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except judith butler literally is advocating tearing them apart, she doesn't think "woman" exists in any meaningful sense.
Is anyone saying that social constructs are wrong per se?
Democracy is a social construct.
Marriage is a social construct.
Justice is a social construct.
Absolutely no one is saying that social constructs are bad. The point is - social constructs is something we can CHANGE (to improve). It's not something set in stone. >

Exactly, as OP states social constructs are just groups or terms we use to help us understand the world. Doing so isn't inherently bad and is actually very useful if not necessary. I think what OP is confusing here is that, with many social constructs, they do have a history that is not good. Take race for example, a social construct with an almost exclusively bad history and purpose. Now, acknowledging that fact isn't saying that we should never use any words or groupings around people's backgrounds or that all social constructs are bad, it just means that we should work to both acknowledge the history and work to fix/replace the bad parts where necessary. >

I agree that the way we treated social constructs has been problematic in the past. My point is that it doesn't mean we should tear them apart. Instead, we can embrace differences without discriminating against anyone.
Of course, questioning the system is always a good thing. I definitely do. >

It's not about tearing them apart, it's just about ensuring that we don't trap ourselves within them.  
There's a lot of posts like this on CMV, where everyone sort of just... wonders where some supposed opposition is coming from, because no one's noticing any but the OP.