like or dislike the show. She wants us to do that more, and I hate that because to me, it's no connection sitting in silence and staring at a TV.

Her hobbies are TV and horse riding. She also works a very intense job that keeps her busy a lot. My main hobbies are videogames and the gym, but I like watching sports, wasting time on the internet, riding my motorcycle, etc. So there is no overlap. Sometimes on weekends we go out in the front yard and play soccer, which we both enjoy. Her philosophy is that she doesn't want to "spread herself too thin" so that she can excel at her career and hobbies. My philosophy is if I like it, I'll do it no matter how good or bad I am at it.

Her main complaint is that I can't just "hang out", i always have to plan that we will watch TV, plan that I'll play games with friends online, etc. I can't just go with the flow. To me there is very little flow if our only activity is TV. I love her but I feel so disconnected, especially when we watch TV. What do we do?
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My girlfriend and I are slowly feeling more disconnected than ever. Been with her a year, I love her, she is amazing, and I can see a long future for us. The only activities we do together are eat, shower, go to the grocery store, sex, and TV. So the only real hobby there is TV. I hate watching TV, I get so bored and I fall asleep a lot. One of my least favorite things to do. We do nothing else. How can we establish a bond that we
assistant
My girlfriend and I have been together for coming up on a year now. I love her and she is amazing all around, I can honestly see her as being the one, however, there is one area that just doesn't connect us. We do tasks together, such as eat dinner, shower, go to the grocery store, and that's really it. Other than that, talking about our days, planning future career steps, and sex (which occurs less and less because we argue since I primarily don't feel any bond or connection), we do nothing together.

She loves watching TV shows, that's her thing. I hate watching TV, the only TV I can watch is sports and game shows. Whenever we watch a TV show, I get bored, and often times my body just naturally starts falling asleep, especially if we do this at night. Doesn't matter how much I like or dislike the show. She wants us to do that more, and I hate that because to me, it's no connection sitting in silence and staring at a TV.

Her hobbies are TV and horse riding. She also works a very intense job that keeps her busy a lot. My main hobbies are videogames and the gym, but I like watching sports, wasting time on the internet, riding my motorcycle, etc. So there is no overlap. Sometimes on weekends we go out in the front yard and play soccer, which we both enjoy. Her philosophy is that she doesn't want to "spread herself too thin" so that she can excel at her career and hobbies. My philosophy is if I like it, I'll do it no matter how good or bad I am at it.

Her main complaint is that I can't just "hang out", i always have to plan that we will watch TV, plan that I'll play games with friends online, etc. I can't just go with the flow. To me there is very little flow if our only activity is TV. I love her but I feel so disconnected, especially when we watch TV. What do we do?
user
How can I connect with my girlfriend as a person without being selfish?
assistant