Hey reddit,

About 2 weeks ago we had a new guy start at our office, mid twenties, nice guy. 
Me and him were outside on his second day having a cigarette together and while we were chatting about his previous job, gf, etc. he mentioned he had an older brother. 
Me being me, I made a reasonably crude joke about his brother being attractive etc. etc. (I'm female), the conversation changed and we carried on. I made another joke the next day when having another cigarette along the same lines (when it was relevant) and since then nothing about his family has come up again.

Fast forward to earlier today, where I find out from my best friend, who apparently went to school with him, that his (only) older brother died in a car wreck about 6 months ago.

..Awkward...

He clearly didn't seem like he wanted to mention it, or he would have when I made my joke, although a quick dig around his fb profile makes it reasonably clear when he refers to his brother in the past tense (as in, he doesn't appear to be actively hiding it)

What should I do reddit? Do I mention it and apologize, or carry on like nothing happened and just accept the guilt!? Would mentioning it make things worse?

Is there anyone who has been on the other side of this dilemma who can offer advice?
user
Made a few jokes to the new guy about his brother being attractive... turns out he's
assistant
Hey reddit,

About 2 weeks ago we had a new guy start at our office, mid twenties, nice guy. 
Me and him were outside on his second day having a cigarette together and while we were chatting about his previous job, gf, etc. he mentioned he had an older brother. 
Me being me, I made a reasonably crude joke about his brother being attractive etc. etc. (I'm female), the conversation changed and we carried on. I made another joke the next day when having another cigarette along the same lines (when it was relevant) and since then nothing about his family has come up again.

Fast forward to earlier today, where I find out from my best friend, who apparently went to school with him, that his (only) older brother died in a car wreck about 6 months ago.

..Awkward...

He clearly didn't seem like he wanted to mention it, or he would have when I made my joke, although a quick dig around his fb profile makes it reasonably clear when he refers to his brother in the past tense (as in, he doesn't appear to be actively hiding it)

What should I do reddit? Do I mention it and apologize, or carry on like nothing happened and just accept the guilt!? Would mentioning it make things worse?

Is there anyone who has been on the other side of this dilemma who can offer advice?
user
made a joke about my new coworker's older brother (who died in a car accident six
assistant