I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months and I feel as if our relationship is going downhill. When we first started dating I could tell he was just as excited to spend time with me as I was with him, whether it was a date or just staying in. I don't get that vibe from him anymore. We went on a date last night and when I first came over to his house beforehand he was just saying things to me that were about me that made me feel stupid and when I didn't respond or look at him he kind of stopped and then was a little nicer. Then when we went on our date and it was fine at first. We were talking for a while and then he just kind of stopped trying to make conversation. Doing that in itself is hard to do. He will tell me about his day or about how something in his life is going and when I try to do the same he just kind of mocks it. It's the times like this when I think I just annoy him and he doesn't really like being with me. But then there are times when he acts cute and hugs me and wants to give me affection in public even when he knows it bothers me and then I think maybe he does really like me. I constantly wonder if I'm doing something wrong or if he can pick up that I'm insecure about our relationship and I'm the one sabotaging it. In my head it's a constant battle of "Don't be clingy and give him space" vs "You're only not texting him/having fun with him because of imaginary problems you're creating in this relationship so maybe let go that mean thing he said and have fun." It bothers me that it takes him almost two hours after he says he'll come over to invite me over instead. And it bothers me that he has stopped saying and doing cute and considerate things like he used to. Sometimes I feel like he only wants to be with me when it's convenient for him. What can I do to encourage getting our relationship back to the way it used to be?
user
I'm feeling upset and frustrated that I can't seem to get our relationship back to the way it used
assistant
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months and I feel as if our relationship is going downhill. When we first started dating I could tell he was just as excited to spend time with me as I was with him, whether it was a date or just staying in. I don't get that vibe from him anymore. We went on a date last night and when I first came over to his house beforehand he was just saying things to me that were about me that made me feel stupid and when I didn't respond or look at him he kind of stopped and then was a little nicer. Then when we went on our date and it was fine at first. We were talking for a while and then he just kind of stopped trying to make conversation. Doing that in itself is hard to do. He will tell me about his day or about how something in his life is going and when I try to do the same he just kind of mocks it. It's the times like this when I think I just annoy him and he doesn't really like being with me. But then there are times when he acts cute and hugs me and wants to give me affection in public even when he knows it bothers me and then I think maybe he does really like me. I constantly wonder if I'm doing something wrong or if he can pick up that I'm insecure about our relationship and I'm the one sabotaging it. In my head it's a constant battle of "Don't be clingy and give him space" vs "You're only not texting him/having fun with him because of imaginary problems you're creating in this relationship so maybe let go that mean thing he said and have fun." It bothers me that it takes him almost two hours after he says he'll come over to invite me over instead. And it bothers me that he has stopped saying and doing cute and considerate things like he used to. Sometimes I feel like he only wants to be with me when it's convenient for him. What can I do to encourage getting our relationship back to the way it used to be?
user
I'm giving myself a migraine trying to understand my relationship with my boyfriend. I like him. I don't like
assistant