depends: fix boost mac cross build with clang 9+
depends: fix boost mac cross build with clang 9+

Summary:
```
The ancient "darwin-4.9.1" profile has long been used to match against
clang, which prior to version 9, reported 4.9.1 as its version when
invoking "clang++ -dumpversion". Presumably this was a historical
compatibility quirk related to Apple's switch from gcc to clang.

This was "fixed" in clang 9.0, so that -dumpversion reports the real
version. Unfortunately that had the side-effect of breaking the
(brittle) boost compiler detection.

Move to the seemingly more-correct "clang-darwin" profile, which passes
the checks and builds correctly.

Also switch to using ar rather than libtool for archiving, as it's what
the clang-darwin profile expects to be using.

Note that because this is using a different profile, some of the final
command-line arguments end up changing. The changes look sane at a
glance.
```

Backport of core [[https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/17231 | PR17231]].

Test Plan: Run the OSX Gitian build.

Reviewers: #bitcoin_abc, deadalnix

Reviewed By: #bitcoin_abc, deadalnix

Differential Revision: https://reviews.bitcoinabc.org/D5672

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