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No... it's for parent who're unable to conceive more times than not.
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Adoption processes take years usually. So it’s worse. You have to sit out the intro but can’t watch it or interact.
And then you have to live with whatever choices somebody else made during the tutorial. >

Also, incredibly expensive. I looked into adoption for a child, and at least in my case, it would cost anywhere from 5 to 6 times more than actually having one. I actually made an additional 18 grand from a combination of FMLA and employer sponsored family leave when my kid was born.
I get that you want to make sure adopted children go to a good home that has good financial support. But if having a child costs that much less as the state you should be rethinking the process. To me it's essentially a wash with either spending money supporting a child vs someone adopting that child and taking that burden from the state. Plus, for the sake of that child, and their adopted family, you want them adopted and settling with a family ASAP, not keeping them in the system. >

Foster->Adopt is cheaper, takes longer and most people want no more than an infant. I get it too, some kids unfortunately grow up in fucked up environments and just because you remove them from the situation it doesn't take away the emotional scars.  
I knew a girl who was one of 2 bio-kids in her house, the things that her foster brothers and sisters exposed her too at a young age are not thing I'd want to have happen to my own kids. >


the things that her foster brothers and sisters exposed her too at a young age are not thing I'd want to have happen to my own kids

like what? >

Kids in foster care have been pulled out of their homes because their homes weren’t safe. Every case is different but in general these kids have been exposed to drugs, alcohol, porn/sexual abuse, violence, &/or other life situations that are hard for adults to deal with. 
Our first drug addicted foster kid was kind enough to give us a massive education on drugs. I’ve been in EMS for almost 20 years & this kid taught me new things. It was wild. >

A better analogy is they’re forced to watch the intro a dozen times before skipping to a totally different show. >

I can’t disagree more. As I sit here with my 7 day old adopted son I think about how much pain, suffering, and disappointment we went through to get here. Adoption is the game + version as you have to go through years of anguish and expenses before you get to the actual game. >

Tell me you're not an adoptive parent without telling me you're not an adoptive parent >

I know where you're coming from but I reckon it would be more like "choose your own adventure" and you click on a totally different intro to the storyline 🙂 >

Tell that to anybody who went through any fertility assistance and see how fast they skip out on ever talking to you again. Many people put years of their life and tens of thousands of dollars into things like this before adopting. I'd hardly call that skipping anything.
Tell that, as well, to anybody who has undergone the adoption process, the forms, the interviews, preparing your home and having it scrutinized repeatedly to see if you are worthy of doing something that many people stumble into accidentally, and for which you are doing as much or more preparation than a lot of biological parents put in.
Think before posting a shower "thought", and do us a favor - if you're lucky enough to have kids, teach them to be better by looking at more than a narrow-range viewpoint on the world. >

Having been through both the invitro and adoption process, I agree with you 100%.  OP is an asswipe who obviously has never been through it and has NO idea what he's talking about.  And probably doesn't realize that he's an asswipe. >

Haha, that's a great way to put it! Adoption certainly helps parents get to the fun parts of parenting quicker. >

Not in the UK it doesn't.
You get to skip the intro, but the questionnaire you have to complete before you get access to the game is brutal. >

Like a really long tutorial? >

More like…
You know when you buy a game, and sometimes it forces you to make an account on the developers site? So you go all the way to the computer, start the surprisingly lengthy process, only to realize that you already have an account on the site… but fuck, what was the password? Which email address did I use? And what was the password for THAT email account? God damn I’m not even at the menu yet!
It’s like that. But instead of asking “what username do you want?”
They ask
“How’s your sex life? Does your dick work? Any trauma?”
And THEN the developers awkwardly call your ex who you haven’t talked to in 10 years, just to check if you’re domestically abusive.
And by the end you go “Fuck… Midnight Suns better be worth it.” >

Choose Difficulty Level: "Meh; I hate noob levels; let's jump right to 'Challenging'..."
Like buying a room full of IKEA furniture, throwing away all the manuals, and opening all of he boxes from all the boxes at the same time...
Don't get me wrong; Those who adopt are amazing, and deserve our praise (I was adopted), but boy in even the best of scenarios there are significant challenges. "EMOTIONAL DAMAGE!!!" >

now i'm imagining a sort of institution where the only thing they do is play games tutroials and then whenever somone skips one they send the svaestate with the skipped tutorial to them >

My first child was a five year process from deciding to adopt to the moment he came to live with us, then another year until we finally adopted. My second child happened in the course of a few seconds with my son’s friend at school being placed into foster care but no suitable homes so we decided to take her in since our license was still active until she could get a long term placement. Two years later parental rights were terminated and we finalized her adoption. Sometimes good things take time, other times life comes at you fast! >

Adoption is such a caring thing to do for a kid. And how sweet of you to take in your boy's friend too!
We need more people to be like you.