sharded: add variants to invoke_on() that accept an smp_service_group
sharded: add variants to invoke_on() that accept an smp_service_group

For the same reasons expounded in 7f705a76aa265d3, concurrent calls to
sharded::invoke_on() and its variants can exhaust memory on the invokee,
especially on large machines. This patch therefore adds variants to invoke_on()
that accept an smp_service_group, to be used for controlling server-side
concurrency. The original variants call the new functions, with
default_smp_service_group() as the new parameter.

start()/stop() and its variants did not receive new overloads, as these are
administrative functions and generally do not have any concurrency. The map_reduce()
family also did not receive new overloads, mainly because this patch is already a
mouthful and they are less useful than invoke_on(). Variants for map_reduce() can
be added later.
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