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Meaningless sex is basically using another person to masturbate so dealing with the random person in ur bed w the post nut clarity is definitely less desirable to just letting one out.
But put love into the equation and that’s undeniably a better experience.
Well I guess you’re in the right subreddit at least >

Right website tbh >

I mean is it a fair judgement when most redditors have not experienced both? >

Was in my first relationship 5 years. Never came. Never. The energy was not there and he did not care. Just terrible, looking back. 
After some time being single, having different sexual encounters and finallly - right now being in an incredibly passionate and love filled relationship, I can finally orgasm during sex. I hope you will find a good partner, who will care about your pleasure, wish you all the best) >

Thank you, I hope so, too 💓 >

I would agree that there are aspects of masturbation that are better than sex...
You know just how hard to press or squeeze and how fast to go and when to stop.
But you cannot replicate the passion of sex with another person by yourself. Nor can you just lay there and enjoy masturbation as you do need to work for it.
As far as working for my partner, this is part of what gets me off. I love going down on my wife. >

Maybe masturbating is very different for men and women; I've never had to work for an orgasim by myself. I've had to work for it with every man I've ever been with though, and even then most of the time I was left unsatisfied. >

Did you suspect that any of the men who went down on you actually enjoyed it? Or were they just doing it to please you?
This can sometimes make the difference for how it feels for the receiver. >

You’re doing sex wrong. >

As a woman I agree that masturbation is often more physically satisfying than sex given all of the hoops that I have to jump through and obstacles to avoid with men (sexual impasse, not feeling safe, not being interested or attracted to them/male physique doesn't arouse me the way I think my body is porn for them, the technical stuff, their unwillingness to give sometimes). 
When I masturbate I can just pleasure myself exactly as I want, no anxiety, no stress, no needing to be spectacle for a male ego, no pressure to perform, no risk of sti's, no lock jaw, no fear of him pulling my hair after I've said no. I just get to have fun. 
That said, if the goal is just pure pleasure, 9/10 I can do it better myself, but that 1/10 time where he knows what he's doing, I feel safe, and I know I can just receive is the absolute best and doesn't even come close to masturbating. Then there's the whole, intimacy bit which is nice. But if it comes down to just a measure of satisfaction masturbation def wins in stress free pleasure. >

What a wanker >

Most of the fun of sex imo is getting your partner off and learning each other’s bodies. if you’re thinking “i need to work my ass off to get (partner) off” then sounds like there’s some other issues >

Or you're just having bad sex and refuse to communicate to your partner what makes you feel good >

I communicate. It's hard to get men to stop mimicking what they've seen in porn and actually please you, though. >

You apparently dont chose them right. >

Evidently not. I've only had a few partners but, then again, if I'd had more and had that opportunity to explore more I'd just be a whore, wouldn't I? >

Not to me but i get your point. 
However you only need one to explore quite a few things so i really believe that your method of selection is lacking. 
And you already replied to me explaining a little about your ex. Respectfully it only seems to confirm my theory. >

I'm thankful for your politeness (if its not sarcasm) at least. I wish men and women would be more open and honest with one another about sex but, as we know, it's more complicated than that. >

I.. its not my experience in relationships. But im more selective than most.
But you deserve to find what im talking about. You cant let yourself be stopped by this difficulty, sex is a necessity not à desire. Its really important. 
And if you cant talk about everything in love well you can do better in terms of relationships. You shouldnt forget that. >

One of the rare times I'm able to empty my entire load and squirt cum 3 or more feet away is after 30 or more minutes of edging and most of my partners either get cramps in their hands, mouth or have had enough orgasms by the time it takes for me to enjoy the explosive feeling I get when I'm alone with my "J. I. L. L" >

I get super turned on when my partner is turned on and feeling good. If they’re not interested, I’m not interested either. But yes I agree that sometimes masturbation is better than sex, it all just depends on my mood. But when sex is better than masturbation, it’s because of the validation and connection with the other person, not because of the physical feeling. >

“Pure corn syrup is better than a chef-made dessert because it’s sweeter” >

"The reason I have no bitches is because I don't want bitches" >

If i werent so lazy, i'd do it more than once a day >

my ex never managed to make me feel good egnought when she was leading >

Posted in the right sub lmao >

I will say this and this one thing only: masturbation is never hit and miss. >

I’m sorry that you’ve had so many bad sexual partners, but excluding that,
For most/many people, sex involves a galaxy of pleasures and benefits that aren’t strictly limited to orgasmic efficiency.
Emotional connection and intimacy and other things.
People aren’t fleshlights and dildos.
Upvote for the right sub! >

Trust me, you find that special someone and have a connection and sex becomes orgasmic (literally). I love more partner with all my heart, she is the single most perfect woman in this whole world to me. She the sweetest, kindest person and I only want to make her happy. Honestly I enjoyed rough sex before her but since being with her it’s been purely connected sex. There is so much feeling, we make eye contact and we tell each other we love each other. I never struggled to make a woman orgasm before her (not bragging, I was just good at hitting the right spot, tempo and most importantly I actually asked what feels good and listened to them). With her it’s on another level, she can orgasm again and again and again before finally finishing. Believe me, you cannot replace that kind of sex with masturbation. It’s quite literally making love, the feeling of connection and closeness with your partner is honestly better than the orgasm itself. I can’t lie I get a bit jealous of her ability to cum so many times, the second I do all the energy leaves me along with it lol. >

Hard disagree >

one is like making a nice dinner and sharing it, the other is like eating junk food over the sink by yourself. sure the nice dinner is more work, but it hits different than the other. both have their place. >

You ever had passionate sex with someone who loves you ? Did you evet make love is my question i guess ? 
Cause this looks like you only know very impersonal sex. >

I have; with a man I was in madly in love with and hoping to grow old and die with. Until he cheated on  me. We made love, and more often than not he'd still roll over and go to sleep before I was finished. A struggle a lot of women are familiar with, but many men remain ignorant to. >

Ignorant to because the couple usually don't communicate well enough. If your partner doesn't care, well... not really your partner, now are they? >

I don't know how many times I have to say "I like this, and don't like that" before it's considered communication. Many women do communicate. We're just ignored, or little effort is put in to actually follow through.
I'm afraid aggressively hammering into me just doesn't cut it. But more than that's too much work, isn't it? >

I guess your partner selection is pretty bad then. Because most guys do care about pleasing their partner, that's at least my experience  and of the people that I know. >

OP never tried even mediocre sex >

I’m going to go out on a limb and guess that you are a woman >

Yeah... masturbation as a woman is way better than sex with a partner if we are talking purely physical. >

If you find a good sexpartner, there's honestly nothing better. It's better than food, a warm shower, breathing, laughing etc.
It saddens me you haven't got to experience it yet. But the first 10 years of my active sex life was with crappy guys, today I can finally enjoy it. Don't lose hope! But yes masturbation is better than bad sex for sure. >

Considering STDs and unwanted pregnancies, it's not a shabby choice. >

More satisfying than having sex with another person—maybe. 
More satisfying than making love with someone you have a deep, intimate connection with—fuck no. 
And I know that might sound cheesy as fuck. But once you have sex with someone you truly love, no amount of masturbation or porn can ever replace that. >

Nothing beats getting pounded by someone you love >

I think purely technique it is probably better if you know yourself well enough and also like yourself. But simply the fact that you don’t know what exactly your partner will do, like when you touch yourself your brain exactly knows what it will receive but from your partner it ads that subconscious level of excitement and surprise. Also when you and your partner rly have feelings for each other that ads a lot to even tho just psychologically >

I'd rather have a submissive gimp bottom than my own hand all.the time🙄 >

u wylin >

U ok bro? >

I'm a sis, but nah, not doing so good. >

reddit moment >

I'm sorry >


Nobody goes into sex thinking "I need to work my ass off to make sure he/she gets off"

Uuuhh... yeah, plenty of us do. That's how you have good sex. >

Tell me you're a virgin without telling me you're a virgin.
I go through dry spells from time to time, im no sex goes and it doesn't mean that much to me. I haven't had a girl for a while and have near perfected masturbation. Orgasms from sex are just better, it's a fact. The best orgasm from masturbation won't touch the beat orgasm from intercourse. >

Couldn't agree more! >

just keep telling on yourself bud >

Depends what brings you pleasure I guess. If your whole view of sex is just to coom then of course masturbating will be superior.
Personally I get an ego stroke and sense of pleasure from pleasuring my partner, which you obviously don't get with the old solo stroke. >

Top tier reddit moment >


Nobody goes into sex thinking "I need to work my ass off to make sure he/she gets off" and if you do - you prove my point.

Explain this. 
It seems like you posted this as a cop out to point to when people bring up the obvious normalcy of mutual gratification when it comes to sex, when it doesn't actually prove anything. >

I mean my ex expecting me to vigorously ride his face and cock, changing positions, all while "acting sexy" and talking dirty so he can get off when I've just finished a long, exhausting shift and just want to be left alone. >

That didn't really explain that sentence. 
That sounds like a communication issue, tbh. And it sounds like he was an ex for a reason. >

I mean, I got to the point in the relationship we're sex was a chore. I had to work my ass off, doing everything that he wanted/had come accustomed to, even when I didn't want to. It brought me no pleasure. I'd rather just hump my pillow and get off several times within minutes. >

That's your personal experience in a bad relationship. 
And it still does not explain your generalization. >

Because it wasn't just one relationship. It was all of them. I've never been in a relationship were sex wasn't a chore (after the honeymoon period).
Maybe you're different, good for you, I wish you and your partner all the best.
My position stands. >

Sounds like there is one common element in your experiences...you. I enjoy self stimulation but I can only do that so many times a day. With the right partner I could double or triple that. It's about finding the right partner and accepting personal responsibility for your performance. If quarterly reports suck then move on. >

Sex isn’t only about speed and pressure etc. To me it’s about connection, love, passion and physical touch as well. Masturbation can’t beat that.
But I do realize most one night stands won’t give you that connection.