Make system_metadata update in place
Make system_metadata update in place

This makes the system_metadata updated in-place like regular
metadata during instance_update(). It also modifies that function
to avoid actually removing the item from the list, which will cause it
to be deleted from the database when the session ends. The soft_delete
is sufficient for our purposes.

Related to blueprint no-db-compute

Change-Id: I0da28ec485dc7850d246dab0a2bb95ae10c05c3e

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