Room upgrade tweaks
Room upgrade tweaks

Squashed commit of the following:

commit 7a1568c716866594af6d0b1d561c58c96de29b20
Author: Neil Alexander <neilalexander@users.noreply.github.com>
Date:   Mon Jun 6 15:17:49 2022 +0100

    Make errors more useful

commit 64befe7c9a901b00650442171660c2dc4ea575fa
Author: Neil Alexander <neilalexander@users.noreply.github.com>
Date:   Mon Jun 6 15:02:40 2022 +0100

    Tweak ordering a bit

matrix-org/dendrite,matrix-org/dendrite,matrix-org/dendrite,matrix-org/dendrite