We were about to begin prep for thanksgiving dinner and I has changed the soap dispenser from dish soap to hand soap in the kitchen last night, when he asked me I told him I had. 

His son asked if he could help with the dishes and he told him " No, we can't do the dishes because there isn't any dishsoap.", in an annoyed tone, and then sighed. There is plenty of dish soap under the sink it just wasn't out. 

He then told me that no one washes their hands in the sink and poured out all the new soap I bought last night. I had my back turned and only saw him rinsing the soap dispenser, I asked if he dumped all the soap down the drain, he acted like I was unreasonable in asking that.

Then he told me to stop being mean to him or he would leave and go somewhere else for thanksgiving. He them told me I clearly don't love him anymore and it's my fault for being angry because he did nothing wrong. I'm hurt that he doesn't see that it was his passive aggressive comment that upset me in the first place.

How do I explain that if he had just handled the issue instead of acting like it was impossible to do the dishes today because I changed the soap the whole thing could have been avoided.
user
Fiance was being passive aggressive and pissed me off by telling me to "leave him alone and be nice".
assistant
We were about to begin prep for thanksgiving dinner and I has changed the soap dispenser from dish soap to hand soap in the kitchen last night, when he asked me I told him I had. 

His son asked if he could help with the dishes and he told him " No, we can't do the dishes because there isn't any dishsoap.", in an annoyed tone, and then sighed. There is plenty of dish soap under the sink it just wasn't out. 

He then told me that no one washes their hands in the sink and poured out all the new soap I bought last night. I had my back turned and only saw him rinsing the soap dispenser, I asked if he dumped all the soap down the drain, he acted like I was unreasonable in asking that.

Then he told me to stop being mean to him or he would leave and go somewhere else for thanksgiving. He them told me I clearly don't love him anymore and it's my fault for being angry because he did nothing wrong. I'm hurt that he doesn't see that it was his passive aggressive comment that upset me in the first place.

How do I explain that if he had just handled the issue instead of acting like it was impossible to do the dishes today because I changed the soap the whole thing could have been avoided.
user
Fiance acted like he wasn't going to do the dishes because I had changed the soap dispenser, when he
assistant