vfs: make WriteAt for non cached files work with non-sequential writes
vfs: make WriteAt for non cached files work with non-sequential writes

This makes WriteAt for non cached files wait a short time if it gets
an out of order write (which would normally cause an error) to see if
the gap will be filled with an in order write.

The makes the SFTP backend work fine with --vfs-cache-mode off

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