I've always been the kind of person who doesn't like talking about myself with people I don't know really well. If a co-worker asks me if I did anything the weekend before, I'll probably say something along the lines of "not really," unless I went to a concert or went on a road trip, or something g equally exciting. Sometimes it's because I forgot that anything happened. (I'm a HUGE airhead.) Sometimes it's because I get anxious and answer on auto-pilot. Sometimes, because of the whole airhead with anxiety thing, I have to take a second to remember and that takes too long for conversation with anyone who's not a close friend.

Alternatively, I like forming friendships over common interests, and through in-depth conversations. I could talk about one episode of a tv show for half an hour and not get bored. If I like a song on the radio, I'll try addressing what it is about the song that I like (ie: rhythm, instrument tone, lyrics...) Its through these really specialized conversations, that I grow to trust people. It's through many of these conversations, that I feel comfortable telling someone that I sat outside and drew with chalk, or that I had six margaritas at dinner the night before. More or less, I need to share ideas with a person, before I share what I did in the physical world.

The problem: is that apparently it's weird to be so mysterious about myself. People assume I don't want to talk to them or get to know them and give up. That's quite the opposite: I DO want to get to know people, it just takes longer than they want. 

I'm American born and raised, but it seems, based on my readings, that I don't socialize like an American. But then I have I ask do I socialize in a manner that's socially acceptable in any country? I don't fucking know.
user
I'd rather talk about anything other than myself with strangers. Why don't
assistant
I've always been the kind of person who doesn't like talking about myself with people I don't know really well. If a co-worker asks me if I did anything the weekend before, I'll probably say something along the lines of "not really," unless I went to a concert or went on a road trip, or something g equally exciting. Sometimes it's because I forgot that anything happened. (I'm a HUGE airhead.) Sometimes it's because I get anxious and answer on auto-pilot. Sometimes, because of the whole airhead with anxiety thing, I have to take a second to remember and that takes too long for conversation with anyone who's not a close friend.

Alternatively, I like forming friendships over common interests, and through in-depth conversations. I could talk about one episode of a tv show for half an hour and not get bored. If I like a song on the radio, I'll try addressing what it is about the song that I like (ie: rhythm, instrument tone, lyrics...) Its through these really specialized conversations, that I grow to trust people. It's through many of these conversations, that I feel comfortable telling someone that I sat outside and drew with chalk, or that I had six margaritas at dinner the night before. More or less, I need to share ideas with a person, before I share what I did in the physical world.

The problem: is that apparently it's weird to be so mysterious about myself. People assume I don't want to talk to them or get to know them and give up. That's quite the opposite: I DO want to get to know people, it just takes longer than they want. 

I'm American born and raised, but it seems, based on my readings, that I don't socialize like an American. But then I have I ask do I socialize in a manner that's socially acceptable in any country? I don't fucking know.
user
I like listening to conversations, but I'm scared that I'll come off
assistant