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Not everyone likes confrontations. It's always better to deescalate a situation than make it worse.
If you’re always having to be the bigger person, stop surrounded yourself with small people. >

Also if everyone you meet in life is an asshole, it might be time to take a look in the mirror. >

100% agree. >

99% of the time you don't need to 'win' or 'show them' unless it's to stroke your own ego. >

Which is something that people who have a good hold on their life don't generally need to do. 
Whenever someone freaks out at someone else you just know it's because they have some shit going on in their life that's making them easy to trigger. >

Personally, I like my integrity. I don’t think I would feel good about myself acting like I have self-control and good judgment in one situation if I knew that just recently I’d beat someone’s face in or let myself sink to a lower level to teach them a lesson. >

Also you should probably try to understand why he doesn't kill >

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Bigger man is bull but a smarter man would never lower themselves unnecessarily. Sometimes you don’t have a choice but to defend yourself but if you have an option to walk away you definitely should.  Run by the rule of. “Is this person worth going to prison for?” >

Perfect example is escalating a fight and accidently killing the person and ending up in jail. The smart move is to walk away. >

Not entirely true. If two people got in a fight and one died it doesn't mean the other person would go to jail/prison. >

No but if someone’s being brash and you escalate, hit him and he falls and hits his head you very well could do. To avoid the situation completely all you had to do was walk away. >

Eh that depends on the situation. A good chance doesn't mean it won't happen or will. Someone is being brash and attacking you will you not react because you are worried about potentially getting arrested or them dying? >

Come on man, been plenty of times I could have escalated someone being rude to me into a fight but you just walk away. Not the same as someone actually going to attack you. >

eh my argument is that you can get in a fight but won't always get in trouble for it. It is better overall to walk away and sometime you cant walk away >

and this tells me you don't have a concept of how legally it works, for reference look up Reckless Conduct. >

Again getting in a fight doesn’t always mean legal consequences. This applies toReckless conduct as well >

There are definitely some unreasonable people, and those who have no interest in finding common ground or compromising. But if you can be the bigger man it might serve as an example. >

I use to try be a bigger man but I think it's a naive concept. >

Then you're just resigning yourself to be a vengeful ass >

Just because sometimes you have to fight doesn't mean the whole concept is overrated. >

I think you will come to see that agreeableness (aka being the bigger man) tends to lead to better results long term, even though sometimes it may sting. 
Also, an eye for an eye approach, or  trying to teach someone rarely goes down well from my experience >

Agreeableness does not lead to better results in long term and instead turns you into a weak turd who anyone think can mess with. An eye for an eye atleast teaches others, forgiving doesn't unless they are extremely mature which most people are not, they need to be made clear what the boundaries are >

A bigger man is able to negotiate his way through problems vs. behaving like a cock >

Be the smarter man, rather than the bigger man.
Every situation is different. Retaliation doesn’t always have to be physical and those who think that swinging their fists will solve everything are perpetual idiots. Sometimes raising your hand will cause more trouble to you than the idiot you were trying to beat up.
There are better ways to cause pain without physical altercations. >

It really depends on the issue itself, some people will waste years of their life and thousands of dollars fighting over something that would have cost them zero if they had just ignored it in the first place. These people are always the losers in the end, regardless of whether they win their pointless little victory or not.
Being the bigger man doesn't necessarily mean letting the other guy win, it's about not giving enough of a fuck to see it as a contest in the first place. >

Being the bigger man doesn't necessarily mean letting the other guy win, it's about not giving enough of a fuck to see it as a contest in the first place.
This. Life gets a lot easier when you accept there is a certain % of the population that are destined to crow about winning things that aren't even competitions. So there's no point in trying to eschew being the bigger man to "get even" with them or "teach them a lesson." Some people aren't worth your energy. >

I like to visualize it as a chihuahua growling and barking at a Bull Mastiff, then strutting around as if he won a fight when in reality the thought that he was in a fight never even crossed the Mastiffs mind. >

As a kid? Maybe. As an adult? Hard no. >

There are lots of unreasonable adults. >

Yeah but those people have money and with money comes a greater chance of seeing guns. >

Only if you love somewhere bereft of civilization like murica. Rest of the world doesn't have that batshit insane issue >

Rest of the world doesn't have violence!👍 >

I shared your opinion for my whole life. I lost my father and became a resentful person, full of hate and insecurity. It made me become someone who was always willing to pay back in the most aggressive way. Nowadays, after losing many people who were trying to reach out to me and helping me, I ended up alone and had to pick myself up. If you make an effort to be the bigger man, not for moral reasons but for peace sake, you will find yourself becoming a happier and healthier person everyday. Best advice I can possibly give to someone who thinks the way you do >

Machiavelli had a saying "Treat your enemy with kindness or destroy him completely. For small injuries he will seek vengeance but for large injuries he cannot". >

It’s true that sometimes you have to let your monster out but that doesn’t mean there aren’t dozens of instances on a daily basis where being the bigger person pays off >

An eye for an eye and the whole world goes blind... >

Never forgive. Never. >

Sometimes, you take the low road >

Being the bigger person usually means that someone is expecting you to ignore poor words and treatment and act like you weren't insulted or harmed.
Fuck that. >

This isn't actually that unpopular, most people are happy to be vindictive or cruel when they think they've earned the right >

People saying stooping to the bad guy's level doesn't make you any better than them, I say it doesn't make you any worse either. >

Glass half full kind guy >

Ive found its sometimes not worth it to be the bigger man >

Honestly being nice has caused me more headaches than anything. I typically dont care I just really font like dealing with extracrap. Its not fear of conflict,I just only have so much patience for people. >

Sure thing tough guy. >

The whole opinion gives off r/iamverybadass vibes. >

"In an eye for an eye world, everyone would be blind" - Someone >

You are just giving them a taste of their own medicine and sometimes that is needed for them to realize they are wrong. >

A boy once asked his father:
"If we killed all the bad people in the world, wouldn't only good the people be left?"
And his father answered:
"No. Only the murderers would be left." >

Not if one person does the murdering >

Big brain move >

It’s propaganda to make men weaker. He right choice is whatever benefits you the most. >

What’s best for you isn’t always taking material goods. It often is helping your community, your friends and family, etc. >

Forgiveness should always be on your terms and conditions, not those of the person you're forgiving. And you should never feel pressured to offer "blanket" forgiveness.
I've seen a friend forgive two different unfaithful girlfriends with minimal conditions because he wanted to prove what a "big" man he was. Guess what? Both of his girlfriends cheated on him a second time, so I guess they didn't think he was all that big. 
If I were in his shoes, I'd demand unrestricted access to all their social media accounts and phones for at least a year after taking them back (because those were the methods they used to contact the people they were cheating with).
I know that's a very specific situation, but forgiveness should never mean "We should go back to the way things were" because realistically, you can't. >

Thats what I'm saying. People are going to make you a fool. Sometimes you just cannot forgive something that is done. Even if you don't seek revenge you have to cut off them. >

I fully agree sometimes revenge can be liberating >

Doing several bad things does not equal a right. You gotta end the cycle of shit by standing up and doing what's right sometimes. Doing nothing makes you apart of the problem. Source: batman >

Ah yes batman the "hero" who by letting villains live causes innocents to die. In his case specifically he should crack some necks and call it even with the universe imo >

No said he was perfect >

Whoa, cool your jets, there, Frank Castle. >

I forsee a trip to either the hospital or jail at some point in the future. >

I don't think you've ever watched a movie or met other people >

No you don’t, you’re just rationalizing your own psychopathic narcissism. >

Reddit psychologists back at it >

I disagree, but can't be bothered going into specifics as OP obviously must be still in school. >

Refer to my first post... >

Not always the right thing to do but it definitely has a time and place. Shouldn't be an unpopular opinion but some people see themselves as saints when they've definitely wronged others even unwillingly >

The reason good people try and keep their whole community away from this logic is basically the a combination of 'If you want revenge, dig two Graves' and 'An eye for eye makes the whole world blind'. It's not about turning the cheek or never standing up for yourself, but there are certain lines that, when crossed, need to be dealt with by the community in an organized matter as opposed to street justice that leads to makavelian like wars between families or groups. >

The main point to me is that you don’t “be the bigger man” for them or what you can get from it. Sure, it won’t always silence your enemies or cause you to emerge victorious for all the world to see, but it does make you stronger and better as a person. 
And being the bigger man may require forgiveness, but it does not require giving in where giving in is the wrong choice. There’s a large gap between standing your ground and going out for blood. >

It depends on the situation. Sometimes being the bigger man is the necessary solution just for your own sanity. On the other hand, it can be It you tolerating bullshit. It just depends. >

Self defence or defending others is ok. Fighting is just repressed rage, find healthier ways to let out steam. >

I’d argue it’s in your best interest to not go full eye for an eye in most (not all) situations.
Publicly calling own that other persons behavior and forcing them to own it is my preferred strategy. For one, its deeply embarrassing to that person. And also, you don’t engage in whatever behavior they were doing that could get you fired. Be illegal, unsafe, etc.
You are protected and they are deeply embarrassed and forced to think about their actions.
Again, not every situation is suitable for this approach. >

depends on the situation really >

The Logic of a Nice guy. >

Idk, I agree in that not everyone situation can simply be walked away from, but a lot can. I think there’s a lot that can be said about being able to just walk away. You don’t have to always have the last word, or “win”. Most times it just isn’t worth it. Also, if you let someone get the better of you and you escalate a situation, now you’re both assholes >

True and based, shitheads in thread saying "but that's MEAN" Because they're doormats >

Be a rational man. When overcome with problematic person, be a bigger man by conducting youself in a rational manner ie the action you think you would’ve done if you are not the one affected by it. The thing is, most people today use it to justify not doing shit which is just passivity to be honest.
Retribution is an important aspect of life. Vengefulness AND agreeability is needed in moderation to ensure that you are not being pushed around so easily. >

Being the bigger man doesn’t mean being a doormat that just gets disrespected left and right. It means not letting every little thing provoke you and throw you off. 
Weird example, but think about Thanos in the infinity war saga. All kinds of furious people would come at him in righteous anger, and he’d be unfazed.
Not to say you should be evil like him, but being a bigger man looks something like this:
someone calls you an insult.
You respond “You know, it sounds like you’re trying to put me down, is that what you wanted?”
Whether they respond “No I didn’t mean it like that” or “Yeah bitch I don’t care”
You just respond “Alright.” And nothing else. Conversation over, go back to what you’re doing.
This deflates all of the power and gravity from their insults (or it can clear up the fact that they never meant to insult you in the first place) since you’ve demonstrated that 

You’ve sought clarification and know exactly what they’re up to
You are not fazed by negativity and don’t need people to view you in a positive way. >

Being the “bigger man” is realizing there is no winning in that situation.  Forgiveness is for yourself, not the other person.  You free yourself from them. It’s an extraordinary feeling.
The “eye for an eye” approach just keeps you engaged in a power struggle and it’s a lose lose situation as they will not learn from the lesson you think you’re trying to teach.  
Speaking from experience having tried both and ultimately had to be “the bigger man” >

The bigger man always wins. Everything else is ego
Graveyards are filled with people who were “technically correct” >

Situational. I agree that you don't want to be Jesus all the time in your life though. There will definitely be moments where you have to fight.