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Only if they don't know they are being lied to. I feel like this is a crucial point to add to your statement >

When you invite someone and they say "I would love to but I can't" you know that thay're lying but it's better then them saying "no i don't want to" >

Personally I disagree. They might decline because they have a problem with me (and I'm not OK with friends being uncomfortable around me so I need that communicated) or they decline because of reasons unrelated to me (don't feel like, have other plans, etc) inwhich case it's no big deal. That way I know when they do visit or are spending time with me it's purely because they enjoy it. Includes everyone, not just friends. I don't have time to waste on being with ppl I'm not interested in nor should they waste theirs on me if I don't enrich their experience >

That's a rather cynical view, but it's true that sometimes a little white lie can make people feel more secure. We just need to remember that honesty is the best policy and be careful not to get too caught up in the lies we tell ourselves. >

This has been the operating model for religions for all of recorded human history; and probably long before that. >

It's more about enjoying being kept safe than enjoying being lied to, but what do I know.