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I ended a 3 year relationship with my girlfriend "Wanda" about a month ago. I loved her, love her still, but we had recurring problems that kept coming up and that I realized were never going to change.

The breakup was devestating for both of us, and for my own sanity I immediately went no contact and blocked her on my phone, email and all social media.

This weekend I heard from long time close mutual friends that on Friday Wanda committed suicide. Apparently she left a note, and in it she wrote a lot about me. While I was not the ONLY reason she decided to kill herself, our breakup and the loss of me were definitely a factor.

I am in shock. I haven't eaten in two days and am now typing this for just something to do.

Her funeral is in a couple of days. I guess my main question is, do I go? Just send flowers and/or a card? Do nothing?

She was my ex so I have no idea what the proper protocol is here. I was not close with her parents, not unfriendly though, but since she listed our breakup as one of the reasons she decided to kill herself I'm thinking my presence might upset her family more.

On the other hand if I don't go I don't want to appear as a cold unfeeling monster who doesn't care. I really truly do. I truly loved her even though things didn't work out between us. I just have no idea what the right thing to do is.

I'm really fucked up and feeling beyond guilty. If I hadn't broken up with her she might still be alive, or if I hadn't been selfish and gone no contact. 

 I want to pay my respects but I don't want to be disrespectful to her family in the process. What is the right thing to do in regards to Wanda's funeral?
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I am posting on a throwaway, obvious reasons

I ended a 3 year relationship with my girlfriend "Wanda" about a month ago. I loved her, love her still, but we had recurring problems that kept coming up and that I realized were never going to change.

The breakup was devestating for both of us, and for my own sanity I immediately went no contact and blocked her on my phone, email and all social media.

This weekend I heard from long time close mutual friends that on Friday Wanda committed suicide. Apparently she left a note, and in it she wrote a lot about me. While I was not the ONLY reason she decided to kill herself, our breakup and the loss of me were definitely a factor.

I am in shock. I haven't eaten in two days and am now typing this for just something to do.

Her funeral is in a couple of days. I guess my main question is, do I go? Just send flowers and/or a card? Do nothing?

She was my ex so I have no idea what the proper protocol is here. I was not close with her parents, not unfriendly though, but since she listed our breakup as one of the reasons she decided to kill herself I'm thinking my presence might upset her family more.

On the other hand if I don't go I don't want to appear as a cold unfeeling monster who doesn't care. I really truly do. I truly loved her even though things didn't work out between us. I just have no idea what the right thing to do is.

I'm really fucked up and feeling beyond guilty. If I hadn't broken up with her she might still be alive, or if I hadn't been selfish and gone no contact. 

 I want to pay my respects but I don't want to be disrespectful to her family in the process. What is the right thing to do in regards to Wanda's funeral?
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