I'll try to keep this brief. A distant family member, someone who I've maybe met once or twice in my life is sick and about to pass away. My father, upon hearing this news immediately jumped on a plane and flew across the country to visit.

This all came very unexpectedly because as I've said, this is not a person I really knew growing up. I had to ask my father how he was related to us because I didn't even recognize his name. My father rarely visited or kept in contact with his family when I was a kid except for a few cousins. So I was shocked that he flew out here, considering he has to so carefully plan his visits here that he missed my college graduation.

So aside from my admittedly petty bitterness about my dad's traveling schedule, he is insisting that I come with him to visit this relative after I get off work tonight. I'm currently on the second day of a six day, possibly seven day work week, and I work 12 hours a day. This visit would also require a two hour roundtrip, aside from the painfully awkward small talk time I would have to sit through for possibly hours on end. I simply do not want to go. I'm tired and stressed. I barely know this man and his family, and I just went through an incredibly difficult ordeal last month dealing with the loss of my grandmother. I'm too emotionally exhausted to deal with this kind of thing right now, and I seriously doubt my presence would be missed. I feel like my father just wants to show me off, despite the fact that he has little to do with my accomplishments.
 
So am I a terrible person for not wanting to go? I should add that I do feel a bit guilty about not making the time to spend with my father, but whenever he comes to visit he routinely asks me to keep entire days free so that we can spend time together, but then blows me off because he gets too stoned to function.
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Father wants me to visit sick relative after work, despite being stressed and tired. I am too emotionally drained to handle
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I'll try to keep this brief. A distant family member, someone who I've maybe met once or twice in my life is sick and about to pass away. My father, upon hearing this news immediately jumped on a plane and flew across the country to visit.

This all came very unexpectedly because as I've said, this is not a person I really knew growing up. I had to ask my father how he was related to us because I didn't even recognize his name. My father rarely visited or kept in contact with his family when I was a kid except for a few cousins. So I was shocked that he flew out here, considering he has to so carefully plan his visits here that he missed my college graduation.

So aside from my admittedly petty bitterness about my dad's traveling schedule, he is insisting that I come with him to visit this relative after I get off work tonight. I'm currently on the second day of a six day, possibly seven day work week, and I work 12 hours a day. This visit would also require a two hour roundtrip, aside from the painfully awkward small talk time I would have to sit through for possibly hours on end. I simply do not want to go. I'm tired and stressed. I barely know this man and his family, and I just went through an incredibly difficult ordeal last month dealing with the loss of my grandmother. I'm too emotionally exhausted to deal with this kind of thing right now, and I seriously doubt my presence would be missed. I feel like my father just wants to show me off, despite the fact that he has little to do with my accomplishments.
 
So am I a terrible person for not wanting to go? I should add that I do feel a bit guilty about not making the time to spend with my father, but whenever he comes to visit he routinely asks me to keep entire days free so that we can spend time together, but then blows me off because he gets too stoned to function.
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My dad flies across country to visit a distant relative after he's just recently lost his grandmother, and I'm not sure
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