I'll try to keep this brief. I moved home recently, I’m 26 (bad roommate situation) and work full time. Last night I get home from work and find my parents have gone with my little sis to the coast until Friday. I'm left with my younger brother (16). He calls me to ask if he can have a couple friends from his basketball team sleep over and "not to tell mom and dad". I find out that he’s supposed to be sleeping at home, and no guests allowed. I'm usually pretty lenient, but when I hear lots of noise by the door I see about 8 kids, mix of boys and girls. 

The first thought in my mind is "oh HELL no" and I send my little bro a text that says there is no way these kids are staying the night, get them all out now. I should note that on previous sleepovers - when the parents were home - he has had alcohol with his friends. 

Normally we have a great relationship, but for him to mislead me have underage kids drinking downstairs crossed a line. He is trying to play it like I’ve betrayed him and we get into the first fight we’ve ever had. I tried my best to calmly explain that this puts me in a bad position and that it is not fair to ask this from me. He insists that it’s “no big deal and I’ll take the blame for anything that happens.”

In the end, I stand my ground. He huffs and puffs, but eventually goes to someone else’s house that my parents have said is OK for him to go to. 

For me the worst part is that my parents gave me no heads up, so I was forced to play bad guy – or girl in this case. I feel shitty to have our relationship stressed by this, but I had no choice really. He’s a good kid, this is just normal teenage shit that I did when I was young too.
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A kid is having underage parties at my house with my parents and I don’t know how to handle it.
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I'll try to keep this brief. I moved home recently, I’m 26 (bad roommate situation) and work full time. Last night I get home from work and find my parents have gone with my little sis to the coast until Friday. I'm left with my younger brother (16). He calls me to ask if he can have a couple friends from his basketball team sleep over and "not to tell mom and dad". I find out that he’s supposed to be sleeping at home, and no guests allowed. I'm usually pretty lenient, but when I hear lots of noise by the door I see about 8 kids, mix of boys and girls. 

The first thought in my mind is "oh HELL no" and I send my little bro a text that says there is no way these kids are staying the night, get them all out now. I should note that on previous sleepovers - when the parents were home - he has had alcohol with his friends. 

Normally we have a great relationship, but for him to mislead me have underage kids drinking downstairs crossed a line. He is trying to play it like I’ve betrayed him and we get into the first fight we’ve ever had. I tried my best to calmly explain that this puts me in a bad position and that it is not fair to ask this from me. He insists that it’s “no big deal and I’ll take the blame for anything that happens.”

In the end, I stand my ground. He huffs and puffs, but eventually goes to someone else’s house that my parents have said is OK for him to go to. 

For me the worst part is that my parents gave me no heads up, so I was forced to play bad guy – or girl in this case. I feel shitty to have our relationship stressed by this, but I had no choice really. He’s a good kid, this is just normal teenage shit that I did when I was young too.
user
I had to run around town with my little bro, he was sleeping at home, and lied to me about it. Also, I feel really bad about letting my
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