My mom and dad are polar opposites as far as everything about them goes. My dad grew up in Bombay, India and came to the states in the 80's. He met my mom, who is a white Italian woman. They got married and had 3 kids. My mom has been unhappy in her relationship since the beginning. She wanted to leave my dad, but my dad threatened to take her kids to India if she ever tried to divorce him. The culture clash is such a major part of what makes their relationship fail to work.

Fast forward about 30 years, all of the kids are in their 20s. My mom has not had an easy life. I have witnessed the way my Dad has misstreated her. He has cheated on her, hit her, yelled and talked down to her, and demanded money from her when he had none (even though he makes a lot of money at his job and has a 401k plan) My dad is a man who uses his own culture as an excuse to be a mysoginistic asshole all of the time. He is also a coward who does not deserve my mother for the caring and kind person she is. 

My mom has always wanted to leave. Many things have hindered her from leaving (kids/money/mortgage ect) She works as a nurse and has a seperate bank account from my dad. In my mind she has the life style that could easily be transplanted in another town or state, where she could be away from my Dad and be happy. I know the concept of seperation can have complicated legal issues involved, but I would like to learn more about what options are out there for my mom. 

 I want to find a way to give my mom possible options that could lead her to finally leave. I just need advice from anyone who has dealt with abusive relationships that are impossible to get out of. I also would love to hear from anyone with experience with law involving seperation or divorce.
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My mom and dad are polar opposites as far as everything about them goes. My dad grew up in Bombay, India and came to the states in the 80's. He met my mom, who is a white Italian woman. They got married and had 3 kids. My mom has been unhappy in her relationship since the beginning. She wanted to leave my dad, but my dad threatened to take her kids to India if she ever tried to divorce him. The culture clash is such a major part of what makes their relationship fail to work.

Fast forward about 30 years, all of the kids are in their 20s. My mom has not had an easy life. I have witnessed the way my Dad has misstreated her. He has cheated on her, hit her, yelled and talked down to her, and demanded money from her when he had none (even though he makes a lot of money at his job and has a 401k plan) My dad is a man who uses his own culture as an excuse to be a mysoginistic asshole all of the time. He is also a coward who does not deserve my mother for the caring and kind person she is. 

My mom has always wanted to leave. Many things have hindered her from leaving (kids/money/mortgage ect) She works as a nurse and has a seperate bank account from my dad. In my mind she has the life style that could easily be transplanted in another town or state, where she could be away from my Dad and be happy. I know the concept of seperation can have complicated legal issues involved, but I would like to learn more about what options are out there for my mom. 

 I want to find a way to give my mom possible options that could lead her to finally leave. I just need advice from anyone who has dealt with abusive relationships that are impossible to get out of. I also would love to hear from anyone with experience with law involving seperation or divorce.
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