tests(helpers) improve udp/tcp server helpers
tests(helpers) improve udp/tcp server helpers

* Adds arguments for number of packets and timeout value in
  `helpers.udp_server`
* Increases default TCP and UDP timeouts to 360 seconds as a safety
  net for CI slowness, but no test should be designed to wait
  for the entire timeout
* Employs an initialization handshake instead of an arbitrary
  sleep to ensure test is in sync with the UDP server

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