Is "Love and Respect" consistent with Eph 5:33 The title is a bit broader than what I really intend to ask. More precisely, I am interested in whether Dr. Eggerichs's understanding of the terms "love" and "respect" in "Love and Respect" is consistent with the verse from which he argues, Eph 5:33 (ESV)


  However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.


More specifically still, Dr. Eggerichs seems to assume that "love" and "respect" are "felt love" and "felt respect"; that is, that this verse is fulfilled if and only if the woman feels loved and the man feels respected. 

I'm not a scholar and don't have all of the knowledge of the various uses of these words throughout scripture, but from the knowledge that I do have, this strikes me as off. Then again, scripture often does challenge my assumptions, so I am willing to hear what scripture says on the subject.

So the question is, can anyone show whether this is or is not what Paul (and God!) has in mind in this verse?
I would look at passages like Matthew 27:46 and Mark 15:34 (where Jesus asked God "why have you forsaken me?") and the many psalms that speak of anguish or being forgotten as examples of situations where someone might not feel loved by God, but they are nonetheless very much loved by God. Psalm 13 expresses this sentiment nicely.

So I agree with you - love and respect don't have to be felt to be real and present, and the Bible seems to back up our view.