Hello,

I've been with my current girlfriend for 6 months. We have a very strong, healthy, and loving relationship thus far. My only concern is that prior to meeting her, she enjoyed clubbing with her close girl friends often. And since I've been with her, we've only gone 3 times but I want to mention that each time we went, we had an argument simply because I've always been very against clubbing as I don't drink alcohol and the environment makes me feel very uncomfortable.

I've definitely noticed my girlfriend change for me by never going clubbing without and always asking me whenever she even goes out to a restaurant with friends, I love and respect that about her but she never seems to understand that clubbing is the one thing I am not okay with. She always mentions that it's about compromise and I tell her that I'd compromise over anything else except that because I don't think it's significant enough to even fight about in a relationship. 

Just want to know how to handle the situation, how should I reason with her. If she loves me, why isn't she okay with NOT going clubbing? How important can it really be...Am I in the wrong, is she or are we both? If I were to give her an ultimatum - me or clubbing, would that be effective? I know that if she ever wanted me to stop making her do something that made her feel uncomfortable, I would. Even if that means she isn't compromising. As long as she's happy. 

Any advice, feedback, or help would be appreciated :) Thanks in advance!
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girlfriend always goes clubbing, I don't and I
assistant
Hello,

I've been with my current girlfriend for 6 months. We have a very strong, healthy, and loving relationship thus far. My only concern is that prior to meeting her, she enjoyed clubbing with her close girl friends often. And since I've been with her, we've only gone 3 times but I want to mention that each time we went, we had an argument simply because I've always been very against clubbing as I don't drink alcohol and the environment makes me feel very uncomfortable.

I've definitely noticed my girlfriend change for me by never going clubbing without and always asking me whenever she even goes out to a restaurant with friends, I love and respect that about her but she never seems to understand that clubbing is the one thing I am not okay with. She always mentions that it's about compromise and I tell her that I'd compromise over anything else except that because I don't think it's significant enough to even fight about in a relationship. 

Just want to know how to handle the situation, how should I reason with her. If she loves me, why isn't she okay with NOT going clubbing? How important can it really be...Am I in the wrong, is she or are we both? If I were to give her an ultimatum - me or clubbing, would that be effective? I know that if she ever wanted me to stop making her do something that made her feel uncomfortable, I would. Even if that means she isn't compromising. As long as she's happy. 

Any advice, feedback, or help would be appreciated :) Thanks in advance!
user
I don't think clubbing is important enough for
assistant