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Already doing that for my cousin lmfao
What's absurd is spending thousands on that shit. How many of these did you go to and how much did they each cost? >

Depends on the culture really. In my hometown (northern China), depends on the relationship it ranges from few hundreds RMB to upper thousands. Like if my older cousin (male) on my dad side got married, my dad probably would give somewhere around 10-20k as a gift. When his coworker’s daughter got married I think he gave 5k. Though there are no wedding registry and the food is usually pretty good. Guests can take the leftover home if they want to. Also the reception is usually huge since everyone is invited based on both the parents’ and the couples’ relationships (like my dad got invited to his coworker’s daughter’s wedding whom he had only saw a couple of times. I happened to be home so I got to tag along. I have never seen the bride before the wedding lol). >

Rather than pay everyone back i think it should be considered socially acceptable not to turn up to the next wedding or financially support it in any way. >

How about don't go to the first one