(Note: Just made this account because my main one is easily searchable).

My inlaws are divorced and will visit separately throughout the year. Usually 1 week at a time, twice a year each. We rent a small house, so room is no issue.

Now my inlaws are great people. They don't speak ill of one another, did a great job with their kids, and treat me wonderfully. **The issue here is my own** and I'm looking for tips / help on how to be more patient and all-around a better host.

The problem lies in that after about 2-3 days of being around them 24/7, I just start getting annoyed. Since they only visit briefly, my wife spends the whole week with them. I've never blown up or said anything mean; just kind of clammed up and stopped talking a whole lot.

With my FIL, I just find that he can be very bitter and angry. He constantly complains about everything and any joking he does is very "should've done a better job". My wife or I will tell a story and he'll find one negative or unjust thing about it and just focus on that. He doesn't focus on a negative aspect of us, but just "things wrong with society" or other people's actions. I usually hush up after a while and just listen.

Now with my MIL, I have a harder time. She dominates all conversations with monologues. Easily going on for 10+ minutes talking about her experiences in life or thoughts. She doesn't ask questions, so it's never really a conversation. I get angry because my wife / her daughter never really gets to talk about herself and instead spends her time listening to her mother's stories and reassuring her choices. TBH I usually stop paying attention at some point. 

Like I said, these feelings are my issues and I want to be more patient and understanding. My wife's patience is endless and I need to meet her at least halfway. I'm not looking to change her parent's behaviors but instead deal with them.
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My MIL and I have problems with inlaws visiting each other 24/7. I want to be more patient
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(Note: Just made this account because my main one is easily searchable).

My inlaws are divorced and will visit separately throughout the year. Usually 1 week at a time, twice a year each. We rent a small house, so room is no issue.

Now my inlaws are great people. They don't speak ill of one another, did a great job with their kids, and treat me wonderfully. **The issue here is my own** and I'm looking for tips / help on how to be more patient and all-around a better host.

The problem lies in that after about 2-3 days of being around them 24/7, I just start getting annoyed. Since they only visit briefly, my wife spends the whole week with them. I've never blown up or said anything mean; just kind of clammed up and stopped talking a whole lot.

With my FIL, I just find that he can be very bitter and angry. He constantly complains about everything and any joking he does is very "should've done a better job". My wife or I will tell a story and he'll find one negative or unjust thing about it and just focus on that. He doesn't focus on a negative aspect of us, but just "things wrong with society" or other people's actions. I usually hush up after a while and just listen.

Now with my MIL, I have a harder time. She dominates all conversations with monologues. Easily going on for 10+ minutes talking about her experiences in life or thoughts. She doesn't ask questions, so it's never really a conversation. I get angry because my wife / her daughter never really gets to talk about herself and instead spends her time listening to her mother's stories and reassuring her choices. TBH I usually stop paying attention at some point. 

Like I said, these feelings are my issues and I want to be more patient and understanding. My wife's patience is endless and I need to meet her at least halfway. I'm not looking to change her parent's behaviors but instead deal with them.
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My inlaws are great and we have a great relationship, but after spending a week together daily, I
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