vere: properly clean up dropped laneless packets
vere: properly clean up dropped laneless packets

Previously, if ames told us there was no lane for a target, we would
drop the packet, but fail to register this in the queue, or even reclaim
the memory it was using.

Now, we do all the required book-keeping when dropping packets in the
"no lane for this" case.

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