EV3 isn't showing up in programming software after pairing on Windows XP Running Windows XP x32.

I've connected, paired, connected, paired, paired, and connected, but I just can't get the EV3 software to recognize my EV3!

I've used this EV3 before on a different PC over bluetooth (and it worked), my drivers aren't screwed up, etc.

When I go to the software and try to connect to it, it doesn't show. I've refreshed about 50 times.

My EV3 Brick is running firmware V1.09H and is a model from Chrismas 2015, shown as Hardware version V0.60 in the settings panel.
The key is to make sure the driver works with MS's bluetooth stack, and doesn't just use it's own stack.

Press Win+R, type bthprops.cpl (or maybe irprops.cpl, it's been a while), hit enter.  Check the Hardware tab to make sure your device actually shows up.  If not, try different drivers/manually installing the driver using the "Have disk" method.  3rd party bluetooth stacks may disable the MS one seeing the device, even if the device/driver supports the MS stack.