Does Song of Solomon encourage pre-marital sex? Someone raised the following argument, claiming that the Bible, in the Song of Solomon,  encourages pornography and premarital sex. He had me read some verses from the book, which I've listed below, and told me these verses are the main reason why the Song of Solomon is hardly ever preached in churches today, because of its explicit contents and descriptions.

&quot;Dear brothers, I'm a walled-in virgin still, but my breasts are full— And when my lover sees me, he knows he'll soon be satisfied&quot; (Song of Solomon 8:10).
&quot;If only you were to me like a brother, who was nursed at my mother's breasts! Then, if I found you outside, I would kiss you, and no one would despise me.  I would lead you and bring you to my mother's house she who has taught me. I would give you spiced wine to drink, the nectar of my pomegranates.  His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me&quot; (Song of Songs 8:1-3).

He claims these two verses show that the woman being spoken of was not married.
Another example:

&quot;Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth-- for your love is more delightful than wine.   Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the maidens love you!  Take me away with you let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers. We rejoice and delight in you; we will praise your love more than wine. How right they are to adore you!&quot; (Song of Songs 1:2-4).

How should a Christian defend himself against this type of argument?  Is there another interpretation of the Song of Solomon which refutes the claim that the Bible is in favor of premarital sex and pornography? If so, what is it? or better still what do these verses really mean?
No, what the heck!

Deuteronomy 22:28-29


  28 ¶If a man find a damsel that is a avirgin, which is not betrothed,
  and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;
  
  29 Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel’s father
  fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath
  humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.


Does that sound to you like "encouraging"?

As to pornography, just look at how David got into a big mess that caused him much trouble with God:

2 Samuel 11:2


  2 ¶And it came to pass in an eveningtide, that David arose from off
  his bed, and walked upon the roof of the king’s house: and from the
  roof he asaw a woman washing herself; and the woman was very beautiful
  to blook upon.


Aaaaaaand, he commits adultery after that, and murder to cover up the adultery. Doesn't sound like encouraging looking at naked women that aren't one's wife (aka pornography). And of course what Jesus taught:

Matthew 5:27-28


  27 ¶Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt
  not commit aadultery:
  
  28 But I say unto you, That whosoever alooketh on a bwoman to clust
  after her hath committed dadultery with her already in his heart.


Of course you can say "oh he's not talking pre-marital here", but I tell you: you are on the wrong path here.

1 Corinthians 6:18


  18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body;
  but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.


Also, Song of Solomon 5:1 (KJV)


  1 I am come into my garden, my asister, my spouse: I have gathered
  my myrrh with my spice; I have eaten my honeycomb with my honey; I
  have drunk my wine with my milk: eat, O friends; drink, yea, drink
  abundantly, O beloved.


The KJV has for 8:10


  10 I am a wall, and my breasts like towers: then was I in his eyes as
  one that found favour.


With the image being not necessarily virginity, as the verses before read:


  8 ¶We have a little sister, and she hath no breasts: what shall we do
  for our sister in the day when she shall be spoken for?
  
  9 If she be a wall, we will build upon her a palace of silver: and if
  she be a door, we will inclose her with boards of cedar.


So, the image used here is buildings, and as we should probably assume the sister in question is a virgin, wall vs. door isn't necessarily about virginity.

As to verses 1 and 2, it is mostly about sucking breasts, I will now give a free translation to explain my understanding:

Verse 1: Oh that you would be like my little brother who sucks my mothers breasts = Suck my breasts. If I should find you without, I would kiss thee and no one would despise me = I want to kiss you, and no one would despise me, because you are my spouse

Verse 2: We go in a house and you suck my breasts.

The issue is really the second part of verse 1, but ask yourself: Does this really imply that they would be despised now for kissing in the open, and that him being like a little brother would change that, or that they would not be despised in the first place. Also, would married people kissing in the open be despised or not? Do you have enough knowledge of customs in these days to judge that? Does your friend have? As for me, I don't see the implication that something despicable is happening here.