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But you could use handsome, or attractive, or good looking. Having some self confidence is good for you!
"Btw if anyone cares, I got pictures of me in my profile" Are you serious? hahahaha >

Yup not the best line🤣 >

Heyyyy do we have the same name? Yael / Yaelle. >

That's some pretty transparent compliment fishing you're up to ma'am. >

How can you compliment fish with nothing to show for compliments, it’s not like they attached photos >

It's in their profile, as specified in the post >

If anyone cares, I got pictures of me in my profile 🤣🤣 >

Yup that line probably brought the pot to boil over lmao. Anyways always fun occasionally discussing something a bit more controversial >

Checked your pics.  Are you transitioning? >

Yup >

Well either way, I don’t think you’re pretty 
Glad you do tho!  Lol >

Brutal >

I think it’s absolutely fine to like your appearance and to feel pretty. In fact, it is probably healthier to love yourself than to feel otherwise. But usually you don’t need to say it out loud to anyone. If others find you pretty, they will describe you as such or quietly notice your prettiness. Having to proclaim yourself as pretty to others can have a negative effect, and attraction is definitely subjective. >

You think you’re pretty. >

Thanks for making me notice, I should’ve said that differently. What I meant was obviously “I know that I’m pretty” >

You think you’re pretty. >

That is correct. I also know it >

You can't know it, because it's not a fact. You think you are, someone else may think you're not, I'm glad you've got self confidence, but dont confuse your opinion with fact >

I agree it is not a fact. Since there is no subjective attractiveness or anything the only “fact” is I know that from my objective point of view perceive myself as pretty. Others may or will have a variety of other opinions/views on it. I do have to say neither of my statings were very well formed. Knowing I’m pretty isn’t the best way of saying it neither is thinking, since it says that there would be a correct answer. I guess it’s all a matter of how someone perceives it >

There's no such thing as an objective point of view. Also there is definitely subjective attractiveness. >

Yup I switched up objective and subjective. Not a native speaker xD >

Psh! 
Build the wall!!! >

Whatever that means >

“I got pictures of myself on my profile” 😂
Look Confidence is definitely a good thing but it seems like you’re trying to seek a bit of validation out of this post. >

Yeah that line didn’t make appear so well after all xD. Just kinda thought if I read a post like this I’d be curious to see how the person looks, so I included it >

Before all of this you made the decision to post selfies. Why? Who the fuck cares what you look like? Brainwashed generation... >

Sadly for some reason some people care, anyways I basically only make selfies to document my transition xD >

Suuuuure, for the whole world to see, just to document your transition... >

I just don’t understand why some people have need to constantly verbalize praise for themselves.  If you know you’re pretty then what’s the point in saying it? >

Positive affirmations are very beneficial for self esteem and mental health. It never hurts. >

Why not just say it internally then? >

What you say out loud is believed by your subconscious mind >

What i say inside is believed by my subconscious. >

Same reason lots of people hype themselves up by saying things out loud, it helps them more than just saying it in their head. >

Even then there is no good reason to have to say it in front of others >

We're unfortunately getting to a point where we see no distinction, as far as aesthetics go, between self-esteem and narcissism. It's really over the top.
But there's really no vanity in looking in the mirror and being able to conclude, the same way you could with some who is not yourself, whether the person you see is attractive or not. That's not the same as being overly into oneself. >

That sums it up very well >

Who's picture are you using in your profile picture, then? >

Mine? >

Thanks for the criticism, mind if I ask how you come to that conclusion? and possibly give me a chance to explain myself xD >

I don't really have a dog in the fight. I just think it's a pretty weird viewpoint. Like, you could be proud of something you worked hard for and pat yourself on the back for that but even then, there is a fine line.
Don't listen to my opinion regarding your profile picture. My opinion should, and likely does, mean very little to you. And mainly based on a mild dislike to the idea. >

Yeah I agree with that >

There's nothing wrong with being confident, but if you're being pretentious about being attractive, you're probably an annoying person to be around. >

Well I wouldn’t say myself I’m pretentious but I’m probably the wrong person to really determine that xD >

I'm going to go ahead and make my assumptions >

Your very welcome to >

I’ll leave the looks alone. But your grammar needs some help >

I know it definitely does, but I’m not a native speaker and still in Highschool >

The fact that you also pointed out the pictures on your profile is what makes me think you're still insecure. That was a grab for validation. >

Not really, I definitely get why you think that tho, it’s very reasonable to assume that. I just thought people might care how I look posting something about a topic like that (at least I would be curious if someone were to) >

I... feel... pretty....
Oh so pretty... >

Pretty is an opinion. You are “conventionally attractive.” Personally, I think you’re pretty, but those who disagree aren’t wrong either. Almost no one is pretty to everyone >

Yeah that’s absolutely true >

And your opinion about yourself is the only one that matters. Unless you're in a beauty competition where other opinions matter. >

But in society we all agreed to pretend we have the same money and same beauty. >

Aah yeah good old toxic society >

Not toxic, the way we have to do it to get along. >

No I was talking about society in general being socially pretty toxic. Not that specific thing >

I can’t be the only one who thinks this post is perfectly reasonable >

Not the only but there are only a few >

My daughter is a beautiful young woman. She was a classically trained dancer in her youth and as an adult still takes class most days. So her figure is flawless as well. She knows she’s good looking. But she doesn’t describe herself as pretty. Like, when would that come up?  “Hi, I’m Elizabeth and I’m beautiful.” We told her she was beautiful when she was dressed up for a dance, but most of the time we complimented her talents and accomplishments. 
Confidence is good. You should appreciate your strengths. But your accomplishments and character are a lot more important than looks. >

I'm attractive to more people than I'm not attractive to and I know it. But do I walk around fishing for people to agree? No. >

People are bad judges of themselves. If you want to know the truth go on r/roastme.  But you really don't want to know, do you? >

There is no factual answer to if someone is pretty. So what you probably mean is if I care for the opinion of that community about my looks. I don’t because I don’t look the way I look to impressive others but rather to be satisfied myself. Anyways that still sounds like a fun experiment, might try it >

It's absolutely infuriating to me how others always want to insist that how someone presents themselves, is for them. 
Stay true to you. It's refreshingly healthy. Self positivity. ❤️ >

So loud as it isn't a defining characteristic of your personality (the fact that you know you're pretty), should be alright. It doesn't make someone inherently better than another, and so if that doesn't go to your head it's all good. Just don't go telling people too much about it haha everyone loves to dump on those they deem arrogant. >

The word pretty is doing a lot of heavy lifting in your post >

Feel free to replace it with idk appealing/attractive I basically use it equivalently >

Well you shouldn't cause you're neither of those adjectives >

Gotta correct you hope you don’t mind. *I’m neither of those from your perceiving. That’s totally fine. And yes I also said it the wrong way in some of my comments and the post, feel free to criticise that, if your searching for some input >

When I was a pre teen one direction was really popular and especially the song 'beautiful'. 
For anyone not familiar with the lyrics, they sing: " you don't know you're beautiful, that's what makes you beautiful" over and over again 
As an impressionable girl who was just trying to find out who she was, how to be a person and how to be a likeable person, that really f*cked me up.
Obviously there is no need to randomly proclaim to everyone that you are oo so pretty and obviously no one should think they are better than anyone else just because of their looks.
But there is this weird norm that it's best not acknowledged positive things about yourself, any positive things but especially looks.
It really sucks to think you're a bad and arrogant person and not beautiful on the inside because you acknowledge the fact that you look good so that must mean you're arrogant and bad
It really sucks to think you're ugly.
It is just really unhealthy to feel the need to convince yourself that you have to see yourself als ugly because that's the only way to be considered beautiful on the inside.
But I 100% agree with this opinion 
Everyone, please compliment yourself and feel free to let people know that you know you are beautiful. >

Yeah your comment definitely sums that pretty well. Ty! >

Girl, you look like a 4 year old boy with those untamed curles. Maybe practice a little bit of humility >

I’m fine, but still thanks for the advice! >

No, you're not fine, quite the opposite. >

I didn’t ask for your opinion on my looks. Anyways I like the way I look  feel free to criticise me as you wish but I like myself this way >

"BTW if anyone cares I have pictures on my
Profile" 
No reason to tell anyone you're pretty if you're actually okay with yourself lol people would say it to you enough you wouldn't need to convince yourself. 
Not even trying to be mean you obviously haven't figured out what most people have figured out about functioning in the real world, so maybe just shut up with the pretty talk if you want people to be around you.
Also you have a duty to not be a walking stereo type as a Trans person. Being completely divorced from reality and social norms (acting narcissistic) isn't doing the old movement any favors
If you don't want to hear harsh truths I wouldn't literally invite them by posting cringe shit on reddit. just live your life, girlie >

Calling yourself pretty is petty, man! >

I agree, the only time it is problematic is when they put themselves over others. >

beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. 
also you’re 15, I’d be cautious of posting photos of myself let alone personal information on the internet (especially reddit of all places). you’re bound to attract the wrong kind of attention.
be careful. >

I like how this turned into a roasty toasty comment section >

Kinda tiring answering all the comments but in the end  sadly barely anyone actually said anything what this post is meant to be about xD >

Confidence is not being self centered and anyone who tries to tell you it is, is just trying to break you down.
You are the main character of your story. Of course you're allowed to think you're pretty. >

Nah you're wrong. There's everything wrong with being vain. It's not like this post is a cheap grab at fake internet points or anything, right? >

She didn't say she was vain. She said she acknowledged her face is pretty. There is an objective reality to these things. >

Man here : now way in hell I'm using the term pretty to describe myself