Are my feelings altered when I enter the Kingdom of Heaven? 5th Commandment: Honour thy father and thy mother

Hypothetically speaking, say my father has sinned, he doesn't believe in God and won't repent on his deathbed. By all of the standards of Christianity, he is going to go to Hell.

If I live my life according to God's word and make it in to Heaven, what happens to my dad? If I am not happy then it cannot be Heaven right? 

I could NEVER be happy with the knowledge that my father was in agony for all eternity in hell. In fact, I can honestly say that the knowledge would be so horrific that I would consider it a type of hell. Obviously this cannot be the case. 

There are, as I see it, only 3 options:
1) My dad makes it to Heaven with me.
This means there is no need to live a life without sin and be a believer. If he is allowed in Heaven then there is really no motivation/reason to live a pious, sin free life. Moreover, my father would have escaped the "justice" some people believe Hell provides. He may even meet his victim in Heaven which I am sure would not be their idea of Heaven. I think we can all agree, this option is not acceptable.
2) When I reach Heaven, I no longer care about my dad.
This means my mind has been changed without my consent (as I would never consent to this). I consider this losing my free will, this is not an option. If we lost our free will in heaven, what was the point in having it on Earth? (It is often said to be why there is suffering in the world)
3) I am told he is fine/happy (and I believe it).
I'm sure God could tell a convincing lie here but he wouldn't, this isn't an acceptable option in my opinion. It would mean Heaven was a lie and that God was willing to deceive me for eternity.

The problem doesn't have a solution that I can see but obviously there is one. Can somebody let me know God's solution please?

EDIT: I should say I am looking for an answer from a Catholic or Anglican perspective. The reason I think this question is different from "How can  I be happy in Heaven knowing loved ones are in Hell?" is that I don't want to presume that my loved ones aren't in Heaven with me or any alternatives that may exist that I haven't thought of (hence asking in the first place).
Can one be happy in Heaven, with loved ones in Hell?

Yes!


  He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death'
  or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed
  away." (Revelation 21:4, NIV)


If we would still be weeping in Heaven because our loved ones are in Hell, it won't be Heaven at all. Heaven is a place where there are no more tears, no more sorrows and the past is forgotten.

Peter Kreeft, a prominent theologian says,


  We know there is no sadness in Heaven: God "will wipe away every tear
  from their eyes" (Rev. 7:17). I think we will not be sad about the
  damned for the same reason God is not. According to the Sermon on the
  Mount, he will say to them, "I never knew you" (Matt. 7:23). God
  will wipe our memories clean. This is not falsehood or ignorance,
  but truth, for in a sense, the damned no longer are—that is, they no
  longer are in the most real place of all, Heaven. They no longer
  count. They are like ashes, not like wood. They once were fully human,
  fully alive, real men and women. But hell is a place not of eternal
  life but of eternal death. We do not love or weep over ashes; we only
  love or weep over the thing that existed before it was burnt. In
  Heaven, however, we will not live in the past—we will have no regrets;
  nor will we live in the future—we will have no fears; but like God, we
  will live in the eternal present. Our heavenly emotions will be
  appropriate to present reality, not past reality.
  
  7. If we have emotions in Heaven, why won't we be sad about those we loved who are in 
  hell?


It is indeed sorrowful to know that some of our loved ones whom we fail to bring to Christ will go to Hell. However, this should motivate us to witness Christ to our loved ones and pray sincerely for them.


  Many people have wondered how those in heaven could ever be truly
  happy, especially with the knowledge that unsaved loved ones were in
  hell. We do not know the full answer, but we do know what the Bible
  says concerning God’s people: “He [God] will wipe every tear from
  their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain,
  for the old order of things has passed away” (Revelation 21:4).
  
  We can be sure that with the presence of the Lord, the fellowship of
  believers, and the wonders of eternity, there will be no sorrow in
  heaven.
  
  We also know that God is perfectly just, and those who are in heaven
  will have every confidence that whatever has happened at the final
  judgment has been totally just and right. The terrible possibility
  that our loved ones might miss heaven should motivate us to earnestly
  pray and lovingly witness to them while there is still time in this
  life for them to experience salvation. (Billy Graham)