never assume we know who a message was from; fix confusing ui output
never assume we know who a message was from; fix confusing ui output

Yawning/ricochet-client,twstrike/xmpp-client,isislovecruft/xocolatl,iseeareddoor/xmpp-client,kenkes/xmpp-client,thommfullery/birdcannon,paulperegud/xmpp-client,isislovecruft/xmpp-client,agl/xmpp-client