win32: make thread killed flag atomic
win32: make thread killed flag atomic

Setting the flag in APC had the benefit of not needing atomicity, but
it meant the flag only got set at the next opportunity to run APC's.

Especially vlc_testcancel() is not an alertable function, so it would
typically be slower. If the thread did not go to alertable sleep, then
vlc_testcancel() would not work at all.

Since vlc_cancel() and vlc_testcancel() do not imply any memory
barriers, the loads and stores can be relaxed. That removes most if not
all of the overhead of the atomic operations.

xkfz007/vlc,xkfz007/vlc,xkfz007/vlc,xkfz007/vlc,xkfz007/vlc,xkfz007/vlc,xkfz007/vlc