Hi all. I've been dating this man for 8 months. He broke up with said ex around 2 years ago (they dated 3 years). I never met her, but I had learned of her name through his friends. He had never told me her name, but it had come up in casual conversation separately, so he didn't know I knew her name. No biggie, I don't care about ex gfs.

Anyway, post-sex he calls me her name. Accidents happen, but I called him on it since he tried to ignore it to see if I didn't notice. I said:

Me: "Did you just call me [Random name]?" 

Him: "Huh? I didn't just say that, did I?" 

Me: "Yes, you just called me [Random girl name]. Tell me the truth, is that an ex's name?" (I knew full-well this was his ex, I just wanted him to admit it)

Him: "No, it isn't an ex. I don't think I even know a person named that... so weird I said that name!"

That's when I got pretty upset (internally, I get quiet when upset). I wasn't mad that he called me an ex, I was mad he was dishonest. I became silent and he said to not be mad, it was an accident. After a minute I told him I believed he was lying about it not being an ex's name and he looked shocked and came clean saying he didn't "want to admit he had called me his ex's name" and had freaked out.

Question, Reddit: Should I be upset? I haven't spoken to him since the incident (at work now). Not sure how to handle this one. Thoughts? I'm a bit hurt about the lie.

He is generally very mature and sweet. I've asked that our relationship be truthful and honest and it feels to have been to this point. I just don't like that he looked me deadpan in the face and said he wasn't lying. Ouch.
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Boyfriend called me ex's name post-sex. Lied when confronted. Should I be upset
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Hi all. I've been dating this man for 8 months. He broke up with said ex around 2 years ago (they dated 3 years). I never met her, but I had learned of her name through his friends. He had never told me her name, but it had come up in casual conversation separately, so he didn't know I knew her name. No biggie, I don't care about ex gfs.

Anyway, post-sex he calls me her name. Accidents happen, but I called him on it since he tried to ignore it to see if I didn't notice. I said:

Me: "Did you just call me [Random name]?" 

Him: "Huh? I didn't just say that, did I?" 

Me: "Yes, you just called me [Random girl name]. Tell me the truth, is that an ex's name?" (I knew full-well this was his ex, I just wanted him to admit it)

Him: "No, it isn't an ex. I don't think I even know a person named that... so weird I said that name!"

That's when I got pretty upset (internally, I get quiet when upset). I wasn't mad that he called me an ex, I was mad he was dishonest. I became silent and he said to not be mad, it was an accident. After a minute I told him I believed he was lying about it not being an ex's name and he looked shocked and came clean saying he didn't "want to admit he had called me his ex's name" and had freaked out.

Question, Reddit: Should I be upset? I haven't spoken to him since the incident (at work now). Not sure how to handle this one. Thoughts? I'm a bit hurt about the lie.

He is generally very mature and sweet. I've asked that our relationship be truthful and honest and it feels to have been to this point. I just don't like that he looked me deadpan in the face and said he wasn't lying. Ouch.
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Boyfriend called me his ex's name after sex, lied about it when confronted.
assistant