Set read/write/connect timeout for the mysql driver
Set read/write/connect timeout for the mysql driver

also cleanup how we append options to the database connection string. turns out
both libraries provide a way to parse the connection string and cleanly add
extra parameters

[#136754283]

Signed-off-by: John Shahid <d5f6a919b5b5e6a4f7f09f1adf45e90e5c38b58e@gmail.com>

cloudfoundry-incubator/bbs,cloudfoundry-incubator/bbs