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Also, incredibly expensive. I looked into adoption for a child, and at least in my case, it would cost anywhere from 5 to 6 times more than actually having one. I actually made an additional 18 grand from a combination of FMLA and employer sponsored family leave when my kid was born.
I get that you want to make sure adopted children go to a good home that has good financial support. But if having a child costs that much less as the state you should be rethinking the process. To me it's essentially a wash with either spending money supporting a child vs someone adopting that child and taking that burden from the state. Plus, for the sake of that child, and their adopted family, you want them adopted and settling with a family ASAP, not keeping them in the system.
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Adoption processes take years usually. So it’s worse. You have to sit out the intro but can’t watch it or interact.
And then you have to live with whatever choices somebody else made during the tutorial.