fix(cluster_events) avoid potentially replaying events
fix(cluster_events) avoid potentially replaying events

When cluster events are rapidly inserted into the database, and then
polled by other nodes, those nodes will set a marker in the shm to
ensure that if the event is polled again (e.g. because of polling offset
or because of the ms grace period). This marker has an exptime that, if
too short, could cause events that are polled again to be executed
again. This increases the shm exptime to ensure that the execution
marker lingers in the shm for at least 2 polling cycles.

We also update the time before polling and before executing each event,
in case a long running, non-yielding event would cause subsequent polled
events to not trigger because their nbf isn't reached.

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