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Only us the Danes are allowed to pick on Sweden, if anyone els picks on Sweden then they must be prepared for some "Bøllebank"
Hint: July is after the elections in Turkey.
A good guess to think things might change by July.
I believe Finland already suggested last week to let the talks pause for a while. >

I'm a Finn and I think this is definitely a wise choice. Personally I have no faith in Erdogan saying something else today or tomorrow anyway so it's better to just wait for his tantrum to end and join with our neighbors to the west. >

Is there any benefit for anyone from Finland not joining first?
Attacking Sweden without going through Finland isn't impossible, but it's a lot harder than the other way around. I could see why Finland may want Sweden to wait, but no reason why Sweden wouldn't tell Finland to go first. >

The real beneficiary is Finno-Swedish relations, as well as NATO as a whole. Going ahead on your own, as well as this whole game of division played by Erdogan, is antithetical to a defensive pact. >

I totally understand why Finland wouldn't say "sorry Sweden, I'm joining".
What I don't understand is why Sweden doesn't say "you go ahead, it's better for us both". >

Sweden obviously has no say over what Finland, a sovereign country decides to do. However I think most of us Swedes would be understanding if Finland decided to join on their own. They are in a more exposed position than Sweden geographically, and it would increase safety for Sweden as well by nearly surrounding us with NATO countries. However most are probably grateful that Finland will join together with Sweden when/if the time comes, as was always the plan.
We have a saying in Sweden going back to the WW2 days, which translates to "The Finnish cause is ours". Erdogan is trying to cause a divide among the Nordic countries to strengthen his bargaining power, but he's underestimating how close the countries are and how much we view each other as brothers and sisters (yes, even you Danes). Besides, even if Finland tried to join NATO on their own, it's very likely Erdogan would come up with some other nonsense reason for why they can't join since the core issue isn't really about Finland and Sweden in the first place. >

Are you sure about the Danes? It’s okay, this is a safe space.