ARROW-8892: [C++][CI] CI builds for MSVC do not build benchmarks
ARROW-8892: [C++][CI] CI builds for MSVC do not build benchmarks

Set `ARROW_BUILD_BENCHMARKS` a windows build which is triggered on pull requests.

(also ordered the passed flags alphabetically)

Closes #7472 from kszucs/ARROW-8892

Authored-by: Krisztián Szűcs <6bab32dc957a05a87930e779f272342e159326fa@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Wes McKinney <039810fad096c61acdfe8791ea9d6e2d5461285b@apache.org>

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