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Not to me but i get your point. 
However you only need one to explore quite a few things so i really believe that your method of selection is lacking. 
And you already replied to me explaining a little about your ex. Respectfully it only seems to confirm my theory.
Well I guess you’re in the right subreddit at least >

Right website tbh >

I mean is it a fair judgement when most redditors have not experienced both? >

Was in my first relationship 5 years. Never came. Never. The energy was not there and he did not care. Just terrible, looking back. 
After some time being single, having different sexual encounters and finallly - right now being in an incredibly passionate and love filled relationship, I can finally orgasm during sex. I hope you will find a good partner, who will care about your pleasure, wish you all the best) >

Thank you, I hope so, too 💓 >

I would agree that there are aspects of masturbation that are better than sex...
You know just how hard to press or squeeze and how fast to go and when to stop.
But you cannot replicate the passion of sex with another person by yourself. Nor can you just lay there and enjoy masturbation as you do need to work for it.
As far as working for my partner, this is part of what gets me off. I love going down on my wife. >

Maybe masturbating is very different for men and women; I've never had to work for an orgasim by myself. I've had to work for it with every man I've ever been with though, and even then most of the time I was left unsatisfied. >

Did you suspect that any of the men who went down on you actually enjoyed it? Or were they just doing it to please you?
This can sometimes make the difference for how it feels for the receiver. >

You’re doing sex wrong. >

As a woman I agree that masturbation is often more physically satisfying than sex given all of the hoops that I have to jump through and obstacles to avoid with men (sexual impasse, not feeling safe, not being interested or attracted to them/male physique doesn't arouse me the way I think my body is porn for them, the technical stuff, their unwillingness to give sometimes). 
When I masturbate I can just pleasure myself exactly as I want, no anxiety, no stress, no needing to be spectacle for a male ego, no pressure to perform, no risk of sti's, no lock jaw, no fear of him pulling my hair after I've said no. I just get to have fun. 
That said, if the goal is just pure pleasure, 9/10 I can do it better myself, but that 1/10 time where he knows what he's doing, I feel safe, and I know I can just receive is the absolute best and doesn't even come close to masturbating. Then there's the whole, intimacy bit which is nice. But if it comes down to just a measure of satisfaction masturbation def wins in stress free pleasure. >

What a wanker >

Most of the fun of sex imo is getting your partner off and learning each other’s bodies. if you’re thinking “i need to work my ass off to get (partner) off” then sounds like there’s some other issues >

Or you're just having bad sex and refuse to communicate to your partner what makes you feel good >

I communicate. It's hard to get men to stop mimicking what they've seen in porn and actually please you, though. >

You apparently dont chose them right. >

Evidently not. I've only had a few partners but, then again, if I'd had more and had that opportunity to explore more I'd just be a whore, wouldn't I?