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A better analogy is they’re forced to watch the intro a dozen times before skipping to a totally different show.
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Adoption processes take years usually. So it’s worse. You have to sit out the intro but can’t watch it or interact.
And then you have to live with whatever choices somebody else made during the tutorial. >

Also, incredibly expensive. I looked into adoption for a child, and at least in my case, it would cost anywhere from 5 to 6 times more than actually having one. I actually made an additional 18 grand from a combination of FMLA and employer sponsored family leave when my kid was born.
I get that you want to make sure adopted children go to a good home that has good financial support. But if having a child costs that much less as the state you should be rethinking the process. To me it's essentially a wash with either spending money supporting a child vs someone adopting that child and taking that burden from the state. Plus, for the sake of that child, and their adopted family, you want them adopted and settling with a family ASAP, not keeping them in the system. >

Foster->Adopt is cheaper, takes longer and most people want no more than an infant. I get it too, some kids unfortunately grow up in fucked up environments and just because you remove them from the situation it doesn't take away the emotional scars.  
I knew a girl who was one of 2 bio-kids in her house, the things that her foster brothers and sisters exposed her too at a young age are not thing I'd want to have happen to my own kids. >


the things that her foster brothers and sisters exposed her too at a young age are not thing I'd want to have happen to my own kids

like what? >

Kids in foster care have been pulled out of their homes because their homes weren’t safe. Every case is different but in general these kids have been exposed to drugs, alcohol, porn/sexual abuse, violence, &/or other life situations that are hard for adults to deal with. 
Our first drug addicted foster kid was kind enough to give us a massive education on drugs. I’ve been in EMS for almost 20 years & this kid taught me new things. It was wild.