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People saying stooping to the bad guy's level doesn't make you any better than them, I say it doesn't make you any worse either.
If you’re always having to be the bigger person, stop surrounded yourself with small people. >

Also if everyone you meet in life is an asshole, it might be time to take a look in the mirror. >

100% agree. >

99% of the time you don't need to 'win' or 'show them' unless it's to stroke your own ego. >

Which is something that people who have a good hold on their life don't generally need to do. 
Whenever someone freaks out at someone else you just know it's because they have some shit going on in their life that's making them easy to trigger. >

Personally, I like my integrity. I don’t think I would feel good about myself acting like I have self-control and good judgment in one situation if I knew that just recently I’d beat someone’s face in or let myself sink to a lower level to teach them a lesson. >

Also you should probably try to understand why he doesn't kill >

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Bigger man is bull but a smarter man would never lower themselves unnecessarily. Sometimes you don’t have a choice but to defend yourself but if you have an option to walk away you definitely should.  Run by the rule of. “Is this person worth going to prison for?” >

Perfect example is escalating a fight and accidently killing the person and ending up in jail. The smart move is to walk away. >

Not entirely true. If two people got in a fight and one died it doesn't mean the other person would go to jail/prison. >

No but if someone’s being brash and you escalate, hit him and he falls and hits his head you very well could do. To avoid the situation completely all you had to do was walk away. >

Eh that depends on the situation. A good chance doesn't mean it won't happen or will. Someone is being brash and attacking you will you not react because you are worried about potentially getting arrested or them dying? >

Come on man, been plenty of times I could have escalated someone being rude to me into a fight but you just walk away. Not the same as someone actually going to attack you. >

eh my argument is that you can get in a fight but won't always get in trouble for it. It is better overall to walk away and sometime you cant walk away >

and this tells me you don't have a concept of how legally it works, for reference look up Reckless Conduct. >

Again getting in a fight doesn’t always mean legal consequences. This applies toReckless conduct as well >

There are definitely some unreasonable people, and those who have no interest in finding common ground or compromising. But if you can be the bigger man it might serve as an example. >

I use to try be a bigger man but I think it's a naive concept. >

Then you're just resigning yourself to be a vengeful ass >

Just because sometimes you have to fight doesn't mean the whole concept is overrated. >

I think you will come to see that agreeableness (aka being the bigger man) tends to lead to better results long term, even though sometimes it may sting. 
Also, an eye for an eye approach, or  trying to teach someone rarely goes down well from my experience >

Agreeableness does not lead to better results in long term and instead turns you into a weak turd who anyone think can mess with. An eye for an eye atleast teaches others, forgiving doesn't unless they are extremely mature which most people are not, they need to be made clear what the boundaries are >

A bigger man is able to negotiate his way through problems vs. behaving like a cock >

Be the smarter man, rather than the bigger man.
Every situation is different. Retaliation doesn’t always have to be physical and those who think that swinging their fists will solve everything are perpetual idiots. Sometimes raising your hand will cause more trouble to you than the idiot you were trying to beat up.
There are better ways to cause pain without physical altercations. >

It really depends on the issue itself, some people will waste years of their life and thousands of dollars fighting over something that would have cost them zero if they had just ignored it in the first place. These people are always the losers in the end, regardless of whether they win their pointless little victory or not.
Being the bigger man doesn't necessarily mean letting the other guy win, it's about not giving enough of a fuck to see it as a contest in the first place. >

Being the bigger man doesn't necessarily mean letting the other guy win, it's about not giving enough of a fuck to see it as a contest in the first place.
This. Life gets a lot easier when you accept there is a certain % of the population that are destined to crow about winning things that aren't even competitions. So there's no point in trying to eschew being the bigger man to "get even" with them or "teach them a lesson." Some people aren't worth your energy. >

I like to visualize it as a chihuahua growling and barking at a Bull Mastiff, then strutting around as if he won a fight when in reality the thought that he was in a fight never even crossed the Mastiffs mind. >

As a kid? Maybe. As an adult? Hard no. >

There are lots of unreasonable adults. >

Yeah but those people have money and with money comes a greater chance of seeing guns. >

Only if you love somewhere bereft of civilization like murica. Rest of the world doesn't have that batshit insane issue >

Rest of the world doesn't have violence!👍 >

I shared your opinion for my whole life. I lost my father and became a resentful person, full of hate and insecurity. It made me become someone who was always willing to pay back in the most aggressive way. Nowadays, after losing many people who were trying to reach out to me and helping me, I ended up alone and had to pick myself up. If you make an effort to be the bigger man, not for moral reasons but for peace sake, you will find yourself becoming a happier and healthier person everyday. Best advice I can possibly give to someone who thinks the way you do >

Machiavelli had a saying "Treat your enemy with kindness or destroy him completely. For small injuries he will seek vengeance but for large injuries he cannot". >

It’s true that sometimes you have to let your monster out but that doesn’t mean there aren’t dozens of instances on a daily basis where being the bigger person pays off >

An eye for an eye and the whole world goes blind... >

Never forgive. Never. >

Sometimes, you take the low road >

Being the bigger person usually means that someone is expecting you to ignore poor words and treatment and act like you weren't insulted or harmed.
Fuck that. >

This isn't actually that unpopular, most people are happy to be vindictive or cruel when they think they've earned the right