This gal I've known since highschool and I became really good friends then started dating. I care about her and think I love her. But there are just some things it seems like I want from someone that she just isn't. She is very nice and would never cheat on me or anything. But hangs out with a guy she dated who says inappropriate things and groped her once while we were dating. And I don't really say anything but im not too keen on that. 

My point in bringing that up is that she doesn't really seem to show that she cares a whole lot about me. She certainly says it and will get physical. But she doesn't really show it. And I'm not asking for flowers or anything, but for example I knew she really wanted to see this one movie, so I found a way to make it happen. She also seems to kinda disregard me at times.

A while back I said I didn't feel wanted a whole lot. And kind of explained some of this to her. And she took it really hard and was kinda mad. I think had I pressed any more we would have broken up.  

The thing is though, she has a lot of things I like, she is a natural leader, she is independent, we are both old fashioned and have the same values (which is very important to me as a lot of girls don't tend to care for or oppose a lot of my beliefs). She does make me happy when I am with her for the most part. And we have a lot of good memories. She also is always there for me when I am down. 

I guess what I am asking is, am I expecting too much? If I was to break up with her it would still really suck, but I don't want to waste her time if she isn't able to give me what I need. But if I am I want to figure out why I am not content and get there.
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I feel like I want something a little different in a relationship than what my girlfriend is giving me. I want to know if my wants are too much for anyone to give, or if it would be better to realize we don't work as well as
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This gal I've known since highschool and I became really good friends then started dating. I care about her and think I love her. But there are just some things it seems like I want from someone that she just isn't. She is very nice and would never cheat on me or anything. But hangs out with a guy she dated who says inappropriate things and groped her once while we were dating. And I don't really say anything but im not too keen on that. 

My point in bringing that up is that she doesn't really seem to show that she cares a whole lot about me. She certainly says it and will get physical. But she doesn't really show it. And I'm not asking for flowers or anything, but for example I knew she really wanted to see this one movie, so I found a way to make it happen. She also seems to kinda disregard me at times.

A while back I said I didn't feel wanted a whole lot. And kind of explained some of this to her. And she took it really hard and was kinda mad. I think had I pressed any more we would have broken up.  

The thing is though, she has a lot of things I like, she is a natural leader, she is independent, we are both old fashioned and have the same values (which is very important to me as a lot of girls don't tend to care for or oppose a lot of my beliefs). She does make me happy when I am with her for the most part. And we have a lot of good memories. She also is always there for me when I am down. 

I guess what I am asking is, am I expecting too much? If I was to break up with her it would still really suck, but I don't want to waste her time if she isn't able to give me what I need. But if I am I want to figure out why I am not content and get there.
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How do I break up with someone who seems to be happy all the time but I have a lot of issues with and am not sure if I am expecting too much?
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