We got into an argument one night, after a rough week, in October. She broke things off with me because she said she couldn't handle the distance anymore. I went on my way, no contact. I felt it was the only way to get over her and fix my own wounds. It was a lot harder than I thought, my friends and support were there for me every step of the way.

I was destroyed. My close friends that we had met together, decided to not support her in the same way (I don't know if this was a conscious effort) and she aggressively messaged me for about a month and more after with some hatemail to my email address accusing me of badmouthing her to everyone I know when it was truly not the case. I was hurt and told my best buds about the breakup. She had found another man to be with, I heard from the grapevine, and I had been crushed further.

Soon after, numerous times, she had reached out to me though I blocked most ways to contact me to be friends. In a moment of weakness I try to see if there's any hope for us and I'm shut down, so I distance myself once more out of hurt. I spend the next couple of weeks coping with things as healthily as possible, venting to one or two people close to me instead of all of my friends.

I get really close to a female friend, a confidant, and I unexpectedly am falling for her. I wake up this morning realizing that I like her (having skyped with her for 6-12 hours a day for the past two weeks) and I wake up to another few emails my browser defaulted to at home page. Another message asking to be friends, and coming clean about an issue we had that was a dealbreaker. I know I'm not ready to be friends, but I'm feeling like wanting her back even though I know it isn't possible. I don't want to NEVER be friends, but I did shut her out for myself and she feels like it's be friends now or never again.
user
I split up with my long distance girlfriend 3.5 months ago, she wants to be friends but I don't want to. I want to be friends with
assistant
We got into an argument one night, after a rough week, in October. She broke things off with me because she said she couldn't handle the distance anymore. I went on my way, no contact. I felt it was the only way to get over her and fix my own wounds. It was a lot harder than I thought, my friends and support were there for me every step of the way.

I was destroyed. My close friends that we had met together, decided to not support her in the same way (I don't know if this was a conscious effort) and she aggressively messaged me for about a month and more after with some hatemail to my email address accusing me of badmouthing her to everyone I know when it was truly not the case. I was hurt and told my best buds about the breakup. She had found another man to be with, I heard from the grapevine, and I had been crushed further.

Soon after, numerous times, she had reached out to me though I blocked most ways to contact me to be friends. In a moment of weakness I try to see if there's any hope for us and I'm shut down, so I distance myself once more out of hurt. I spend the next couple of weeks coping with things as healthily as possible, venting to one or two people close to me instead of all of my friends.

I get really close to a female friend, a confidant, and I unexpectedly am falling for her. I wake up this morning realizing that I like her (having skyped with her for 6-12 hours a day for the past two weeks) and I wake up to another few emails my browser defaulted to at home page. Another message asking to be friends, and coming clean about an issue we had that was a dealbreaker. I know I'm not ready to be friends, but I'm feeling like wanting her back even though I know it isn't possible. I don't want to NEVER be friends, but I did shut her out for myself and she feels like it's be friends now or never again.
user
I don't know if I should be friends with her, I don't want to be forever alone because of it or how to keep her from contacting
assistant